okay but the worst part about that asshole creating a manip trying to frame emma/hook as toxic because of emma giving up parts of herself to improve hook’s morality
is that hook NEVER wanted emma to “make him a better man.” never asked. never even implied. would be horrified to be accused of such a thing.
he ACTIVELY RESISTED letting her pry into his past and try to fix him, framing it as his responsibility and his alone to make up for past sins. he tried to CUT HER OFF numerous times when he felt his own past and personality were unhealthy for her - especially when it came to emma’s relationship with her family. and he HELPED HER become closer with her family and becoming a stronger woman, essentially by giving up on winning her heart and focusing on becoming a good man
and what’s more, emma herself never CONSIDERED the idea that hook would rely on her to make him better. she. believed. in. him. improving. himself. she avoided getting into a relationship because HER walls were up, and because she felt unloveable. but once she was ready, she accepted him for the man he was: flawed but honorable. she knew she had work to do, and he did, too. she became ANGRY when he didn’t believe in himself as much as she did - because she knew he could help himself
if anyone was shown to be chopping bits off themselves to “please” their partner, IT WAS HOOK. he bared his soul to her in front of her parents. he stepped in as henry’s stepfather. he gave up his revenge. he sold his ship. he abandoned his crew. he literally fuckin DIED, and when she came to rescue him from hell but it proved impossible, he sent her home safe with her family, then helped her find closure over his death (however temporarily)
finally, so far as i can tell, hook gave. up. being. a pirate. to become emma’s friend and husband and deputy. and emma didn’t give up anything. she didn’t limit herself in ANY WAY when she stuck by hook’s side throughout his redemption cycle
she’s still the same ass-kicking sheriff we came to know and love in early seasons. and her husband wouldn’t want it any other way