ritual of remembrance

Magickal Uses for Kisses

A kiss is a very powerful thing, even in fairytales and lore of the past the power of kisses are told of (true love’s kiss, siren/mermaid kiss, first kiss, etc). a kiss can be a powerful tool for any witch. Here are a few suggestions for using kisses and the power they hold.

  • Use a kiss to charge objects: crystals, tarot cards, charms, amulets, etc etc. Use it to send your emotions and energy into the object. Love is a good emotion, but any positive energies you wish to charge the object with can be transferred this way. Adding your love to something can really give it a boost as well! Especially if it is for another to use. (Note: do not kiss toxic stones please! Be safe and smart)
  • Spell Sealing: Use a kiss to magically seal spells such as jar and bottle spells or use it to strengthen a (cooled!) wax seal. Imagine placing the kiss its like placing an invisible seal upon it, stamping in energy to lock th spell inside. 
  • For Air and Wind spells: For all of my fellow witches who use air and wind spells, blowing a kiss after a chant or spell to summon a wind in the direction you wish it to blow is a good way to guide the wind but also show it positive reinforcement. Use it to show your gratitude for the wind’s cooperation. It is best for gentler wind spells.
  • Glamour and Beauty spells: Kiss the mirror after a beauty or glamour spell. Thank the mirror for its aid and seal any negativity into it. It also a wonderful way to reflect love back at yourself!
  • Love Spells: Kisses are great for powering up love spells! Kiss a candle before lighting it (careful if you are using essential oils be sure not to kiss where they are), kiss the written name of the one you desire, kiss a charm or amulet to help bring love into your life, and finally blow a kiss when finishing the the spell to close it.
  • Kitchen Magic: blow a kiss to finish a dish (don’t be too close though, don’t want to spread germs) to put a final charge of love into it before serving it to others. Good for with tea and coffee spells too!
  • Public Magic: Want to remain discrete while casting a spell in public? Blow a kiss! Its much subtler than pointing or hand motions, especially if it is a positive spell you are casting on another or a friend but it is also good for curses, either way its a wonderful way to send your intentions. Whisper the words or chant needed for the spell (if any) under your breath, imagine them them gathering in an orb of energy at your lips as you do so. Then do a subtle kiss motion on your lips (no hands and no ‘fish lips’, you are trying to be subtle). Then release the energy and words towards the target with a gentle blow of breath, sending the ball of energy in that direction.
  • Mourning/Remembrance Rituals: Ending such a ritual with a blown kiss to close it can help release your feelings in a positive manner and close the ritual with love and sincerity. 
  • Thanking tools: As someone who uses tarot cards and many other divination tools, I like to place gentle kisses to the sides of the decks after using them to help bond with them. To show them my gratitude for assisting me in not only readings but also in my spell work. I also before days where I know i will be doing a lot of divination work, I will kiss them to help charge them up (as said above). It is an excellent way to bond with your tools!
Spells and Sigils for Animals, Pets, and Familiars

Updated: March 30th, 2016

[Resources for Familiars and Animal Partners]







*Do not neglect taking your pet to the vet for a cheaper, magical solution; spells should be used as a boost, not a replacement, to proper medical treatment for any animal. Be very careful with any flames or small objects around animals.*





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Thanksgiving and Paganism

As you lot are already aware, there is no Sabbat for or around Thanksgiving. The next Sabbat is Yule. However, that shouldn’t stop anyone from making your own or performing ritual for Thanksgiving.

Depending on your path, there are a number of ways to celebrate. A gratitude ritual, a remembrance ritual, or anything that suits the holiday at hand and your personal path.

There is already a Gratitude Ritual on the blog that I made last year. Check it out to maybe gather some inspiration for your own.

Have a great Thanksgiving regardless how you celebrate.

Incense Symbology and Uses

African Violet - Enhances spirituality and protection. Used to create attraction and harmony in love and friendship.

Almond- Used for prosperity and wisdom.

Aloes wood - Used for Healing, protection and affection. It is considered to be one of the most precious and rare incense on earth. From the time of antiquity it has been so prized and difficult to find, that it was often traded on an equal level of gold.

Amber Powder - Considered to be an emotion balancer. Used for healing and meditation. It’s intoxicating aroma blends well with everything. Because of it’s divine fragrance, it has been considered as a sacred temple powder often referred to as “Nectar of the Gods” or “Ambrosia”.

Anise, Star - Used for psychic pendulums and good luck charms. It is used to drive away negativity and to bring good luck. Long used as a sacred Japanese temple incense for cleansing and attracting good luck.

Apple - Enhances knowledge and wisdom. Used for love, healing, immortality and garden magik rituals.

Balsam Fir Needles - Enhances breath work or breathing in life. Used for respiratory work and for grounding.

Bamboo- Enhances Divination and protection. Used for luck, protection and hex-breaking rituals. Bamboo is the stick used to hold the herbs and resins in most stick incense. It has magikal uses of it’s own and was used for divination in Chinese Temples.

Banana - Enhances prosperity. Used for fertility, potency and prosperity rituals.

Benzoin Gum Resin- Used for purification and prosperity. Often used as a base for incense blends. An antiseptic used to cleanse the lungs and strengthen the mind. Promotes knowledge, peace, and psychic protection. Considered to be a fine “clearing” resin.

Cedar - Used for purifying, protection and to banish bad dreams. Used by Native Americans in sweat lodges to release heavy emotional energies. Often included with Sage in smudge sticks for clearing and cleansing an area.

Champa - Used for clearing and protection. Used for meditation and for creating your sacred space. It is known to bring an individuals energies into harmonious balance.

Cherry - Enhances divination and attraction. It has long been used to stimulate or attract intament love.

Cinnamon Powder- Enhances spiritual consciousness and protective energies.
Cinnamon- has long been used for healing and money rituals. As well as, a stimulant and aphrodisiac. It was used as a Holy anointing oil by ancient Hebrews.

Coconut- Long been used for protection rituals, especially in chastity spells.

Copal, Black Resin- Enhances energies of the heart. Used for healing the heart, either physical or emotional illnesses. It has long been used as an incense during “Day of the Dead” Celebrations.

Copal, White Resin - Enhances energies of the heart. Used primarily for emotional matters of the heart, for love and purification. It is the cleanest and purest of the Copals. Is has long been considered to be a sacred “Food of the Gods”.

Clove Powder - Enhances banishing rituals. Used to drive away hostile, negative forces. It is also used to attract positive spiritual energies and to purify a negative area.

Desert Sage - Enhances protection and purification to bring about wisdom and health. Traditionally used to drive out bad spirits, feelings and influences. An important Native American Plant.

Dragon’s Blood Resin - Red Resin from a palm tree. It enhances rituals involving love, protection and exorcism. Used for consecration, protection, and good luck. It is also thought to increase the potency of other resins.

Eucalyptus Leaf - Enhances good health and protection.Used for healing and sickness rituals.

Frankincense Resin - Used for purification, spiritual growth, knowledge and meditation. Long used by the Catholic church to release powerful positive energies and to drive away evil and negativity.

Frankincense & Myrrh Resin- Enhances spirituality, healing, protection and exorcism. Used for purification, spiritual growth, knowledge and meditation. Two most popular blessed resins of the kings.

Gardenia - Enhances Moon energies, it is a must for Esbat rituals. Often used for love spells and to attract good, peaceful spirits during rituals.

Geranium Leaf, Nutmeg- Enhances prosperity and fertility. Used for luck , prosperity, fidelity, love and fertility

Geranium, Oak Leaf- Enhances friendship. Used to maintain a friendship or make a friendship stronger, creating a ‘true’ friendship.

Geranium Leaf, Orange Citrus Geranium- is burned for luck, love, fidelity, money and weddings.

Geranium Leaf, Rose - A beautiful rose fragrance that is used for in love & healing sachets. It promotes calm and relieves stress.

Ginger Root - Used to promote psychic growth and success.

Gum Arabic Powder - Used for psychic purification and protection. It’s a sweet, light vanilla scent which has often been used for making scents and adhesives.

Honeysuckle - Enhances the bonds of love. Used to heal relationships, or make a love stronger. It’s honey sweet smell was used in Victorian times to promote mental and emotional attraction. It was often used in a small sachet worn around a woman’s wrist.

Hyacinth - Enhances love, protection and happiness. Guards against nightmares.

Jasmine Flowers - Enhances relaxation and dreams. Used to create prophetic dreams if burned in the bedroom or in a sachet pillow.

Juniper Berry Powder - Enhances healing and healing rituals. Used to guard against evil forces and energies, hexes and sickness. It has long been used throughout Europe in rooms of the sick.

Juniper Leaf - Enhances healing and healing rituals. Used to guard against evil forces and hexes. It has long been used throughout Europe in rooms of the dying.

Lavender Flowers - Enhances healing rituals for love and compassion. Used for bringing compassion to intament relationships and to protect relationships.

Lavender- Enhances devotion and virtue. Used by Native Americans with Sage in a smudge stick, to clear and cleanse an area for spiritual work. Promotes communication in meditation between an individual and the GreatSpirits.

Lemon Balm - Used for compassion and gentleness. A shared sympathy.
Lemon grass Enhances psychic awareness. Used for psychic meditations.

Lilac - Enhances protection. Used to bring peace and harmony into an area. Lilac has long been planted over garden gates to ensure peace and harmony is maintained within the gates.

Lotus - Enhances good fortune and love while promoting long life. Used for protection and as a sacred offering to the Gods. The Lotus has been long revered in the East as a mystical symbol of life, spirituality and the center of the universe.

Magnolia - Enhances relationship commitment. Used for fidelity and love. Magnolia trees have long been planted around a house in the south to promote love of the family and home.

Musk - Enhances self-confidence, determination and a strong will to succeed. Used for sexual attraction and to promote sensuality. Musk has long been used in mens colognes to promote attraction.

Myrrh Resin- Enhances meditation and contemplation. Used to release and banish negativity, to promote spiritual enlightenment and progression. It was often used in the temple of Isis.

Nag Champa Powder- Enhances energies into harmonious balance. Used to clear and cleanse an area for ritual work. Especially good for setting space for meditation, group rituals or gatherings.

Osha Root - Used to treat respiratory and rheumatic complaints. Long used by Native American healers for it’s powerful healing abilities. Incredible butterscotch and celery scent promotes health.

Orange Peel - Enhances weddings and unions. Used for luck, love and money.

Orange Blossom (Neroli) - Enhances attraction and sexual magnetism. Used to attract love and romance.

Patchouli Powder - Enhances prosperity. Used for fertility (love) or prosperity (all areas of prosperity such as personal relationships, careers, finances etc.).

Peppermint Leaf - Used for growth and renewal.

Pineapple - Used for luck and chastity. Pineapples have long symbolized success in the south and were used to bring luck and money to the home and family. Or when used as a head piece on a bed, to symbolize luck and fertility, as well as chastity.

Pine Needles and Cones - Used for humility and protection. Often placed in the home during the winter to promote protection and health through the cold season.

Rose Petals

Yellow rose pedals are used for bringing success to any kind of venture. Such as a court case, a new business plan, looking for a job and so on.

Red rose pedals are used for matters of love and protection.

Pink rose pedals are used for matters of protection and compassion.

White rose pedals are used for protection and any general spiritual matter. Such as communicating with spirit, working on raising energies for meditation or bringing a greater sense of Divinity into your spirit.

Purple rose pedals are used for matters of divination. Such as working to identify your psychic ability, developing your talent and learning the wisdom of divination.

Rosemary Leaf- Enhances memory. Used for love, healing and mental or remembrance rituals. Stimulates memory and clarification. Use of Rosemary has been documented to ancient Egyptian times.

Saffron - Used for happiness and healing sadness.

Sage - Enhances wisdom and immortality. Sage has long been sacred to Native Americans and were incorporated in most smudge sticks.
Sage Leaf (California) Used to purify and protect objects, places and people. Sage has long been sacred to Native Americans and were incorporated in most smudge sticks.

Sandal Wood Powder- Used for spiritual awareness, meditation and psychic development. It has long been used as a base to hold incense sticks to help add it’s energies to the incense being burned.

Strawberry - Enhances tenderness, friendship and love. Strawberries have long been associated with love and celebrations as a food. Such as chocolate covered strawberries used as an aphrodisiac, or strawberries and champaign as a symbol in the celebration love

Sweet grass - Used to purify spaces and to attract positive influences.

Tea, Green - Used for healing to promote health and physical strength.

Vanilla - Enhances prosperity and dedication. Used to promote dedication of home and hearth, and to bring about prosperity in all areas of one’s life, of the family unit and of home. Every home seems much happier and cozy when some type of food is baking with vanilla in it. Such as cookies or cakes.

Verbena, Lemon - Used carried for protection of love. In the Victorian era, women would often stuff a small sachet of lemon verbena and slip it into the coat pocket of their husband or intended.

anonymous asked:

Anything about Jedi culture and their formal/ daily ceremonies? Full formal requests, traditional dances that are really exercises/ a showcase of skill, memories or experiences held in common, etc.. We see a lot of fic about the Jedi learning and encouraging clone culture, and I'd like to see one about of the clones noticing Jedi culture in return.

“What are they doing?” Rex looked up at Fives where the trooper was watching their Jedi’s with wide eyes. “Are they dancing?”

“No…or well kind of.” Rex looked back to Skywalker and Tano where the two were moving quickly in a beat only the two could hear. “Commander Tano explained to me this is apparently something that belongs to their linage?”

Fives sat down beside his captain on the boulder the vod had found to observe the Jedi’s.

“Their linage?”

“General Kenobi and the ones before him.” The blond nodded. “But it belongs to every Jedi apparently, its just this is their linage flare on it.”

Fives blinked curiously.

“Its a…way to start introducing the young ones to rigorous exercise that taxes their bodies. Then it becomes something fun, something to bond each generation together. The master showing the padawan the way, ever faster, ever more graceful with more trusts as it becomes ever more complicated until it becomes a dance of three.”


Rex held up a finger. “The Master.” Skywalker threw the togruta into the air.

A second one as Ahsoka did a complicated twirl mind-air before she dropped. “The padawan.”

The General caught the young lady and then they were in the move again with a ease that was super-human and Rex third finger rose. “The Force.”

Both dancers stilled a meter from each other, panting before Ahsoka slowly bowed for the other and Anakin followed suit with a fond smile on his face.

“So…its a bonding exercise?”

“…Its Jedi culture. This part belongs to Masters and apprentices” Rex murmured and Fives blinked. He’d never thought of that before. Of course they’d have their own rituals, their own culture with what they encouraged the clones to have their own.

“…Do you think they’d mind if we filmed them next time? I’m sure other vods would be interested in this.”


Cody barely managed to grab Waxer in time before the other disturbed the General, throwing the copper haired man a worried look before sighing in relief when the other looked undisturbed.

Then he turned burning amber on the other. “Don’t. Don’t not right now, wait until tomorrow.” He hissed.

“Commander?” Waxer blinked in confusion, holding onto the datapad full of reports.

“He’s doing one of those…those tea ceremonies.” Cody glanced back to make sure they weren’t disturbing the other man before tugging Waxer further away. “He does this every year on the same day. He finds a slightly isolated area with a pot full of water, two cups and his tea and settles down to wait for the sun to set. He won’t make the tea until the sun is fading and drinks it as the last of the light disappears. The second cup he pours out into the ground.”

“But he loves tea!” Waxer stared in shock at him.

“He does. But this isn’t about the tea. This is about remembering. Jedi say that no one dies, that they go to the Force and that they can always find them there. But they still have rituals of grief and remembrance. This is one of them.” Cody gestured to the where Obi-Wan was steadily mixing in the powdered blue tea with a small whisk.

“Made wrong, the tea turns into a sludgy bitter mass in the cups. Done right it tastes sweet. Regardless if its done right or wrong its drunk to remember the person they are missing and the second cup is poured out for said person. General Kenobi does this for his Master.”

Waxer looked back to see their General place the first cup on the crate he was using as a cup, slightly away from himself. The man’s hands were steady and his face ever so slightly fond if sober as he made the second cup for himself with the rays of the fading sun painting his features deep orange.

“Do a lot of Jedi do this?”

“I…” Cody sighed and rubbed the scar on his face. “…I’ve seen similar pouches of blue powder tea on other Jedi’s belt. So yes. I think its part of being a Jedi. Remembering those they lost that meant the most for them.”

“…Do you think the General drank a lot of bitter cups through the years?”

“…Don’t ask me that. I don’t want to know.” Cody tugged Waxer away.

Tattoo: Pt. IV

Cas finds Sam in the war room again. He looks even wearier than usual. The last lead did not pan out, after all. Cas knows Sam identifies strongly with Jack, with his struggle against the darkness within. Not being able to find and help Jack has Sam feeling responsible and guilty, in that trademarked Winchester way. Cas thinks this explains Sam’s reaction when Cas asks him about the tattoo again.

“Again with the tattoo? Really, Cas?” Sam is glaring at him over the top of an open, heavy tome that he looks perilously close to hurling. “Don’t you think you should be talking to Dean about this?”

Cas remains calm. “You and I both know he won’t.” Sam sighs his assent at this. “I merely wanted to seek understanding about your culture’s remembrance rituals.” Sam purses his lips, nods once tersely.

Cas continues. “Dean says he got the tattoo to ‘remember me by.’” Cas doesn’t use the air quotes but thinks them, nonetheless. “But I noticed the other day when you changed into a clean shirt at the motel that you did not have one.” Cas tilts his head. “At least not in a location visible on your torso.” Sam makes a noise halfway between choking and coughing, but Cas persists. “So I was wondering why Dean would memorialize me in this manner but you wouldn’t.” Cas waits patiently for the response.

Sam looks down and sighs. Then he looks up at the bunker ceiling, as if expecting to find the answer written there. Cas actually follows his gaze, looking curiously at the ceiling, surprised when Sam speaks. “I guess it’s that whole ‘profound bond’ thing, Cas, I mean…I was sad you died, too, but…” Sam’s speech slows, then grinds to a halt. Cas looks down from the ceiling to see Sam fix him with an angry stare.

“No.” Sam shakes his head side to side, making his long hair sway. “You know what? I’m done with this.” Sam slams the lid of the laptop closed. “Cas, you’re a nice guy, and I like you, really I do, but I’ve had enough of your shit.”

Cas reels back on his heels as if Sam had smacked him physically.

Sam continues. “I’m sick of your ‘I’m just a dumb angel who doesn’t understand humanity’ act.” Sam crosses his arms in front of his chest. “If you don’t feel the same way Dean does, or you can’t, or whatever, that’s fine. Just have the goddamn decency not to pretend for one fucking second that you don’t know why he got a tattoo for you and I didn’t. It’s not fair to him. Okay?”

Sam stalks past Castiel down the hallway and Cas is left with his confusion and his initial hypothesis, now blossoming into a full-blown theory. He’s shaking, with hope and anxiety and fear. He told the entity he would fight it for eternity. He chose to live, knowing Dean might never choose him back. Cas had never considered what would happen if Dean did. He had never dared to.

A curious loop, wherein to protect unprotected black children – whether by means of aesthetic production or affective labor or formal schooling or moral training or practical advice – to make sure people remember them and speak well of them, we are drawn into an imagination of atrocities committed against them, compelled to watch them being brutalized. That imaginary watching seems to be part and parcel of our rituals of care and remembrance. Such spectacles may be as inherent to our memorializations of black dying as to our commemorations of black living.
—  Jared Sexton, “The Rage: Some Closing Comments on ‘Open Casket’”

Have a pic of Chopper doing some droid remembrance ritual for his downed clone troopers.

Maybe the clone troopers to which he was attached treated him well. Not just as “another droid”, but actually as a friend. They would teach him practical jokes, and send him roaming around the base to record amusing things. And possibly a blackmail material or two.

Probably he was remembering their last words to him.

Chopper, we’re going down! *STATIC* I’m going nose first to give you a chance! *STATIC* Live to fight another day, Chops! AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!! *STATIC*


A Rite of Remembrance of the Fallen

Place upon a flat surface a red candle, incense, and a copper bowl. Have also with you a piece of paper and a pen. Write their names. Write then with love, with honor, and reverence:

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old
Amanda Alvear, 25 years old
Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old
Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old
Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old
Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old
Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old
Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old
Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old
Cory James Connell, 21 years old
Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old
Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old
Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old
Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old
Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old
Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old
Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old
Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old
Frank Hernandez, 27 years old
Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old
Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old
Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old
Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old
Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old
Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old
Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old
Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old
Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old
Kimberly Morris, 37 years old
Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old
Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old
Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old
Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old
Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old
Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old
Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old
Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old
Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old
Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old
Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old
Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old
Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old
Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old
Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old
Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old
Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old
Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old
Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old
Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

Light the candle with these words:

“The lamp of life,
The fire of the spirit,
The warmth of sanctity and love.
Burn bright now, in this darkest hour.
Let your light flood the dark,
And illuminate the way for those
Whose fire was extinguished.”

Light the incense then, from the candle, with these words:

“By the fire of the spirit,
Let this smoke to the heavens rise,
May our prayers be taken on swift wings
Into the Otherworld where you now reside.”

Read each name aloud, speaking then clearly and powerfully. Let their names be your mantra. Let your emotion fill you, and overtake you if it should be so. Weep for them. Mourn them. When you can continue, speak these words:

“Those beautiful creatures,
Whose lives gave light to those around them,
Whose spirit burned as a star in the dark,
Whose love knew no bounds,
Let not the hatred of this world tarnish the joy of your lives.
Let not the intolerance of this world mar your memories.
You were loved. You are loved. And you will always be loved.
We may no longer hold you in our arms, but we may forever hold you in our hearts.
We may no longer wipe away your tears, but we may always ease the pain of others.
We may no longer see you, but we may always feel your presence in our lives.”

Fold the paper thrice and set it alight with the fire from the flame, and drop it in the bowl with these words, and let them be spoken powerfully:

“From a single flame, a raging fire,
The fire of life consuming all,
It’s brilliance shall cast away the shadows of hatred and intolerance,
It’s heat shall sear away the sterility of oppression!
Let now this flame of life remind us always of those who have been stolen from this world!”

Allow the fire to burn, as tears fall and hearts ache.

When all has been consumed, let these words be spoken:

“And yet, as the fire of the spirit grew in power,
Now must it die back, as a tree in winter.
May your memories live on in those whose lives were touched by each of you.
I honor you, fair ones. May you find peace, and comfort in this hour.”

Contemplate the flame for some time before speaking these words:

“And as the light is extinguished,
May it continue to burn within me,
May it continue to burn within all people,
Giving comfort to those most in need.
Though you may be gone, you shall never be lost,
For you are always to be remembered.”

Snuff out the flame, and let the rite be ended. If it is felt to be appropriate, grant some offering to the spirits of those who have been slain.

May each of you forever rest in comfort and peace.

Honoring the Dead at Samhain

My Ancestor Remembrance Ritual

Ancestor and spirit bonds are the most sacred aspects of Samhain in my tradition. This is my personal ritual shared with you in good faith that you’ll use it responsibly for the remembrance of those who made you who you are today.

You may perform this ritual at your altar, or somewhere else comfortable, or it can be performed at the cemetery with a portable altar. However, it must be stressed that you cannot trespass after cemeteries are closed or in cemeteries where employees might frown upon your ritual work. Any cemetery will do but the magick will be more potent if your ancestors or loved ones are buried there. When in doubt, perform the ritual at home. Do not break the law.


Spirit object
Graveyard dirt
Offering bowl
Three white candles
White flowers


Perform the opening of the circle if you do that sort of thing.

The spirit object should be anything pertaining to your spirit in question–a photograph, an object they owned, or a piece of parchment paper with their full name written on it. Place an offering bowl of graveyard dirt (much better if it’s from the spirit’s own grave but not required) in front of the spirit’s object.

Place three white candles with matches (I prefer natural implements like wooden matches over lighters). Two candles should be on either side of the spirit object and graveyard dirt with the third candle behind the spirit object. The three candles should form a triangle around the spirit object and graveyard dirt bowl.

As you light each candle, raise it to the sky and recite the following:

“Upon this sacred Samhain night, I offer light to honor [Full Name]’s birth.”
“Upon this sacred Samhain night, I offer light to honor [Full Name]’s life.”
“Upon this sacred Samhain night, I offer light to honor [Full Name]’s death.”

(Hint: Irish-speaking people tend to pronounce Samhain as sow-an and some dialects of Gaelic-speaking people have said it’s like sahv-in, sow-een, shahvin, sowin. The Scots Gaelic spelling is Samhuin or Samhuinn. Learn the proper way your ancestors would say it if you’re of Gaelic or Celtic blood.)

Next you want to take your white flowers. Use your instincts about which type of flowers you think would be best. People in the nineteenth century used white lilies at funerals a lot and I believe carnations were used too. I know Lilies in particular were known as a death flower. If your spirit in question had a favorite flower, use it.

For my purposes, I prefer white roses in rituals that honor spirits long after the funerary period. White roses are symbols of conveying respect, paying homage, and they express hope for the future, which far better suits this type of remembrance ritual as opposed to remaining caught in the sorrow and grief that lilies and carnations can sometimes conjure. It’s important to maintain the distinction between grieving and remembrance. Grief will hold a spirit back. Remembrance will set it free.

Hold your bunch of flowers toward the sky. Say, “Upon this sacred Samhain night, I offer flowers to honor [Full Name]’s spirit.” Place the flowers below the spirit object and graveyard dirt offering bowl. Essentially the spirit object and bowl should be at the center of a diamond–lit candles marking the side points and top point with the bunch of flowers marking the bottom point.

Then recite a prayer, a spell for peace, a poem, or even a song. Since you’re working for the remembrance of an individual spirit or generally remembering all your ancestors, this type of ritual can be personalized. If your spirit had a favorite fitting poem or favorite fitting song, recite the words for them. If you’re not sure, I found this poem online a few years ago and I quite like it for this ritual. You may use it too.

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain

I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush,
Of beautiful birds in circling flight
I am in the starshine of the night

I am in the flowers that bloom
I am in a quiet room
I am in the birds that sing
I am in each lovely thing

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I do not die.

(Mary E. Frye, 1932)

Then you should say something to the effect of, “[Full Name], may your spirit know the love and inspiration you’ve given the living upon this Samhain night. Go in peace. I honor thee. So mote it be.” I don’t often say so mote it be since I’m not Wiccan but I figured a lot of you out there are and you can use it. My version is only slightly different. I say, “I honor thee. Through your wisdom, I wish to see. Fare the well until our reunion and great jubilee.”

Take a moment to meditate in silence as you see fit.

It’ll then be time to end the remembrance ritual (when you’re ready). When you snuff out each candle, say aloud, “I put out the flame but I don’t put out the light.” Perform the closing of the circle if you do that kind of thing and ground yourself from any excess energy.


Every night we light a candle for something to remember. The first night, for peace. The next, for love. The next, for forgiveness. The next, for joy. We keep naming the things we want to hold most dearly until, on the eighth night, we recite them all, a litany of yeses that feels good and pure and true. This was my Hanukkah, growing up. A sweet ritual of remembrance we practiced, tenderly, holding hands, probably after om'ing, probably looking out on a gorgeous Maui sunset.

We weren’t religious Jews, per se, but there was always something of the spirit with us.

And it certainly didn’t stop me from adoring latkes.

Read more and get the recipe here.

Rexobi week - Day 5 - “Reminder”

Something a little bit different, if only because it’s from Luke’s PoV.

Thanks to @thebisexualmandalorian for taking the time to discuss the ritual of Remembrance with me. I didn’t use most of what we talked about in this part, thought it’s going to show up in the next ones. Luke is only seven here, after all.

Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, Day 4


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TIEF OBEN: A True Halloween Story

I was filming in Austria on Halloween night in the ancient mining town of Eisenstadt, the film TIEF OBEN.  We had great steaming wooden vats of hot red wine for everybody to keep them going.  It was arctic weather, snowing fiercely when the director suddenly asked all the extras to be naked other than their boots and the little mining lamps on their heads.  Naturally they refused.  At which point the director tore off his own clothes in a rage as a challenge…and was the lone white freezing body in the dark night. 

In the middle of this frenzied rebellion, I decided to walk home alone. The local villagers had made little paper boats that they sent down the river set alight, a ritual of remembrance for their dead relatives… 

Suddenly a dozen motorbikes came roaring by with everyone on them dressed as skeletons. They got off their bikes and started to dance around me in a circle holding hands – then they mounted their motorized steeds and took off into the night making unearthly shrieks and whistles….

I continued walking on in this medieval village surrounded by ghosts….

by Barbara Steele

anonymous asked:

what is ur favorite part of halloween?

Hi there! I have two favs: Dressing up is hands down my favorite part. I’ve always dressed up, even if it’s just to sit around the house listening to themed music all day. Second fav is getting to practice certain rituals and remembrances. 

Ideas to Help Children Through the Four Tasks of Grief

#1 Understanding- Accepting that the loss has happened and is real.

  • Tell children honest, direct, and factual information in order to help them understand that the person is dead.
  • Use the word “Dead”
  • Allow time for repeated questions, speculations, and the telling of the story. Children may need to hear information many times.
  • Give children choices about participation in the illness, death, viewing, funeral, and discussions about death.
  • Be honest with information and your own feelings about death. 

#2 Grieving- Working through the various feelings that are a part of mourning.

  • Listening- accepting and caring help children express their part in the grieving feelings.
  • Encourage a lot of physical expression with sports, active play, and safe expression of anger.
  • Reflect back to the child what you observe in their play and language rather than ask questions, give interpretation or advice. Allow, don’t fix.
  • Lower expectations. Grief takes tremendous physical and emotional energy. It will take time to return to normal standards of performance.
  • Refer to therapy if the child’s grief behavior is creating more negative events which will further drain his/her coping abilities. Management first, support later.

#3 Commemorating- Formal or informal acts, celebrations, rituals, or remembrances that mark the death or loss in an observable way.

  • Write a letter or draw pictures in memory of the deceased.
  • Create a memorial box including pictures, drawings, letters, or small physical items in.
  • Decorate a special frame to accommodate a meaningful picture.
  • Plant a tree or other living thing in memory of the deceased.

#4 Moving on- Engaging again in life. Children often need permission for this.

  • Believe inthe return of wellness for a child and family even when they cannot.
  • Celebrate the steps they take towards healing.
  • Be aware of our own grief and our own need for support.
  • Allow for “time out” from grief when children can fully enjoy themselves at play.
January 30th, 2014

AUTHOR: hellieace

January 30th, 2014

America sat beside a lone grave in the beautiful garden in Hyde Park. The sun beamed brightly, a few birds chirped in the trees, and the shadow on the sundial moved ever-so slowly across the face. He sat with his knees up, nearly to his chest, and his arms folded over them. His crystal-blue eyes gazed straight ahead, at the house across the yard, and the closed door that faced him.

He’d sat like this for hours, England observed, as he sat on a small, quaint bench not too far off. It as almost as if he were waiting for something - or rather, someone - to open that door, and greet him with an intelligent smirk and friendly wave.

America did this every year. He sat watch, like a stony, blue-eyed gargoyle, over the polished grave in the center of the garden. Every year he watched the door, and every year England would sit quietly with him, but at a respectful distance. He had his own ritual for observing the remembrance of the leader that had helped to save him from Hitler’s reign. America always respected that, and would be nearby for support.

Even though they were timeless, ageless beings they still hurt at the loss of mortal lives. Lives that touched them in so many ways. They weren’t sad per se, but quiet, endless mourning was a small dose of the pain they felt day in and day out. There were other people America and England both missed, but for the blue-eyed man, the old war-time president was quite special.

“I know you’re there,” America finally said above the soft breeze after countless hours of silence.

England nodded in acknowledgement to the simple statement. This was part of the ritual. Every year it was the same.

“Do you miss Churchill?” Again, the same question England had been asked each year.

“Of course.”

“Will you always miss him?”


The American was silent after that, and kept his sentinel watch upon the door. England said nothing else, and remained where he was. The hours ticked by, and slowly but surely the shadow on the sundial grew longer and longer before the night stole it away in the darkness. High above, stars shimmered faintly. Arthur gazed up to the jewel encrusted sable blanket that hung above them. The sky was beautiful tonight, yet the door of the home did not open. No occupants came out to see the heavens all aglow. But America watched it still.


Said man cast his gaze down to the shadowed figure of the man beside the grave.

“Yes?” he replied.

“I’ll always miss him.”

“I know.”

“Do you think he misses me?”

“I’m sure of it.”

“Even his wife?”

“She always found you charming.”

America nodded, and finally stretched out his legs. Even from this distance, England could see the younger nation smiling brightly up at the gorgeous stars.

“I wish you could see it,” he murmured to the grave, and then rose to his feet. The soreness in his muscle was nothing compared to the ache in his heart. But he smiled on, brighter than ever. England knew that as his cue, and rose as well.

Approaching the grave, England paused to allow America his goodbyes.

The blue-eyed man patted the grave playfully, and then went to his lover. Offering his elbow, he smiled thankfully to the Englishman. Looping his arm with America’s, the two walked arm-in-arm to the empty home. But before they vanished through the door that never opened, America glanced back, and waved.

“Goodnight, buddy! And happy birthday!”

In the darkness, and under the brilliance of millions of stars, the lone grave stood ever faithful in its guardianship over the garden as the two immortals vanished. The grave of Franklin Delano Roosevelt and his wife, Eleanor Roosevelt, watched the lovers go on another year.