redeeming value

anonymous asked:

have you watched 13 reasons why? and if you have what is your opinion on it?

Overly pretentious, self absorbed, edgy ‘teen drama’ that unintentionally  intentionally glamorizes suicide and makes it look attractive to those who are easily triggered sending the message that yes, they too, can plot a convoluted postmortem revenge fantasy complete with bitter selfie-style tape recordings to send to your friends and family to make the sting hurt real bad.  Girl they select to commit suicide seems super pretty and super confident and super manipulative with guys and oh so super in control of staging her suicide and manipulating people from beyond the grave.  Jeez, she sure could’ve put her confidence and skills to much better use than in something so fruitless.  “I’ll show them!”  Uh, wait, no you actually won’t because you won’t be around for any of it. smh.

That is just not how suicide is, either.  In the real world with real people.  They could at least show some respect on the subject matter with some regard, care and consideration instead of using suicide as a cool device to further their ratings boost.

 Gratuitous, blatant showing of suicide scene. Why. Just whyyy.  Did they they somehow delude themselves into thinking that showing this would prevent teen suicide?  Give me a break.  They just wanted to show the whole thing to be bold and edgy cause hey, kids are all hip and down with the gore these days. People will talk and it’ll boost their ratings.  Gross.  Irresponsible af.  

The worst idea for a show.  Has no redeeming value whatsoever except to make  intricate suicide planning a cool thing to do.

And don’t even get me started on the rumored Season 2 school shooter theme.

I mean, if they’re actually gonna pull that shit as tv entertainment, can we at least  have the Basement Tapes instead please?    It’s the real deal and we can actually learn from it.

Al Satterwhite     Hunter S. Thompson, Cozumel, Mexico     1974


“We have become a Nazi monster in the eyes of the whole world, a nation of bullies and bastards who would rather kill than live peacefully.  We are not just Whores for power and oil, but killer whores with hate and fear in our hearts.  We are human scum, and that is how history will judge us. No redeeming social value. Just whores. Get out of our way, or we’ll kill you. Who does vote for these dishonest shitheads? Who among us can be happy and proud of having all this innocent blood on our hands? Who are these swine? These flag-sucking half-wits who get fleeced and fooled by stupid little rich kids like George Bush? They are the same ones who wanted to have Muhammad Ali locked up for refusing to kill gooks. They speak for all that is cruel and stupid and vicious in the American character. They are the racists and hate mongers among us; they are the Ku Klux Klan. I piss down the throats of these Nazis. And I am too old to worry about whether they like it or not. Fuck them.”  Hunter S. Thompson, “Kingdom of Fear: Loathsome Secrets of a Star-crossed Child in the Final Days of the American Century”  2004


By this late point in the good Doctor’s life, his always snarky and hysterically ironic sense of humor had fled, replaced by anger, fear and clear-eyed bitterness at the role the United States played in the world.  We can only imagine how much more pointed a comment like this would have been had he decided to live on and had encountered Trumpworld.

@athos-silvani you gave me an idea. an adoribull idea


“I can’t believe I’m being held hostage in my own home by a bird.” Dorian stares bitterly out the window. The day is perfectly warm and sunny, but there are swans in his garden.

Bull comes up behind him, wrapping his arms around Dorian’s waist. “Were you planning on leaving?”

“Not a second sooner than I have to, Amatus.” He accepts a kiss on his cheek. “It would just be nice to walk outside without having my ankles snapped at by a bad-tempered feather duster.”

“You just need to give it some time. At least they don’t let burglars anywhere near the house.”

Dorian sighs. “What heroic creatures they are. We should buy them golden collars and name our villa after their flock.”

Bull laughs. “You could change the Pavus crest to be a swan instead of a peacock. Hang a portrait of Melvin in your house in Qarinus.”

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badzerg  asked:

i really confused; the dragon anime looked terrible and porny from the get go. is there some group of people trying to go 'oh there's some redeeming value here you should watch it's SOOO deep!'? If so, seems like 17 years ago to me when people were doing that same with love hina and other garbage harem animes.

I can’t blame people for wanting to like it if they’re lgbt people so desperate for representation they’re willing to settle for shit that’s very obviously made to appeal to straight dude boners. It’s not their fault. If anything it’s depressing that we’re so starved for positive content that we have to fight over table scraps.

That said I give absolutely no shits about the fans who are str8 dudes who just wanna jack it to big titty anime lesbians & preteen monster girls

anonymous asked:

Why do you hate porn? And I'm not suggesting your opinion is wrong, I'm genuinely curious.

I’ve been asked this before, but I think it bears repeating. (Answer below copied from earlier post.)

I have seen the devastating effects of pornography addiction ruin the lives of friends and family members. It takes and takes and gives nothing of value back. I see no redeeming value in it.

Worst of all, I know I’m not immune to it. If I let my guard down, even for a moment, I’m in danger of ruining so much of this happy life I’ve worked so hard for. Decades of happiness torn down horrifically fast. It is insidious and it is dangerous.

Also, please let me be clear: THIS POST IS NOT AN INVITATION TO DISCUSS THE MERITS OF PORNOGRAPHY.
You have asked me a question and I have answered it, but I’m NOT interested in debating my position. If anyone feels the need to defend pornography, please do it where I can politely ignore it. If you try to do it here, I will block you.

Is that close minded? HELL YES!! Because my mind and my spirit are valuable to me, and that’s what you do when a deadly enemy is at your gates. You CLOSE the gates.

Please realize this is not a personal crusade of mine. I’m not going on to other blogs and scolding them for their views on pornography. And it’s not my intention to pass personal judgement on anyone else.

But I am VERY serious about my own cognitive self-defense and personal boundaries. (In fact I almost didn’t answer this question because I worried about people wanting to debate the issue, but I decided you deserve an honest and straightforward answer.)

Hopefully I’ve been sufficiently honest and straightforward here.

We have become a Nazi monster in the eyes of the whole world—a nation of bullies and bastards who would rather kill than live peacefully. We are not just Whores for power and oil, but killer whores with hate and fear in our hearts. We are human scum, and that is how history will judge us… . No redeeming social value. Just whores. Get out of our way, or we’ll kill you.

Well, shit on that dumbness. George W. Bush does not speak for me or my son or my mother or my friends or the people I respect in this world. We didn’t vote for these cheap, greedy little killers who speak for America today—and we will not vote for them again in 2002. Or 2004. Or ever.

Who does vote for these dishonest shitheads? Who among us can be happy and proud of having all this innocent blood on our hands? Who are these swine? These flag-sucking half-wits who get fleeced and fooled by stupid little rich kids?

They are the same ones who wanted to have Muhammad Ali locked up for refusing to kill gooks. They speak for all that is cruel and stupid and vicious in the American character. They are the racists and hate mongers among us—they are the Ku Klux Klan. I piss down the throats of these Nazis.

And I am too old to worry about whether they like it or not. Fuck them.

—  Hunter S. Thompson, Kingdom of Fear: Loathsome Secrets of a Star-Crossed Child in the Final Days of the American Century, 2003

greyhoundsgirl  asked:

I hated that the twins were still around after 3a after what they did to Boyd. I never understood why Scott would let them stay in what I guess was his territory since Derek was no longer an alpha. The decimation of the Hale pack broke my heart and these reminders were always there.

I honestly think the twins only stayed around because Jeff liked them-slash-thought they were attractive and wanted to keep them on screen. There was no reason for them to stay, it was stupid and dangerous for them to want to stay in a place where so many people would (or should, anyway) want them dead, and there was really no redeeming value to either of those characters.

I mean, people talk about Dethan and how cute it was, but it has to be one of my top five least favorite ships in all of Teen Wolf, maybe top three, because I thought it was just incredibly twisted that Ethan was a murderer, basically a serial killer, and no one thought it was at all necessary to warn Danny that he was… well, dating a serial killer. And Scott was generally portrayed as a forgiving character, sure, but cheerfully holding someone down, holding another person down, and forcing the first one to murder the second one on their claws is not really forgivable. Especially not when the murdered person was a classmate and at least casual friend, and the other was an ally-slash-friend who’s already been victimized and forced to hurt others so many times it’s painful to think about. And maybe Kali was the one who killed Erica, but the others were involved in it. They were also happy to imprison Cora and Boyd until they went feral and on an attempted murder spree, like… these two were not nice characters. And if they wanted to try and change (which, good for them I guess) Beacon Hills was not the place to do it. These people were not people who should be expected to forgive you, or expected to share classes with you, or to be ok with you invading their loft yet again to use for your own purposes. I’m really glad Isaac, at least, continued to show some anger toward them (although he was happy to go to their “invasion of the loft” party, along with the rest of the pack, because plot convenience over character consistency, right Jeff?) but no one else really seemed to care all that much.

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The worst thing was that this was portrayed as Ethan trying to be a good guy. He was trying to win over the pack by doing something nice for Danny without asking for a reward - and no one seemed to care that it was messed up. This was played up as being part of the twins’ redemption arc and not a horrific breach of privacy of someone they’d recently been torturing/trying to kill/forcing to kill his friends.

Yeah, that’s just… this is just a basic writing fail, honestly. And this is something all writers need to think about, whether they’re writing shows, novels, fics, whatever: how would each character react to this situation? If I have Peter walk into a room where Stiles is sitting and punch the Sheriff in the face, I can’t just put the fact that Stiles is there on hold, in order to have a showdown between Peter and the Sheriff. I need to stop and think “how would Stiles react to this?” and have him do that thing.

If the twins decide to throw a party in Derek’s loft, where they’d just murdered Boyd about a month before, I need to think “how would each member of the pack react to that?” Maybe you could say Scott would be ok with it, appreciating the twins’ terrible attempt to mend fences. Maybe Lydia and Allison would be ok with it, because they didn’t really know Boyd and weren’t really involved in that situation. Kira wouldn’t even know what had happened. But Isaac and Stiles? Who were both there when it happened, and both showed animosity toward the twins in general, and were both somewhat closer to Boyd? Wouldn’t they react? So, as a writer, you either need to show them reacting –– protesting the party in some way –– or maybe not knowing about/not attending the party. Something. And sure, it’s a writing skill you develop over time –– to keep track of all your characters and have them react accordingly –– but I would assume that people hired to write for TV shows would need to have some credentials, some writing experience.

And there are a lot of shows and stories where I don’t necessarily agree with the way characters react, but I can understand how the writers got to that place. In TW, unfortunately, it’s usually less about whether I agree with what they’re thinking and more about the fact that they weren’t thinking –– or rather, just didn’t care about what the characters should be thinking.

The Transformers fandom is really fascinating to me - I don’t think I’ve ever seen such a deep and abiding love for a franchise paired with such an enthusiastic willingness to acknowledge that the greater part of that franchise’s output has no redeeming value whatsoever.

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry, but I can't take you seriously anymore. Fight Club is an expression of toxic masculinity that is worth nothing? Hell, everything about that ask is wrong, but that one in particular... Wow.

Just so we’re clear, this is the book about a man who feels so emasculated by modern society and consumer culture that he visits a self help group for men who have, literally, had their testicles surgically removed. When he encounters a woman invading his territory, his only response is to engage in increasingly violent and destructive acts, culminating in a failed terrorist bombing? We’re talking about the same story, right?

Yeah, can’t imagine how anyone could consider that toxic masculinity.

The novel is actually quite good. It’s not a pleasant read, and I wouldn’t recommend it as entertainment, but it is worth reading. Chuck Palahniuk is a very skilled writer. He has a visceral, “gross-out,” style that obfuscates just how sharp his material is. It’s easy to pick up Fight Club and soak in the hyper-aggressive elements and miss just how critical the book is.

But, that’s not what we were talking about.

We were talking about the fight club itself. The organization in the novel and film. The one which morphs into Project Mayhem. That is worthless, and without redeeming value. The fight club started by the narrator is an expression of toxic masculinity. It doesn’t teach people how to fight, no matter how awesome it makes the narrator feel about himself in the moment.

(I’m just going to refer to the narrator as Jack from here on out. The name comes from the film, not the book, but it’s faster to type.)

The fight club itself, is a tantrum, being thrown by a man child who has no model for what it means to be an adult, and isn’t satisfied by the options he sees in the world. Looking for a venue to release his pent up aggression, he resorts to violence. Jack moans about how, because his father abandoned him, he has no concept of who he should be. Ultimately, he is terrified of being an adult. Everything that follows is Jack acting out against the world.

There’s a weird element where you can intentionally read Jack as a teenage rebellion, a few decades too late. This is probably why the Calvin & Hobbes misread plays so well. At several levels, Jack is still a child, and written as such. Remember, before the novel opens, Jack’s job is to look at horrifically mangled bodies (auto insurance investigator). This is an adult version of a little kid looking at, “gross stuff,” and then enthusiastically inflicting that on people around them for shock value. Which should also sound familiar when discussing Tyler Durden and Marla.

So, yes, the novel Fight Club is about toxic masculinity. The fight club itself is an expression of the same. It’s easy to read the surface message and run with the idea that the book is advocating the position of the protagonist. Until you remember that the entire third act of the book (and film) is Jack losing control of Project Mayhem, and trying to stop them from bombing buildings.

Fight Club isn’t exclusively about toxic masculinity. There are very strong themes of establishing a personal identity, and learning to communicate with others scattered through the novel. They’re mixed in with large quantities of puerile behavior, and aggressive missteps by the various characters. Toxic masculinity is a major part, because it’s the first place Jack goes, and it colors the rest of his experiences, even after he’s decided on a different approach.

It’s a very good, and quite challenging book. Certainly not for everyone. However, the fight club itself is, ultimately, a self destructive exercise. You don’t learn to fight by punching your imaginary friend.

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The film adaptation is pretty good as well. As with the book, it requires some critical thinking to fully parse, but don’t let that scare you off.

anonymous asked:

Why do you hate porn?

I have seen the devastating effects of pornography addiction ruin the lives of friends and family members. It takes and takes and gives nothing of value back. I see no redeeming value in it.

Worst of all, I know I’m not immune to it. If I let my guard down, even for a moment, I’m in danger of ruining so much of this happy life I’ve worked so hard for. Decades of happiness torn down horrifically fast. It is insidious and it is dangerous.

Also, please let me be clear: THIS POST IS NOT AN INVITATION TO DISCUSS THE MERITS OF PORNOGRAPHY.

You have asked me a question and I have answered it, but I’m NOT interested in debating my position. If anyone feels the need to defend pornography, please do it where I can politely ignore it. If you try to do it here, I will block you.

Is that close minded? HELL YES!! Because my mind and my spirit are valuable to me, and that’s what you do when a deadly enemy is at your gates. You CLOSE the gates.

Please realize this is not a personal crusade of mine. I’m not going on to other blogs and scolding them for their views on pornography. And it’s not my intention to pass personal judgement on anyone else.

But I am VERY serious about my own cognitive self-defense and personal boundaries. (In fact I almost didn’t answer this question because I worried about people wanting to debate the issue, but I decided you deserve an honest and straightforward answer.)

Hopefully I’ve been sufficiently honest and straightforward here.

The Occasion of Sin

This little stand-alone fic is a missing scene from Outlander book 1, set in Leoch after Jamie and Claire were married. It’s my explanation as to why Laoghaire left the ill wish beneath Claire’s pillow. Warning: It has approximately no redeeming value, and is purely an excuse to write Drunk Claire, Horny Jamie, and smut. Plus bonus Jealous Laoghaire.


We were drunk on Colum’s Rhenish. Or rather, I was drunk on Colum’s Rhenish. Jamie had only had ale at dinner, and was tipsy at worst, while the Mackenzie had plied me with glass after glass of his potent alcohol. I only realized sometime during my third glass, when he asked me all too casually about my parentage, that he still wondered whether I was a spy and hoped I was drunk enough to loosen my tongue. Now that I was Jamie’s wife, I was technically related by marriage, but our rushed and unexpected nuptials had done little to erase his suspicion. Nor did my arrest and capture by Jack Randall. While Dougal seemed convinced of my innocence, having seen firsthand the bruises that resulted from my encounters with the Captain, his brother was not. I could hardly blame him. I couldn’t be entirely honest with him, though I was hardly the threat he imagined me to be. But though I couldn’t tell him everything about me, I happily disclosed everything I remembered about Randall and Fort William.

As I took another sip, I glanced over at my new groom, who was deep in conversation with Alec and Murtagh. I didn’t know what they were talking about, nor did I care. I was entranced by the planes of Jamie’s face in the firelight, the defined jawline, the sparkling blue eyes, the flame of his hair. My attraction to him was undeniable. It had started earlier than I was willing to admit, and had only gotten stronger as I knew him better. Between his exuberant love making and the gradual, sincere opening of his heart, I was becoming quickly enamored of my young husband. He broke out in a gale of startled laughter at something Murtagh said, and I found myself involuntarily smiling at him. He caught me watching and gave me one of his solemn, owlish attempts at a wink.

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the only situation i could understand devoting an entire blog to criticizing a show or movie or something is if it was horrendously offensive, like sexist or racist or something with hardly any redeeming value and few people realized it. then you’re sort of combatting the awful negativity of a show that has influence on people and pointing out what’s wrong, but in the case of steven universe, even with it’s flaws, it has so much positivity and good messages

in this case, it’s more that the fandom has become so entitled that they act as if any flaws in the show are some sort of direct insult and justify unchecked vitriol. this fandom just keeps getting worse and worse i swear

anonymous asked:

I think the whole conversation around joss whedon, while most of the criticism is now very deserved, is a prime example of the way this site deals with things in a very black and white way. If something is bad now, like whedon, according to tumblr it was always bad and has no redeeming value. If a previously loved show does something deemed problematic, suddenly it was always problematic and people claim to have "known that all along". Same with actors, politicians, writers, anything really.

i think it’s at least partially this idea of media consumption as activism, which is of course…ridiculous. like, sure, i do believe that you can judge a person’s character to some extent based on their likes and dislikes; if i meet a guy on the street and his favorite shows are family guy and game of thrones, i pretty much have him pinned lmao. 

but in general, we’re all supposedly…aware…that most of our content creators are writing from a place of privilege. options are thin on the ground to begin with! and watching a show doesn’t = blanket agreement with everything that happens in it. it’s especially weird because certain shows with genuinely nasty content are excused as satire when that clearly isn’t the case (iasip) whereas others are written off completely. and if tumblr decides a work is Good™, any criticism of it is a sign of anti-progressivism or whatever. 

anyway, with all of that being said…obviously i don’t want whedon touching a batgirl solo, let alone the justice league movie; obviously that wonder woman script was a fucking joke. but (at least imo) whedon has created shows & characters of value in the past. and if you’ve watched enough of his stuff, you can chart a pretty clear trajectory from “i’m standing on the mouth of hell and it is going to swallow me whole. and it’ll choke on me” to loki calling natasha a c*nt in a blockbuster movie, and it’s worth…discussing? having a conversation that mentions all these things in concert w/ each other doesn’t constitute a Whedon Defense Squad, it’s just like…media analysis. which is ostensibly what we’re all here for? 

People all around the world wonder why God would love somebody like them, and He would because of their created value and destiny and potential. We weigh our value based on the life we have lived apart from Him; He determines our value based on who He created us to be and how we look when He’s inside of us and we’re surrendered. He made man in His image, that’s what He sent His Son to redeem.

anonymous asked:

I only watch collider for the news tbh. I don't expect to feel illuminated by their ability to analyse film and storytelling. But the force freezing thing is absolutely amateuresque even for their standards :/ it's not even implied because the movie is yelling at the audience that Kylo just made an offer coz he was interested in her and was waiting for her response. It's like they're pretending they saw a different film just so they don't accept that Kylo has any redeeming values.

I think Collider are fine for what they are, and I appreciate their enthusiasm and love for all things Star Wars. You’re right though - their analysis is very weak, and isn’t really worth the time of day. Thankfully, they don’t indulge in that too much.

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FORMS OF TANTRIC PRACTICE

Tantra has taken many forms of expression in virtually every culture in the history of this planet. If you are curious to know details of the history, mythology and practices, there are many books avail- able. This knowledge will not, however, change the quality of your consciousness or allow you to share this experience. Here is a brief review of a few forms, for historical perspective.

• Hindu Tantraism revolved around worship of Shiva and Shakti, deification of the Male and Female principles. The male and female sexual organs (lingam and yoni) were honored and celebrated in art and ritual. Tantrikas believed that they could achieve release from the cycle of birth and death (Moksha) by using the power of sex in Tantric ritual. Tantra began gaining popularity in the early days of the Christian era. From 700 AD to 1300 AD itwas widespread throughout Asia, engulfing Hinduism and Buddhism, as well as other religions. Its great appeal was that it promised libera- tion through enjoyable ritual, instead of requiring a lifetime of ascetic practice. This form has practically disappeared. People go to India in search of “authentic tantra” and can’t find it. If it is happening, it is underground and not readily available to a visitor.Note: Further references to Shiva and Shakti are only as archetypes, symbols of polarized energy and aspects of every individual. They are honored here, as are all cosmic principles, but not worshipped as personal deities.

• Red Tantra. Ancient tantric scripture encouraged rituals where all the rules were suspended, where all behaviors were considered holy. Maithunas and chakrapujas were held where people ate meat, drank wine, made love with wild abandon and indulged in the “soma” from the poppy. These were behaviors severely prohibited in that culture. In these earlier days, some communities dedicated to the Vama Marga, the left-handed path, took the scriptural injunctions very liter- ally, their rituals often deteriorating into Bacchanalian feasts and orgies. This was common during the 18th century.Modern attempts to replicate this practice fall embarrassingly short of the original intention. This is a vastly different culture, with different values and perspectives. What passes for red tantra today usually turns into an orgy without the redeeming spiritual values of yesteryear. These practices are not the focus of Ipsalu Tantra Yoga

• White Tantra. Some Tantrikas, dedicated to Dakshina Marga (the right-handed path) interpreted Tantric scripture as symbolic and their practice was more abstract and mental. Men and women meditated together, according to highly disciplined techniques, but maintained a celibate life. The Kundalini Yoga teachings of Yogi Bhajan are in this style and still prominent today.

• Pink Tantra. Ipsalu Tantra would strike a middle-point between the “red” and “white” orientations. It is less concerned with breaking the rules in order to break down one’s conditioning, less intent on escaping from the temptations of life by rigorous solitary practice. It is more concerned with coming into the heart energy, surrendering to unconditional love. A couple can make the journey together but the work also has incredible value for a single person.

• Black Tantra – Sex Magic. Tantric rituals in India often invoked the “dark” energies, the subconscious creative power that can be accessed during sexual arousal. Currently in India, tantra is consid- ered synonymous with black magic since many practitioners there have become mired in the quest for power, seduced by the enormous creative force in sexual energy.Some tantra teachers in the west are tapping into the potential of Sex Magic, which can be a great tool for personal growth. It can also easily be distorted into using sexual energies to control their environ- ment, to manifest their wishes. This is unfortunate as it supports people in thinking small, rather than leading them toward true empowerment by remembering their magnificence.

• Heart Magic – Synergy. When you are in your heart, you want what is best for all, realizing that you are one with all. You make yourself available as an instrument by which changes can be wrought, in conformance to Divine Will. Then the real magic begins

• Sacred Sex is currently the most popular version of tantric practice. Most Westerners are so damaged in expressing their sexuality that they require a great deal of healing: learning to overcome inhibitions, deal with guilt and abuse, activate the energies that have been turned off for a lifetime. These processes are merely a starting point to tantric practice. You might call these activities sexual healing or relationship therapy, rather than tantra. It is remedial work, prerequisite to the actual sacred practices.Many Westerners are drawn to Tantra because they think it will improve their sexual satisfaction. It does that, beyond your wildest dreams, but not by bringing more of what you already know. It takes you into a whole new level of experience. In ancient times in India, tantric practice for hedonistic reasons was severely frowned upon. In modern America it is often as much as people can understand. It’s a beginning. Don’t get stuck there.

1) Tantra is Liberation through Expansion.

2) Tantra is an Interweaving of Parts.

3) Tantra is Balancing of Polarities.

4) Tantra Acknowledges the Divinity in All People and All Paths.

5) Tantra is the Yoga of Expanded Sex.

6) Tantra is a Path of Surrender.

7) Tantra is Working with Subtle Energies.

- Bodhi Avinasha; The Ipsalu Formula ~ A Method for Tantra Bliss

anonymous asked:

Can you explain how Wolf isn't a stereotypical bad boy, I want to know your opinion?

The main thing that differentiates him is actually Scarlet’s reactions to his behavior and his attempts to rectify it. She calls him out on his violence, on his protectiveness, on the unhealthy things he’s learned as a way to survive for the last decade or so. And in response he actually changes, he doesn’t go into some dramatic woe is me monologue about why he’s like this, he just tries to be better. The moment he realizes violence doesn’t have to be his only redeeming value he stops being needlessly violent. He’s a cocky arrogant jerk for about .2 seconds before he realizes that for the first time in more than a decade he doesn’t have to be that anymore. He respects Scarlet’s space rather than forcing her to accept his protection, when he realizes Cress is afraid of him he does his best to appear nonthreatening, his motives aren’t the boring selfish ones we’ve come to expect from male characters. He just wants a chance to redeem himself, both for Scarlet and for the people he lost because of what happened to him. He didn’t deserve any of the crap he went through, but he didn’t use it as a crutch either. In the end he’s not bitter, he doesn’t hate the world (even though he certainly has a reason to), and he’s putting in the ACTUAL WORK to be a better person.