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I’ve worked here for… well… a very long time. 

In all that time, never has a woman said to me, 

“I don’t read books written by men." 

However, at least once or twice a month, a man will say that he’ll not read a book by a female author. 

Men are ridiculous creatures.

Coffee Chat: Divination

Originally posted by little-enchanted-mermaid

The other day I was doing a self-reading with the Bad Bitches Tarot Deck by Ethony  and realized that I wasn’t as connected with the deck as I was with the Wild Unknown. Part of it is because of the art style (I love the coloring and all, but it is hard to try and get a feel of a card when it’s literally just a lady in some funky-not the good kind- looking dress with nothing else there. And I have feelings on the “diversity” of the deck too) and the other part-yeah it’s mainly the art style.  The reason I vibe better with the Wild Unknown is because it is colorful and has a lot to each card. Same with the Scrying Ink-all the cards have something about it that isn’t just the figure I’m suppose to be looking a

Anyways, for this chat: 

The main topic is of course, divination-what type of methods do you guys like to use, your favorite thing about it, if you use any type of aids during it, your thoughts about other methods, thoughts on diversity and tarot/cartomancy-all that good stuff!

i have thoughts regarding advice posts about writing certain identities (mostly aspec and autistic characters) and how they intersect with other things such as aro-spec and ace-spc or a-spec and autistic or a-spec and mentaly ill and/or an abuse or trauma survivor and how so many of the advice things say: this identity isn’t caused by x,y,z things and like, yeah, it’s important for people to know that these things are all their own experiences and exist independently of other things, but it’s also important to recognize that there a re a lot of people which these intersecting identities for which they’re not separate.

I can’t separate being asexual from being aromantic. They’re irrevocably linked fr me. It’s more accurate for me to say I’m aroace than aromantic and asexual. I’m autistic and yeah, it undoubtedly plays into me being aroace. I’ve experienced trauma and abuse and I can’t separate that from the touch repulsion and romance and sex repulsion that I also feel from being aroace.

So basically, each marginalized identity doesn’t have to exist in a vacuum, being itself entirely on its own. It’s not authentic to every experience. If a character is aspec and has suffered abuse, those things can intersect and it’s likely they will.

It’s not necessarily your place to write stories about how they intersect, but it is definitely your place to write characters where multiple identities overlap because there are people who have those same experiences. Everyone’s experiences deserve to be represented and not just those whose identities exist on their own.

I went to see Love, Simon today and at the end when I was leaving the theatre there was a big group of LGBTQ kids posing for a photo with the movie poster, and right next to them was a group of Black girls doing the same with Black Panther, and everyone was grinning so big and just looked absolutely invigorated. I don’t think I’m ever going to forget that scene. For so long I have not let myself get my hopes up that I will see representations of myself and my friends and communities on screen. But I’m letting myself hope now, because it’s happening. It’s really happening.

Wonder Woman made women everywhere feel so strong so brave so powerful. 

Coco made latinx/mexican people feel the elation of their visually stunning arts being shown, feel extra proud of their traditions, feel cherished

Black Panther made black people from every culture every continent feel such pride such happiness such warmth.

Love, Simon has made lgbt+ people from the youngest to the old feel understood feel overjoyed feel magic.

It’s more than just a movie.

Y'all better not act like it was a coincidence that the two best Marvel movies (Black Panther and Thor Ragnarok) just happened to be directed by the only directors of color in the franchise

Oh. My. God. I just found out about this movie called “In Between” which follows the lives of three strong, independent Palestinian women. And get this: one of the main characters is an ARAB LESBIAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’ll repeat it in case you didn’t hear me scream: THERE IS A MOVIE ABOUT AN ARAB LESBIAN!!!!!!!!

And not only is this the first Arab movie I know of that focuses (and I’m gonna say it again) on ARAB LESBIANS!!!! the actress herself is gay in real life and is an awesome woman who has been known for her art and work before. Her name is Sana Jammalieh and in case you don’t know her, I strongly suggest you check her out. 

Representation Matters!

You know, I’ve tried writing material where the number of bisexual and gay characters present matches up with real-world demographics, but even that’s apparently enough to get folks passive-aggressively going “wow, is anyone in this setting straight?”, so basically my answer from now on is “no, not a single person in this setting is straight”.

Them: Steven Universe is bad and it shouldn’t be recognized as a groundbreaking cartoon.

Me: Regardless of your personal feelings on the quality of the show, it has pushed the boundaries of representation on Cartoon Network and kid targeted cartoons in general. Not only does it have explicit LGBT+ couples that aren’t just shoved in at the end for the rep points, but they are diverse in shape, colour, and personality. There are characters that utilize they/them pronouns and are always addressed correctly, no matter how offensive or kind the character is. The show tackles strong messages of trauma, abuse, and discrimination with respect, while on a strict budget and lack of time. It challenges the idea of writing by storyboard rather than by script, and demonstrates why off-model animation can and cannot work. The story is so open that adults and younger alike can still get enjoyment from it. It is by no means exempt from criticism and does have flaws, but there is a noticeable trend of it being crucified for the same criticism that is ignored in other stories.

i really really mean it please write muslim characters, it’s really not that daunting literally all you have to do is throw in a few casual qualities.

have them squint uncertainly at the meat options in a restaurant and ask if there’s pork in the sandwich. have them mention on the phone “oh, i’m gonna stop by the mosque first for prayer but i’ll be there soon.” have your hijabi girls squeal over cute scarves in mall store windows and swoon over sparkly pins. have them kindly reject a glass of water and say “oh, i’m fasting today.”

just don’t make their religion their only defining aspect. like??

for most women, wearing hijab is about as casual as wearing a shirt or pants. give me a badass woman on a mission to save the world just like you’d write literally any other badass woman on a mission to save the world— this one just happens to keep her hair in a headscarf and is careful not to eat certain foods?

and not all muslim women wear scarves, a lot of them just choose not to or they decide not right now but they’ll do it later? like, give me a girl who’s absolutely determined to break a world record and halfway through the story she shows up in a headscarf for the first time and it’s no big deal

give me a kid who’s on the search for an ancient magical artifact and also they get anxious at some point cause they’re busy but prayer’s gonna start soon and they don’t wanna miss it. have them whip out their phone and search for the nearest mosque. have them find some quiet place to pray alone, like in the corner of a hotel room they just booked while their travel companion’s watching TV with the volume turned down low.

just?? do a bit of research (when are the prayer times, when is ramadan, what are halal foods, mosques in texas, etc.) and write!!! muslim!!! characters!!!

it’s annoying when people talk about how representation has gone “too far” and their argument is like “what’s next?? a trans schizophrenic immigrant lesbian?? an adhd bipolar physically disabled bisexual?? a japanese-american ocd nonbinary asexual??” and it’s just like. all those people exist. i’ve met all three of those people–one of those descriptions is of me!–and the fact that it’s ~pandering~ to have characters like that really proves that you can only be marginalized one way at a time before people start calling it ‘excessive’. who i am isn’t too much for representation! if seeing a disabled person, a mentally ill person, an lgbt person, a person of color—or, yes, ALL OF THOSE THINGS DESCRIBING THE SAME PERSON— is REALLY enough to bring you out of the story, that sounds like a you problem. because those people exist in real life, and we should exist in fiction too.