We mustn’t be overly cautious in love. The heart is a soft thing but that does not make it fragile. The heart can be beaten, battered, broken and bruised but given time will always return to its natural form. So charge in. Start taking risks. Get your heart’s hands dirty.
Beau Taplin // T h e R o u g h A n d R e a d y H e a r t
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life. Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.
When I’m scared to tackle an obstacle, I close my eyes and pretend I’m an 80 year old man who regrets not tackling all the obstacles he wanted in life. Then when I feel like that old man, I say to myself, ‘I wish I was young again,’ then I open my eyes and…BOOM! I’m young again.
Can I request a C section instead of a vaginal delivery? I'm very early in my pregnancy so labor has not come up yet. I'm just terrified that I will tear because I have such a small pelvis and narrow vagina and I would much rather prefer a C section
I mean, you can request it, but I doubt you’ll get your request. Cesarean sections are major abdominal surgery, and unless there is a health reason for you or the baby, there is no reason to subject both of you to that increased risk, pain, and prolonged healing time.
Some cesarean section facts for the birthing person:
First thing to know is that c-sections are lifesaving and vital in certain situations. I am not against c-sections, I’m against unnecessary c-sections because of the facts you’ll read below. For my patients who have a sudden emergency or other significant health problem, c-sections are amazing.
Blood loss during c-sections is, on average, 1000mL of blood, while in a vaginal birth it is commonly closer to 250mL, though somewhere between 100-500mL.
Injury can happen to your uterus, your other organs, or even your baby. While this is uncommon, accidents can happen for a variety of reasons, and you can end up with an extra cut through your bladder, your ureter, an extra large cut in your uterus, or a cut to your baby.
Some cesarean facts for the baby:
C-sections increase a lot of risks for babies beyond those listed above.
Respiratory Distress Syndrome and pulmonary hypertension are both much more likely to happen in babies born by c-sections. It means the baby needs to be admitted to the NICU for support with breathing (either with a nasal cannula or a tube down the throat). Beyond being sad & scary, this impacts many other parts of the baby’s life, since it cannot breastfeed (which improves outcomes significantly) and is possibly exposed to more infections from staying in the hospital for longer.
If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.