rewarding failure

sorryfreudianslip  asked:

i would LOVE to hear your thoughts on dear evan hansen if ur up for it i have v strong feelings about it and most of it is disappointment

let’s get the two big bullet points out of the way first:

  • ben platt absolutely deserved the “best actor” tony he received; his work as evan is the one of the most raw, all-in performances I’ve ever seen in a musical. four for you, ben platt. the cast is great across the board, actually, and the accolades they raked in aren’t misplaced. 
  • dear evan hansen should have at least lost the “best new musical” and “best music” tonys to natasha, pierre, and the great comet of 1812. even if I thought DEH was a complete success (I don’t), its themes of adolescent alienation, mental illness, suicide, and family struggle have been covered equally well by other musicals, including bare and next to normal. the score also isn’t anything new. the songs are fine, with some edging into very good, but again, I give you next to normal. it’s not that DEH is bad, it’s that it’s not breaking any new ground, and that’s what these particular awards exist to honor. 

anyway, now that that’s taken care of. 

My issue with dear evan hansen can be summed up in one sentence: it pulled its punches. this is a story about a kid who’s so socially anxious and desperate for recognition from his peers that he inserts himself into the life of a family who just lost their son to suicide. the first act understands how inherently fucked up that is for everyone, it follows Evan as does his best to soften the blow of loss for the Murphys, and then watches as that lie helps him fall ass-backwards into everything he ever wanted. it understands that despite Evan’s feelings of isolation and his attempts at kindness, he still has a bit of a nasty streak. he doesn’t pull the plug on the ‘me and Connor were so close’ charade because everything it got him feels so good; the girl of his dreams, parents who are always there, the world seeing him as valuable and important. Connor Murphy’s suicide gives Evan the chance to reinvent himself, and reinvent he does. his motivations are twisted up and sad and ugly, and even the “best” thing he pulls off - the creation of the Connor Project - only enters his head because he’s afraid of losing the pull that his connection to Connor gives him. Evan sees himself in Connor, and siphons off people’s anguish to soothe the pain of no one having noticed his own suicide attempt. once you’ve walked your protagonist to that point, you’ve created an emotional and thematic narrative that’s far too messy to be tied off into an uplifting bow. unfortunately, that’s exactly what the show tries to do

the second act teeters on the same tightrope the first walked easily, effective at times (showcasing just how good at bullying Evan’s become when he rejects his own mother + his only friend in favor of the life the Murphys have offered him), less so at others (there’s a late-stage emphasis on pile-on culture that doesn’t go anywhere thematically). It’s not until the end that the show collapses into empty platitudes and pop psychology, knocking the teeth out of what until then has been a vicious tangle of hurt and resentment and grief. when Evan comes clean, we’re supposed to believe that all he ever wanted was to be loved, because his Dad Left, and his Mom Was Absent, and No One Noticed Him. this, despite the fact that we’ve seen Evan be desperate and oily throughout, ingratiating himself with the right words that lean on the right places, going so far as to lie to a girl about what her abusive brother thought of her so he could make a clean breast of how much he liked her. 

this doesn’t make Evan a bad character; on the contrary, that little knot of meanness and desperation is what makes him such a good one. but the show refuses to commit to what it’s created. when he finally tells the Murphys the truth, their reaction of horror and betrayal is exactly what you’d expect–and then the next (and final) two scenes are: 

  1. Evan’s mom cradling her son and telling him that she Should Have Been There More. 
  2. Zoey Murphy fucking agreeing to see Evan again in his orchard of lies

Because it’s fine, you know? It’s been a year since Evan nested into her family’s loss like a raccoon in an attic, and he did get people to kickstart an apple grove for her brother’s memory, so it’s basically like it never happened. People came together over Connor’s death despite Evan’s motives, and it helped the Murphys let go and move on and heal and oh my godddddddd am I going insane? am I the only person who thinks this is the tiredest, most knee-jerk ~closure~ bullshit they’ve ever heard? a breathtaking emotional wound can’t be handwaved away, and certainly not offstage in a cheap time lapse. ugh. if they wanted this ending, Evan should have confessed near the top of the act, and the story should have spent the next 45 minutes earning its neat, uncomplicated little cherry on top. 

I guess at the end of the day I’m annoyed at this show. it starts as something interesting and difficult and very very human. it ends as something that’s had all the poison milked. 

feel free to change up pronouns or wording to better suit your muse!

  • ❝ i did not move here for him. ❞ 
  • ❝ speaking of flash points, you’re really blowing my mind right now. ❞ 
  • ❝ what’ll it be? ❞
  • ❝ i’d like a beer, please. any kind. ❞
  • ❝ never order alcohol again. ❞
  • ❝ i felt warm, like glitter was exploding inside me. ❞
  • ❝ i’m having a manic episode. ❞
  • ❝ it was a shit show. ❞
  • ❝ oh my god, i think i like you. ❞
  • ❝ she’s got one of them secret boot-ays. ❞ 
  • ❝ a kiss on the cheek means… everything. ❞
  • ❝ you’re a breeder, not a leader. ❞
  • ❝ i’m a both-sexual. ❞ 
  • ❝ you’re pretty and you’re smart and you’re ignoring me, so you’re obviously my type. ❞ 
  • ❝ ok, well, let’s not knock someone for a fetish. ❞
  • ❝ he’s suspiciously good-looking in ways that normal people are not. ❞
  • ❝ my father didn’t leave me. ❞ 
  • ❝ this is what happy feels like. ❞ 
  • ❝ look at all my friends! ❞ 
  • ❝ it’s my gateway drug. ❞
  • ❝ it’s not a drug, it’s a potato. ❞
  • ❝ she is smoking! ❞ 
  • ❝ i woke up like this. ❞
  • ❝ women gotta stick together. ❞
  • ❝ my name’s ____. i just said it. ❞ 
  • ❝ why should we root for someone straight, male and white? ❞
  • ❝ i need to use the bathroom… again! ❞
  • ❝ we make quite a pair. ❞
  • ❝ should i be giggling right now? ❞
  • ❝ i’m so much better than you. ❞
  • ❝ wow. i can’t believe it took us that long to come to the most obvious solution! ❞
  • ❝ to be clear, your parents wanna have sex with me. ❞
  • ❝ weirdly, this isn’t about you. ❞
  • ❝ you reward failure. ❞
  • ❝ you make a difference in the world and you make all the difference in the world to me. ❞
5 Times You Should Quit Working On Your Goal And Walk Away

Quitting doesn’t mean you’re a loser. In fact, it often takes incredible mental strength to walk away from a goal you’ve set for yourself. Here are five signs you should give yourself permission to quit working on your goal:

1. Your Goals Have Changed

2. The Process Doesn’t Align With Your Values

3. The Reward isn’t Worth It

4. You’ve Dug Yourself Into a Hole

5. The Risks Outweigh the Benefit

Giving up on today's goal could actually be a stepping stone to your future success. Here’s how to make the decision.

kivalidali  asked:

What Is the best method to cure stress and anxiety? In your opinion of course.

As long as you live with fear in your heart you will always be subject to stress and anxiety. So you need to get clear on what you’re afraid of, ask yourself where do you feel a sense of lack within yourself and life, then seek ways on how to develop or change that. Having a strong sense of hope and faith really makes you fearless, it’s psychologically proven that people who have a healthy relationship with God tend to be much healthier and happy in life. God alone suffices. When you know God is guiding you every step of the way what is there to fear? Even death is seen in a positive light, liberation as a way into eternal life. With God all things are possible.

Rumi said it beautifully:
Any soul that drank the nectar of your passion was lifted.
From that water of life he is in a state of elation.
Death came, smelled me, and sensed your fragrance instead.
From then on, death lost all hope of me.

So if you have no fear of death, no fear of the afterlife, then what is there to truly fear? This is why we say this world is an illusion, why people live in ignorance and death is when they wake up. All that is asked is that you do what is required of you in every moment and that’s simply being in the moment, dealing with what’s in the moment. All these purposes we set for ourselves are born from ego, it’s our own impure nature that desires them, thus it is ourselves that causes unnecessary anxiety and stress. We set ourselves many tasks and then reward ourselves with failure when life doesn’t go the way we planned, although we are aware how nature works and it never has its own plan. People just need to let go and let God, to go with the flow, to trust life and ones own heart. We fulfil our souls duties and that is all we must do:

Bhagavad Gita 18.5
Actions based upon sacrifice, charity, and penance should never be abandoned; they must certainly be performed. Indeed, acts of sacrifice, charity, and penance are purifying even for those who are wise.

Bhagavad Gita 18.8
To give up prescribed duties because they are troublesome or cause bodily discomfort is renunciation in the mode of passion. Such renunciation is never beneficial or elevating.

Bhagavad Gita 18.9
When actions are taken in response to duty, Arjun, and one relinquishes attachment to any reward, it is considered renunciation in the nature of goodness.

Bhagavad Gita 18.10
Those who neither avoid disagreeable work nor seek work because it is agreeable are persons of true renunciation. They are endowed with the quality of the mode of goodness and have no doubts (about the nature of work).

Bhagavad Gita 18.11
For the embodied being, it is impossible to give up activities entirely. But those who relinquish the fruits of their actions are said to be truly renounced.

Bhagavad Gita 18.23
Action that is in accordance with the scriptures, which is free from attachment and aversion, and which is done without desire for rewards, is in the mode of goodness.

Bhagavad Gita 18.24
Action that is prompted by selfish desire, enacted with pride, and full of stress, is in the nature of passion.

Bhagavad Gita 18.25
That action is declared to be in the mode of ignorance, which is begun out of delusion, without thought to one’s own ability, and disregarding consequences, loss, and injury to others.

Bhagavad Gita 18.26
The performer is said to be in the mode of goodness, when he or she is free from egotism and attachment, and endowed with enthusiasm and determination.

Bhagavad Gita 18.27
The performer is considered in the mode of passion when he or she craves the fruits of the work, is covetous, violent-natured, impure, and moved by joy and sorrow.

Bhagavad Gita 18.28
A performer in the mode of ignorance is one who is undisciplined, vulgar, stubborn, deceitful, slothful, despondent, and procrastinating.

Bhagavad Gita 18.33
The steadfast will that is developed through Yoga and which sustains the activities of the mind, the life-airs, and the senses, is said to be determination in the mode of goodness.

Bhagavad Gita 18.34
The steadfast will by which one holds to duty, pleasures, and wealth, out of attachment and desire for rewards, is determination in the mode of passion.

Bhagavad Gita 18.35
That unintelligent resolve is said to be determination in the mode of ignorance, in which one does not give up dreaming, fearing, grieving, despair, and conceit.

Bhagavad Gita 18.49
Those whose intellect is unattached everywhere, who have mastered the mind, and are free from desires by the practice of renunciation, attain the highest perfection of freedom from action.

Bhagavad Gita 18.51 – 18.53
One becomes fit to attain Brahman when he or she possesses a purified intellect and firmly restrains the senses, abandoning sound and other objects of the senses, casting aside attraction and aversion. Such a person relishes solitude, eats lightly, controls body, mind, and speech, is ever engaged in meditation, and practices dispassion. Free from egotism, violence, arrogance, desire, possessiveness of property, and selfishness, such a person, situated in tranquility, is fit for union with Brahman (i.e., realization of the Absolute Truth as Brahman).

Bhagavad Gita 18.54
One situated in the transcendental Brahman realization becomes mentally serene, neither grieving nor desiring. Being equitably disposed toward all living beings, such a yogi attains supreme devotion unto me.

Bhagavad Gita 18.55
Only by loving devotion to me does one come to know who I am in truth. Then, having come to know me, my devotee enters into full consciousness of me.

Bhagavad Gita 18.56
My devotees, though performing all kinds of actions, take full refuge in me. By my grace, they attain the eternal and imperishable abode.

Bhagavad Gita 18.57
Dedicate your every activity to me, making me your supreme goal. Taking shelter of the yoga of the intellect, keep your consciousness absorbed in me always.

Simply put: do what is required of you, fulfil your duties, let everything be in sacrifice to God and not motivated by ones of selfish desires, do not seek reward but act to serve, remember nothing actually belongs to you, do not be attached for all things in the world are temporary and will waste away including ones own body. A beautiful example of this is one someone was complaining to Jesus about money and taxes, Jesus simply asked “Who’s face is on that coin” the man replied “Caesars” Jesus said “Well give it back to Caesar then and be free from sin” Jesus was telling the man no to be attached to anything, that even money does not belong to him for it does not come from him, and that one shall be free from Sin because he is free from desire. Jesus was showing how truly simple life is. Sin literally means ‘to make a mistake’ to act unconsciously without knowing where the true desire is coming from, which is always the ego and never the soul, for soul is pure without desire. We are here to love and serve, that is all, everything should be done in love and given in service. Never out of desire and the need for selfish gain. We are filled with anxiety and stress when we are not being true to our natural nature, for our natural nature is situated in bliss and enthusiasm.

I would start by following the yogic path (research it) ones own dharma (the natural way), surrender ones self to God so life is lived in accordance with goodness, thus one has no reason to fear or doubt anything for one is doing ones duty. It’s really honestly that simple, ignore the chatter of the mind (ego) and listen to ones own heart and perform through the intellect, a state of knowledge.

anonymous asked:

I know these questions are intertwined, but which one was the worst contribution to King Aerys I's low popularity: the fact that King Aerys is an academic in contrast to the warrior king's symbology or Lord BloodRaven's choice of Hand and his Informant policy and watchmen?

I think the active failure to fulfill the duties of a king and the tyrannical abuses of power at the hands of Bloodraven were what killed King Aerys’s popularity. While his bookish reputation certainly didn’t endear him to the martial aristocracy, and plagues like the Great Spring Sickness can often be seen to be the wrath of the gods both in Westeros and in our own medieval past from Europe to China, Ser Kyle the Cat castigates the Targaryen kings in The Mystery Knight:

“At least [Houses Lannister and Stark] fight. What do the Targaryens do? King Aerys hides amongst his books, Prince Rhaegel prances naked through the Red Keep’s halls, and Prince Maekar broods at Summerhall.”

Ser Kyle is not holding Dagon’s rebellion against the Targaryens, he is holding their deliberate lack of action as their chief failure. Rebellions happen, but the Targaryens aren’t holding up their end of the feudal bargain. Bloodraven takes their taxes and provides no protection, and this infuriates the vassals who feel their oaths have been cheated. Similarly, the vassals dislike Bloodraven’s police state because it goes against their traditional rights, as Kyle the Cat explains again:

In King Daeron’s day, a man did not have to fear to speak his mind 

For Bloodraven to state that anyone expressing dissatisfaction with the crown’s failure to provide their feudal protective duties to be treason is to say that the Crown is beyond the suspicion or criticism of lowly vassals, and that they are not accountable for their own failures. At the same time, Bloodraven forbade peasants their legal right to move off their land during the long drought, stating that attempting to seek relief from the natural disaster was tantamount to treason, ultimately resulting in people, through no fault of their own, faced with the choice of staying on their parched lands to starve or moving to find relief and having a death sentence over their heads if they’re caught. That’s not going to endear anyone to Bloodraven.

Where is our Young Prince now? Where is his brother, sweet Matarys? Where has Good King Daeron gone, and fearless Baelor Breakspear? 

This line says it all. You can still have been a loyalist to Good King Daeron and his brave son Baelor Breakspear, the good of the realm, but now, when the king fails you, the traitor says that you are under no obligation to reward deliberate failure with loyalty. Thus, King Aerys’s unsuccessful domestic politics turned even Red loyalists from Redgrass Field either ambivalent, or into the waiting arms of the Blacks, hence why Haegon Blackfyre had so much success with the Third Blackfyre Rebellion, as he had a country steeped in Bloodraven’s neglect to support him in his quest for the Iron Throne.

Thanks for the question, Anon.

SomethingLikeALawyer, Hand of the King

How to recognize your ego vs. your soul.

Just as you need your fear for basic human survival, you also need your ego to provide you with the fundamental outlines of selfhood - to help you proclaim your individuality, define your desires, understand your preferences, and defend your borders.  Your ego is what makes you who you are.  Without one, you’re nothing but an amorphous blob.

But do not let your ego totally run the show, or it will shut the show down.  Your ego is a wonderful servant, but it makes a terrible master, because the only thing your ego ever wants is reward, reward, and more reward.  And since there’s never enough reward to satisfy it, your ego will always be disappointed. Left unmanaged, that kind of disappointment will rot you from the inside out. An unchecked ego is what Buddhists call “a hungry ghost,” forever famished, eternally howling with need and greed.  We all have that lunatic presence, living deep within out guts, that refuses to ever be satisfied with anything.

Here is your saving grace, though:  you are not only an ego; you are also a soul. Your soul doesn’t care about reward or failure.  It is not guided by dreams of praise or fears of criticism.  Your soul, when you tend to it, is a far more expansive and fascinating source of guidance than your ego will ever be, because your soul desires only one thing:  wonder.

So learn to recognize your ego when dissatisfaction emerges:  “Oh, there’s my ego!  There you are, old friend!”  Say the same thing to yourself when you’re being criticized and you notice yourself reacting with outrage, heartache, or defensiveness.  Watch your heated emotions carefully, but try not to take them too seriously, because it’s merely your ego that has been wounded - never your soul.    It’s merely your ego that wants revenge, or to win the argument or the prize, or to be righteously indignant because you didn’t get the outcome you wanted.

At such times, ask your soul, “And what is it that you want, dear one?”

The answer is always the same:  “More wonder, please.”

  ~  adapted from Elizabeth Gilbert

Signs of a Workplace Bully

Gary Namie, PhD, director of the Workplace Bullying Institute, says these are the 25 most common tactics adopted by bullies, according to targeted victims.

(I’m bolding the ones that are happening right now)

  1. Falsely accusing someone of “errors” not actually made.
  2. Staring, glaring, being nonverbally intimidating and clearly showing hostility.
  3. Discounting the person’s thoughts or feelings (“oh, that’s silly”) in meetings.
  4. Using the “silent treatment” to “ice out” and separate from others.
  5. Exhibiting presumably uncontrollable mood swings in front of the group.
  6. Making up own rules on the fly that even she/he does not follow.
  7. Disregarding satisfactory or exemplary quality of completed work despite evidence.
  8. Harshly and constantly criticizing having a different ‘standard’ for the target.
  9. Starting, or failing to stop, destructive rumors or gossip about the person.
  10. Encouraging people to turn against the person being tormented.
  11. Singling out and isolating one person from co-workers, either socially or physically.
  12. Publicly displaying “gross,” undignified, but not illegal, behavior.
  13. Yelling, screaming, and throwing tantrums in front of others to humiliate a person.
  14. Stealing credit for work done by others.
  15. Abusing the evaluation process by lying about the person’s performance.
  16. Rebelling for failing to follow arbitrary commands.
  17. Using confidential information about a person to humiliate privately or publicly.
  18. Retaliating against the person after a complaint was filed.
  19. Making verbal put-downs/insults based on gender, race, accent or language, disability.
  20. Assigning undesirable work as punishment.
  21. Making undoable demands– workload, deadlines, duties — for person singled out.
  22. Launching a baseless campaign to oust the person.
  23. Encouraging the person to quit or transfer rather than to face more mistreatment.
  24. Sabotaging the person’s contribution to a team goal and reward.
  25. Ensuring failure of person’s project by not performing required tasks: signoffs, taking calls, working with collaborators.


fattyforlife  asked:

hey is there like a lolol and stich comic book or something or tv show cause I only knew there was a movie if there is any other LILO and stitch continuation pls share ?! thanks !(: #yourbiggestfan

There are actually several continuations out there, some good, others horrible abominations.

There is a dvd sequel called ‘Lilo & Stitch 2 Stitch has a Glitch’ which is MARVELOUS. It was originally intended for theaters but was pulled last minute back in 2005. It’s on netflix streaming and i highly recommend it. It was several years before i could get through it without crying. 5 stars all the way.

There is also ‘Stitch! The movie’ which was really just an extended pilot for the tv series that ran on the Disney channel from Sept 2003 until July 2006 and spanned 65 episodes and ended with the movie ‘Leroy & Stitch’.

Now I’ve got a real love/hate relationship with the show.

On one hand i love it cause it’s Lilo and Stitch and they got all of the original voice actors back. And Chris Sanders as Stitch is just hilarious, he’s actually a VERY decent actor. Plus some of the dialogue is very funny. There’s a bit in one episode where Stitch tells a scary story and it still makes me laugh. 

But on the other hand i hate it for being badly written and badly handled. These wonderfully complicated and three-dimensional characters are dumbed down into simple stereotyped caricatures of themselves.

Nani is never there except for when she’s darting through a scene yelling about how late for work she is. Because tv Nani apparently can’t tell time or wear a watch. Ever. And she’s late for work every single day. She also hates Stitch. Utterly. She tries her best to never interact with him. Even when she’s mad at him she’d rather yell at Lilo about him even though he’s usually standing right there and all Nani has to do is turn her head slightly to the right and address him directly, but god knows we can’t have that. I wish i could say that i was exaggerating, but in 65 episodes there is literally only 1 scene where she behaves affectionately towards him.

Lilo is a bore. She no longer takes pictures, she no longer surfs, at least not that we ever see and i think pudge is only mentioned, like, once. She is also obsessed with mummies and vampires and will usually mention this at least once an episode.

Jumba is only there to provide technology and to give exposition.

Pleakley is a buffoon. His job is to scream in high-strung panic over everything and wear over-the-top costumes. (he makes Jumba wear them too) I’m talking costumes like matadors, hippies, disco dancers, whatever the writers think will be funny that week. And no matter how long he’s there (Leroy & Stitch claims 3 years) he never understands earth any better at all. The original movie portrays Pleakley as being misinformed and in-over-his-head, but otherwise academic and intelligent. He worked for the Galactic Federation who we already know from watching the movie rewards failure with retirement so if he were really the idiot the show makes him out to be he would have been fired long before the movie even took place.

This goes double for Gantu. In the movie he was a top captain, hyper-competent, able to capture Stitch within minutes of arriving on earth. The only thing he actually did wrong was involving Lilo. Had he let her go immediately he likely would never have been fired. He did everything by the book. Stitch was simply stronger than the technology he had available to him. In the show he’s so ridiculous it’s amazing he’s able to exist without a chaperon. He’s whiny, he’s silly, he’s not intimidating in the slightest and Lilo, a 6 year old girl, can outwit him at every turn.

And Stitch. My poor baby Stitch. In the movie he’s shown as being very in control of his own body. He’s destructive, but deliberately. He knows what he’s doing when he does it. But in the show if he touches it he’s gonna break it. Half the time not even on purpose. It’s so bad that he gets kicked out of the house in one episode and Nani threatens to get rid of him in another because keeping him has become too expensive. Half the time he’s used as a background gag. Lilo and Jumba will be talking and Stitch is just in the background crawling across the wall and eating a plant or something. He doesn’t really contribute too much until it’s time for the final fight scene with Gantu.

The show as a whole is very repetitive. Disney wanted it’s own version of pokemon so the show is about Stitch’s ‘cousins’ the 625 other experiments that came before him. They are dehydrated pingpong balls that transform into a creature when they get wet and they have been scattered all over Kauai. (Stitch! The movie) Gantu wants them to send off to an evil scientist that used to be Jumba’s partner and Lilo wants them so she can name them and find them a new home. Every episode is basically this:

Theme song ends, we open on an experiment pod that is reeeaally close to some form of water (puddle, wine glass, whatever) will it fall in? No…no we’re good it rolled away…. no wait! It’s rolling back! Oh no! It fell in! Flash of yellow light and a creature appears! Back at the house Lilo and Stitch are involved in an activity. (creating a new hula dance, playing a game, creating a slug circus, whatever) Nani runs in yelling about how late for work she is, takes a second to remind Lilo to not get into any trouble, she’s now gone for the rest of the episode. Pleakley has just learned something new about humans and wants to try it out. (cooking, a new outfit, reality television, disaster preparedness, whatever) Meanwhile Gantu’s computer has just alerted him that a new experiment has been activated, gotta go search for it while new sidekick 625 makes sarcastic comments. At the same time Lilo and Stitch have left the house. See the new experiment, gotta chase it now. But oh no! Gantu sees it too! Now it’s a race to see who can get it first! Stitch for the win! Gantu falls on ass! Lilo figures out what power this particular experiment has (electricity, finding, cooking, possessing things, whatever) and gives it a corresponding name. (sparky, finder, frenchfry, phantasmo, whatever) Just like in Pokemon once you have captured an experiment it instantly stops being evil. Nevermind the fact that in the movie it took Lilo 3 days to win over Stitch, you chase down a wild experiment it respects the effort you put in and swears loyalty to you right away. For reasons. And now that Lilo has figured out what the experiment is for she and Stitch have to now use that experiment’s power for their own selfish gain. Even though Jumba warned them not to. Cause we gotta learn a lesson. Oh crap! Gantu’s back! He’s stolen the experiment! What are we gonna do?! Another fight scene with up-tempo theme music. Usually just Stitch though. Lilo is the brains, Stitch is the brawn. He usually just stands around until it’s fight scene time. Okay! Experiment is back, Gantu is defeated time to find the experiment a new home. Holy crap you guys! Guess what?! Remember when i said the episode started with lilo & Stitch involved with an activity? The experiment’s new home is in some way related to that activity!!!!!! If Lilo and Stitch started the episode at a pizza parlor with broken animatronics they are gonna find the one experiment that can fix that. It’s christmas? There’s an experiment for that. Halloween? There’s a coincidentally timed experiment for that too. Need a plant to enter into the big show? Guess what this experiment does. Experiment goes to new home and is accepted immediately and no one questions what this weird thing is and why it looks like it does. Everyone’s happy the end.

There is also weirdly no continuity at all between ‘Stitch has a glitch’ and the tv show. In Glitch the house is green and the bedroom is normal and has actual beds and toys and pictures on the wall. Stitch is childlike and no longer destructive (except for the glitch that is in no way his fault) and Nani loves him and treats him well. Jumba has to put actual time and effort into his technology and Pleakley, though still misinformed about humans, is nowhere near as high strung as in the show. Nani and David are also dating.

In the show the house is mysteriously blue for some reason, the bedroom looks more like a prison than anything (no toys, few pictures, cots instead of beds, everything in white) Jumba can create an entire new invention in like an hour and Nani and David are just friends.

All in all i’d rate the series and the movies that go with it at 3 stars. I really think they missed a great opportunity here. It should have been about Stitch figuring out who he is and how to be a part of a family. They also really could have done some touching things with the topic of adoption. But really the whole focus of the show is the other experiments.

Finally there’s the anime. ‘Stitch!’  It’s evil. Don’t watch it. -80 stars. There is no Lilo, only Yuna. Stitch has lost all of his intelligence and strength. There’s like 3 seasons each one more horrible than the last. It doesn’t just disrespect the original movie it bludgeons it to death with a blunt object, buries it in a shallow grave and then pisses on the grave. The less said, the better.

Wow, this really turned into a rant didn’t it? Damn, i’ve been typing for like an hour now.


‘Stitch has a glitch’ - masterpiece

'Stitch! the movie’, the tv series and 'Leroy & Stitch’ - passable

Stitch! anime - kill it with fire

How To Make Hockey Great Again

1.) Gary Bettman is to be fired and beaten with a rubber hose. 

2.) An injury does not mean something is wrong. Hockey is a tough aggressive sport and people will get hurt. Deal with it. If a hit is perfectly legal, it resulting in an injury should not result in a penalty. If a simple clean hit injures you because you are very small the opposing player will not be penalized simply for being larger than you. 

3.) All players must sign a waiver indicating they know these risks including the potential for concussions. In order to play you must acknowledge these risks and sign away your right to sue if it happens to you. You are paid millions of dollars for a reason…it is hazard pay. So now let’s never talk about concussions again. 

5.) All measures to reduce or eliminate fighting are gone. Referees will no longer be instructed to break up fights before they start. No more game misconducts just the regular 5 minutes in the box. Journalists who complain the sport is too violent will be stripped of their press passes and banned from all NHL arenas. No more free seats and chicken fingers for you giant faggots while you ponder new ways to shit on the sport and its fanbase. Go cover high school soccer games.

6.) Instigator rule is gone. If both players engage in a fight no one players team should be penalized by being short handed. Bring back the enforcers. Fighting is a fundamental part of hockey and it’s no job for a star player.

7.) Obstruction rules now gone. Nobody likes this, not the players not the fans and not the referees. They make stick infractions so broad and easily called that it simply becomes a matter of whenever the official feels like calling a penalty. touching a players hands with your stick is no longer a hooking penalty. Just because a flimsy composite stick explodes doesn’t mean a slashing penalty etc.

8.) Get rid of the trapezoid. let the goalie play the puck wherever the fuck he wants

9.) No stupid delay of game penalties. Accidentally flipping the puck into the crowd shouldn’t warrant a penalty. 

10.) Absolutely no more shoot outs. Games will be decided by hockey, not a hockey mini-comp.

11.) No more 3 on 3 overtime. You get one 10 minute overtime period of 5 on 5 hockey during the regular season. If nobody wins after that the game is a tie and each team gets one point. During the playoffs overtime is continuous until there is a winner.

12.) Zero points awarded in a loss. The loser point sucks.

13.) Fuck the wild card. go back to the old bracket system. You shoudn’t need a math degree to figure out the playoff matchups. You have teams who earned a top playoff spot facing teams that should also have a top playoff spot in the first round because of mismatched divisions. You have teams jumping from 8th to 3rd over teams that have more points than them. This is stupid.

14.) End tanking. Stop rewarding teams for failure by giving out top draft picks to losers. The lottery didn’t fix this problem end that too. Make teams compete for draft picks. The best team to miss out on the playoffs shouldn’t get boned for being the best of the losers. It will make for meaningful exciting hockey even among teams no longer in the playoff race. No more phoning it in or losing on purpose for draft picks.

15.) Stop profit sharing. If a franchise isn’t profitable then that city doesn’t deserve a team, if they don’t care about the team then give it to a city who does. Stop propping up failures by taking money from successful franchises.

16.) End the salary cap. Stop penalizing franchises for success. Let them pay their players whatever they want. If they want to dig deep and pay their players more money or use money to attract better players then they should be able to. No more getting rid of good players because the league wont let you pay them. This will lead to team popularity correlating with success. Which will encourage more people to support their teams. 

17.) Permanent lifetime ban on Jersey advertisements, it’s a terrible idea let’s never hear it again. 

18.) Don Cherry will have the entire intermission to talk and can say whatever he damn well pleases.

19.) Goaltender interference is still a valid reason for a coaches challenge but an offside is not. If the referee says it’s onside we don’t need to spend 10 minutes determining millimetres.

20.) All player safety measures will be practical and cannot alter the structure of the game. For example make sure equipment provides proper protection instead of making the game softer. Cushioned pads, better gloves, properly secured helmets etc.

21.) Bring back big open ice hits, hipchecks etc. Excitement is more important than safety. We pay to watch hockey not sarcastipuck where we replace collisions with hugging. Leaving your feet for a hit is fine, making contact with the head is fine. If a player sees you coming and turns their back to you at the last second resulting in a hit from behind it’s their fault whether they get injured or not. They put their own safety at risk to draw a penalty and gave the oncoming player no options, they made the choice to be unsafe not the player coming in for a clean legal check. 

22.) Stop trying to make hockey work in hot American cities where nobody cares about hockey. Arizona is surviving off the profits of other teams, their city council tried to get rid of the team because they didn’t want it and here they are still kicking for some reason. You also have enough teams, not all of which are doing well… stop expanding. Vegas is a shitty idea. 

Etsy Exy 

This is probs the silliest thing ive ever come up with but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

  •  so basically when I first started reading the foxhole court i kept saying ‘etsy’ in my head when I saw the word 'exy' 
  • so me being a nerd thought: what if the team started an etsy shop???
  • like say Allison was completely broke and Matt too and they’re all just a bunch of struggling college kids and they have no time to get actual jobs between school and exy practice so they decide to open an etsy shop to make some extra cash??
  • it probs starts w the girls making like necklaces and bracelets or something like renee’s really good at making those braided bracelets bc she used to make them w her church youth group all the time
  • and allison is really good with beads and stuff
  • and then dan surprises them all w her secret embroidery talent and she starts making cute little things (with foxes designs!!) 
  • then matt gets dragged into it by dan and he’s like…I CAN BUILD THINGS!! WITH WOOD!! such a guy lmao so he starts making like wooden sculptures of animals (FOXES!!! its their theme) and like idk bird houses????
  • he asks neil if he’s got any secret crafting talents and neil is like “…uhh…no…” but he brings up the etsy shop thing to andrew’s gang later and nicky like DIES. HE SOOO WANTS IN!!!
  • “I CAN SEW!!!!” he proclaims, barging into the girls’ room and so he ends up joining dan and they start altering clothes and embroidering things and making cool patches and stuff 
  • meanwhile aaron’s like disappeared into his room and they don’t see him for hours until he returns later that night with all these cool sketches and things and they’re all like :O 
  • “YOU CAN DRAW???????” and he like scratches the back of his head all shy like “um. yeah…but they’re not like…they’re not that great so idk if you’d want them but…” 
  • dan shuts him up real quick and puts him to work sketching out designs for clothes and logos for their stuff and cool prints to sell 
  • i can also see renee being a really good painter so maybe she and aaron collaborate on some art stuff too 
  • kevin??? is actually a really good photographer???? he probs takes a lot of sports related pictures…he turns exy into art…like dramatic shots of racquets and people in motion. he probs captures like really beautiful shots of the foxes on the court…dan in her element making a speech before a game…nicky cracking a wide grin after they’ve won…neil a blur in motion racing towards the goal…andrew actually enjoying himself 
  • so the whole gang (minus andrew and neil) get so into this etsy thing and like they start becoming pretty popular esp with fox fans bc like 90% of their stuff is basically homemade fox merch 
  • the girls have turned their dorm into a workshop/office
  • its like a month into this whole etsy thing that andrew walks in and drops this little knitted fox plushie onto the girls’ desk and they’re like????
  • and he’s like “do you want me to make more or not?” 
  • and they’re like….stunned into silence like none of them can even form words so they all just nod silently and andrew just points across the room to neil like “you. come with me.” 
  • neil gets up and follows him out still in shock and they go out into the parking lot and get in andrews car and drive all the way to the craft store and neil follows andrew inside and andrew hands him a basket and stalks ahead of him to the back of the store like he knows exactly where to go and what he’s looking for 
  • and neil just jogs after him and then andrew starts grabbing all the orange and white yarn he can carry and shoves it all into the basket and walks away and neither of them have said anything yet 
  • on the way to the register he blindly grabs a pair of knitting needles and then they check out and finally finally when they’re in the car again neil just turns to him like “what the fuuck andrew???” 
  • andrew just looks at him like “what” 
  • andrew shrugs. “you never asked did you?” 
  • andrew just shrugs again and then neil asks him when, how, why??? 
  • “i learned in juvie” andrew says. “ they had all sorts of dumb hobby classes there. it was supposed to be like, a good way to calm people down. therapeutic.” 
  • neil nods and then they drive back to fox tower and andrew gets to work and neil just sits and watches him all quiet as he works the needles rhythmically and he’s just so fascinated and finally andrew looks up and gestures for neil to come over and he gets out the other set of needles he bought and hands them to neil. 
  • “watch,” he says and then he starts casting the yarn onto the new needles and he slowly shows him how to make basic stitches and neil’s leaning in super close so he can see properly and like they’re shoulders and pressed together and then andrew hands neil the needles “your turn” he says and he guides!!!! neils!!!!!! hands!!!!! and helps him stitch
  • and its like the softest, grossest, most romantic thing ever
  • and neil’s a fast learner so he gets the hang of it pretty quick and they spend the rest of the night lying side by side in bed knitting 
  • and andrew make another little fox and neil makes a horrific bright orange scarf that’s super wonky and full of holes and andrew tells him “you suck at this” but there’s a smile in his eyes and neil can see it and he can’t help grin at him and they kiss and its like..just too picturing such teeth rotting sweetness like. andrew telling him he sucks and neil kissing him and saying “you’d wear my scarf tho right?” and he’s grinning against andrew’s lips
  • and andrews like “pftttt no. i wouldn’t be caught dead in that thing.” and then he pushes neil down onto the mattress and kisses him some more and neil’s like “you love my hideous scarf” 
  • “um. no. i hate it. 100%. the worst thing i’ve ever seen. after you of course” and neil’s like “i believe you 0%” and they kiss some more and andrew probs gives neil his little knit fox but like of course he makes it all ~casual~ like nbd “here take this…your scarf is so awful you should have a prize” “rewarding me for my failure??” “no. that’s not–just take the damn fox.” neil takes it and probs falls asleep holding it wow what a lovesick nerd 
  • then the next day its like super cold out and theyre late for exy practice and neil’s the last one out and when he slides into the car he just freezes bc andrew has this bright orange monstrosity wrapped around his neck and andrew just stares at him like “seatbelt neil we don’t have all day. kevin here’s already got his panties in a twist bc we’re LATE.” 
  • later in the locker room when they’re all getting changed neil whispers “you like my scarf” all smug. “no, i hate it and i only wore it bc i hoped it would choke me so i’d never have to see this hideous thing again” 
  • “you like it.” 
  • andrew ends up wearing it all winter and they continue to knit and andrew keeps teaching neil stuff and eventually neil knits a perfect scarf but andrew still wears the horrible first one he made and the gang’s etsy shop is a HIT and they’re all just really really happy and cute making their arts and crafts!!! 
The general lesson is that if some part of government fails in its function, it will most likely be given greater funding and power.  Of course, the purpose of this is not to reward failure; the thinking would be that more money and power will enable the agency to solve the problem.  But the effect is that government grows when social problems grow, and thus it is not in the government’s interests to solve society’s problems.
—  Michael Huemer, The Problem with Political Authority
Review - Mockingjay, Part 2 (Spoilers!)

I want to say in advance that I’ve read very little in the way of reviews because I was trying to remain somewhat spoiler free before watching the movie rather late (to accomplish that, I really should have stayed off of Tumblr completely but there you have it. My bad.). Therefore if I’m repetitive compared to other reviews, forgive me.

When Francis Lawrence said that Mockingjay, Part 2 was a true retelling of the novel, he wasn’t being coy or disingenuous.  He really made the last novel, improving on some of it’s flaws, and leaving other deficiencies intact. This includes Everlark. But overall, I’m satisfied with the film and I can’t wait to watch it again.

I won’t rehash every single last scene. Coming up on the end of this, I think it’s best to make a list of my observations:

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Kylo’s Test

Today’s thought exercise…

I’d like to take a closer look at the exchange where Snoke and Kylo discuss Kylo’s upcoming “test.”

This scene is the focus of an interesting issue that I’ve yet neglected to address.  There is sort of this universal perception that Snoke pushed Kylo into killing Han.  In the actual film, however, that’s not what happened at all.  This is the area of the script I’d like to look at:

So this starts out with Snoke giving Kylo a piece of information relevant–and, in fact, vital–to Kylo’s mission.  Kylo didn’t know, at this point, that the droid was aboard the Falcon with Han Solo.  Snoke is thus relaying this information to warn Kylo of impending complications with the task at hand.  That task being: retrieve the droid.

It’s also possible that Snoke is bringing up Kylo’s father, specifically, to give Kylo an opportunity to discuss and work through any conflicted feelings Kylo might have.  If that is the case, Snoke is giving Kylo an opportunity to say, “I’m not ok with this; we have to change the plan.”  Snoke is seeking a confirmation, and doing so in a very matter-of-fact, non-coercive manner.  When Kylo declares, “he means nothing to me!” in the most tortured way possible, Snoke does not praise this sentiment.  Instead, he delivers (with an expression bordering on sympathy!) this very complex and ambiguous line:

“Even you, Master of the Knights of Ren, have never faced such a test.”

This statement starts with an affirmation of Kylo’s identity.  It’s a reminder; it’s Rafiki in The Lion King saying, “remember who you are!”  Remember that this is something to be proud of.  

That much is clear.  "Have never faced such a test" is much more ambiguous.  What is the test?  What is being tested?  What signifies a “pass” on the test?  Is it acquiring the droid, as was just being discussed?  Is it resisting the call of Light?  Is it resisting the temptation Han Solo will offer - an offer to give up the identity of Master of Ren, and everything it means, and go “home”?  

And WHO is administering this test?  If it’s Snoke, that’d certainly be within the boundary of the teacher-student relationship.  Yet Snoke has shown no indication that he desires any particular outcome or will reward or punish any failure.  KYLO, on the other hand, clearly holds himself to a high standard, and punishes his own failures with fits of dark energy and destruction.  KYLO wants the droid, very very badly…worse, in fact, than Snoke does (see: “I WANT that droid,” to Hux.)  Kylo frequently acts in accordance with Kylo’s own, ever-shifting desires and goals.  Get the droid.  Or maybe it’s easier to just use the girl.  Or maybe I just want the lightsaber.  He puts a lot of pressure on himself to get what he wants, but he’s not super accountable to Snoke if he should fail, or change his mind.

I want to bring up the exchange between Snoke and Hux that immediately precedes this conversation.  When Snoke says “OUR strategy must change,” he’s clearly looking for input.  Hux has a plan and Snoke approves it.  I would expect that Ren’s relationship with Snoke is following this same pattern.  If they’ve discussed a “test” before, I feel it would be something Kylo devised for himself and Snoke, as his teacher, approved.

Kylo’s next line clarifies what the “test” is quite a bit.  "By the grace of your training I will not be seduced.“  Failure would mean seduction; the test is failed if Kylo is "seduced.”  Seduced by who or what?  Well, we find that out when Kylo is talking to Vader’s mask: the Light.  Kylo’s “test” is resisting the Light, and Snoke has provided him with some training which, if Kylo chooses, he can use to pass this test.

I think here we have to go back to “he means nothing to me!”  This is obviously a lie.  Or perhaps, it is unclear: because I do believe Han Solo, as a person, as a father, means very little to Kylo Ren.  Kylo values certain things in his life much more than he values Han Solo’s well-being.  He proves that when he kills the man.  However, the TEST means a great deal to Kylo Ren, and Han Solo is both the symbol and the initiator of the test.  Whatever emotions Kylo feels toward CONFRONTING HAN are causing Kylo to be tempted toward the Light.  Kylo has lots of feels about these emotions.  They won’t go away.  Remember, these are LIGHT SIDE emotions: calm, acceptance, knowledge, harmony, and maybe, if you’re very specific about what kind, compassion.  (Not super-deep limitless compassion that permeates your soul, ANAKIN, but a very moderate sort of compassion that enables you to act in rational and forward-thinking ways.)

SO THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT.  Kylo Ren has LIGHT SIDE feels about coming into a violent confrontation with his dad.  He’s chill about that confrontation; he’s been waiting for it for a long time.  What he’s NOT AT ALL CHILL ABOUT is the fact that he’s having these Light Side feels.  What if he gets seduced by the Light?  What if he goes back to being some detestable Jedi???  He can’t seem to shake this natural inertia, this natural sense of peace, no matter how much he NEEDS to be angry to do the kind of work he wants to do in life.  Dark Side work!  He wants, on a rational, political, ego-minded level, to be Kylo Ren: Dark Side badass, Vader’s grandchild, savage fighter, First Order ally.  At heart, however, he has these id-driven IMPULSES of Light that must constantly be policed and suppressed.

He’s being torn apart.

If you watch Kylo’s expression immediately after Han falls, it looks so…serene.  Then they cut back to that same expression, and slowly, gradually, you can see it dawn on him, as he examines his feelings:

The Light is still there.  He is still unresolved.  Kylo experiences an emotional CRISIS, and it’s not because he just killed his father.  It’s because he thinks he failed The Test.

My point is, they could have written a scene where Snoke said something like, “you know what you must do if you wish to move on in your training!” or “show this enemy of the Order no mercy!” or even something like, “train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose!”  They could have shown Snoke sensing Han’s death, explicitly victorious about it.  Instead, they made absolutely no indication of Snoke pushing Kylo toward violence.  Snoke has been teaching Kylo to manage his feelings.  Han Solo’s death is sort of just…peripheral to that.

I understand why this is hard for people to grasp–perhaps because, if you killed your father, you wouldn’t feel calm.  You wouldn’t do it unless someone was pushing you to do it.  But that’s not Kylo.  Kylo chooses to destroy Han and I don’t think he feels bad about it.  What he feels bad about is the result.  He feels bad because he doesn’t feel bad ENOUGH.  He thinks this action will make him some Dark Side Badass, and in reality, it doesn’t, because he has only “light” feelings about what he’s just done.  He can’t even access his dark powers after killing his father and he proceeds to thoroughly get his ass kicked for that reason.  Also because Rey is amazing.  It’s kind of hard to tell, actually, if Kylo really did fail his test, or if Rey is just a lot stronger than him…  Is he going to get his Dark Side back?  

I guess we’ll find out?

Birds of Prey sentence starters - episode 2
  • "It's hard for me to come here."
  • "I don't trust people."
  • "You don't have to come back unless you want to."
  • "I know you think that you can't trust anyone, but I'd like to help you. If you'd let me."
  • "All I wanted from him was revenge."
  • "Rely on no one but yourself."
  • "I'm talking about real money here."
  • "I don't reward failure."
  • "Calm down baby! Nobody has to lose any body parts here!"
  • "Quite a nice throw, actually."
  • "Greetings, super-friends!"
  • "Yeah, and I used to lie to you all the time. Only I was better at it."
  • "Emergencies in the baking world?"
  • "All my relationships come with an expiration date."
  • "You said I should dress better."
  • "There will be absolutely no use of superpowers to settle domestic disagreements."
  • "You think she could be evil?"
  • "Never turn away someone with the hunger to become what we are."
  • "That man was your role model, not mine."
  • "Great, a weird thing."
  • "I need some lung tissue."
  • "What's a weekend without some lung tissue?"
  • "Do you think it's possible that you might actually leave for your date anytime soon?"
  • "You don't want me here, do you?"
  • "Sounds to me like you spend way too much time on work."
  • "What about your heart?"
  • "I came here to be like you."
  • "I'm suddenly realizing I'm still worried."
  • "That's not bad work for an amateur."
  • "Don't fail me again."
  • "I'm just trying to contribute."
  • "What kind of idiot says no to 30 million dollars?"
  • "Mind if I get my clothes?"
  • "Do you have a better explanation?"
  • "Is there actually a worse one?"
  • "Is he still in there?"
  • "Aren't you worried that I might tell somebody?"
  • "They're familiar with tight situations."
  • "You're actually chasing the madness."
  • "Right now you're asking for more than I can give."
  • "You saved my life, and I'm grateful. But gratitude is not the same as trust."
  • "Trust is a gift."
  • "You were there for me when it mattered."
  • "I believe in you, whatever your name is."
  • "They taught me to be ashamed of what I was, never to tell anyone. To hide it."
  • "Being here with you, it's the only place I've ever felt at home in my entire life."
  • "Who has time for a real relationship anyway?"