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dnolenw  asked:

Is there going to be an update for the app? I would really like to keep using it but it's incompatible with iOS 11. If not I would still like to say thanks for having it as long as you have. It has been a huge help for me.

Yes, we’re updating it right now. We hit every possible roadblock and complication, so it is taking far, far longer than we anticipated, but there will be an iOS 11-compatible update at some point in the nearish future.

This is something I hope all of my followers and the entire studyblr community will read…

Last year was the hardest year of my life and I did not even notice it until I was out of it. To give a little background, I was 19, and becoming a college senior. I completed my bachelor’s degree with a double major, summa cum laude. I worked two jobs, one retail, one as a tour guide, five days a week, and took seven classes in the fall, and eight in the spring, and six in the summer. By March I had lost 16 pounds, was not eating, not sleeping, and drinking four or more cups of coffee a day. I had a boyfriend, friends, a roommate, I was president of a club, vice president of another, and working as vice president of one club’s international leadership program as one of five student board members across sixty-three countries. I studied for my LSAT, took the exam, and applied to law school. And in August, I will be the youngest person in my law school.

I pushed myself harder and further than I ever imagined, and though I sometimes (often) felt like it, I never cracked, gave up, or even collapsed. I did not always take care of myself, physically, mentally, or emotionally though, and I failed myself there, but I was so driven, so determined, that none of that mattered to me at that moment. I do not regret that or any of the choices I have made, but I pressured myself more than anyone ever has, and more than I ever have. I accomplished unbelievable things, but at an insane cost - my health.

Often in this community I receive messages, and see posts, encouraging you to never give up, and to always push yourself to get that A, pass that test, graduate, or to overcome whatever academic or otherwise challenges you are facing. Almost daily I receive messages asking how I do it. “How did you graduate at 20?”, “How do you keep up with all of your commitments?”, and even, “You are so amazing, I could never do it like you do”. But I am here to tell you well, it is not pretty. I went days without eating a meal at times. Days without washing my hair, of wearing the same torn leggings and a hoodie because a grade meant more to me than I meant to myself. I got walking pneumonia at the end of the spring term because I had pushed myself too hard and spent weeks telling myself I could not afford to be sick today, tomorrow, or the next day. I wore myself down so much that I had a doctor literally tell me that now at 20 years old, if I do not tone down the stress and pressure I subject myself to, that I could give myself a stroke. A stroke, 20 years old!

Being a perfectionist, and being so overwhelmingly addicted to my studies, is not glamorous.

I am making this post not to brag about my accomplishments, but because I receive messages daily idolizing me and what I have done. I want everyone to know that this is not easy. Having a dream is hard work, and I have been unfairly hard on myself. Just because you do not see someone’s cracks and scars, does not mean they are not there. I have worked hard, and have earned these things, but I have made sacrifices I would hate to see anyone else make.

In 10 days I move across the country to start law school, and I am terrified that I will allow myself to do this all over again. I am not afraid of the move, or of law school, but of myself and how I talk to myself and treat myself, and the amount of stress and pressure I am willing to apply to myself, without hesitation. In a month I have law school orientation, and have set up a meeting with one of the school’s onsite trauma therapists. I refuse to let myself be my own greatest roadblock. I have to learn to love myself. It is not fair to your body and mind to put grades above yourself. I now full heartedly believe that a grade is not worth your health. I will no longer break my back bending over backwards for an A+. I will no longer let myself go days without food and rest because I want this essay to be perfect, or my presentation to go as planned, second by second. I will allow myself to be happy, well rested, well fed, and healthy. I will love myself, and this is a promise I am making to myself and to all of you, and a promise I hope you all can make to yourselves as well.

I promise.

TLDR; Be dedicated, and determined to get what you want, but do not sacrifice your health, mental, physical, or emotional, for a grade, a diploma, a degree… You are worth so much more than a letter on a piece of paper, and it is okay to sometimes need to hear that. I know I did.

Homophobia was your roadblock to discovering your identity. Homophobia was not invented by asexuality, nor is the ace community its sole arbiters. 

Like if you were afraid of being gay so chose to convince yourself you were ace instead that doesn’t make asexuality a toxic identity. That just means our society is toxically homophobic, which we all already knew.

There may even be (read: absolutely is) a community of closeted gay kids self-repulsed by their own internalized homophobia and using the ace community as both a cover and an outlet to convince themselves they are a more “palatable” kind of different, but, y’all, that doesn’t mean we should put some kind of gatekeeping nonsense on the ace community. It means we should promote honest comprehensive sex-positive sex education, discourage sex shaming, and fight homophobia. Those things existing in the ace community are symptoms of those things existing at large. 

And it’s wild to see all these people being like “well a whole lot of homophobes and repressed Christians co-opted asexuality as an identity to perpetuate homophobia and sex shaming before coming to terms with being gay” and somehow come to the conclusion that asexuality is the problem here, instead of yet another community/identity being terrorized by our shitty culture. 

A quick update:

It pains us to say this, but the next chapter of The Arcana is going to be delayed one more week. Some behind-the-scenes roadblocks slowed us down, but we’re putting extra tender loving care into this chapter and we think you’ll find the wait to be well worth it. On that note, here’s another sneak peek~

Thanks so much for sticking with us! ❤️ 

Make A Difference.

(Please read this in it’s entirety. You will make a difference in this world!)

Please don’t feel like you are alone. Please don’t feel like you are constantly surrounded by the darkness of the night.

Why? Because you have an entire network of supporters around you. In person, and through this community.

We are each fighting our own battles, overcoming our our greatest roadblocks, and stepping out of our comfort zones.
We are each trying, stretching, reaching to get passed our deepest fears.

First, take a moment to think about something that is troubling you. Something that causes you pain, hurt, worry.

Now, please reblog this post. Who ever you happened to reblog this post from, send them a heart. (❤️️)

This heart is a reminder that there is a support system around each of you. To everyone who is currently battling their own war, there is always someone to turn to. There is always a hand reaching out for you.

You are not alone. So please, if you would like to take a moment to support someone else, regardless of who it may be,

Give a heart. Show your support. Empower strength.

The July moon is a time for divination and meditation magic. 

  1. Waxing Gibbous: What do you need to release?
  2. First Quarter: What should you attract?
  3. Waxing Crescent: What needs to begin?
  4. New: What do you need to completely destroy?
  5. Waning Crescent: What is causing stress?
  6. Third Quarter: What is causing the roadblock?
  7. Waning Gibbous: How can you overcome it?
  8. Full: Where should you draw your energy from in your workings this month?

If anyone is interested I’ll be doing readings with this spread for the rest of the day, just send an ask. Otherwise feel free to use this spread on your own, I’d love to see what everyone else draws.

happy full moon

Self-Improvement with Astrology -☉Sun
  • The ego, life force, identity, who we are to become, our core energy
  • Ruler of Leo, exalted in Aries, fall in Libra, detriment in Aquarius

Stressful aspects to the sun can indicate issues with the father or the energies of the other planet(s) can be perceived as a threat to the individual’s identity and ego and they can display negative traits of the sign or appear immature. Sun in Libra/7th house or in Aquarius/11th house can have a harder time trying to establish their identity, Libra only having an image of the self in the presence of others and Aquarius finding themselves in groups and society. Aries/1st house and Leo/5th house, being strong placements for the sun, may not have as much difficulty. Aries has no trouble establishing and asserting their identity while Leo could never let anyone forget who they are. However, in understanding where positive aspects help and harsher aspects challenge, astrology can be used as a guide to grow and evolve.

Harmonious, soft aspects = talents, gifts, laziness
(sextiles, trines, conjunctions to benefics) 

Harsh, hard aspects = challenges, blocks, diamonds in the rough
(squares, oppositions, conjunctions to malefics)

Sun/Moon: Soft: Nurturing figure supports identity, emotions align with who they are Hard: the nurturing figure doesn’t hold a consistent presence or influence, what they feel is at odds with who they are

Appreciate the nurturing figures in your life, whether it be your mother or a friend. Understand that receiving emotional support and expressing emotion does not make one weak or lesser of a person. 

Sun/Mercury: The only aspect the sun can make with Mercury is the conjunction (sun and Mercury can only be 28 degrees apart at most). With the conjunction, thoughts and ideas are infused into and define the identity of the individual. If this person feels as though they are not being heard or truly listened to, they can take it as an offense or threat to who they are.

Understand that your voice is important and makes a difference whether or not you are speaking or are being heard directly. Resist the urge to analyze, define, and criticize every aspect of yourself.

Sun/Venus: The only major aspect the sun can make with Venus is the conjunction (max 48 degree distance between both planets). Here all of the qualities of Venus join with the identity of the individual. The individual can be all of the grace and charm typical of Venus, but requires love, affection, and attention to feel validated.

Love yourself and afford yourself the attention you might otherwise (negatively) seek from others. Avoid laziness and use your ability to harmonize to solve issues peacefully rather than ignoring them. 

Sun/Mars: Soft: Easy assertion of the will, their desires and instincts align with who they are and who they strive to become Hard: Identity/Ego is asserted in situations where it may not be necessary, forceful nature and short temper can run roughshod on others

Assess situations before taking action. Know that putting down the sword can be more honorable than fighting to the death. Understand that roadblocks are put in to be driven around, not through (you’ll still reach your destination).

Sun/Jupiter: Soft: Ego is wise, identity easily grows and develops, individual naturally draws positive things to them Hard: Ego inflates like a cheap balloon and is just as fragile, they might get themselves in over their head and get out of trouble just by the skin of their teeth

Appreciate the fortunate nature of your life and every good thing that comes your way. Avoid pushing the limits just to see how far they go. Repay debts and stay in good character regardless of how you know people will treat you.

Sun/Saturn: Soft: Slow and steady growth of ego and formation of identity, although the identity may take a long time to form it is relatively peerless to the individual Hard: Ego tries to form either before it faces necessary lessons or it is met with debilitating situations before it can handle them, individual is constantly held in check

Listen to and acknowledge each lesson Saturn has to teach. Understand that Saturn will ultimately refine you and polish you with the finest grit. If you push, Saturn will push back, so roll with what life brings.

Sun/Uranus: Soft: The identity changes easily and quickly, the ego alters and adjusts in order to adapt and survive Hard: Difficulty handling change, individual may act out in shocking ways or dramatically alter some aspect of themselves, identity shifts suddenly as a result of being denied change by the father figure

Accept and find ways to handle and appreciate change. Understand that it is okay to change and to stand out. Being “unique” is not an uncommon thing. Life is never steady, let Uranus teach you how to maintain your balance.

Sun/Neptune: Soft: Ego is colored, but not defined by, the suffering and dreams of others, identity centers around artistic expression and higher vibrations of love Hard: Life feels too mundane, ego shaped by the issues of others, escapist tendencies, takes on issues they cannot handle

Understand that at the end of the day you have to close your eyes and go to sleep and let other people’s issues be their issues– not yours. Offer what of yourself that you can to help and guide people, but understand your own capabilities and limits.

Sun/Pluto: Soft: Individual transforms as necessary in their life, Ego is powerful and holds immense depth Hard: Ego refuses to change and grow without catastrophic event, individual does not face their deeper issues or is in a constant clash with them

Understand that true transformation comes when the things we refuse to face are looked at straight in the eye. The world is not out to get you and there is a generation of people who can benefit from your insight or learn something from you. Pluto will destroy what’s faulty if something better will be able to be put in its place.

venus in the composite chart

1st house: your relationship’s image is important when venus is in the first house of a composite chart. you need to appear amiable and respectful, and an attractive couple. you like to show your relationship off to others and you value each other at least on the surface. you’re mutually supportive and others see you as compassionate and loving.

2nd house: this is a comfortable place for venus to be in. this makes you want to go out and do things that’ll make the both of you happy, placing an emphasis on pleasure and desire. if you two value the same thing, you’re likely to get them. getting what each of you want is highlighted in the relationship so if you two value different things, this could be a potential roadblock. it can seem like a materialistic relationship.

3rd house: there is emphasis on communication. you understand each other and are open with each other. you love to have intellectually stimulating conversations. there is a light feeling to this relationship. you enjoy learning and discussing things with each other. your biggest arguments might be about trivial things or facts. 

4th house: strong value of family and the home comes with this. your families might be very involved in your relationships or your heritage and backgrounds will merge with each other. living together might be easy for people with this placement, and you feel emotionally connected in a well decorated home. you might keep your relationship more private to the public eye. 

5th house: a very fun and romantic placement. you desire and value self-expression in the other person. your partner stimulates creativity and a carefree attitude in you and vice versa. there’s a strong need to have fun with each other. romantic expressions are exaggerated. you don’t hold each other back from freely expressing yourselves. you show each other your true selves.

6th house: doing small daily routines can be pleasurable with this placement. you value working to live well. you push each other to be healthier or complete tasks more efficiently. you might enjoy doing daily tasks such as cooking or exercising together. chores can bring happiness to both of you when you do them together.

7th house: you naturally feel comfortable with each other. your relationship has to seem beautiful and at times can be a bit superficial. equality is important and enjoy doing things together. doing favors for each other is easy. if someone feels like the relationship is unfair however, it can cause heavy disagreements in negotiation. you could be marriage material to the other.

8th house: the two of you can please each other without having to be too concerned of one gaining too much power over the other or being unfair with each other. the desire to please comes with this placement. you may hide your relationship from others in the public eye, or have really intense emotions attached to each other. it is a transforming relationship in terms of love, even if platonic. 

9th house: you’re considerate of each other’s opinions, ideologies, beliefs, and philosophies. you enjoy discussing society and life. you feel the need to travel and experience the world together. you have a very open attitude with each other. if you have differing opinions, it’s bound to cause passionate debates. one may take on the role of the teacher.

10th house: a good business partner placement. your public image and reputation are important so you always try to look your best. you come off nice and fair to others. people see you two as peaceful and loving. you can gain status and profit when working together. you help each other with your careers. 

11th house: you find each other more attractive when you’re out with other people. you may share a lot of the same friends. you may work together on projects and displays your talents to your community. social settings are emphasized between you two. you’re seen as peaceful and are a friendly couple to approach.

12th house: there is an unconscious desire to be together. your relationship (or it’s true image) may seen completely hidden or different than it seems. there’s a lot of unanswered questions and suspicious floating around. you have a need to understand each other. you’re very emotionally drawn to each other and can be idealistic about the relationship.

A Lesson in Love (The Discovery)

Summary: (College!AU) In which you’re assigned to write a story about romance, a subject you know nothing about, and Bucky, a hopeless romantic, offers you his assistance.

Pairing: Bucky x Reader

Word Count: 3,298

A/N: The tag list for this story is officially CLOSED.

“A Lesson in Love” Masterlist + Soundtrack

@avengerstories - Thank you for putting up with me for almost a month and listening to me constantly complain about not being able to get this part written. I adore you. Always.

Originally posted by softtroublemaker

“Bucky wants to talk to you.”

You know that the earth never stops moving; it’s constantly in motion. Constantly making its trip around the sun. But the moment Steve says Bucky’s name, you swear that everything comes to a standstill. It’s the only way to explain how everything around you becomes muted. How you’re seeing Steve as if he were standing on the opposing side of a tunnel and how the pressure of Sam’s arm on your shoulder vanishes.

Over the past twenty-two days, you’ve convinced yourself that the story of you and Bucky was not meant to be. In your mind, he left and closed the door on the potential of there ever being an ending where you and him were together.

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Tough times call for tough individuals.

And guess what? That includes you.
You are an unstoppable, indestructible, and unshakeable being, with so much potential that it blows all roadblocks that may stand in the way.

—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin