respect the force

dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

Concept: Everyone respects Harry and his right to privacy and rejoices over how much of himself he continues to give both in his music and in how much time he still takes for fans when he would 100% be within his right to say no to photos or to stopping and talking Respect Harry Styles 2017

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something that incredibly depresses me about how far both radfem and libfem separatists have sunk their claws into lesbian and bi circles respectively is that they’ve forced this notion that lesbians and bi women are these two separate entities with divergent histories with no common points whatsoever. in reality, our histories and our lives have always been intertwined. it was separatism that began the schism between us, but the notion that we’re two groups of people who began separately and now have to work to come back together is, i think, the root of a lot of the problems between us. and it makes me so genuinely upset. 

“Finn could not simply be a sidekick or key ally in the story; he needed a story arc of his own. For the first time, The Force Awakens offered a Star Wars film in which two characters, not only one, are undertaking the Hero’s Journey.”

“Each of these archetypes appears in the Hero’s Journeys of Rey and Finn – but not always in the same way or with the same character in the respective storylines. This makes The Force Awakens an interesting study in the use of archetypes.The Hero, of course, is the central protagonist of the journey. In Rey’s adventure, she is the Hero; in Finn’s adventure, he bears that mantle and Rey fills a different archetype.”

This appeared in the official Star Wars magazine and I can sleep well tonight and my smug smile is so broad, I might still have it when I wake up…

The signs as James Baldwin quotes
  • Aries: “True rebels, after all, are as rare as true lovers, and in both cases, to mistake a fever for passion can destroy one's life.”
  • Taurus: "To be sensual, I think, is to respect and rejoice in the force of life, of life itself, and to be present in all that one does, from the effort of loving to the making of bread."
  • Gemini: "When one begins to live by habit and by quotation, one has begun to stop living."
  • Cancer: “Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”
  • Leo: "The world is before you, and you need not take it or leave it as it was when you came in."
  • Virgo: “To accept one’s past – one’s history – is not the same thing as drowning in it; it is learning how to use it. An invented past can never be used; it cracks and crumbles under the pressures of life like clay in a season of drought.”
  • Libra: “For, while the tale of how we suffer, and how we are delighted, and how we may triumph is never new, it always must be heard. There isn't any other tale to tell, it's the only light we've got in all this darkness.”
  • Scorpio: “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
  • Sagittarius: “You have to go the way your blood beats. If you don't live the only life you have, you won't live some other life, you won't live any life at all.”
  • Capricorn: "Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced."
  • Aquarius: "Ignorance, allied with power, is the most ferocious enemy justice can have."
  • Pisces: “All art is a kind of confession, more or less oblique. All artists, if they are to survive, are forced, at last, to tell the whole story; to vomit the anguish up.”

Concept: love bug au except Keith’s behavior doesn’t change at all. Coran recognizes the insect right away as one who’s venom acts as a powerful love potion, and Lance is the one who pulled it off of Keith (i.e. The first person Keith saw after being bitten) so the others expect him to start acting all smitten and handsy. But there’s just,,,no reaction. Keith continues to act completely normal (albeit a little irritated that everyone is treating him as a ticking time bomb)

Turns out that the love bug’s bite doesn’t affect those who are already in love with the person they see first after being bitten; because it’s impossible to fall for someone you already love! And Keith has been smitten for a long time (he just, you know, respects Lance and would never force himself on him)

Shortly after this revaluation they discover Lance had also gotten bitten during the struggle (and had said nothing because he felt no affect)

Allistics have such a double standard….They hate autistic people for existing but if an allistic behaves in an “autistic” way then they’ll praise it, or at the very least excuse it.

If there’s an allistic person who conforms to a schedule and doesn’t like changes of plan, then they’re organized and it’s a wonderful character trait to have! But if an autistic person does that, then it’s weird and they have to learn to adapt to other people.

If there’s an allistic person who has a really intense interest/obsession with something, then it will probably be seen as cute or smart or cool, but when autistics have special interests it’s annoying or it’s “bad behavior”.

If an allistic person doesn’t understand social cues then they’re seen as cute or shy or quirky, maybe a bit weird or “off”, but overall no one has too much of an issue with it. Meanwhile, when autistics doesn’t understand social cues, people will try to abuse them into us!

If an allistic person has a type of sensory issue, then they’ll probably be told, “Oh, that’s okay, we all have our own things that bother us!” and their sensory needs will be respected. Meanwhile, autistics are forced into situations that are very sensory unfriendly - sometimes even on purpose because allistics apparently think that will cure us.

If an allistic person repeats phrases from TV or other people, then it’s just seen as a harmless, silly, endearing behavior. but when autistics do it it’s strange and unacceptable! 

This is one of the many reasons why we (autistics) hate hearing that “everyone is a little bit autistic.” Because not only is it not true, but on the occasions that allistics do behave in ways similar to autistics, then NTs won’t care…all while they punish autistics for existing.

yes, this is okay for allistic people to reblog.

Sans is just grumpy because Rick figured out inter-dimensional travel first.

And maybe Rick burped in his face one too many times.

Leather

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Summary: You join your boyfriend, Sebastian, while he’s doing some interviews and photo shoots but his leather jacket is giving you a huge lady boner. Later that night you’ll be wearing the jacket and have a similar reaction on Sebastian.

A/N: Okay, listen… I know I said I wouldn’t be writing a Seb imagine for a wile but this man just won’t stop messing with my hormones! This imagine is based on a conversation me and my friend had after seeing pictures of Seb in that damn leather jacket. I said I wanted to wear that jacket for some reason and my friend said something like, “Imagine wearing only that jacket while riding him ;)” and that has been haunting me ever since lmao. I’m still working on other requests! I’ve been having a hard time with writer’s block but this imagine just basically forced its way out of me. I decided to put my hormones into use! Anyway, to the person who requested more Seb imagines, I hope you like smut ‘cause here’s one! 

Pairing: Sebastian Stan x reader

Words: 3,362

Warning: SMUT, fingering, hand job, unprotected sex (don’t be silly, wrap your willy!), cursing


As much as I just want to hug him and tell him how precious he is and how I want to protect him, I really do want to rip those clothes of and straight up fuck him. I’m not even sorry, this man is sex on legs, I swear to God…


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The easiest way I can summarize my reads on the paladins and their fighting style is like:

Keith
Glass cannon- a little bit scout and a little bit squishy wizard, pupating more into the latter. Excellent maneuverability and agility, respectable offensive force. Only defensive skill is dodging. Primary M.O. is to take opponents at a headlong rush and hit first and hardest.
Best trait: Speed
Worst trait: Endurance

Pidge
Rogue- numerous tricks and techniques, able to utilize other entities around her, incredibly observant and exploits environment, foes, and basically anything not nailed down in a fight. Accommodates lack of offense with a nasty “sting”, accommodates lack of defense with maneuverability.
Best trait: Stealth
Worst trait: Attack

Lance
Sniper- most outstanding stat is obscenely prestigious aim and range. Other than that, very evenly balanced- few obvious weaknesses, but few obvious strengths. No real aptitude for engaging foes in close combat, but crafty about using his surroundings.
Best trait: Precision
Worst trait: Staying power

Hunk
Tank- best defense, good offense. Very inertia-based: weapon takes time to charge and time to slow down, capable of a respectable forward charge but cornering/maneuvering are encumbered by the mass of his weapon. Less maneuverable.
Best trait: Endurance
Worst trait: Agility

Shiro
Main Offense- Good agility, good reflexes, uses flexibility, reach, and speed to leverage excellent offensive force against enemies. The team’s hardest hitter, able to power through pain and injury. Like Lance, fairly balanced, but geared a little more towards speed and hard-hitting.
Best trait: Attack
Worst trait: Defense

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