I hope that the next time you’re happy, you won’t get so low when it’s gone. I hope you find something that heals your soul. I hope you trust the universe that it has a plan for your next smile. Because it does. You’ll see.
the girls you read about, the girls you admire and long to be like, the girls that inspire you - they break down. i promise you. hermione granger, malala yousafzai, elizabeth bennet, jo march, katherine johnson - they all have broken down. they have had moments, days, even weeks, where they wanted to give up, to let go, to settle. even if it’s not written in the pages, i promise you that it happened. there is no shame in falling on your knees before you pick up the sword.
you are not weak for breaking down. that is where strength comes from.
25 Relationship Quotes to Get You Through a Breakup
No matter who ended it, why it fell apart, or how long ago it was, getting through the aftermath of a relationship is never an easy task. As you feel the waves of emotions from sadness to anger to relief while your heart heals, let these encouraging words give you the dose of inspiration you need.
For seeing the bright side
“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose is the next best."
– William Makepeace Thackeray
For remembering the bigger picture
"I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?"
– Nicholas Sparks, author
For why you have to cry sometimes
"Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either."
– Golda Meir, politician
For getting through the rough days
"Hearts live by being wounded."
– Oscar Wilde, playwright
For valuing patience
"Only time can heal his heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs."
– Miss Piggy, Muppet
For savoring the transformation
"The dreams break into a million tiny pieces. The dream dies. Which leaves you with a choice: you can settle for reality, or you can go off, like a fool, and dream another dream.”
– Nora Ephron, author
For relishing the good times
“The hottest love has the coldest end."
– Socrates, philosopher
For the motivation to move on
"No matter how hard your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief."
— Faraaz Kazi
For finding the humor
"I never hated a man enough to give his diamonds back."
— Zsa Zsa Gabor, actress
For packing away the tissues
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
— M. Kathleen Casey, politician
For prioritizing your strength
"You can only lose what you cling to."
For the good moments to come
"In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself."
— Deepak Chopra
For the nudge to pull the plug
"You’ve gotta know when it’s time to turn the page.”
— Tori Amos, singer-songwriter
For a lesson in love
“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy moving forward together towards an answer.”
— Denis Waitley, motivational speaker
For unfriending on Facebook
“The most difficult aspect of moving on is accepting that the other person already did."
— Faraaz Kazi, author
For remembering you’re not alone
"I think every girl has that a guy she has trouble letting go of."
— Rashida Jones, actress
For new beginnings
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need."
– Lao Tzu, philosopher
For the best that’s yet to come
"Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny."
— Steve Maraboli, author
For living in the moment
"Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure."
— Oprah Winfrey
For improving your odds
"The best skill at cards is knowing when to discard."
— Baltasar Gracián, philosopher
For being thankful for love
"Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart"
— Washington Irving, author
For being openhearted
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us"
— Alexander Graham Bell, inventor
For the upcoming rainbow
"Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.”
— Paulo Coelho, author
For never settling
“Never love anybody that treats you like you’re ordinary.”
— Oscar Wilde, playwright
For appreciating the bittersweet
“The saddest thing about love, Joe, is that not only the love cannot last forever, but even the heartbreak is soon forgotten.”
Never apologize for not being the same person other’s loved before the trauma. You are allowed to recreate yourself. You are allowed to reinvent your character, your sense of style and your hobbies. You are allowed to redefine your goals, your values and your vision of what makes a fulfilling life. That’s how you transform from being a victim towards becoming the survivor of your dreams.
My mental health problems are real and they are valid. I will not judge myself for the bad days when I can barely get out of bed. I will not make myself feel worse because someone else appears to be handling their mental illness better than I am handling mine. Recovery is not a competition.
But when you’re going through depression, you’ll think it will always be like this. You’ll think it will always be painful. You’ll think it will always be exhausting. You’ll think it will always be lifeless, restless, numbing and soul-crushing. You’ll think that the darkness will always be there until the sun rises in your life again and convinces you that nothing in this life is permanent including your sickness. Time heals all wounds even the invisible ones that feel like madness.
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