recovery community

you know what really grinds my gears?

when advice like

“Drink water”

“Set goals!”


“Do things you enjoy!”

and related suggestions are completed written off by many people with a mental illness, especially on this site. IF YOU’RE PISSED, STAY WITH ME FOR A MOMENT.

these things ARE NOT EASY. i know because i’m there! BUT evidence based (AKA PROVEN TO HAVE SUCCESS IN SOME INDIVIDUALS) therapeutic styles like DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) have entire lessons / foundational aspects based on advice like this. examples:

Emotion Regulation: accumulating positive emotions, short term

  • Examples include eating, sleeping, laughing, exercising, etc

Emotion regulation: accumulating positive emotions, long term

  • Examples include identifying values, setting goals, planning action steps

PLEASE skills: taking care of your mind by taking care of your body

  • PL = Physical illness: take care of body, see doctor, take meds
  • E = Balance Eating: don’t eat too much or too little, eat regularly and mindfully. stay away from foods that make you overly emotional
  • A = avoid mood altering substances = no drugs and limited alcohol use
  • S = balance sleep: try to get 7-9 hrs, or whatever makes you feel your best, keep consistent sleep schedule
  • E = exercise: do some sort of exercise every day. try to build up to 20 min a day

i literally could go on for so long with more examples. the point is: these things aren’t easy. we talk about that all the time in my DBT class. one of the first points to all of these is to “avoid avoiding” and gives tools to help you avoid, avoiding these helpful activities. they won’t change your life overnight but you can increase positive experiences and slowly, overtime create a life worth living (aka the basis of DBT)

don’t write off these things because the person suggesting it doesn’t understand how much harder it is for you. FRIEND I️ KNOW ITS HARD but your life is worth living and you deserve to know that. you and your body deserve these basic things that care for both your mind and body.

Inspired Healing

A little bottle to focus on a general healing and well being of a person.

  • Sea Salt
  • Lavender
  • Rosemary
  • Sage
  • Bay
  • Mugwort
  • Cinnamon
  • Sandalwood Oil
  • Pink Candle

Salt for purification, to lay a clean foundation

Lavender to inspire peace from any pain or discomfort

Rosemary to bring a feeling of youth again

Sage for inspiring long life

Bay and Mugwort to give strength during the healing process

Cinnamon to encourage fast healing and recovery

Sandalwood oil for success and healing

Pink candle for wax seal to inspire healing and positive thoughts

The first incarnation of this bottle was a loose incense to burn on a charcoal disk. It originally just didn’t have salt. It was made for my father, who had a problem with his heart and was having trouble with day to day activities. 

You could forgo a seal and choose to burn the mixture on a charcoal disc, it’s up to you. 

I ended up using pink salt for aesthetic again at the top. A kind of bookend to the intention to purify the body. 

The brain does weird things when you deprive it of food.

And I don’t mean just calorically. Even if you’re eating 2000, 3000 calories a day in recovery, if they’re all safe, you’re still going to be obsessed with food and what you “can’t” have.

(AKA a friendly reminder to challenge yourself today.)

More than a natural disaster: How Harvey and Irma put health care, immigrant communities, the environment, and more at risk

In the past few weeks, severe storms including Hurricane Harvey and Hurricane Irma wreaked havoc across the southwest U.S., Mexico, and island territories including the U.S. Virgin Islands, Puerto Rico, and the Caribbean. Dozens of people perished, and many more were displaced from their homes. Some people’s lives will never be the same again.

The truth is that horrifying storms like Harvey and Irma — as well as the earthquake that shook Mexico — reveal the intersections of how natural disasters can impact access to health care, the environment, immigrant communities and folks with low incomes. Here’s how these crises are affecting real people, right now.

Natural disasters = heightened fear for undocumented communities

Donald Trump’s xenophobic plan to end DACA makes Hurricane Harvey even more dangerous for some folks. In Houston, the city with the third largest population of undocumented immigrants, Harvey forced many DACA recipients and mixed-status families to face difficult choices. Already anxious over Trump’s threats of deportation, undocumented people may be even more reluctant to seek out shelter and health care in Harvey’s wake, for fear of being turned away at shelters or facing hostile ICE agents.

The most vulnerable people at risk

Natural disasters affect people with low incomes the most. In Texas and Florida, folks with low incomes are more likely to live in flood-prone areas with deficient infrastructure. This means that evacuating and traveling to get medical assistance is much harder — especially for low-income people with disabilities. There’s an assumption that everyone can and should evacuate when natural disasters happen, but that’s not always possible for everyone. Not everyone can get time off of work, access resources to relocate their family, or find a place to stay.

And in Houston, many families with low incomes live near the city’s oil refineries and petrochemical plants — putting them at risk of contamination, leaks, explosions, and other hazards.

A threat against women’s health

We also can’t forget the danger that natural disasters pose for women. Because of the devastation brought on by Harvey and Irma, women looking for preventive or maternal care and women who need abortions might be blocked from getting help. What’s more, these women could be forced to travel in sometimes dangerous conditions to access the care they need, if they can at all.

In addition, Texas lawmakers have passed medically unnecessary restrictions that have led to health centers closing, jeopardizing women’s health even further. In parts of Texas, some abortion providers offered free safe, legal abortion for survivors of Harvey. But elsewhere, a lot of women don’t have this option.

And it gets worse

Folks with chronic conditions — such as diabetes, endometriosis, or chronic kidney disease — are also at risk. During evacuation, their medications can get lost or destroyed. With dialysis centers, pharmacies, and hospitals closed, there are fewer places for people to get care.

The environment suffers, too

Houston is home to America’s petroleum industry. Significant amounts of flooding spell disaster for those living near chemical factories — and the environment.

With dozens of chemical plants flooding and shutting down due to Harvey, more than one million pounds of toxic pollutants have been released into the air. A flooded factory outside of Houston burst into flames twice, leaking toxic chemicals and sending 15 people to the hospital.

And drinking water — which may have come in contact with sewage systems and contaminated with bacteria like E. coli  — is unsafe to drink in some areas of Houston and Florida. Having safe, healthy environments and clean water is a basic human right, as well as an issue of reproductive rights. Mothers, for example, need clean water to prepare infant formula or to breastfeed their babies.

We stand in solidarity with those affected by Hurricane Harvey and Hurricane Irma

The impact of these natural disasters is personal. Planned Parenthood is an essential health care provider in many of the communities hit hard by these disasters. Several organizations are coming to the aid of those affected by Harvey and Irma. Here’s how you can help:


Hit by: Hurricane Harvey

Help NOW:

  • Volunteer with Planned Parenthood supporters in relief efforts. Already, more than 150 Planned Parenthood supporters assembled 4,000 period kits for Harvey victims in Houston.


Hit by: Hurricane Harvey, Hurricane Irma, Hurricane Katia, earthquake

Help NOW:


Hit by: Hurricane Irma

Help NOW:

  • Volunteer with Planned Parenthood and other coalition partners to help communities that are most vulnerable. Volunteer Anna Eskamani says, “I volunteered with this effort last night to pass out free food, and the Friday before Irma made landfall, I also volunteered with a homeless outreach group to let the homeless know of their shelter options.”
  • Chip in to the Irma Community Recovery Fund to stand with folks in Florida.

U.S. Virgin Islands, Puerto Rico, and the Caribbean

Hit by: Hurricane Harvey, Hurricane Irma

Help NOW:

i think it’s really important to eventually move away from needing the ~validation of “yes of course you’re still sick!!!!” to like …recognizing progress and being able to see that okay no maybe you’re not as sick as u were before…. and that’s good because sick is not the end-game and healthy can’t be an insult forever

I never thought that I’d see this day. If a year ago today you would’ve asked me if I ever thought I’d be happy, I would’ve laughed in your face. However, now I can smile without feeling like my life is one huge acting role I never wanted, but got forced to accept. Now I can see a fulfilling future so bright I bet it could blind my demons. Now, happiness is no longer a pipe dream, it’s reality.
—  Maxwell Diawuoh // Request: Finally finding happiness.

fav things about recovery:

˚✧dessert for breakfast

˚✧lots of snacks

˚✧no bloat, no guilt

˚✧feeling more energetic= more time for self care and hobbies

˚✧i like myself a lot more cuz im nice to me

˚✧i don’t get upset when i try on clothes too small

˚✧positive self talk

˚✧i dont worry about calories/fear foods as much

˚✧im a better friend/person in general

˚✧i feel empowered

Being Bi and trying to find your place in this world can drive you mad at times. I was researching (obsessively thanks to anxiety) different view points on the lgbtq community; religious, personal, mental health professionals a few decades back. I kept asking myself, why am I devoting so much of my time to this. And my answer was, “because I just want to see what society thinks of me.”

I stopped right there and closed my laptop. I have nothing to prove to society. I can care less about what anyone thinks. We shouldn’t have to care.

We find our place in our own heart. Allowing space in our being to love and embrace ourselves.

I’m bi and cute as a button. Talk to the hand society.

all youi do not promote edTHINSPO blogs get the fuck out of my notes and stay away! thinspo disgusts me; i have zero tolerance for people’s fucked-up blogs of bony white chicks and harmful tips and tricks.

if your blog has thinspo, you need to realize your blog negatively affects people. saying you don’t promote eating disorders when you obviously do is hypocritical.