ren's post

psychoticmangle  asked:

THE PART WITH REN'S MUM THO I WANTED TO CRY NOT THE MUM!!!! TFW U REALIZE JUST HOW LONG THOSE TWO HAVE BEEN PROTECTING EACH OTHER AFNDOIGBSDNJOFK

IM HONESTLY SCREAMING ABOUT IT can you imagine…they…had to wander the wilderness alone…as tiny children…protecting each other and hiding from grimm…fending off wildlife and finding food for each other…trying to get to a new village or city that would be safer where they might find some place to stay…but you know no adult ever took them in in any sort of LASTING way because they have no parental figures or adoptive family now…do you think no one tried, or that they didn’t LET anyone in case they were separated…they probably had nightmares every night…they probably cuddled for warmth and to deal with the nightmares EVERY NIGHT GROWING UP HOW NORMAL DO YOU THINK IT BECAME FOR THEM

do you think nora got anxiety the first time they started actually sleeping separately because she used to always have him right there as a security blanket…do you think she sometimes climbed into his bed at beacon…NO WONDER JAUNE THOUGHT THEY WERE DATING

AND DO YOU THINK NORA STILL HAS THAT HAMMER? IF SHE LOST IT HOW BAD DO YOU THINK IT HURT HER? HOW UPSET WAS SHE? IM GONNA  D I E

friendly reminder that since a lot of people have decided xmas now starts right after halloween: not everyone celebrates xmas or wants to participate.  don’t shame people for not participating in xmas traditions or blacklisting xmas. if people ask to not be wished a merry xmas, don’t wish them a merry xmas. don’t get upset if people express their frustrations with how christian normativity makes it impossible to escape this non-secular holiday for almost two months. if people want nothing to do with xmas, please just let them be.

something i don’t see a lot in tumblr’s rhetoric about mental illness and recovery is a distinction between recovery through suppression and conformity and recovery through coping.

suppression and conformity is not recovery.  it implies that you are simply repressing the symptoms of your mental illness or disorder and causing yourself more pain.  suppression implies that you are ignoring your mental illness, not acknowledging your symptoms, and conformity implies that you are putting on a neurotypical facade.  so many people assume that’s the end goal of therapy and medication (should people choose to do that) or general recovery. that people are trying to “cure” you.  it’s where i think a lot of the “i shouldn’t need to get better” rhetoric comes from.

but that’s not what recovery is.  recovery is coping.  it’s learning about yourself and how you tick.  it’s learning to recognize and acknowledge symptoms so you can better understand them and, ultimately, not let them control you.  it’s understanding that being “wired” differently isn’t a bad thing, but it can make things harder, and learning to recognize those distinctions and address them so you can make your life easier.  it’s recognizing that for some people, therapy and medication are the path to coping, and that the end goal of them is to make that learning and self-discovery process easier so that those people can do it independently in the long run.

recovery is not changing yourself to fit the world.  recovery is learning how to look the world in the eye and say “i now know how to coexist with you now.  i now know how to thrive.”