on a side note, people who wonder why women stay in toxic relationships just need to take a look at the way women are raised, first, and second, look at how the media portrays m/f relationships.
women are taught from a young age that if a boy is mean to them or teases them that “oh it’s just because he likes you!” young girls are told that a boy making them uncomfortable is a sign of romantic interest.
then you have novels like twilight or 50 shades of grey, where a man who is controlling or downright shady as fuck (Edward watching Bella sleep, stalking her, telling her how dangerous he can be to her) is romantic. and young, impressionable girls eat this shit up.
then you have the formula of nearly every popular m/f ship on tv. a boy likes a girl, the girl doesn’t return the feeling, but that’s okay because the boy is persistent. he won’t give up until she likes him back, until she gives him a chance and realizes he’s the one for her. the girl just doesn’t know it yet.
better yet, these shows have “bad boys” and “rebels” who quote their love for a woman being what makes them “good”. suddenly it becomes the woman’s responsibility to not only acknowledge this sudden change of heart, but to be grateful for it and accept him because he changed for her, because he waited for her, because he’s really a Nice Guy™ deep down and he Deserves her.
question to the masses: how many m/f ships can you think of just within the past few years that follows this trope? don’t ask why women stay in toxic relationships. ask yourself why society makes women believe that toxicity is healthy.
I really hate going to youtube and reading comments by some pretentious asshole who talks down about certain era’s of classical music. For example, I was looking at the score to Mendelssohn’s Violin Concerto in E minor, and some guy commented, “I really like the part where it ends”, and some dick said “Fuck you man. You probably listen to that modern shit anyway.” And I was fucking offended because I’m a composer of “modern” classical music, and luckily some guy was like “He was probably talking about how badass the end of the movement was…”, and it had to be because the end was dope.
But, that leads me to my main point. Musicians looking down on modern music. Like, I get it, Beethoven was great, Mozart did the damn thing, Haydn surprised us from time to time and we liked it. But you weren’t born in the fucking 18th century…. To say that music produced after that is shit is really fucked up, and you basically prove that you’re ignorant as fuck. Like, you don’t have to like everything you listen to. No one does, but to completely discredit someone’s art because it doesn’t sound like the “classical music” you grew up with is wrong. Just because you can’t go away singing a melody doesn’t mean it’s not music. You can’t really sing a Bach fugue, but he doesn’t get shit about it. Just because you can’t hear a I-IV-V-I progression, doesn’t mean it’s not music. Just because you are uncomfortable playing it, doesn’t mean it’s not music.
Omg, and the argument that gets me is when people are just riding the tip of old classical composers like “That was the best time in music. It was great! They loved music. They wrote music all the time.” Like, nigga… No. Noooo. NO. Stop, because you’re clearly uneducated. In the 17th and 18th centuries, musicians were fucking slaves. They worked for a king, they were paid poorly, and they were on staff with the servants. Like, what sane man wants to fucking write a new symphony every week? Haydn was pissed. Music wasn’t a fucking leisure activity, it was a means of survival. Honestly, if you were rich, like Mozart, then music was fun, but not everyone was rich like Mozart.
Now, I’m not attacking anyone’s intellect (maybe a little bit), and I’m not saying don’t listen to old classical music. All I’m saying is educate yourself. Listen to the music of your time. You didn’t roam the Earth with Beethoven. Read a fucking history book. Don’t discredit people’s art because you don’t like it. Just because you can’t play it doesn’t mean it’s garbage. And even if you don’t like it and never listen to it, just acknowledge the fact that it’s out there and it’s being performed and the composer worked just as hard as Mozart and the gang to create it. Stop art shaming because it doesn’t sound like something that you heard off looney tunes when you were 3, okay? Chill.