An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he’s not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.
The thing I remember most, looking back on my abusive relationships, is that whenever I was angry about the way I was being treated and tried to confront my abuser it was never a fight about what I was angry about. He always made it a fight about me being angry. He always made it seem like my anger was the problem, not my abuse.
Abusers will make you believe that the abuse isn’t the problem, that your ‘irrational’ anger is the problem.
“Love is passion, obsession, someone you can’t
live without. I say, fall head over heels. Find someone you can love
like crazy and who will love you the same way back. How do you find him?
Well, you forget your head, and you listen to your heart. Cause the
truth is, there’s no sense living your life without this. To make the
journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven’t lived a life at
all. But you have to try, cause if you haven’t tried, you haven’t