restaint

6

Wook gets sometimes so much hate and frankly I don’t understand why. He might not make my heart flutter the way Wang So does, but he is such an amazing character, genuinely good person and is being incredibly portrayed by Kang Ha Neul; and I’m saying this as a hardcore SoSoo shipper. Infidelity is a very pertinent issue which was featured in the original novel, where the 8th Prince even had TWO wives, however, RX’s COUSIN DID NOT LOVE HIM and he really suffered in that relationship, therefore changing the storyline in such a way where Myung Hee is Wook’s only wife and actually really loves him adds a completely new dimension to the whole story. RX’s moral dilemma ended the moment she learned her cousin didn’t love the 8th Prince, but here HS’s and Wook’s dilemma is much more profound. The restaint and the temptation of the forbidden is much stronger here. The fact that they can’t escape each other’s closeness because they live under the same roof makes it even more difficult to deal with it and resist the pull. THEY CAN’T STOP THE ATTRACTION OR THEIR FEELINGS, BUT THEY NEVER ACT ON THEM. You can protest that emotional infidelity is infidelity as well, but as love is something you cannot force or control, you can’t choose the person you fall in love with - that’s why love is emotion and emotion is not a product of the brain. It’s a fact Myung Hee understoond and accepted because SHE DID LOVE HIM and that’s what truly mattered in the end. It hits him hard because he was never able to fully reciprocate her feelings and love her back the way she did. She had his kindness and his loyalty until the very end and that means something because until the very end he didn’t succumb to his feelings for HS out of a loyalty for her. Myung Hee was severely ill and was unable to sleep with Wook nor give him children (the duty of each wife), but he never forced her or blamed her, he stood up for her in front of Queen Yoo, and despite it all he never was unfaithful to her. There are different kinds of love and it’s sad world we live in when kindness and loyalty is so terribly underappreciated. WOOK DID LOVE MYUNG HEE, IN HIS OWN WAY, he did right by her and she died in his arms happy because he cared for until the very end. The tears he cried when he carried her lifeless body were tears of loss.

Some people might find the sudden feelings between HS and Wook too abrupt and unrealistic, but for Wook, who has lived in a marriage of convenience and a life of duty, it must feel as if he was hit by lightning. It overwhelms him and he doesn’t know how to react and struggles to control it. And because he has always ben so reserved, HS’s exuberance gets him out of his comfort zone because she is the completely opposite of him. Whereas for Hae Soo he is the first man who was kind to her in Goryeo and helped her to get used to her new life. In a world where she was so completely and utterly alone, without family and friends, he suddenly appeared like her beacon of safety. She began to feel grateful to him and since that happened soon after her break-up FOR HAE SOO THEY ARE BASICALLY REBOUND FEELINGS AND REBOUND RELATIONSHIP.

The Shattered Fortress

[X. “Restraint”]


Freedom
calls my name

Serenity keeps me sane

Happiness – it dulls the pain

Honest to see my place

Open to other ways

Willingness to understand

Justice but do not judge

Courtesy for others’ flaws

Kindness – it’s not that hard

Self-restraint of tongue and pen

Inventory – my daily friend

Analysis let down your guard

Look in the mirror

What do you see?

The shattered fortress

That once bound me

Faithful ascent, through darkest fires

I’ve found the path to take me higher

You’re smart enough for me to trust go live your life now

Just keep these steps in your life and you’ll know how

If you’re not sure, ask yourself,

“Have I done to them as I would have them do to me?”

Look in the mirror

What’s that you see?

The shattered fortress

Fly now be free

Faithful ascent, through darkest fires

I’ve found the path to take me higher

I once thought it better to be right

But now I have finally seen the light

Sometimes you’ve got to be wrong

And learn from mistakes

I live with serenity now

Not self-righteous hate

[XI. Receive]

(Help me be a channel of Thy peace

That where there is hatred, I may bring love;

That where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness;

That where there is discord, I may bring harmony;

That where there is error, I may bring truth;

That where there is doubt, I may bring faith

Now that you can see all you have done

(That where there is despair, I may bring hope;

That where there are shadows, I may bring light)

It’s time to take that step into the kingdom

(That where there is sadness, I may bring joy)

All your sins will help to make you strong

(That I may seek rather to comfort, than to be comforted.

That I may seek to understand than to be understood)

And help you break right through the prison wall

(That I may seek to love, rather than to be loved,

for it is by self-forgetting that one finds,

it is by forgiving that one is forgiven)

Keep all of me,

The desires that once burned me deep inside

Help me live today

And help to give me grace

To carry out your ways

I am ready, help me be all I can be

I am ready, help guide me and keep me free

[XII. Responsible]

I am responsible when anyone, anywhere

Reaches out for help, I want my hand to be there

I am responsible when anyone, anywhere

Reaches out for help, I want my hand to be there