By your comments, I know you're fat. My question is, and I know is something I shouldn’t ask, but, have you tried going on a diet or exercising? I know that's the typical question fat people are asked, and I know they hate it. I used to be fat, the first 18 years of my life I was fat, I maxed out at 98 kilograms and my self-esteem was practically inexistent. I was bullied, my own family criticized my weight and I reached a point where I just didn’t want to go out at all because ... 1/5
I just hated my body. I remember I boy called me deformed, and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I started dieting and exercising, I lost like 10 kilos, but then I got stuck. That’s when I began to stop eating. I survived with one apple and one yogurt a day. It worked, I lost 28 kilos, and I had been able to keep my weight balanced for more than 9 years. My point is, now you could say I’m thin, I weigh what I’m supposed to weigh, the problem now is, I never have peace in my mind. 2/5
I gain weight easily, if I start eating junk food more that I should and if I stop going to the gym, I’ll easily gain 2 kilos a week. Once I went to USA (I’m not from there) and in just one week I gain 5 kilos, WTH? I’m stressed all the time because of the food. And the moment my clothes feel tight, I get depressed and I don’t want to go out. I’m sick of this situation, but I just wouldn’t like to be fat again, I feel uncomfortable. My question is, what do you think? 3/5
I mean, everybody says you have to learn to love your body the way it is, but, can you truly do that when everything tells you you’re supposed to be thin? Would you like to be thin? Or have you learned to truly love yourself the way you are? I don’t want to be fat because I saw the benefits of being thin. You feel more energetic, you find clothes that fit you, people don’t criticize you that much, your healthier in a way. What do you think? 4/5
I’m really sorry if I offended you with this. really, I didn’t mean to. Ignore this if I did. 5/5
This is quite a long ask, but I’ll do my best to answer all the questions you asked.
My question is, and I know is something I shouldn’t ask, but, have you tried going on a diet or exercising?
You’re right. You should not be asking this question. As someone who struggles with weight, I’m assuming you know exactly what it’s like. I’m trying to say this in a way that’s not really bitchy, but I’m not sure I can so I’ll just say it: asking if fat people have tried diet and exercise comes across as implying you think fat people are stupid. We’re not stupid. We hear the “DIET AND EXERCISE” message multiple times a week. Trust me. We know.
And yes, I have done dieting and exercise in the past. I was pretty successful, losing 100+ pounds, but then I went to work for a toxic place that stressed me out. I stopped exercising and paid less attention to what I ate. Unemployment after that job didn’t help. I haven’t managed to get back to the point where I felt capable of doing that again.
My question is, what do you think? I mean, everybody says you have to learn to love your body the way it
is, but, can you truly do that when everything tells you you’re supposed
to be thin? Would you like to be thin? Or have you learned to truly
love yourself the way you are?
I don’t know the answer to your first question. I envy people who have found that peace within themselves; I suspect it’s an every day, on-going battle because you are constantly bombarded with those messages. And yes, I would definitely love to be thin. I have never gone a day in my life where I haven’t felt uncomfortable in my skin. I’ve never thought of myself as pretty or even slightly attractive. I have to wonder what that’s like.
What do you think?
I think some people are prone to gaining weight more easily than others. I think others gain weight because of (possibly undiagnosed) health problems or specific medications they have to take for their health problems. I think some people, like me, have problems with food - I know I don’t see food the way other people do. I think I’m probably addicted to food, in all honesty.
I think I don’t have a good answer for you, anon. I’m sorry.