red flags

other red flags to look for in a psychiatrist

-they run a content thieving horror blog full of stories about “psychos” and are not actually a psychiatrist

lyrakeepsthenight  asked:

Not a question, a clarification. NAIDS are an attempt at a recreation of the dogs that worked with tribes in the Pacific northwest before horses replaced them. They still have dogs, just much fewer in number. NAIDS were created by using those dogs and adding malamute, shepherd, st Bernard, and Chinook into the mix. The breed is recognised by a few organizations, but I don't know anyone who cares much about that. We just love our dogs. Also they are wolf-free.

So we’re referring to this post I made a month ago.

I did not state that they were wolf dogs, nor did I say they weren’t loved. My skepticism arose due to the fact there are no reputable sites that have information about them. Learning the history of a breed solely from the breeder’s website is sketch. It is. And don’t get me started on dogbreedinfo…

They are also a registered breed with the “International Designer Canine Registry” which by the looks of the website is also sketch.

I’m not saying they aren’t dogs, because of course they are, and all breeds start somewhere, right? But regardless, the original mixed breed dogs that were amongst the native americans have since been diluted with other breeds. You can’t say, oh there were a few left and this one breeder found them and started breeding them! Where? When? How?

There are just a bunch of red flags that lean this towards a backyard breeder ordeal. I can’t say that I know that for sure, all I know is what is available to me. And that isn’t much. But claiming a double coated breed is hypoallergenic, doesn’t smell like a dog?, and rarely sheds? is bs. They’re designer dogs just like the Schneagle, Schnekingese, and Schnocker are.

But please, if anyone can find reputable facts on these dogs, I am all ears (eyes).

anonymous asked:

NTAMW who expects his female partner to be open to anal sex. But he is not open to being penetrated himself.

RED FLAG

They’re the ones with prostates, they’re the ones who should be more “open” to it

tbh i’m aware that while im an anarchist w revolutionary ideals and intent to become a freedom fighter in the future, as of now i’m not actually able to realistically act on those ideas in the black bloc, antifascist direct action and black-and-red flag waving way. all i’d achieve by doing that is largely performative nonsense that’ll get me a record and keep me from doing anything actually helpful in the future when i A) live in a place where political activism and discourse is relevant and B) have the independence and resources to make real commitments and do concrete things to help. 

besides which, when you consider that those most oppressed by class struggle and the increasingly fascistic society we live in in general are PoC, in many ways it isn’t my fight in the first place. for now the way that i can best prepare to help the movement is to educate myself, listen to people who are on the street and have lived more life than me, and focus on valuing and protecting all human life possible regardless of country of origin and basically any other differences short of having the intent to harm others or advance fascist agendas

the reason i’m sharing this is that i know a lot of people are in my situation and i want to remind you that most of the struggle isn’t punching nazis and setting cop cars on fire and shit, it’s striving to be excellent to other people and prioritizing the needs of those with less. we need to be willing to be radical and back up our ideals, but be strategic. it’s more important to make as big a dent as possible in the capitalist empire, even if that means biding your time, than to just always be raging against a machine so large that one person’s idealistic refusal to cooperate will only mean we have one less individual to help us present real resistance when the time comes

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Pride:  a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.

I was worried about what I was missin, ‘cause this only took up to 60+ Layers while the other two have at least 100/90+ layers. But came out well! So here you have it! Lucky’s Pride! (HAH) Now, On to Kotaro’s Sloth!

*Click for Caption!*

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DISGUSTING PIG!

Chris Biersack is so creepy! I cant believe he would comment such things on underage girls photos. He’s a dirty old man with sick thoughts. IDK how many of your dads would voluntarily post something like this under young girls photos. It makes you wonder what he does on his spare time. 

I understand we don’t know if he’s ever done anything however we all have common sense and if theres red flags its normal to be precautions and concerned…. Look at Bill Cosby, how many of you al thought he was a perv and bitch he’s literally blind! LOL So I wouldn’t fault anyone for thinking thoughts about Chris.

I’m not going to act like a dumbass and close my eyes and pretend he 100% innocent just because there isn’t black and white evidence. At the moment all we have is grey shadows and cant draw solid conclusions but we are allowed to show and share our concerns since like we’ve all said, NORMAL DADS DON’T POST PICS OF GIRLS CLEAVAGE ON THEIR PERSONAL PAGE AND ENGAGE IN SEXUAL CONVERSATIONS ON SOCIAL MEDIA! It would have been different if they were on the BVB pages but they aren’t their own his own pages!!!!

He hasn’t shown any self awareness or apologized for writing those comments. which makes it all worse!!! I would somewhat maybe try to not think of him as a perv if he came out and was like oh fuck that was inappropriate. Im used to talking with adults that i got carried away and forgot my entire following is 14yr olds.

Chris doesn’t act like a mature responsible adult:

–He decks himself out in BVB apparel, shops at Hot Topic and always has BVB on the mind

–.He gets into arguments with anyone who doesn’t worship Andy.

–He doesn’t take criticism well.

–He bitches at anyone who voices their opinion on giving the other band members some time in the spotlight. 

I hope someone maces him at Warped Tour if he tries any sexual moves on them!

A/N: This is absolutely disgusting. -N

Our culture really romanticises the idea of a (usually male) brooding misunderstood loner who’s an asshole to everyone but secretly has a heart of gold, so it’s frighteningly easy to meet a guy who treats everyone around him badly and believe without evidence that he has a heart of gold. 

Don’t fall for it.

And a lapse in cruelty is not evidence of kindness.

“My boyfriend isn’t allowed to talk to other girls,” is just as unhealthy as “My girlfriend isn’t allowed to talk to other guys.”

“You can’t hang out with [boyfriend’s female friend] anymore,” is just as abusive as “You can’t hang out with [girlfriend’s male friend] anymore.”

“My man isn’t allowed to go out with his guys unless I’m with him,” is just as creepy and possessive as “My girl isn’t allowed to go out with her friends unless I’m with her.”

A woman who controls and manipulates her boyfriend is just as abusive as a man who controls and manipulates his girlfriend, pass it on.

“At least I don’t beat you” is a threat.

Normalizing abuse is what abusers do best. They will convince you that however brutal their behaviour toward you, they could be worse to you and it would be justified because of your own flaws.

When someone who scares and controls you brings up a different way they could hurt you, and suggests that you should be grateful they aren’t taking that option, they consider it a viable choice.

It is a threat, a reminder that they are willing and able to treat you even more violently if you don’t behave the way they wish. Only someone who wants to terrify you into compliance would bring up the posibility of beating you like it’s a real option.

I feel like almost all of the guys who’ve had an unreciprocated thing for me developed it because I listened to them and was emotionally supportive, etc., but they themselves never thought to do the same for me. Which ended up with this weird situation where I knew them super well but they literally had zero idea about who I was as a person other than “listens really well and is emotionally supportive.”

Like, they didn’t know the first thing about what was important to me, my beliefs, my family, my work, how I spent my time when I wasn’t with them. Because not a single one of them wanted  to know. They would just… never ask, or they’d ask politely and when I started to answer they’d show extreme disinterest and change the subject back to themselves.

But they still thought they loved me, because to them that’s all love is - being emotionally supported by someone. It did not even occur to them that the support could ever go both ways, and they were always bewildered about why I never loved them “back” - even though all they gave me to love was a person so self-obsessed that he couldn’t see me at all.

Emotional labour is so, so important to be aware of in relationships. It has to have some kind of balance, or the person performing it will just burn out. And a relationship consisting only of one person demanding and demanding and never giving back is not love. Love is not a demand. It can accept, and it can ask, but love listens, love cares about how its requests affect the beloved. Love wants to give back.