..never ever ever ever feel guilty for removing toxic people from your life. People who continually hurt and harm you without regard for who you are and your emotional health are asking to be shown the door. People who love you and make mistakes will own their actions. Not everyone deserves entrance to your life, not everyone is worthy of your honesty and your love… and when YOU realize that and act accordingly, you will know who is in and who is out..
i have a love/hate relationshps with book hangovers, cause on one hand you just read something that really got to you and on the other hand you’re left to drift cluelessly for a while not knowing how some other book will hold up
I wanna talk about this for a second (might make a new post later) because although it’s tangential to the overall discussion, it’s something I want to see talked about in more depth:
“And, you know, it’s interesting that fandom’s use of the term “cope shipping” is virtually always used when a subject of said shipping is a violent white man, or when white mlm fetishization is extreme and violent.”
because, lemme be real, I ship plain Jane Black women in healthy relationshps with beautiful, powerful people to escape feeling unlovable and undesirable every second of my life. I’ve rarely seen anybody, ever, in fandom in general give anything but passing lip service to what Black women want and need in shipping and fandom. The bulk of that discussion centers on white women.
This post is never gonna get anywhere near the attention and analysis as white women in fandom going out of their way to defend their right to fawn over homicidal white men*. The only people who respond to things like that are other Black women.
*You can be damn sure that Amanda Walker, Maria Dillard, Annalise Keating, and Regina Mills don’t get this overwhelmingly unambiguous love and support. Well, maybe Regina, but that’s only after the end of Season 2 of OUAT.
Definitely. I wanted to get into Black women shipping Black women as a form of coping with racism and not fitting with European beauty standards. And how much Black women with canon love stories mean for women who grew up being told by media that they could never be the precious one deserving of love. But… well, the topic was Star Wars, and I’d already veered off a couple of times.
But yeah. I think a big part of the problem is that most white fans have been taught that all things are equal when it comes to race. So they often don’t get that minimizing, say, Iris West, is a bigger deal than not supporting Snowbarry. That there is so much more at stake for Black fans.
Jearmin is probably one of the healthiest ships on SnK. Jean and Armin are shown to care for each other and have very healthy interactions, with mutual respect and concern. They both treat each other well and never hurt each other or insult each other or disregard each other’s feelings.
Neither one of them is keeping secrets from each other (like secretly being a Titan) and neither of them seem to have an uneven amount of affection for the other.