you know what really grinds my gears?
when advice like
“Do things you enjoy!”
and related suggestions are completed written off by many people with a mental illness, especially on this site. IF YOU’RE PISSED, STAY WITH ME FOR A MOMENT.
these things ARE NOT EASY. i know because i’m there! BUT evidence based (AKA PROVEN TO HAVE SUCCESS IN SOME INDIVIDUALS) therapeutic styles like DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) have entire lessons / foundational aspects based on advice like this. examples:
Emotion Regulation: accumulating positive emotions, short term
- Examples include eating, sleeping, laughing, exercising, etc
Emotion regulation: accumulating positive emotions, long term
- Examples include identifying values, setting goals, planning action steps
PLEASE skills: taking care of your mind by taking care of your body
- PL = Physical illness: take care of body, see doctor, take meds
- E = Balance Eating: don’t eat too much or too little, eat regularly and mindfully. stay away from foods that make you overly emotional
- A = avoid mood altering substances = no drugs and limited alcohol use
- S = balance sleep: try to get 7-9 hrs, or whatever makes you feel your best, keep consistent sleep schedule
- E = exercise: do some sort of exercise every day. try to build up to 20 min a day
i literally could go on for so long with more examples. the point is: these things aren’t easy. we talk about that all the time in my DBT class. one of the first points to all of these is to “avoid avoiding” and gives tools to help you avoid, avoiding these helpful activities. they won’t change your life overnight but you can increase positive experiences and slowly, overtime create a life worth living (aka the basis of DBT)
don’t write off these things because the person suggesting it doesn’t understand how much harder it is for you. FRIEND I️ KNOW ITS HARD but your life is worth living and you deserve to know that. you and your body deserve these basic things that care for both your mind and body.