The Doctor is more involved in the lives of Amy and Rory than he ever expected to be [as of A Good Man Goes to War]. He met a seven-year-old girl, and now discovers that it’s possible, at some future point, he’s dating their daughter. ‘They’ve got a baby…and look who it is!’ I mean, he must wonder if he can cross the TARDIS control room without Rory punching him for practice.
It’s everything the Doctor has ever tried to avoid–this man who avoids any kind of commitment, any kind of relationship–and he’s practically got a family unit around him, as dysfunctional as it is. He can’t just walk away. That’s his plan, however much he loves them–to hang out with Amy and Rory for a few years before they grow up too much, and then bugger off before he screws anything to permanently. Well, he can’t this time. He absolutely can’t. He’s committed. So it’s complex. It has to be. That’s the only way to write relationships. They do get more complex–every relationship in the world. I like that. I like the Doctor tripping over the consequences of being him.
Steven Moffat on 11′s relationship with the Ponds (Amy, Rory, River) from DWM 438 (August 2011)
A few people have sent me messages recently asking me to pinpoint my reasoning for being pro-Jess so I thought I would compile this list that sort of organizes my thoughts better on the subject.
To start, Rory and Jess share a similar history that allowed them to understand some of each others real world frustrations. Neither Rory nor Jess have ever had a steady relationship with their respective fathers and both mothers had them at a very young age. It may sound a trivial reason, but considering Rory’s discomfort with the idea of family as Dean sees it (working husband, stay at home mother, etc.) it is something that brings Rory and Jess together, a commonality if you will, something that they can see and understand in the other that other people don’t.
Alongside their instantaneous connection–not just physically, but intellectually, both Rory and Jess view each other as equals. They want the best for each other, even if it means they are not together, which I believe is why they work. Both Rory and Jess believed the other was capable of doing whatever they put their minds to, hell Jess even assumed Rory had graduated early from Yale before she informed him she was actually taking a break from her studies. There is never a play for control of the other within the relationship; it’s all very give-and-take.
RORY: You know you’re smarter than most everybody at your school. It takes you like five minutes to finish a book. You read everything, you remember everything, you could ace those classes easily. Why don’t you? You don’t need a tutor. It’s crazy that they’re talking about leaving you back.
RORY: You can do anything you wanted, you can be anything you wanted.
RORY: I…is it like a cool thing?
JESS: I could care less about being cool.
RORY: Well, inform me, please.
JESS: I’ll live where I live, I’ll work when I need money, and I’ll see where I end up.
RORY: You could do more.
JESS: Oh, here come the pompoms.
RORY: No, no pompoms, just me saying you could do more.
Rory is well aware that Jess “could do more”, and while not forcing him in anyway, nor cajoling; she tells him so, plainly and simply. There’s no pushing or pulling, just a statement that lets him know exactly how much she thinks of him. She regards him as her equal and doesn’t let him bullshit about not being capable or people having low expectations. From him she wants the truth and he gives it to her, willingly. I can think of only one time Jess actually lies to her, and it’s about a swan. That even from the very beginning, he trusts her with things about himself without griping about it, feels significant to me.
In contrast, both Logan and Dean seemed to at times try to have dominance over Rory on multiple occasions. Both Logan and Dean always seemed to find a way of making Rory call into question her actions and feelings. For starters, Dean was very threatened by Rory’s ambition and that became more apparent throughout the course of the series. This one could really be a list unto itself because it comes up so many times throughout the series. Dean and Rory ultimately break up for keeps because he can’t deal with her Yale friends/life, but well before that, Dean proved himself completely freaked out about Rory’s Harvard aspirations and basically any future plans that didn’t include being in Stars Hollow forever. There was the time in Season 2 when Rory canceled plans on Dean to work on planning for Harvard and he threw a fit about it. Then there was the time, in Season 3, after Rory had lunch with a Harvard alum in regards to her application, when Dean barraged her with questions about their future. Not that it’s not totally valid to ask your high school girlfriend about what she’d like to have happen after graduation, but this was another time when Dean got pouty and stubborn and passive-aggressive and ultimatum-y, proving that he loves the idea of dating an ambitious woman but not the reality of it.
Similarly to Dean, Logan also tries to assert his dominance over Rory but in subtler fashion. While there were positive aspects of their relationship, much of the self-doubt Rory felt stemmed from her relationship with Logan. An example of this is when Rory finds out about Logan’s infidelity during his sisters wedding. The scene almost made me feel as if Logan almost talks Rory into getting back together with him without ever addressing any of the underlying reasons why they “broke up” in the first place. He essentially twists the situation until Rory is in the wrong for being upset in the first place.
LOGAN: I’ve not even thought about another girl.
RORY: Except for Walker, Alexandra…
LOGAN: We were broken up, Rory.
RORY: No, you were.
LOGAN: I thought we were broken up. I thought that’s what the fight was. I thought that’s what the separation was. Do you believe me? Do you believe that I honestly thought we weren’t together?
RORY: I guess.
LOGAN: So then, if you believe that, that I thought we weren’t together, then do you believe that, in my mind, I was not cheating on you?
RORY: I guess.
Does he apologize for being jealous of Jess? Nope. Does he acknowledge that his past matters and that sleeping with a bunch of his sisters friends was an immature way of dealing with his heartache? Nope. He essentially twists the situation until Rory is in the wrong for being upset in the first place. Continuing on with this point, Logan relies on this tactic early on in their relationship aswell. He does it when they start dating, when Rory returns the car and they argue about the night before and how it was a group date. Logan talks Rory into agreeing with him, and it just sets things in motion. It was something he once said about his dad, too, that he could manipulate people into doing whatever, the Huntzberger charm. This manipulative characteristic is something that never allowed me to warm up to Logan as a character.
Moving forward, Jess always seemed fine with Rory having a relationship with past love interests which was a characteristic both Dean and Logan never seemed to possess.
RORY: This is an old subject, Jess. You know that Dean and I are friendly.
JESS: I know you’re friendly. That doesn’t mean I don’t wanna punch him.
RORY: This was not a plan. I was kidnapped by Miss Patty, so was he, that’s it.
JESS: Just tell me these things first so I don’t have to read about them on telephone poles.
RORY: I will, I promise.
As long as Rory didn’t hide it from him, Jess always seemed fine with Rory having a relationship with her previous love interests. When you contrast Jess’ response with Dean’s aggressive reaction to the idea of Rory being with another boy, platonic or not (significant episodes being 1.09 ‘Rory‘s Dance’, 2.13 ‘There’s the Rub’), there is more trust in their relationship. Equally, when she’s in a relationship with Logan, he is immediately threatened by Jess. Whether this is simply because the chemistry between Rory and Jess is that palpable or because both Dean and Logan are more protective, I leave for you to decide.
My final point rests on the impact of their relationship on the other. Despite their relationship being the shortest of Rory’s three romances, it is clear that this is the one that has branded her for life; as it is with Jess. It is no coincidence in my eyes that as soon as Jess reappears in the sixth season even after three years of not seeing each other, Rory becomes herself again, alive and interested and standing up for herself. There is a lot to be said for this quality in a relationship. Additionally throughout the course of the series, Rory and Jess always seem to find their way back to each other.
To further demonstrate this point, it appears that ASP had originally intended Jess to be a series regular, offering Milo Ventimiglia a six year contract:
[from the February ’06 issue of Player magazine]
Interviewer: Let’s talk about Gilmore Girls, where you were cast as sort of the bad boy.
Milo: Reckless youth, misled youth, troubled youth, yes. That was the first job where I really was put into the public eye, where I was on a show regularly. With Gilmore, I had a two-year contract, they wanted six years and I said no.
That ASP had decided so early on to keep Jess in Rory’s life for the foreseeable future, only serves to underline my personal feelings about the epic nature of their relationship. What they have is something timeless, something that can never be quite fulfilled by someone else; Jess is Rory’s first all there love, passion and intellect colliding in their relationship, heady and intense. I think it’s fairly safe to say that Rory was Jess’ first love ever. In their last episode together, you can see them together as they always were, bantering with chemistry crackling in the spaces between them. The only reason that their relationship is never given the chance to bloom is because something gets in the way, whether it be one of them, the town or another man in Rory’s life. However, there’s something cyclical in their relationship, which encourages me to believe that they will get back together. It may be messy, it may hurt and it may cause problems, but they fit each other in a way no-one else ever will.
So, we see that intellectually they are suited together perfectly, they have similar interests, but with enough difference to allow leeway and encourage debate. They are instantly attracted to one another, they can play off each other, they calm the other down. They bring out differences in each other, some good some bad. He forces her to grow up, to think about the not so innocent, to contemplate something other than her set plan. She forces him to accept who he is and deal with it, to think about doing something with his life. All of this and a connection between them that can‘t ever really be severed. Well, ladies and gentlemen, it is what it is.
I’m absolutely disgusted by what happened yesterday in Rome.
Now, I don’t know the details because I am not a football fan, but there was this match, Rome - Feyenoord, and a lot of Dutch supporters came into the city. The Feyenoord supporters had a total unacceptable behaviour. They seriously behaved like animals.
I’ve heard of first disorders in Campo dei Fiori, the day before the match, between drunk Feyenoord supporters and the police.
The biggest and worst damages have been done yesteday though, February 19th, at Piazza di Spagna, one of the most famous and beautiful squares in Rome.
The fountain was full of stuff, like ballons, cans, bottles of beer and other garbage. It also reported a lot of damages, there are missing marble pieces and the authorities for the Cultural Patrimony said the damages will be permanent.
The fountain had been restored for nearly an year and given back to the city of Rome in all its beauty something like, a year ago, for the price of 200.000 €. And now all the work thas has been done is useless.
I understand that not every people can love and feel overwhelmed by the beauty of art. And that’s ok. I respect that. What I DON’T ACCEPT is the LACK OF RESPECT shown by these people towards the history and the heritage of a population (italian, in this case, but this can be referred as a general accusation).
I think sport is a beautiful thing, but it should keep people together, not tear them apart, and above all IT MUSTN’T BE A SOURCE OF HATE!
I don’t know it they wanted to show us that their team was better than ours, but THAT WAS NOT THE RIGHT WAY.
I felt so sad and angry.
Yesterday, for us, art was dead.
(Damages for the city also included buses broken by the hooligans when they where being transported to watch the match, garbage everywhere, scared people hidden in their houses and shops, and hooligans peeing in the streets.)
What is your absolute all time favoritest Doctor Who episode?
Ugh, that’s hard, but I honestly would have to go with the Series 5 finale!
(I’m cheating a little and counting both parts as one episode, cause it’s weird to say only half of the plot is my favorite)
Moffat at his finest, to me, anyway: great character, great plot, great atmosphere, and even my favorite music from the show is prominently featured in it.
Little Amelia specifically is one of my favorite characters ever, and the moment between her and Eleven (when he picks her up in the garden and does that monologue while she sleeps) is my favorite part of the entire finale, and by default, my favorite moment of Doctor Who (so far, anyway!)
Also, Rory punches Eleven in the face. I love Rory, I love Eleven, and I could watch that on a loop reel for an hour.
(Also, up until the big smile and the “Welcome back, Rory Williams!” look at how Twelveish Eleven is acting. I love it, it just shows they all really are the same person at the core of it. Honestly, kind of reminds me of Twelve’s whole “You were faking being heartless” thing from last week’s episode, Murder on the Orient Express)