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When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on—series polygamy—until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.
Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words “make” and “stay” become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.
—  Tom Robbins, Still Life With Woodpecker
İnsan mutsuzken hep dikkati kendine dönüktür. Gitgide kendini çok ciddiye almaya başlar. Mutsuzu neşelendirmeye çalıştığında, istemez, karşı çıkar. Çünkü neşelendiğinde, dikkati kendinden uzaklaşacak ve evrenle kucaklaşacaktır. Mutsuzluk, kendine düşkünlüğün varacağı son noktadır.
—  Tom Robbins, Parfümün dansı
When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.
—  Tom Robbins

“Eskiden yalnız kalmaktan korkardım. Şimdi ise yanlış insanlarla çevremin dolmasından korkuyorum.” diyen Tom Robbins'e cevap verir sanki J.J. Rausseau “Yalnız Gezenin Düşleri"nde:

“Çünkü en berbat yalnızlık bile, ihanet ve nefretle beslenen kötü insanlardan meydana gelmiş bir toplumdan daha tercih edilebilir bir durumdur.”