roleplaying issues

Here’s something about Avengers’ OC Children (not only Avengers but you get the picture!):

  • If you’re a canon blog and we follow you, we are not going to force ourselves on you. We answer one open here and send a meme there…bottom line is…if you show rudeness or ignore us, we’ll just move on. But instead of showing rudeness and ignoring, you would just say ‘I don’t RP with OC children’, it would be better.
  • It’s totally your choice if you don’t RP with OC children. I don’t think people will force themselves if you just say it outright. Some take a long time to get the picture but just because one OC children is an ass, doesn’t mean all of us are!
  • If you follow us and then when we interact your canon muse is completely oblivious to who ours muses are…that’s just being an hypocrite. If you followed, you knew it was an OC child and that she was going to call you “Mom” or “Dad”.
  • Just because it doesn’t make sense for OC Children to existe, doesn’t mean you have to be a dick about it.
  • Just because one blog forces themselves, doesn’t mean all of them will.
  • THE OC CHILDREN DON’T ONLY EXIST TO BOTHER MOMMY AND DADDY. THEY HAVE THEIR OWN PERSONALITIES, THEIR OWN TASTE, THEIR OWN LOVED ONES. DO NOT THINK THAT ALL THEY EXIST FOR IS TO CAUSE TROUBLE FOR THEIR PARENTS.

Now, this was a rant I wanted to post a long time ago. The hate towards OC Children is unbelievable.

“I’m jealous

I’m overzealous

I get angry, baby, believe me

I could love you just like that

I could leave you just this fast 

but don’t you judge me

‘cause if you did, baby, I would judge you too

I’ve got issues

but you’ve got them too

bask in the glory

of all our problems

yeah, I got issues

but you do shit on purpose

you get mad and you break things 

yet you’re perfect

a poorly wired circuit

with hands like an ocean

push you out, pull you back in

yeah, I’ve got issues 

and one of them is how bad I need you.”

DON’T GUILT - TRIP OR GET ANGRY AT PEOPLE WHO AREN’T ALRIGHT WITH DUPLICATES.    it’s been a hot issue of roleplay since practically the beginning of it:    people who play the same muse as you.    it can be fun to share your passion and love for your muse with someone who plays the same one as you,    i’m sure,    but the fact is that not everyone is as comfortable.    people have anxiety,    they have insecurities,    which is often the reason behind not wanting to interact with duplicates.    they should not be shamed for it.     also,    i’ve noticed that many people who play muses they’ve come to love and admire have been critical of the creators of the media they’re from,    myself included.    if a writer is already so critical of the original media,    it’s likely that following other iterations of their character will only repeat that kind of criticism in their mind.    that will do nothing but create an even more negative feeling within the writer.    i’m certainly not saying that people should not be comfortable with other blogs of their character,    only that it’s more than understandable when people aren’t. they should not be resented for it.    the roleplay community on tumblr is very unnecessarily competitive,    i know,    and i don’t like it either,    but the fact is that it still has its effects and it still can make people extremely put off towards duplicates.    please,    just respect that.    respect others’ comfort zones.

DnD issue

I tried playing Dungeons and Dragons after not doing so for 15 years and pretty much completely forgot how. Overall it was a really sad and disappointing experience but I tried to be positive and helpful to the team, though towards the end I was told by another player that I was bad at DnD because I criticized his PC for rushing in and killing some dudes immediately without surveying the situation or consulting with the rest of the team first, and just having him say that to me (not even through the player character saying I was bad at combat or something) it made me pretty damn butthurt.

Don’t know if I want to continue next week because it was just 8 hours of frustration with other people who just wanted to fight things and fight things right NOW, loner badasses that made no effort to meet the rest of the party and basically acted socially retarded, lots of RUSHING as if things had to happen RIGHT NOW as if there was a time limit on making decisions (there’s not), not doing anything story-related aside from killing the first boss, and getting talked over a lot and bossed around by really assertive/dominant/loud players. There was no time to slow down, enjoy each other’s company, get to know each other’s characters, have interactions, learn each other’s backstories, it was just GO GO GO right from the start.

I know I would theoretically get along well with a group who takes time to sit and think about what they are going to say and do, talk about things patiently, and isn’t RUSHING RUSHING RUSHING to DO QUESTS NOW and grind and kill. I had great fun with the chick sitting next to me though because she took time to make decisions and think things over and didn’t make me feel rushed to do anything. She never interrupted me to make suggestions to me either in combat or out of combat, and waited patiently to act.

I was looking forward to playing for like a whole year, wrote a big detailed character bio for the DM when no one else had offered much of a backstory during character creation, dressed up in a medieval outfit because I was SO READY FOR THIS ADVENTURE and now that I finally got there I’m just super salty because I had hella brain fog from hormones and couldn’t think quick enough (sometimes I am witty and on-point) without the silence having to be filled by someone else. 

Does anyone have any suggestions for me? I’m technically new but I’d like to be able to enjoy the game. The mechanics of how everything works is fine, and if I do go to the next session I plan on being a LOT more assertive and not letting other people step all over me or boss me around (except the DM, because he’s allowed to do that, it’s part of the job). Should I just maybe try finding a new group, or should I stick with it and tough it out and interrupt and boss around other players as a defense mechanism, or just be an assertive nasty bitch (which doesn’t fit my player character well, and I don’t want to use him as a tool to express my frustrations with the other players)? Or anything else?

Guys.

Guys.

Guys.

GUYS.

Be patient with your rp partners.

I get it, we’re all human, we get impatient especially when we’re excited about something. But here’s the thing. We’ve all been there (and if you say otherwise I wanna know your magic trick). You need to try to be understanding. Even if your partner is having a flake moment it still doesn’t give you justification to be an asshole. Talk to them. Maybe there’s a reason they’re flaking. Maybe their muse is being a pain or maybe they’ve got writer’s block or maybe life is being a bitch. You don’t know. There are a billion different reasons as to why your rp partner isn’t doing replies and if they’re doing everyone else’s but yours there’s still a reason so again talk to them (though this is another topic for another time also), but don’t be a jerk about it.

But yeah.

Be patient.

In the long run it pays off trust me.

Good things come to those who wait.

Roleplaying Issues #1

Hey all.  This is my attempt at making a somewhat-series.  More just a series of discussion rather than anything else. 
  Basically, I’m intrigued at different people’s opinions on various issues that come up in roleplaying.  I’m going to start with a relatively simple one, that yet can come up fairly often, especailly if you’re a fan of White Wolf and their fluff heavy games. On a side-note, I loathe the terms ‘crunch’ and 'fluff’, since it implies that the story is an inferior side-spectator to the mechanics.  I mean, sure, I like exploring complex systems as much as the next gamer, but I think combing that with the story in equal, perhaps even greater proportions is what makes this medium so unique.
  So on that note, let’s talk about a particular issue

New Players Joining
 
I know, we all like having new players join.  But what if they’re not experienced roleplayers? How do you go about integrating them into games, and what’s your preference when it comes to people joining games, especially complicated ones mid-way through.
  Recently, I was running an Abyssal Exaltedgame, and one of my friends joined.  Sadly, he ended up leaving because, when it came down to it, I asked him to create a ~200xp character on a system he was completely unfamiliar with and somehow expected this to be satisfying for him.  It, understandably, wasn’t. 
  So what do you all do when it comes to this particular issue?

I want to talk about roleplay and everything for a second.

I believe I’m going to only roleplay with people who I’m comfortable with. So in other words, no random roleplays unless we’ve known each other a while.

This is nothing against anyone, nor am I upset about anything, but it gets a little difficult when people make things we roleplay with into a sexual manner, especially when people want me to roleplay as myself and then want me to either be A) romantic or B) sexual in nature when playing as myself. One, this is a sfw blog and I try to keep it that way. Two, I’m in a committed relationship and it makes me feel uncomfortable to play as myself when people want something like that from me. Characters I can do, because they themselves are separate from me. As myself or my self insert? I prefer not to.

Putting myself into roles that I’m uncomfortable with just because I want people to be happy is not something I want to do. Just like Ama is a giant. They always will be, at least here. They aren’t usually tiny. But please, if we roleplay and I’m playing as Ama, AKA myself, then can we keep things nonromantic and nonsexual? I don’t want to be driven away from roleplay from something that is so easy to be respectful of in said roleplays.

Just my thoughts…

“I think that deities are godmodding in roleplays and probably shouldn’t be used very much.  Demons with a huge amount of power are also godmodding,” I say as I downgrade my characters so they wouldn’t break all of my godmodding rules.

  And then I realize all of my friends have deity characters and whenever they roleplay as them I don’t fit in, and if I use any characters there’s a huge chance they’ll die or be injured for life in that roleplay.

  Furthermore, I only generally use actual characters from a series (examples: Miles Edgeworth from Ace Attorney, Kellam/Virion/Henry from Fire Emblem: Awakening.  Pretty much, I use human characters from series that rarely mention deities).

“I think I should give one of my characters (that isn’t an official character and thus won’t ruin their personality any) something that can summon a not-so-powerful demon,” I say.

  I start to do that and I get a few protests, so I stop because others think it’s godmodding.  So I’m left with:

  • a few lawyer characters who can never catch up in an action roleplay
  • a crazy painter who can throw people in a painting world
  • an archer
  • a man who can’t be noticed (Kellam)
  • a dark mage
  • a demon character I can never use although I enjoy using him
  • a dancing inspector who I don’t like using (Inspector Cabanela)
  • a few Madoka Magica witches (two in total, one doesn’t fight, the other is dead)
  • a few Madoka Magica familiars
  • a ghost cat

  What do I do?  The people I roleplay with usually use powered-up official characters and deities, and their roleplays are mainly action-oriented.

  This means I can’t contribute anything in a roleplay and all I can do is sit back and watch.  It also serves for a lot of awkward moments for me.  Any suggestions?