İnsan mutsuzken hep dikkati kendine dönüktür. Gitgide kendini çok ciddiye almaya başlar. Mutsuzu neşelendirmeye çalıştığında, istemez, karşı çıkar. Çünkü neşelendiğinde, dikkati kendinden uzaklaşacak ve evrenle kucaklaşacaktır. Mutsuzluk, kendine düşkünlüğün varacağı son noktadır.
Even Cowgirls Get the Blues. Tom Robbins. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1976. First edition, first printing. Original dust jacket.
“Women live longer than men because they really haven’t been living. Better blue-in-the-face dead of a heart attack at fifty than a healthy seventy-year old widow who hasn’t had a piece of life’s action since girlhood.”
First ascent team, El Capitan, Yosemite. 1964, Tom Frost, Royal Robbins, Chuck Pratt, and Yvon Chouinard
“I failed on a climbing problem eight times before realizing I was climbing as high as I knew I could and then letting go. On my next try I climbed with no thought of failure and reached the top. We cannot know what we can do in advance. The only way to find out is to go all-out trying, thinking only of success.” -Royal Robbins
“He was becoming unstuck, he was sure of that - his bones were no longer wrapped in flesh but in clouds of dust, in hummingbirds, dragonflies, and luminous moths - but so perfect was his equilibrium that he felt no fear. He was vast, he was many, he was dynamic, he was eternal.” - Tom Robbins, Jitterbug Perfume
Pyrography & painting by Wood Fire Ink. Please do not remove credit.
Albert Camus wrote that the only serious question is whether to kill yourself or not. Tom Robbins wrote that the only serious question is whether time has a beginning or an end. Camus clearly got up on the wrong side of the bed, and Robbins must have forgotten to set the alarm. There is only one serious question. And that question is: ‘Who knows how to make love stay?’
When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.