Arthur is a famous actor and is in a high profile relationship, however, he is really in love with Eames and the famous relationship is mostly for press, Eames is a bodyguard for the couple and they have a secret affair
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Arthur turned towards the cameras, his hand in his designer coat pocket as he smiled his practiced smile. He could hear the press calling out his name over and over again, pleading him to turn while he walked down the carpet of his latest movie premiere.
Arthur was a famous actor. He had done the leap from comedy, to action, to drama and after proving he could do it all, he was the most wanted actor in Hollywood. He could sing, he could dance, he was a wonderful role model never having been caught clubbing in seedy nightclubs or associating with the wrong people. He spoke out on serious issues and was always there to help a fellow actor in need. He was accessible on social media and his fans adored him. Everyone adored him. And even more impressively, his girlfriend was the female version of him. Mal was beautiful and flawless and she had the same reputation as Arthur did. Together, they were an unstoppable pair.
At Arthur’s latest movie, he and Mal walked the carpet and after taking a few photos alone, they joined hands, looking very much like a high school pair, before Arthur put his arm around her waist. Mal smiled and through her own polite smile, she whispered to Arthur,
“I’m ready to go. My feet are killing me.”
Arthur nodded, still smiling as he then waved to the press and they continued. He barely had to look to know his bodyguard, Eames was right behind them. He always seem to blend into the shadows when the press was there, but then right back in sight when Arthur needed him. Eames had been his bodyguard for years and when Arthur started dating Mal, he guarded the both of them. He ushered the famous pair down the carpet and when they got to their fans, Arthur and Mal went to the barricades and began to sign things, stopping for photos, making the fan experience amazing for them. Eames was never far behind, keeping his eye out, making sure no one tried anything. But he was also kind and if Arthur missed anyone, he would call him back so no fan would be forgotten. He also never rushed Arthur, he knew this was just was important as anything else.
When the pair and the bodyguard made it inside the theater, they all took a breather. Mal went to the bathroom to touch up her make up and Arthur took a few interviews and pictures until they went in for the screening.
Yes, Arthur and Mal were the ideal pair. Arthur’s manager and publicist loved them together and encouraged the couple, Mal’s own people loved them too. Eames….well Eames was doing his job. Just like Arthur was.
When everything was over and Eames got in the limo behind Arthur and Mal, everyone sighed and Mal removed her shoes before taking a sip of water. Arthur leaned on Eames’ shoulder, grateful to relax and be himself again. While the whole world watched Arthur and Mal date, only the three of them knew that Arthur had really be in love with Eames and had actually been seeing him for years.
Mal didn’t mind. Aside from being friends with Arthur for years, respecting him and his work, dating him boosted her own career. She kept their secret and often smiled when she finally got to see the two of them together again. They were only together in the privacy of their home or in their hotel room because they knew eyes were everywhere. Arthur was always grateful to Mal for doing this for him and promised her that whenever she was ready to end, he would do so gracefully. Mal knew it and for now, she told him she was having fun.
Far from the lights, from prying eyes, in the secrecy of their home, Arthur sighed, falling into bed while Eames began to remove his coat and shoes, Arthur taking his phone from his pocket and seeing from the corner of his eye the gun holster under Eames’ arm. Arthur took a quick selfie and wrote up his caption about the night, telling his fans he was grateful to see them and that he hoped they enjoyed the movie. When he was done, he sat up, seeing Eames being just Eames now, no longer armed, wearing his undershirt and pants now and Arthur smiled at him.
“Hey. You tired?”
“A bit. You?”
“Nah, I’m use to it.”
Eames went over to him, laying beside him and Arthur smiled tilting his head towards him, their lips meeting.
As they got ready for bed, Arthur went through the internet, seeing his photos from the premiere that night, seeing how great he and Mal looked and there was even a quick picture of just him and Eames, Eames walking beside him, alert and ready as Arthur smiled. He saved it for himself and then he got a text from Mal.
‘Hey, lunch tomorrow?’
'Yeah, of course.’
'Great. Good night lover xoxo’
Arthur laughed and wished Mal a good night too as he set his phone down and turned to Eames, seeing him half asleep already. Arthur shut off the light and got comfortable, fully relaxing, feeling Eames hold him as he slowly started to fall asleep. Tomorrow, they would face the entire world again and Arthur would put up his facade but he didn’t mind because he knew that despite all his acting, all the masks he held up, Eames would still see him.
To the anon who posted about being a non-bio boy: If other gay guys can't accept you're different down below, they need to get the fuck out. You make love to the person, not their body. You're brill the way you are & I hope you'll find happiness.
I know it's possible to have DID and depression/anxiety, but is it possible to have DID and be bipolar? I personally don't think I do, but the topic is interesting as I've seen posts about having DID and schizophrenia but never something like bipolar. If it is possible, would it be all alters that experience it, only some, or just anyone fronting?
Yes, that’s very possible! DID can be comorbid with any disorder except other dissociative disorders. The reason that DID can’t be comorbid with other dissociative disorders is because a DID diagnosis technically covers the criteria of all other dissociative disorders, so it would be redundant to try to diagnose another dissociative disorder as well. However, DID can be and often is comorbid with one or more depressive disorders, bipolar and related disorders, anxiety disorders, feeding and eating disorders, personality disorders, somatic symptom and related disorders, and of course trauma- and stressor-related disorders. It can also be diagnosed with neurodevelopmental disorders, sleeping disorders, or other unrelated conditions.
As for how this would be experienced, technically the whole system would be bipolar. However, one alter in particular might come out when the system is experiencing bad episodes of mania or depression and so may appear more visibly bipolar than other alters. In some cases, one alter in particular might come out more for episodes of mania while another might come out more for episodes of depression. As you said, there are also systems where all alters are more or less evenly affected. The presentation depends on the system, but the system as a whole would be bipolar in any case because of how bipolar disorders manifest in the brain.
tl;dr Yes, DID can technically be comorbid with anything. It’s only not diagnosed in addition to other dissociative disorders because it “overrides” other dissociative disorder diagnoses. Otherwise, there are (technically) no conditions that it can never be comorbid with.
There are a few ways that systems with bipolar disorder can present, but if a system is bipolar, the entire system is bipolar even if only a few alters visibly present with the disorder’s symptoms.
I have PTSD/C-PTSD but I feel that I may ""benefit"" from calling myself a system. I am sorry if that sounds offensive in any way. It is just that I cannot control myself when I am in a certain state and it bothers me. I do not feel like myself in those times.
If you feel that you could benefit from calling yourself a system, you really should explore why that is with the help of a therapist who has experience working with dissociative clients. It sounds like it’s possible that you might have OSDD-1, and if that’s the case, it’s really something that needs to be professionally diagnosed and addressed in therapy.
If you don’t have either OSDD-1 or DID, however, you’re not a system, and calling yourself such wouldn’t just be offensive, it would be harmful to actual systems. People have a lot of misconceptions about DID/OSDD-1, and having individuals without these disorders falsely portraying dissociative systems would only add to that confusion. There’s a difference between sometimes feeling out of control or like a different person and having actual alters. People already tend to misunderstand DID/OSDD-1 as being about the former, and if you were to falsely call yourself a system, you would be reinforcing that misconception.
As well, it would harm you if you don’t have alters yet you start calling yourself a system or thinking of yourself as a system. Encouraging identity confusion and further dissociation isn’t the solution to sometimes feeling out of control. You would be risking increasing your existing symptoms and making it much harder for yourself to in the future gain control over yourself across all of your states.
Please keep in mind that “system” isn’t vague internet terminology that can be applied to anyone. It’s an actual medical term that’s used to describe how DID/OSDD-1 function and present. There are individuals without DID/OSDD-1 who claim to be systems in a non-medical sense, and that’s neither here nor there, but if you’re going to use “system” as it was meant to be used, please respect its context and not misrepresent yourself or disorders that you don’t have.
tl;dr If you feel like you’re sometimes not yourself and can’t control your actions during these times, there may be some merit to you actually being a system. That’s something to discuss with a professional. If it turns out that you’re not a system, you really shouldn’t call yourself one both because it could reinforce misconceptions about DID/OSDD-1 and because it risks worsening your dissociative symptoms. “System” isn’t a term that can apply to anyone, and it shouldn’t be divorced from its actual context.
Do you have any book recs or information sources about DID? I have a friend who has it and I want to know everything I possibly can so I can best support them (research is how I handle things). So any information sources or books or whatever would be appreciated. Thanks.
Thank you for messaging us! It’s great that you care so much about your friend and are trying to learn more about their condition. I’m sure that they really appreciate it.
The sources that I can recommend for you depend a little bit on what exactly you’re looking for. For example, some better capture daily life with DID while others better explain how the disorder functions from an educational standpoint. Some sources do a little bit of both. For example, this blog hosted by Healthy Place has good information about DID and what life is like with it, especially posts by Holly Gray. This blog is pretty good for understanding what DID is like on a day to day basis, though it may be less helpful in terms of objective information. This blog is really interesting in that it’s written by a husband whose wife has the disorder. I have a few other resources listed on my website, though some may not be quite what you’re looking for and some are better in some respects than others. For example, Tomi Jamison has great videos, but I wouldn’t want anyone to take her view that alters are spirits at face value!
From a more purely information-oriented standpoint, I’ll point you to Sidran, PODS, and the ISST-D. Each of these sites has their benefits and drawbacks, but they should all present the basic picture of DID well enough. Again, my website covers a lot of basic and community specific information as well, and it also covers some topics in more depth if you’re ever curious.
Of course, the best thing that you could do for your friend would be to ask them how their system works and how they would like you to help and support them. While knowing how the disorder works for others is important for understanding DID overall, your friend will be able to best tell you how they experience DID and what they and their treatment team feel like they need.
do you think that rose and pearl ever actually had a (romantic) relationship? personally, i think that pearl never would have addressed it (because bigger things were happening maybe?) and it would have gone unrequited simply because neither party would have pursued it. i feel like pearl would have just acted as a very loyal soldier, and rose in turn appreciated it. (so demi-romo? maybe??) no ship hate here i promise, i just wonder what your thoughts are?
man–this isn’t even directed at you specifically–but why is fandom’s default interpretation of Pearl/Rose unrequited for Pearl?
just. set aside that I’m obviously ride-or-die Pearl/Rose for a minute. (I’d like to think that I’d still feel as bewildered by the fanon surrounding Pearl/Rose even if I didn’t ship it, but I digress.) let’s…review what we know.
Pearl and Rose were in one another’s lives for at least 5000 years. that’s without taking into account whether or not they knew each other before they arrived on Earth, and if so–how many hundreds or thousands of years they may have known one another before arriving. but still–5000 years. five millennia. at least.
people were quick to focus on the way Pearl was bowing to Rose in the memory she recreated in “Rose’s Scabbard,” but that took place more than 5000 years ago. even if Pearl was “just Rose’s handmaiden/servant/lady-in-waiting/knight” back then, it boggles the mind that anyone could actually believe that those dynamics would color or define their relationship for the next 5000 years.
…which isn’t to say that this single detail (Pearl bowing) overwhelms, or should overwhelm, everything else about the scene.
Rose said it herself: rebellion would either end with the crystal gems put to death in defeat or left to an eternal exile in victory. in case they won, the crystal gem army would have remained on Earth to form their own “society” in coexistence with the planet’s indigenous lifeforms. they would have had a vision for what that future would be like…so the rebellion would have necessitated, on a fundamental level, that Rose dissolve all oppressive Homeworld power, cultural, and social structures–standards of “defectiveness,” gem speciesism, whatever hierarchy would hypothetically make it so that gems like Pearl were beholden to gems like Rose, etc. so if Pearl was Rose’s “handmaiden” or “lady-in-waiting” or “knight” or “servant”–seriously though…is it just me who’s incredulous at the amount of labels people have slapped on Pearl wrt Rose in order to inundate and firmly platonicize their relationship…?–then the rebellion would have erased those roles. they would have no longer existed in crystal gem society on Earth.
that scene, set on the cusp of the rebellion, signified the repudiation of status. Rose released Pearl from all formal obligation to her, with zero expectation that Pearl would follow her into exile or certain death. she wanted Pearl to have a choice, to have the time and information necessary to make an informed decision, to have agency in her own life–because she values, respects, and cares for Pearl as an individual.
when Pearl articulates her abiding devotion, without hesitation, as though it was the easiest, most self-evident decision she has ever made, Rose reacts with genuine surprise–as much surprise, it seems, as Pearl felt when Rose offered Pearl her hand.
Pearl’s love is not something that Rose ever took lightly. it wasn’t a joke to her. she didn’t seem to expect it, or to expect that Pearl’s love for her would make he decision to stay and fight so simple. because, you see, Pearl didn’t choose to fight for Earth. Pearl chose to stay and fight for Rose.
and Pearl’s reason is valid in Rose’s eyes–it’s moving, and she reciprocates.
Roseinitiates the affectionate gesture. Rose says, “My Pearl…you’re wonderful,” and offers Pearl her hand, and waits for Pearl to take it. all at once, that gesture is affectionate, accepting, respectful, and fully reciprocal…
…but it also signifies the repudiation I mentioned earlier: Pearl may have wanted to stay and fight for Rose, but by initiating the gesture Rose demonstrates that she wanted Pearl to fight alongside her, as a comrade and an equal.
so yes–in response to your specific question: Pearl was a warrior, just as Garnet and the other crystal gems that made up the army were. but so was Rose. it wasn’t about a hierarchy for the crystal gems, and least of all Rose. that was the very thing they were rebelling against. Rose led the crystal gems, but she was as much a warrior as they were. she fought alongside them, united by their wish for a better future for Earth and for themselves, and she cared for them–because Rose Quartz loved and saw the beauty in everything and everyone.
the feelings Pearl has for Rose were articulated back then, more than 5000 years ago; Rose heard and responded to Pearl’s love with affection, tenderness, acceptance, and respect–more than 5000 years ago. to me, the emotion conveyed through this exchange already goes beyond a leader’s appreciation for a loyal soldier, because Pearl and Rose set aside status and roles to articulate their devotion to one another, as individuals.
but even if this scene doesn’t cut it for you or for anyone else, there’s more than 5000 years of unaccounted time that Pearl and Rose spent together as crystal gems, after the war and after breaking away from Homeworld. was there always something bigger happening in every one of those 5000+ years to keep Pearl from addressing her feelings for Rose, or to keep Rose from addressing Pearl’s feelings for her (or her feelings for Pearl)?
consider that in “Rose’s Scabbard” Pearl says that she was “[Rose’s] sole confidante,” that she “was the one [Rose] told everything,” and angrily exclaims the particularly loaded “None of you had what we had!” at Amethyst and Garnet. now, I don’t know if people think…that Pearl is lying, delusional, or inflating her own “importance” to Rose out of grief (…), but it is true that Pearl was Rose’s confidante, based on the fact that Pearl knew about the armory when no one else did. it’s true that Pearl is very emotional and expressive, but she’s also fastidious–I don’t think it would be characteristic of her to lie about what kind of relationship she had with Rose. I’m especially inclined to believe that Pearl had an intimate relationship with Rose because, where others saw Rose as a leader and mentor first, Pearl saw the brilliant leader, yes, but she also saw Rose, and loved her as an individual very early on. she fought for Rose. that kind of foundation seems ideal for a close, intimate relationship like the one Pearl describes.
also consider that Pearl’s behavior around Rose in “Story for Steven” wasn’t characterized by duty or formality; she, along with Garnet and Amethyst, behaved comfortably around Rose, and related familiarly to her. they were long past acting as a leader and a soldier/any and all of those other popular labels for Pearl; the crystal gems were acting like a family, and Pearl’s feelings for Rose were known to Garnet and Amethyst–they may laugh good-naturedly over Pearl’s jealousy, but Rose herself never denies anything.
and of course, Greg/Rose is very much a Thing, and a Very Good thing, but Rose and Greg’s romantic relationship in no way precludes a romantic relationship between Rose and Pearl. I mean, Rose Quartz’s defining trait is her love. she’s overflowing with it, for everyone and everything–even superficially “ugly” creatures like the moss or the brambles. who’s to say that she couldn’t have loved both Pearl and Greg romantically, or that her relationships with both of them couldn’t have coexisted, with both Pearl and Greg fully aware and consenting? gems are an alien species of literal rocks. why should anyone hem in an alien species (much less Rose Quartz) with heteronormativity, ideas that the validity of love is necessarily predicated on monogamous exclusivity, and tragic lesbian tropes–all of which are human conventions that are being imposed on agender aliens? right now we know very little about gemkind aside from the fact that two gems in a canonically romantic relationship fuse spontaneously and choose to remain fused permanently. the sky is the limit with what we can imagine about gem culture. why make it almost exactly like our own? especially in a series that’s so good at distinguishing the gems as aliens, with their own history and culture informing their behavior.
so. honestly. I can’t prove that Pearl/Rose was definitely a Romantic Thing, but no one can disprove it either. in fact, there’s abundant evidence in both subtext and text to support its existence–so I’m always…baffled, that most of the popular discourse about Pearl and Rose accepts that Pearl’s feelings for Rose were unreciprocated as fact. and to be completely frank, a lot of the rationale behind this fanon comes across as more than a bit suspect to me, especially considering the way Pearl is coded as a character and that Pearl/Rose, while a relationship between two agender beings, is simultaneously f/f-coded.
erm. again, anon, most of this wasn’t a response to you–I recognize that your question wasn’t ship hate, but my response escalated into a response to Pearl/Rose fanon at large. so, uh, thank you for your question, because it gave me the opportunity to get this all out!
what other movies would you recommend that fit into the 'there's something dangerous about the boredom of teenage girls' genre?
I became interested in the trope/genre over a year ago because all my favourite films fell into it, so there are many that i could recommend! I’ve seen almost all these films, but there are a couple that I’ve only watched parts of. I’ve bolded favourites, because some fit the trope very well but aren’t necessarily my favourite films.
The Sisterhood of Night
The Virgin Suicides
Lolita (1997 and 1962)
The Moth Diaries
Carrie (2013 and 1976)
The Loved Ones
Sugar and Spice
All Cheerleaders Die
Sleeping Beauty (2011)
Nymphomaniac: (Vol. 1)
White Bird in a Blizzard
Drop Dead Gorgeous
Mini’s First Time
Violet and Daisy
The Bling Ring
The Amy Fisher Story
Jeune et Jolie
Very Good Girls
Ginger and Rosa
John Tucker Must Die
This post by ammapreakers is what originally sparked my interest in the genre/trope in film, so Savs deserves a lot of credit for my list. Please be aware that there are endless triggers for almost every film on this list, so don’t be afraid to message me if you want more details.