romantic affairs

Dear people who think Shawn is gay,

His love life and these rumors with Hailey are none of your fucking business, nor does it matter what you’ve lead yourself to think his sexuality is. Why don’t you focus on your own lives instead of commenting your unwanted opinion on on Shawn’s ‘romantic’ affairs? All love 😘

Pluto in the houses- Catastrophe vs Awakening

Pluto in the first house: Systematic deep transformational experiences. There’ll always be renewal and healing no matter what the circumstances are. Life is filled with definite endings, as if there’s always something dying or being destroyed. All the time.

Pluto in the second house: “You only know what you’ve got until it’s gone” so you keep losing what you value the most. Financial losses are almost destructive, but you’re able to regenerate resources like no other. There’s also a profound lack of self-worth.

Pluto in the third house: Inevitable but periodic destruction of ideas and opinions. There has to be a mental renewal of thoughts so you don’t feel weighed down. You feel strangely pressured to grow intellectually. 

Pluto in the fourth house: Constant urges to understand your family background or biological roots in order to break free. You’re aware that you need to overcome the behavioral patterns you inherited from one of your parents. There’s the danger of getting lost in self-destructive tendencies while trying to individualize the self. 

Pluto in the fifth house: Never ending supply of creative energy. Romantic affairs, even if not many in number, will have the capacity to completely change your life’s direction. Plenty of lessons to be learnt from working with children.

Pluto in the sixth house: Enormous regenerative health capacity, a (self-)healing guru. Difficulties in finding a balance between abusing/being abused in the work place. Tendency to seek one’s own benefit by dominating others or by manipulating one’s work environment. 

Pluto in the seventh house: Partnerships work as a form of renewal. Relationships strengthen you. Be careful with deceit and manipulation, as you’re prone to being tricked by those who you trust the most. Don’t give anyone the power to destroy you.

Pluto in the eighth house: “Amazing turns of events” happen unexpectedly. Spend all your life discovering just how powerful you are and what you’re capable of. Sexuality can be destructive- or a healing agent. 

Pluto in the ninth house: Traveling plays a major part when it comes to your life’s direction. Seminars and long journeys will completely change you. About religious views you grew up with- there’s a tendency to wipe them out and adopt new beliefs. 

Pluto in the tenth house: Professional crisis have the potential to either destroy you or renew you. You have the power to either inspire great admiration, or great fear in others. You don’t belong in the crowd. 

Pluto in the eleventh house: Power issues within the social sphere- you’re a lone wolf by desire or design. When in groups, you’re the devil’s advocate, and discussions with said circle’s members will stimulate you in therms of personal growth, so don’t avoid it. 

Pluto in the twelfth house: Predisposition to feel that there are hidden treasures everywhere waiting to be discovered. Also- prominent danger of being caught up in “underworld” schemes, even if unintentionally… Deep web addicted.

by crystal melbourne | within the zodiac

Venus Blessings

Wherever you may have Venus in your house(s). If it is empty, check which sign your Venus is and apply it to the house that it rules.

Venus in the 1st House: You are blessed with natural charm and attraction. You typically have a good fashion sense, dedicating a lot of time on your physical appearance. 

Venus in the 2nd House: You are blessed with money and/or spectacular taste in possessions. You typically value/attracted to: art, beauty, and luxury. 

Venus in the 3rd House: You are blessed with words and communication. Whether it’s by talking–or writing, you can flatter/compliment without even trying. 

Venus in the 4th House: You are blessed with interior design. You really know how to make a home feel and look beautiful. You can host a house party like no other.

Venus in the 5th House: You are blessed with romance, creativity, and children. You love a good party and romantic affair. Creativity comes naturally to you. You are good with and/or will have children.

Venus in the 6th House: You are blessed with pleasant co-workers, polite mannerisms, and an artistic career. You may even have others volunteer to help you out at work as well. 

Venus in the 7th House: You are blessed with long relationships. Marriage, Business, and/or friendships are often harmonic and balanced. Your partner will most likely be very attractive.

Venus in the 8th House: You are blessed with inheritance, the art of seduction, and sex. Sex is usually like a transformation for you after every experience. 

Venus in the 9th House: You are blessed with journeys/travel, foreign language/culture, and higher education. You attract exotic people with different, cultural backgrounds; possibly, marry a foreigner as well. You may be a gifted writer/publisher.

Venus in the 10th House: You are blessed with a respectable job profession. You will have an easy time developing a good relationship with authoritative figures. You could also gain a high title in an art career. 

Venus in the 11th House: You are blessed with a large group of friends. Your friends will probably have an artistic nature to them. You have a natural flow with social groups. 

Venus in the 12th House: You are blessed with a hidden/secret, creative talent. You may even hide priceless possessions from the world to see. Hidden love affairs are also quite possible. 

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The Crooked House of Windsor in England is a building constructed in 1592. It is now a restaurant. The building now stands at a marked angle, having been rebuilt  in 1718. There is a secret passage in the basement, supposedly used for private romantic affairs between Nell Gwynn and Charles II.

The Best Girlfriends of the Zodiac, Ranked Worst to Best
12. Scorpio

She comes in last. Beware of the Scorpio woman out of all the signs. She is the one you should be the most frightened of. You have to be prepared for the honesty of a Scorpio girlfriend. She will be very passionate, and she will show you that she loves you in ways you’ve never experienced before. But the moment that you make a big mistake, expect that she is going to be ruthless in bringing you down. When you are on her good side, she is the best you can get. Just remember that!

11. Virgo

The Virgo girlfriend may be critical about the relationship that you have with her. Insecurity can play a big role. Even though you try to reassure her your love, this won’t be sufficient at times.  She is usually the most insecure of the people that you meet, and she gets jealous easily. But you think that she is perfect in every way or at least, perfect for you.

10. Aries

A relationship with an Aries girl is in one word ‘intense’. Because she feels everything to the core. She frequently rushes into things so you may get intimidated in the beginning especially if you think you are still not ready for a new relationship.  Though, if she senses the smell of being unwanted she’ll be already out the door. If she included you in her world, she will do everything in her power to have fun and make your day a better one.

9. Taurus

Taurus women are very fond of their freedom. That is why relationships in the beginning can go very slow. She has to know you are worthy of her love. If you won her over she will be extremely loyal. She is your mother, your cook and your lover all at once. Don’t mess this up, you will not get a second chance.

8. Cancer

If you would like to be pampered and cared for, you need a Cancerian girlfriend. You can expect that she will be wearing her heart on her sleeve all the time. You know exactly how she is feeling. You do not want to upset her, but she tends to become upset easily over the smallest things. She is not very trusting, and it will take a long time for you to get her trust but just seconds to break it. She cares for you, but at times, she does not want to show it though it is evident. Her contradicting actions may seem confusing for you, but the moment that you get her, she will do her best not to break your heart.

7. Leo

If you are big on romance, Leo is your sign to date. Magical and enchanting romantic affairs the kinds of relationships you thought only exist in the movies. Not easy to uphold but this is everything she wants and she will fight you for it. Leo women like a ‘project’ as a partner or someone that need to be ‘saved’.

6. Aquarius

The perfect average girlfriend. She’s right there in the middle. She is very loyal and committed when it comes to relationships but also has a very eccentric aspect to her personality. She is very independent. She may also be considered weird because people do not understand her thoughts and actions. The moment that you get to know her better, you will begin to realize what she is trying to prove. And you will see how wonderful she is.

5. Gemini

A Gemini woman is a healthy mix of positives and negatives. You will have your fair share of fun and exciting times, but you will also go through your fair share of struggles. Most of the time, a Gemini woman is fun, adventurous, and easygoing. However, they also have a dark side about them that they reveal every once in a while.

4. Libra

You almost can never go wrong with dating a Libra girl. She is known to be one of the most genuinely kind people out of all the Zodiac signs. They tend to always portray a positive spirit and they always want the people around them to be happy. However, you have to be very careful with your words around a Libra woman. She has the tendency to get hurt fairly easily. She does not like having conflicts with the one she loves so even if she senses that something is wrong or even if you did something that she did not like, she would not say anything about it. If you are a jealous type you must know, a Libra woman tends to be very charismatic and social. She will be surrounded with quite some people.

3. Capricorn

A Capricorn woman is someone who will never come up short when it comes to effort. She is always going to give her 100% dedication and commitment to any relationship. Although she can be difficult to deal with because of her perfectionist ways, you will always end up thankful for having her in your life. You know that your life would be just way worse without her in it.

2. Pisces

While typically, a Pisces girl is always shy at first, she is most definitely going to be worth all the patience and effort in the world. She is incredibly trustworthy and you can always rely on her to take care of your heart. She is very skilled at figuring out how you’re feeling at any particular moment. She is also very sensitive and careful with both her words and actions.

1. Sagittarius

She is always guarded but the moment that you can conquer her heart, you will be one of the few special people in her life. If you manage to land a Sagittarius girl, she is on an endless pursuit to always push you to become the best version of yourself. She is a very selfless and generous human being who always places the needs of others above her own.
They are always in the business of trying to make the people around them better. And that is why she has been declared as the best girlfriend.

Sun Through the Houses

This is a very basic and simplified version of the Sun in each of the 12 houses. Later, I’ll make a more in-depth list of what you’re like if you have an Aries Sun, etc. in each house! And of course, this is my interpretations, other people may disagree!!

The Sun is where you want to be different than everyone else. It’s where you want to shine, and is a key part of who you need to be to be happy. This is something you have an affect on!! If it says you enjoy volunteering, for example, you will not be destined to volunteer in soup kitchens and the like. You will need to take the initiative to do this, and you will find yourself happier!!

Sun in 1st House
- You like looking good and dressing up
- You are aware of yourself and your needs; probably do buy books from the self-help section
- You like to stay in shape
- You have a big personality, people find themselves drawn to you
- You stick by the rules you have in life; strong set of morals

Sun in 2nd House
- You want to be rich, and probably famous as well!
- Your charisma and natural leadership will help you further your career
- You don’t need to rely on others for your self-worth
- You are quite possessive

Sun in 3rd House
- You value communication
- You’re a tech person (lucky)
- You like to make new friends and get along well with neighbours, family, heck even the man standing behind you at the grocery store!
- You’re very intelligent, or want to be perceived as being smart
- You see each individual tree for what it is, rather than the whole forest
- You always have the newest tea; a gossiper

Sun in 4th House
- You like have a showy house
- You probably blog parenting tips, or read parenting books and pass the knowledge on to everyone you talk to
- You aspire to be the best parent, or to be your children’s best friend

Sun in 5th House
- Similar to the 4th house, you want a good relationship with your children
- You tend to be very creative
- You aren’t afraid to do what you love, despite what others may think of it
- Your love affairs can be quite intense and fast-paced
- You can be risky and impulsive; gambling is fun, but be careful

Sun in 6th House
- You like trying out new diets and always have a gym membership, even if you rarely go
- Your health should be very well!
- You find enjoyment in even the most mundane tasks, like cleaning or washing windows
- You enjoy volunteer work 
- You have divine hygiene

Sun in 7th House
- You are good at personal relationships
- Everyone you talk to feels special 
- Your relationships are intense, including the negative ones
- In marriage, you and your partner typically get along wonderfully and are great at communicating and cooperating with each other

Sun in 8th House
- You have a fascination with death, whether that be your own or others
- You will come into inheritance, or marry someone with a large amount of money
- Sex with you is intense, you give it everything you have, wanting to be the best partner your lover has had
- You will suffer from great loss, and if you allow it, it can teach you how to grow and heal

Sun in 9th House
- You are very intelligent and aware of the world and how it works
- If you’re religious, you are devoted
- You have strong morals
- You love to travel
- Your dreams tend to have more meaning than the usual person’s
- You may not have a lot of knowledge, but you have a very deep understanding of what you do know

Sun in 10th House
- You want to be known
- You are probably involved in your community and enjoy politics
- You have a very positive and powerful reputation
- Fame means more to you than money
- Your public face is quite different than your private face

Sun in 11th House
- You have many, many “friends”, but may not feel like you are actually close with others
- Quantity trumps quality, in your opinion
- You have very big dreams and wishes for your future
- You are also quite aware of yourself

Sun in 12th House
- You want to understand the unknown
- You are probably very involved in the occult, astrology, or something similar
- You are more likely to suffer from severe mental health
- You tend to be caught up in your own thoughts
- You may be a philosopher, with lots of self-reflection
- You have many romantic affairs, sometimes at the same time as each other

The Signs In A Relationship - Extended

Aries: Aries partners are very straight forward, they don’t like playing games, psychologically speaking. When it comes to being playful in the relationship, Aries’ love it! Whether it’s board games, video games, play wrestling that ends in kissing, Aries. Has. To. Win. If they don’t win first time round I can guarantee there will be a round two. Being the first sign, a fire sign no less, debates can get heated but if it’s a debate about something stupid it’s more or less going to end up in an aggressive make out session. Their fiery personality can make them both hard to handle at times and amusingly challenging at others. They love to challenge you, they feel it’s a practical way to help you’s two bond and secure your relationship. Despite the fact that they come across quite headstrong, Aries’ are easy to get riled up which can leave them vulnerable in a way. When angry, Aries’ temper flashes wildly, without warning and is gone as quick as it came. Empathy is not their strong suit but they’ll try their very best when it’s someone they love. They might get a little uncomfortable if you cry in front of them but only because it breaks their heart to see it. Aries’ are all about passion and they love to make their partner smile and laugh. If you’re not giving them the amount of attention or affection they want they can get grouchy until you notice it. All in all, Aries lovers can be hard to handle but an amazing companion to someone who can either cool down their fire or match it.

Taurus: Taurean partners are one of the most steady partners you can get. They like a stable, easy flowing relationship and will do what they can to achieve one. They are incredibly determined and will do what they can to make their relationship as harmonious as possible. Commitment in very important to them and they are very cautious about who they give it to, I mean REALLY cautious about it. Being one of the most sensual signs of the zodiac, Taurus’ fall quickly in lust, even quicker when it’s with someone they truly love. Ruled by Venus, Taurus’ are suckers for romance, whether they show it or not. Candles, romantic dinners, massages etc. appeal to their senses and can break down their emotional barriers. Because they are so committed and ensnared in their relationship, they can get jealous and possessive quite easily. They might not realise it, but it’s because they’re so emotionally invested in their relationships that instincts kick in and they do what they can to keep what’s theirs. When upset, their rage is often compared to that of a bull, their animal. It builds up over time and when released can be lethal. Do. Not. Betray. Their. Trust. They will never let it go and they might find it difficult to trust you again.

Gemini: Gemini’s, like the other air signs desire intellectual stimulation and is quite witty in their charm. Flirting is a game to them and they always win. They can be quite extroverted in their relationship and likes to make it know that you’re together, they’ll take any opportunity to tell their loved ones about you. They can sometimes be caught between being in a good and bad mood, and further more if there is actually something wrong they’ll mostly try to avoid talking about it. Air signs generally find feelings icky and do there best to keep their distance. It’s not anything personal, it’s just one of their principles whether they’re aware of it or not. If you get onto the topic of feelings and emotions, Gems will normally try to talk their way into a different topic or try to make the situation lighter by adding humour or sarcasm, depending on the partner this could be problematic. Gemini’s get bored quite easily and need a partner that’s willing to try new things with them and can give them a constant sense of excitement of some sort. A partner who can intellectually challenge Gemini appeals to them a lot,because they fall in love with peoples minds. They can be quite cunning when it comes to getting what they want, they may not even notice it because it’s their nature but they need someone who can handle this and keep their ass in check before people get hurt. Overall, very much like Aries, Gems can be a handful but they can open doors for you and make you think about things and question yourself, leading to personal development.

Cancer: Cancer’s are naturally the mothers of the zodiac so it’s no surprise that they are one of the most nurturing partners you could have. They will make you chicken soup when your sick and fail at serenading you when you’re sad (probably because you’ll probably end up laughing). This is the sign that will put everything else on hold to care for and ensure the safety of their loved one. They are incredibly intuitive, being able to tell if a person is upset from the slightest gesture. Relationships are very important to Cancer’s and if there’s any disruption it can cause a knock on affect in other areas of their lives. They’re quite sentimental and nostalgic, the type of partners that would keep memorabilia from a first date and cherish it. Cancer’s often find themselves overwhelmed by emotions and can find it almost impossible to make an intellectual decision without letting emotions come into play. This can be problematic and dangerous to both involved in the relationship. Cancerians can be manipulative when they need to be. They are fully aware of their innocent disposition and can use it to their ability when needed. This sign can encourage emotional growth in their partner but needs someone to keep them grounded and help them snap out of it when needed.

Leo: Leo’s are very proud in their relationships and will take any opportunity they can get to show their partner off. One of the most playful signs in the zodiac, these partners guarantee an enthusiastic and spontaneous relationship, they love to surprise. Leo’s look at the world with excitement and love, and just by being in their company, they can show you the most beautiful aspects of the simplest thing. Their optimism and persistence can bring the relationship a long way. They loves to be adored, whether they admit it or not, it lies deep in their soul simply because they have an air of self belief. When alone with their partner, Leo’s are very warm hearted and affectionate. They show you amazing parts of yourself you didn’t even consider because they have an eye for things like that. They recover quickly from set backs so this can be helpful in a compromise based relationship. Leo’s are generally attracted to people with strong personalities, Sometimes Leo’s can be overbearing with their emotions which can leave their partner feeling a little tired but when with someone’s who’s personality can match theirs, they can be handled. Leo’s very rarely change their minds, once they’re set on something - that’s that, but if you can appeal to their emotional side, persuasion is possible, yet still very hard to do. They can sometimes fall victim to false praise in the desire to look good in front of others. With a partner who can match their fire and not take advantage of them, Leo’s love and energy can be harnessed in a positive way.

Virgo: Virgos are one of the most intellectual signs in the zodiac so relationships without mental stimulus won’t last very long. They’re incredibly witty and sarcastic and they use this to be playful with you. A partner who can connect with them intellectually is one that Virgo’s never get bored off. They like to pick peoples brains and to know why you like certain things. Possibly the most organised of the signs, Virgo is able to keep the relationship moving at a steady pace that suits both partners. Virgo’s have a very powerful sex drive although they tend to keep it hidden to those they’re not intimate with and like the other earth signs can be quite sensual. They can be quite tricky when it comes to feeling and emotions. Virgos don’t like feelings because they find them quite messy and often this causes them to feel torn in a relationship, making falling in love bitter sweet for them. They’re very detail oriented and can sometimes nit pick their partner. They can over analyse the relationship and get themselves into a worried state and make them uncomfortable. They don’t like to open up much because if they talk about their feelings it makes them more real after they’ve spent a big amount of time analysing them out of existence. If they open up to you, tread carefully and try not to get too much out of them, they’re opening up to you for a specific reason and if you try to get more, they’ll shut down again and they may never open up to you again. Virgo’s need someone who will connect with them intellectually, provide them with stability, give them space when they need, be there when they want to open up but not push them into it.

Libra: Probably the most idealistic signs when it comes to romantic relationships, Libra’s can sometimes expect too much rom-com scenarios in their relationships but only with the intention of deepening the bond between them and their lover. Libra’s personality was in some way created for love, it is the sign of balance, partnership and judgement. Librans strive to be fair and just in their relationship and desire harmony in their romantic affairs. Libra’s are great at negotiating and can maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the relationship. They are natural flirters but aren’t as crude about it as some of the other signs. They love the idea of love and falling into it which can sometimes leave them vulnerable to those who might play them. Emotionally, like other air signs, they like to step back from feelings apart from when it comes to romantic love. They’re emotions can get intense when dealing with love and although Librans are generally not jealous people, any sort of threat to their relationship can arouse feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.They can sometimes get selfish in their relationship, wanting it to be perfect for them. With the right partner that can roll with their ideas and can be 100% devoted/loyal to them, Libra’s can provide others with a fair, amorous relationship that never gets unromantic.

Scorpio: Scorpio’s are easily the most secretive signs in the zodiac and can be hard to get to know. In public they don’t show much affection other than hand or waist holding, but behind closed doors they can be completely different. Scorpio’s can often feel torn because even though they need an outlet, needing a partner makes Scorpio feel vulnerable and they like to see themselves as emotionally self-sufficient. Dominance and power in a big thing with this sign, they like to be in control of the situation at all times. They never wear their heart on their sleeves. When in a committed relationship they show just how passionate and erotic they are behind their enigmatic exterior. They feel things so deeply in their souls but you may never know unless they choose to let you in - if they do, you should be honoured. They will empathise with your problems internally, normally not letting you know they sometimes feel the same. They expect absolute utmost loyalty and faithfulness as they provide you with nothing less. If you betray or stray from a Scorpio, good luck getting them to trust you again. They never forget or forgive, even if they pretend they do, and it takes forever, if at all, to get their trust back. They can always see into your heart so don’t bother trying to lie to them. Scorpio’s are best know for their out lash - and rightly so! It’s in their nature to use attack as their defence, their partner needs to understand this and be patient with them. They normally lash out because they feel vulnerable on some level. With a partner that can understand their complex emotions and be patient and stable while they figure themselves out, Scorpios can be one of them most of the most compassionate and encouraging partners in the zodiac.

Sagittarius: Sagittarian’s are one of the most freedom-loving signs in the zodiac and can sometimes become uneasy when it comes to settling down. They love new things so sometimes the thought of commitment can be unappealing however, when in love Sagittarius can bring the spice of life to their partner. They love to flirt, and they’re great at it too. While Aries is passionate in their flirting and Leo is playful, Sagittarius’ are incredibly fiery, the type that will challenge you for the hell of it. Travel is a big keyword with Sagittarius’, they can get bored easily and need something (or someone) to keep them on their feet. A very independent sign, they will not take any shit from anyone and will call you out if you’re acting up. They will not tolerate time wasters. Sagittarius’ don’t enjoy thinking about emotions and much less feeling them. They feel that they’re emotions can hinder their ambition and likes to leave them untouched so don’t expect them to frequently get deep into their emotions because chances are they will change the subject on a lighter note. They tend to lie without really noticing it and can sometimes make promises they don’t keep. It’s not that they disregard them purposely, it’s just they might forget in their pursuit of even more new experiences. For this reason, their partner might need to be able to take the things they say with a pinch of salt. With a partner that can keep up the pace and adapt to Sagittarius’ ever changing interests, not drag them down or put pressure on them to commit too soon, Sagittarius’ can show them the world in a whole new light with wondrous opportunity’s.

Capricorn: Like the other earthy signs, Capricorn’s are normally quite reserved in public when with their partner but when alone (varying on how close they are) they can really let loose. They have an unusual sense of humour which can come across as dark to some. When you know them extremely well, you might get the chance to see how much of a wild card Caps can really be. This sign is one of the most reliable in the zodiac and possess incredible strength of character which can handle strong personalities. They’re often described as the “rock” in the relationship, they can keep the other partner grounded without crushing their spirit. They’re very patient when it comes to other and respect their partners wishes as they’d like to be respected in turn. Their relationships tend to last very long and they take their responsibility in the relationship seriously. They have a very cool demeanour until aroused sexually. They tend to be very lusty rather than love-y, because they’re very careful about love. Capricorns panic when they’re not in control of a situation and somewhat lacks the ability to express their emotions properly. When a Capricorn opens up to you, the things they’ll tell you will break your heart and you must treat that information as carefully as you can because it has taken a lot for the Cap to tell you. With a partner that won’t smother them but at the same time commit to the relationship as much as they do, Capricorns can provide a harmonious, steady and fruitful relationship.

Aquarius: Aquarian partners can be very eccentric and hyper when with their partner - in both private and public! This sign will seek equality in the relationship, to be together as a team. They are the sign known for change and growth, this will be the sign that can easily get their relationship to evolve at a healthy pace. This sign values companionship in their romantic relationship, they enjoy the company of those who they can sit with and question society and existence one minute and do the most random, pointless activity with the next simply because it makes them happy. Like the other air signs, Aquarians can some times be idealistic and will try to sneakily get their own way. Although they may seem detached and not very feeling, below the surface lies conflicting, chaotic emotions. For that reason they need stability, especially in a relationship. Intimacy can be awkward for them sometimes because they’re so independent and they find it hard to express the complex emotions they feel despite their verbal intelligence. However they will sit with you and listen to your woes and try to find a solution, they probably won’t delve into their own problems that often and when they do they’ll finish with “but anyway” and then change the subject so to not dwell on them. With an optimistic partner that can respect Aqua’s need for space, can listen to their opinions and not base the whole relationship off of intimacy and physical attraction, Aquarius’ can learn to express themselves and their ideas better and can give their partner a mind opening experience.

Pisces: Pisceans can be tricky when it comes to love, they fall in love with the idea of love like Libras but are wary of it like Scorpios. Incredibly intuitive, they can always tell when their partner is feeling off just by the way they come into the room. They are probably the most understanding sign in the zodiac and won’t push you into talking if you don’t want to (even if it frustrates them a little). When you do decide to talk about it, Pisces’ are excellent listeners and will provide empathy and validation for your feelings. They know how much emotions can affect people, having felt their own so very deeply and make it their priority to take care of their partners emotional needs. Like the air signs, they tend to be infatuated by intellectual stimulus as long as the other person isn’t being snobbish about it. Though they might not show it, words can hurt them a lot and they tend to take things to heart, even if they know it wasn’t intentional. This sign can be prone to guilt and can be manipulated easily enough. However, they’re just as willing to play the game and can manipulate just as well. They adapt to their surroundings a lot so their emotional state in terms of romance can be a reflection on the state of the relationship itself. They tend to drift between merging with their partner and flirting with other possibilities. With a partner who can be patient with them, understand their emotional complexity and keep them grounded whenever they get second thoughts, Pisces’ can lead their partner to inner contentment and show them that if you look hard enough there’s still good left in the world.

*CHECK YOUR VENUS/MOONSIGNS TOO

Hope you guys like this :)

The Best Girlfriends of the Zodiac, Ranked Worst to Best

12.

Scorpio

She comes in last. Beware of the Scorpio woman out of all the signs. She is the one you should be the most frightened of. You have to be prepared for the honesty of a Scorpio girlfriend. She will be very passionate, and she will show you that she loves you in ways you’ve never experienced before. But the moment that you make a big mistake, expect that she is going to be ruthless in bringing you down. When you are on her good side, she is the best you can get. Just remember that!

11. Virgo

The Virgo girlfriend may be critical about the relationship that you have with her. Insecurity can play a big role. Even though you try to reassure her your love, this won’t be sufficient at times.  She is usually the most insecure of the people that you meet, and she gets jealous easily. But you think that she is perfect in every way or at least, perfect for you.

10. Aries

A relationship with an Aries girl is in one word ‘intense’. Because she feels everything to the core. She frequently rushes into things so you may get intimidated in the beginning especially if you think you are still not ready for a new relationship.  Though, if she senses the smell of being unwanted she’ll be already out the door. If she included you in her world, she will do everything in her power to have fun and make your day a better one.

9. Taurus

Taurus women are very fond of their freedom. That is why relationships in the beginning can go very slow. She has to know you are worthy of her love. If you won her over she will be extremely loyal. She is your mother, your cook and your lover all at once. Don’t mess this up, you will not get a second chance.

8. Cancer

If you would like to be pampered and cared for, you need a Cancerian girlfriend. You can expect that she will be wearing her heart on her sleeve all the time. You know exactly how she is feeling. You do not want to upset her, but she tends to become upset easily over the smallest things. She is not very trusting, and it will take a long time for you to get her trust but just seconds to break it. She cares for you, but at times, she does not want to show it though it is evident. Her contradicting actions may seem confusing for you, but the moment that you get her, she will do her best not to break your heart.

7. Leo

If you are big on romance, Leo is your sign to date. Magical and enchanting romantic affairs the kinds of relationships you thought only exist in the movies. Not easy to uphold but this is everything she wants and she will fight you for it. Leo women like a ‘project’ as a partner or someone that need to be ‘saved’.

6. Aquarius

The perfect average girlfriend. She’s right there in the middle. She is very loyal and committed when it comes to relationships but also has a very eccentric aspect to her personality. She is very independent. She may also be considered weird because people do not understand her thoughts and actions. The moment that you get to know her better, you will begin to realize what she is trying to prove. And you will see how wonderful she is.

5. Gemini

A Gemini woman is a healthy mix of positives and negatives. You will have your fair share of fun and exciting times, but you will also go through your fair share of struggles. Most of the time, a Gemini woman is fun, adventurous, and easygoing. However, they also have a dark side about them that they reveal every once in a while.

4. Libra

You almost can never go wrong with dating a Libra girl. She is known to be one of the most genuinely kind people out of all the Zodiac signs. They tend to always portray a positive spirit and they always want the people around them to be happy. However, you have to be very careful with your words around a Libra woman. She has the tendency to get hurt fairly easily. She does not like having conflicts with the one she loves so even if she senses that something is wrong or even if you did something that she did not like, she would not say anything about it. If you are a jealous type you must know, a Libra woman tends to be very charismatic and social. She will be surrounded with quite some people.

3. Capricorn

A Capricorn woman is someone who will never come up short when it comes to effort. She is always going to give her 100% dedication and commitment to any relationship. Although she can be difficult to deal with because of her perfectionist ways, you will always end up thankful for having her in your life. You know that your life would be just way worse without her in it.

2. Pisces

While typically, a Pisces girl is always shy at first, she is most definitely going to be worth all the patience and effort in the world. She is incredibly trustworthy and you can always rely on her to take care of your heart. She is very skilled at figuring out how you’re feeling at any particular moment. She is also very sensitive and careful with both her words and actions.

1. Sagittarius

She is always guarded but the moment that you can conquer her heart, you will be one of the few special people in her life. If you manage to land a Sagittarius girl, she is on an endless pursuit to always push you to become the best version of yourself. She is a very selfless and generous human being who always places the needs of others above her own.
They are always in the business of trying to make the people around them better. And that is why she has been declared as the best girlfrien

Pallas Athene: The Goddess of Strategies and Rational Plans

1st House: Making life plans, having a fighter personality, always being ready to solve problems, noticing the overall patterns of life
2nd House: Having a financial strategy, knowing how to meet survival needs, having a holistic understanding of economics, tracking spending/earning patterns
3rd House: The strategic mind, picking up patterns in conversations, patterns of thought, patterns of speech. Poetry mastermind. Knowing which words to use next
4th House: The home counsel, understanding what it means to be part of a family, how each family member impacts the others, picking up cultural heritage patterns, how our childhood influences each one of us
5th House: Artistic patterns, knowing how different creative options can unfold. Knowing how art impacts the world. Picking patterns when it comes to child behavior, the concept of love, romantic affairs. Strategy mind games.
6th House: Having a battle plan for work, the ability to see how to improve health, exercise and diet, picking up work patterns and working conditions, working with animals.
7th House: Marriage plans, being the wise one in a relationship, being the committed one, excelling in long term relationships, marriage equality, understanding bonding patterns
8th House: Dealing with other’s people emotional luggage, being the trusted one, picking up patterns in the occult, patterns of crisis, understanding the concept of death
9th House: Desiring academic achievement, having an educational plan, a holistic view about foreign cultures and countries, being fluent in several languages, an ambassador
10th House: Knowing what to do to get fame, glory or power…knowing how to climb up the social ladder, having authority over others, understanding how social status and one’s reputation work
11th House: Having a plan for humanity, great perception into the collective, understanding social causes, knowing how to contribute to groups and organizations
12th House: Having an escape plan, or a plan to help the underprivileged, picking up patterns in one’s dreams and understanding that they are part of something bigger

by crystal melbourne | within the zodiac

part of fortune

While luck and wealth is associated with Jupiter, the Part of Fortune is an Arabic Part (a fixed, sensitive point) that is another important opulent part of the chart. I like to call the Part of Fortune the point of arbitrary luck. To find your Part of Fortune, go on astro.com > Additional Objects > Pars Fortunae.

In Aries, Mars wants you to take action, so prosperity shines upon you when you are independent, passionate, and bold. Such times allow wealth to find you.

In Taurus, Venus wants you to find pleasure and sensibility, so prosperity shines upon you when you are secure, stable (in terms of finance and in terms of materialistic wealth), and comfortable.

In Gemini, Mercury wants you to find flexibility, variety, and change, so prosperity shines upon you when you are learning and communicating; prosperity comes to you when you are mentally-stimulated.

In Cancer, the Moon wants you to be in touch with the purest essence of your emotions, so prosperity shines upon you when your feelings are being made an essential part of you. Emotional ties may also bring prosperity to you.

In Leo, the Sun wants you to make your presence known as you radiate warmth, so prosperity shines upon you when you are creative, confident, and lively. Prosperity comes to you when you follow your heart.

In Virgo, Mercury wants you to be aware of your surroundings, to live a healthy life, and to be of help to the world, so prosperity shines upon you when you are healthy, work-oriented, and conscious.

In Libra, Venus wants you to attain peace and strong relationships, so prosperity shines upon you when you are balanced, peaceful, and strongly and healthily involved in your relationships. Prosperity comes to you when amity is your strong suit.

In Scorpio, Pluto wants you to transform and to discover emotional profundity, so prosperity shines upon you when you are passionate, investigative, and strong. Prosperity finds you when you feel powerful.

In Sagittarius, Jupiter wants you to expand your horizons, so prosperity shines upon you when you are philosophical, spontaneous, optimistic, and adventurous. Seeking experience and knowledge will bring prosperity to you.

In Capricorn, Saturn wants you to succeed, so prosperity shines upon you when you are ambitious, goal-oriented, authoritative, and hard-working. Prosperity comes to you when you work hard to elevate successfully to the top, aiming to be respected and relied upon.

In Aquarius, Uranus wants you to break from all sorts of limitations, so prosperity shines upon you when you are emotionally-free, are distinctive, and are concerned with the world. Prosperity comes to you when you are YOU and when you aim to make a change.

In Pisces, Neptune wants you to get in touch with your spiritual self, so prosperity shines upon you when you are imaginative, creative, and empathetic. An optimum inner self awaits you at such expansions, and prosperity will follow.

In brief:

In the 1st house, prosperity is channeled through your sense of self.

In the 2nd house, prosperity is channeled through your sense of self-worth. Materialistic means and luxuries will be gained.

In the 3rd house, prosperity is channeled through your mind — be it the way you think, the way you communicate, the way you write, and/or the way you absorb information.

In the 4th house, with your upbringing comes tradition, and it is likely that traditional matters will be prosperous.

In the 5th house, prosperity is channeled through your artistry and hobbies; it is also channeled through romantic affairs.

In the 6th house, prosperity is channeled through your work, service, health, and animals.

In the 7th house, prosperity is channeled through your partnerships and marriage.

In the 8th house, prosperity is channeled through financial means of someone other than yourself (e.g. inheritance) and through taboo practices. It is also channeled through sex.

In the 9th house, prosperity is channeled through travel, philosophy, and foreign culture.

In the 10th house, prosperity is channeled through your career and reputation.

In the 11th house, prosperity is channeled through your friendships and through social circles.

In the 12th house, prosperity is channeled through your subconscious and through the expansion of your inner self.

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Couples in Korean Drama 2016 (Part 1.)

1. Jung Joon Hyung x Kim Bok Joo (Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo)

2. Kim Shin x Ji Eun Tak (Goblin)

3. Dong Joo x Yoon Seo Jung  (Romantic Doctor, Teacher Kim)

4. Heo Joon Jae x Shim Chung (The Legend of the Blue Sea)

5. Go Nan Gil x Hong Na Ri (Sweet Stranger and Me)

6. Do Hyun Woo x Jung Soo Yeon (My Wife’s Having an Affair this Week)

7. Dong Hae Sung x Han Da Woon (Thumping Spike 2)

8. Lee Jae In x Kim Da Hyun (Something About 1 Percent)

9. Seo Do Woo x Choi Soo A (On the Way to the Airport)

10. Ham Bok Geo x Cha Geum Joo (Woman with a Suitcase)   

Fifth house;

Having spent much time in deep and introspective 4th house contemplations, this is where we open the curtains to ourselves. We let long arrows of light illuminate the inner world, exposing the brilliance of our identity while also allowing us to see how stunning the outside world can be.

The fifth house symbolizes our creative light, ruling over all matters that materialize Love’s creative powers, from which all rich and lively things derive. Sunny and inspiring, it describes artistic ideas, romanticized dreams and how the creative expression of the self takes place, while also ruling over the most creative endeavour: the ability to wholeheartedly interact with children. Here is our playful, imaginative self.

Conditions of this house reflect how one fantasizes about being admired and recognized and how to obtain that recognition and sparkling applause. This is the reason behind this house’s association to sports, recreational activities, romantic affairs and sexuality. All of these things reinforce human identity and uniqueness, infusing the conscious mind with feelings of confidence, pride and dignity for one’s own unique way of being. This is the kind of stage where we’d like to stand and extend our personal light to all living things around us, much like what the Sun does when generously presenting us with his loving beams of gold.

This is where we look within to find a dazzling star, a recreation of the same fiery love that created us.


Sun in the 5th house: an athlete marches honourably, wearing golden laurel wreaths that gleam under the Sun’s many spotlights; admirers follow happily. This is a symbol for one’s own stunning experiences with one’s own self, as the Sun’s influence here draws lively attention to one’s own personal light. A proud and noble self-expression of the self is favoured here, for the individual may be in a tender love with their own identity. Such fiery love is radiating, also favouring the development of a generosity that wishes to see people shine brightly too. This Sun adores being admired, and so it tends to enjoy engaging in artistic, athletic and romantic activities that may provide him with the applause he so passionately desires. This must be what is like to be a god.

Moon in the 5th house: children play cheerfully, dancing in circles as they sing innocent songs of a pure and bountiful world. Spontaneous and passionate, feelings here are easily expressed through art in a unique, charming expression of the self. On the 5th house’s theatre stage, the Moon overflows with emotional waterfalls twinkling under crystal moonlight; the emotional expression is dramatic, theatrical and often tragic. There is an emotional need to indulge in feelings of admiration and comfort, and the individual may find dealing with mundane responsibilities rather tiring or tedious. Nurturing abilities here are specially tender and kind, as they are entwined with a sunny idea of how love should be: pure, passionate and fantastic. These inner traits fluctuate languidly to the outside and become remarkably hypnotizing.

Mercury in the 5th house: a composer listens as their masterpiece is performed in a most famous theatre, dreaming of their own greatness. Comical and mischievous, Mercury loves being recognized and admired for the brilliance of his mind. Artistic expression is highly favoured here, especially through writing. This is a symbol of an exceptionally creative mind, as people with this placement excel at drawing new realities through the use of their communicative abilities, with which they express their fantastic and rich inner mind to illuminate others.

Venus in the 5th house: a beautiful figure takes a sweet nap on a long couch; long, translucent curtains rise and fall serenely, filtrating pointy spears of sunlight through the windows cracking under the summer heat. Venus here adores being praised for her greatness and she also loves identifying her greatness outside of herself; that’s why she indulges lavishly in divine forms of comfort. A supreme symbol of a remarkable appreciation of the Arts, this placement paints a wonderful outside world. This Venus usually finds an immense and fulfilling happiness in being alive in this planet, and she’s intimately in contact with all rich and cheerful aspects of life. Relationships here are passionate, but feel very fresh and exciting.

Mars in the 5th house: young students play tag on a football field, laughing excitedly as they run; the Sun has descended to play in their hair too. People with this placement best express their drive and assertiveness during games, sports, artistic performances and romantic interactions with others. They usually express themselves as quite fierce, competitive and courageous, as their internal light is somehow connected to the way they express their aggressiveness and work actively towards their goals. Mars here is proud and dignified through the strength of his independent nature.

Jupiter in the 5th house: an individual considers an old photograph with a smile: they’re seen laughing in the centre of a large group of joyful friends; fireworks shower in the sky. Here, the great benefic amplifies a happiest part of life, symbolizing the cultivation of inspiring ideals about the joy of being alive. The world here is wonderful, and so is the creative expression of the self, which becomes embedded in a sparkling, inspiring kind of faith and optimism towards life in general. It is natural that the individual cultivates these concepts through indulging in their favourite hobbies and romantic relationships, which can be many and quite fulfilling if the individual is in touch with their own greatness.

Saturn in the 5th house: the windows of a magnificent manor remain shut, letting only a faint golden glow pass through heavy crimson curtains; whatever’s inside cannot be seen in its absolute greatness. The archetype of fear and abandonment here kidnaps the inner child, locking them up in an imaginary dungeon filled with the most terrifying creatures. This is often a symbol of an upbringing that somehow caused one’s internal light to dim, making it hard for them to express their true potential and to feel true happiness and pride in being their essential selves. Saturn here indicates that one will most likely achieve contentment as they rebuild the image of their own selves through a self-love that is reliable and consistent.

Uranus in the 5th house: a curious portrait hangs at the end of the hall of an old museum, haunting its cold corridor with its defying gaze. The fifth house is accustomed to the Sun’s golden rays, shining constantly in its warming light. However, here we have a light that is striking, sudden, hard-shaped and unconventional. People with this placement usually express themselves emphasizing how different they can be from everyone else through their tastes, romantic interests and creative expression overall. They have a different approach to life’s pleasures and this is a reflection of their unique inner nature. There’s a need to stay true to oneself and to be completely independent in one’s own self-worth. The artistic expression here is eccentric and tends to be rather revealing, as if it shattered old patterns of reality.

Neptune in the 5th house: a mysterious figure blows thick curtains of silver from the cigarette they’re smoking, making it impossible for their identity to be clearly determined. People with this placement seek to surrender themselves to life’s pleasures and artistic themes. One’s own personal light is mystified among twinkling clouds, painting the creative identity with fantastic and surreal pastel tones, which are in turn reflected on the outside. It may be difficult for others to pinpoint this individual’s role as an actual individual, and this is because one’s individuality is dissolved in the universe’s consciousness. For this, people with this placement tend to express a pure, unconditional kind of love, and they may also build immense imaginary castles in which they can live their romantic fantasies; it’s rather easy to get lost in there. Artistic expression occurs mainly through themes of mystery, fantasy, love, surrender, magic and destiny.

Pluto in the 5th house: far below, at the ocean’s end, an enchanted jewel waits for it to be found; it’s true power is dormant, sleeping in the form of an incredible potential. The artistic expression is extreme and transforming, since the expression of the self is constantly sending impulses from the Soul’s original desires. There’s an incredible opportunity for approaching themes that are rarely explored in society, provoking strong emotional and unconscious responses in people. Constantly sending messages from the Soul, Pluto here may produce an obsessive or dedicated behaviour towards 5th house themes and activities.


Detail: François Lemoyne, “La vierge en gloire”; 1731-32.

10 Cute Things About You

1. Your face lights up when you see me. Your cheeky boyish grin literally makes my day better, even when I’m angry or sad. When you see me, you lift your head up, walk tall and sort of skip towards me, like I’m the best thing you’ve seen, and I love it.

2. Your shirts are way too big on you. You’ve filled out a little since I met you, but you shirts still hang off you. At times I have genuinely wondered if you have a body under all that white fabric!

3. Your dumb jokes. They are old and worn out. Dad jokes, to be more precise, and the way you tell them, with no conviction or confidence what-so-ever, and it’s the most adorable thing I’ve ever seen.

4. Your chocolate addiction.

“Would you like some chilli cashews, or would you like some chocola-”

“Whatever the chocolate thing is! I’ll have that!”

Eat as much as you like. I’ll always have some on me now I know how much you like it.

5. Your odd choices of phrase. Why do you wish me “all the best” when you’re just popping to the loo? Do you think you’ll never see me again, or-?

6. Your weird imagination. Of course the new printer in the staff room is actually a microwave that laser cooks your soup! Why would anyone think otherwise?

7. Your terrible memory. At times I’ve been a little offended by the things you’ve forgotten, like my birthday… sigh. But sometimes it’s just kinda funny. You’re ditzy and in your own world. When you do remember something, it feels pretty special, especially if you remember some small detail about me or something I’ve said.

8. Your non-existent scent. Everyone has a smell, right? Except you. You literally do not have a scent. If you’ve had coffee, I can tell, but you have no natural odour. It’s weird, but great, because body smells gross me out.

9. Occasionally, you dance. It’s weird and awkward, but cute. I hate dancing. I hate to dance, or to watch people dance. I don’t know why, but I can’t deal with it. But when you randomly started dancing towards me, with that cheeky smile of yours, or when we got a little over excited when the YMCA came on, I just want to grab you and boogie.

10. Your incredibly weird laugh. I can’t even describe it. It’s hilarious and when I hear you laugh, I just want to laugh, or kiss you, or marry you so I can hear it all the time. You laugh a lot, which is nice. I like it when you’re happy.

Astrology Thoughts for November!

Instead of vague monthly horoscopes, here are some thoughts on each sign:

Aries are often associated with athleticism due to their high energy image but they suffer from lethargy and burnout quite easily. Many prefer expending their agile minds into social or intellectual energies (especially if they have Air sign planets).

Taurus can have a superficial and sensual side that lead to a lot of drunken make-outs, love affairs and one-night stands that can surprise people that don’t associate their calm routine-oriented friend with such risky or carnal behavior.

Gemini’s curiosity leads them to having a Scorpio-like collection of knowledge, learning things before it’s age appropriate but unlike Scorpio, they tend to understand adult concepts only superficially and with a humorous approach.

Cancer attracts friends and followers easily, possibly because they do not aim to act in ways that attempt to gather power or popularity. The Cancer personality has a reflective light and social sensitivity that wins over others.

Leos have a very hard time admitting when they are wrong. In romantic affairs, this can be their downfall. They need a partner that is patient and graceful but also can be gently assertive. To make up for it, Leos are big-hearted and see their lovers as the sun and moon.

Virgos tend to mature and relax as they get older by dropping their initial idea of what it means to be “perfect.” They evolve when they focus more on their character and goodwill instead of their outer image, allowing for superficial imperfections.

Libras do not lack individuality and like the other two air signs, have odd and quirky behaviors in spades. Their famous charm covers good manners and social grace as well as an inability to keep people amused and laughing (see: Carrie Fisher). They tend to take themselves lightly but their intellectual thoughts and opinions seriously.

Scorpio’s insightful nature makes them great at uncovering and disseminating information, putting them in careers and fields we tend to associate with the air signs: intellectual spheres, academia, news and media, journalism and so on. They’re unafraid to take sides and push an agenda they believe in, unlike the air signs.

Sagittarius corresponds with the benefic, Jupiter simply because they just appreciate life and have an exploratory and philosophical nature. Their first instinct is rarely fear but a sense of cosmic learning and as the mutable fire sign, they really can “roll with the punches.”

Capricorn can surprise us by being one of the most romantic signs due to their hard-working nature and desire to support others. They tend to be bachelors and bachelorettes, waiting a long time to commit to one person and finally pouring a lot of energy into that relationship. 

Aquarius people have strong business acumen due to both their ability to predict trends and their impersonal but friendly way of dealing with people of all backgrounds and tastes. They can envision the future and shape their ideals accordingly.

Pisces’ acute sensitivity to rejection comes from the fact that they accept others naturally and without second thought (which can also come across as naivety), lacking any tendency to discriminate so when others reject them, they don’t understand why. 

theguardian.com
Maurice at 30: the gay period drama the world wasn't ready for
The elegant Merchant Ivory love story, starring a young Hugh Grant, was largely ignored on release but it’s now receiving a 4K restoration and might finally reach the audience it deserves
By Guy Lodge

Last year, Merchant Ivory’s Howards End, now a quarter of a century old, got a 4K digital restoration that didn’t seem obviously required. Until, that is, you saw the result. Those ornate Edwardian interiors, the sea of rain-spattered umbrellas, that field of bluebells, all made newly sharp and iridescent – it seemed appropriate treatment for what stands as the quintessential work from a film-making team now synonymous with elegantly reserved costume drama. With US distributor Cohen Media Group having bought up the Merchant Ivory library, one might have assumed A Room With a View would be next in line for this pristine treatment. The Remains of the Day, perhaps.                    

Instead, we’ve been thrown a curveball. Maurice, undervalued in 1987 and underseen today, is getting the digital makeover, hitting cinema screens in time for its 30th anniversary. It’s a surprise, but a welcome one. Adapted from a posthumously published EM Forster novel that is likewise overshadowed in reputation by other works in his canon – like, well, Howards End and A Room With a View – Merchant Ivory’s film opened hot on the heels of their broadly beloved, Oscar-garlanded adaptation of the latter. Almost immediately, it was filed away as, if not a disappointment, a lesser diversion. The Venice film festival jury was highly taken with it, handing prizes to James Ivory and then-fresh-faced stars Hugh Grant and James Wilby, but despite admiring reviews, few followed their lead. Box office was barely a 10th of A Room With a View’s; where that film had been nominated for eight Oscars, winning three, Maurice scraped a solitary bid for its costumes.

The film wasn’t at fault. A tender, graceful love story, performed with quiet emotional conviction and crafted with Merchant Ivory’s signature visual serenity and meticulous period detail, it was an exemplary distillation of its literary source – and a heartily realised passion project for Ivory himself, who adapted Forster’s novel in place of the team’s usual screenwriter Ruth Prawer Jhabvala. What was different? Those even glancingly acquainted with the film or novel can probably work it out: Maurice was, put bluntly, too gay.

Ivory and producer Ismail Merchant were romantic partners as well as professional ones, though their films rarely reflected their sexuality in anything more than an oblique sense. Many of their greatest films evoke a sense of unspoken desire, of any persuasion, simmering beneath a placid surface of decorum – a repression with which many a gay person, unable always to freely articulate their romantic self, has been able to empathise. Maurice, in a sense, was the duo’s cinematic coming-out: the story of a young man growing into his homosexuality in politely hostile English society, it’s a film that exquisitely queers the stiff-upper-lip emotions so central to the Merchant Ivory oeuvre.

There’s a slight aloofness to Maurice that is part of its beauty. Shooting with glacial reserve, a minty chill present even in scenes of the great English summer, Ivory languidly explores the stuffy Cambridge social circuit, with its cricket matches and country-pile parties, that the title character is expected to inhabit; Wilby’s painstaking performance, too, initially comes over as glazed, absent, a man in search of something to want. The film only breathes when he finally does, first via a frustrating romantic affair with fellow student and social climber Clive Durham (Grant, perfectly his floppy charm years before Four Weddings and a Funeral) – but it’s heartbreak that gives the film its red-blooded feeling.          

From there, as a second romantic chapter with gamekeeper Alec Scudder (Rupert Graves, completing perhaps the prettiest posh-boy triangle in screen history) begins, Maurice gains both in emotional sweep and intimate psychological detail: a tame entry it may be in the LGBT canon, but few films have expressed quite so sweetly and nakedly the challenges of simply being a gay man, partnered or otherwise – how difficult it can be to run with human nature.

This is not emotionally universal terrain, and was a rare subject for prestige heritage cinema to take on: the film’s respectful but dispassionate reception in 1987, not an era rich with queer art in the mainstream, is no surprise in retrospect. Had Forster, for whom the novel also represented a cathartic release of his own sexuality, published it in his lifetime, he might have encountered similar resistance. In 1971, Maurice was received by the literary fraternity as minor by his standards – a verdict that all too often plagues depictions of desire that, while far from minor, is shared only by a minority.

Fast-forward to 2017, in the midst of a thriving LGBT cinema scene and in afterglow of Moonlight’s barrier-busting Oscar triumph, and perhaps audiences will be a little warmer, a little kinder to Maurice. Coincidentally, it hits screens again in the same year that Ivory is basking in the glory of a very different LGBT triumph: now 88, he’s a co-writer on Luca Guadagnino’s queer coming-of-age rhapsody Call Me By Your Name, a Sundance sensation that realises the first rush of gay love with all the woozy sensual excess that Maurice, true to its period, eschews. (They’d make for a remarkable, mutually flattering double bill.) Far from dated, Merchant Ivory’s Maurice looks positively ahead of its time: an honestly strait-laced depiction of alternative sexuality that dared to play by the same rules as any other respectable costume drama.

(Source: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2017/may/19/maurice-film-period-drama-merchant-ivory)

anonymous asked:

I have weird feelings about Dan's Limelight liner note. I'm happy he's drawing a line between himself and the fandom, but he's been so frank on Grumps for so many years that wanting his privacy back after telling thousands of people huge chunks of his personal life is too little too late to me. It came off very 'thanks for the money, now that there's so many of you I can tell you to fuck off" to me.

Aw gosh, lovely, I’m very sorry you feel that way, but that’s absolutely not what he meant. Just because he shares parts of his life on Grumps doesn’t mean we as fans get to pry otherwise, and that’s what he meant. Like Dan protects his romantic personal affairs very fiercely, and that’s not our information to have. Or to ask for. Nothing is ours to ask for, in fact, in his personal life. But that doesn’t stop people at cons or otherwise from asking questions that are inappropriate and upsetting to him. It’s happened at almost every panel or QnA I think, where someone will ask something that they just shouldn’t. Or people that search for his old address, or his family’s addresses. Or follow him around conventions if they see him. There are also fans that imprint onto him inappropriately and do feel like he is their personal friend, and so ask for his phone number or run up and give him hugs unannounced- and he’s not.

I know we all feel close to him because he’s part of a lot of our lives for 20+ minutes a day, but we all have to remember that he doesn’t know who any of us are. And we aren’t privy to his private life if he says we’re not. Whatever he shares he is free to share, and whatever he doesn’t we aren’t allowed to be asking for, or getting mad if he refuses or doesn’t want to answer. That’s all. So he’s grateful for everyone that does understand that. “I can’t pretend a stranger is a long awaited friend.” We’re strangers to him, in the end. We always will be. Maybe we’ll meet him more than once at different cons or what have you, and maybe he’ll remember people he sees more than once, but that doesn’t make him your friend. There is a line there, and people need to respect it. And he’s grateful for the fans that know the appropriate distance and respect it while still allowing him to be that little window of time into their day and not blurring that line.

If there is anyone I could ever say that I know is grateful for his fans, and appreciates them so very dearly, it’s Dan. Never ever would he be like “hey thanks for the muns now get lost”. That’s not him. It’s super just not. Dan is a sweet guy and he genuinely appreciates us. As fans. As people who like his work. Who get something from listening to him or listening to his music. That he has an impact on our lives makes him feel good, he’s said multiple times that being told he’s been so many people’s reasons for carrying on during tough times touches him deeply and he feels so honored. He cares about us. He cares about making music and content that’s important to him and that we’ll love and enjoy. He loves us. He’s grateful for us. He’s just not our personal friend and we have to respect that. All of us.

anonymous asked:

If a character is stuck in an abusive relationship, would it still be a No to romanticize them cheating?

So this was something I thought about before I added that to the list, and I’ve continued to think about it since, and I still don’t have a perfect answer.

Here’s what it boils down to for me:

If someone is trapped in an abusive relationship–or in a relationship they didn’t choose or don’t want to be in but can’t safely leave–and they mange to safely find someone they love who isn’t abusive, that is good. I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with writing as a good thing.

That being said, I don’t think that contributes to the romanticization of cheating. At least to me, they are conceptually different issues, in large part because, when I am talking about cheating, I am referring to relationships where everyone involved has some choice in being in the relationship.

Here’s an example of how I’ve seen cheating romanticized in a story before (it’s a generic example, not from any specific story that I’m thinking of):

A woman is in a long-term relationship with a man. They fell in love but now he’s away a lot for business. She feels lonely and neglected but doesn’t talk to him about it for no clear reason. She also doesn’t leave the relationship despite being unhappy in it. One day she runs into a man she used to have romantic and/or sexual feelings for. They start talking. They have sex. They start an affair. She falls in love with him. Her significant other comes home at some unexpected time, finds out, gets angry, is presented as being the bad guy for never being around, and so of course she would find someone else to sleep with. He does or threatens something bad to her and/or leaves. She is temporarily separated from the man she’s been having an affair with but ultimately they declare their love to each other and end up together.

In this case, she had a choice to 1) talk to her SO about feeling lonely, 2) break off her relationship with her SO, 3) discuss the concept of an open relationship with her SO, or 4) do none of the above but also not engage in an affair, and instead she broke the agreement they presumably made to be monogomous and engaged in an affair.

That is a very different situation from a person in an abusive relationship they can’t safely leave finding someone who isn’t abusive.

That’s why I don’t consider them the same thing.

@of-music-and-studious-despair kiri mcghee phrased it well when she said owen “has an extremely malleable posthumous reputation.” owen’s boom into fame after his death lended him, if not the mythic proportions we associate with shakespeare or keats, then at the least a highly celebrated regard. even though gay history is hardly taught in school to begin with, this regard in particular meant that most academic circles just… didn’t want to acknowledge his sexual orientation. this got further compounded by the fact that owen’s brother censored not just the violence of the war out of owen’s surviving letters, but also any hints of his orientation, for owen’s posthumous protection. which, i agree, is disappointing at best!

@wssh-watson siegfried sassoon wasn’t likely gay, he was gay, and self-identified as such. he did try for a heterosexual marriage, but that ultimately dissolved, in part because he was gay. he and owen were in the know about each other’s sexualities, and sassoon even introduced owen to his circle of gay writers which boasted, among others, oscar wilde’s former bf / close friend robbie ross. over his life sassoon had several romantic affairs with men, including one with actor ivor novello, one with writer beverly nichols, and one with (flamboyant) aristocrat stephen tennant, the lattermost of whom he was involved with for four years.

here’s a pic of sassoon, right, and tennant, left, taken while they were dating:

It’s England, 2074, Emmerdale is still on tv. Robert and Aaron both got graphically trampled by Moira’s cows on screen, but the press team keep tweeting that there’s #moretocome. Lachlan and Belle are the new power couple. Rebecca’s womb is now a credited character but Rebecca has no lines and only communicates through blinking. Lawrence White is somehow still alive. When will he die? we all ask. Nobody knows. Nobody really cares. David and Tracy are still in the shop. They’ve not been allowed out to interect with other characters for 60 years. The sexy summer affair has not been sexy or in summer since 2015. Every character is having an affair. ‘It’s romantic’ says Iain Macleod’s android replacement. ‘Should Robron reunite?’ asks the Emmerdale twitter account. Aaron and Robert are both dead. Trampled by cows. We all saw it. #Context says Emmerdale. #KeepWatching.