This post is probably gonna cop me a lot of negative, but it needs to be said.
I’m so mad about the way the fandom is handling Mon el leaving right now. I’m mad because yes, the relationship was abusive… but Kara’s feelings were still Kara’s feelings. What she did was probably the hardest thing she’s ever had to do and people are making light of it and expecting her to jump into a relationship and expecting her to be happy about being out of that situation.
Sure, in a few months (more realistically, years) Kara might see the truth about the relationship and even acknowledge that it was toxic BUT for now, she was still in that relationship bubble and her feelings are fucking valid. She was in love with him, and whether we as viewers agreed with it or not, she’s just lost the man she loved, someone who she thinks has made her the happiest.
She had to make a decision that she clearly struggled with. She wanted to have what Alex has, what Winn has… But instead she had to sacrifice herself yet again.
Every post making light of what Kara had to do is completely discounting every fucking emotion that comes with Kara’s situation.
Tonight, when I watched 2x22, I was expecting to be happy about it. I was expecting to see Mon El leave and feel a sense of joy, that maybe Kara’s character would start growing again. But you know what? It hit me in the chest like a tonne of bricks because every time Kara cried, I felt it. Because even when a relationship is toxic, there is still love. It might not be healthy for either party but the pain and loss that you feel at the end of a relationship like that is still real and still valid.
The most useless thing I was ever told? “You’ll be better off now.” - the thing everyone in this fandom seems to be saying for Kara - Because I knew that. I fucking knew it and that’s why I left. But every time someone said it? It made me feel like I was wrong to grieve my 9 year relationship, the one that gave me my son, that gave me the best and worst moments of my life.
I let it slide when I see posts about “Sunny Danvers”, I let it slide when I see fics disregarding the traumas Kara has faced since her parents put her in that fucking pod. But seeing the fandom completely brush her aside and ignore the fact that she has once again, been forced into something that caused her another personal loss? It’s not fucking okay.