I do not like the term fat. I know it is supposed to be neutral and it is used as a descriptor and people use it to reclaim the word. I don't think I am at that stage yet and I don't know if I ever will be. Does that make me a bad big girl? Can I say big instead of fat?
It’s okay to feel that way. Reclaiming the word ‘fat’ means having to deal with our own relationships to our size and the way the world has treated us because of it. Some of our scars are deeper than others and some of us are at places in our journey where that reclamation gives us strength and for others, it will always be painful and hurtful. Some of us have never felt caged or discriminated against personally because of our size. That’s fair and that’s okay. Each of our journeys are different. It does not make you a bad big girl. You are allowed to define who you are.
- Mod Nico