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How to Develop the Functions

Here are some tips to strengthening each of the eight functions. I would suggest strengthening the weaker functions in your stack primarily, and put less focus in on your shadow functions. If you are in a loop, this can be used to develop your auxiliary function. You can also use it to generally develop your tertiary and especially inferior functions if these are weak. Having a developed inferior function can also help prevent you from falling into “the grip”, so it’s good to try to have a good control over all of your functions. 

Extroverted Feeling (Fe): Find a close friend and share how you’re feeling with them. Journal about your feelings and read them over to yourself or someone else. Talk to a therapist if these outlets aren’t enough for you. Reach out a hand to help others out: volunteer, give someone advice, listen to someone talk about their problems. Find groups of people or situations where you can put yourself in the shoes of others so you can develop your empathy skills. Find situations where you are around those you care about. Ask others their opinions on decisions that affect others, and take time before you take action to consider how it will affect the people around you. Ask for affirmation from those closest to you, and remind yourself to give it to others as well. Examine the facial expressions and manners of speaking of those around you and try mimicking them.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Study an area of morality and ethics that interests you, and consider what your viewpoints on the situation are. Consider why humans as a whole or other people in your life do the things that they do, and how morality as a concept even exists. Consider social justice arguments and find one that you have a strong opinion on. Take time to step back and consider how you are feeling, what values you are exerting, what your likes and dislikes are in a certain situation. Consider yourself as an independent, unique individual with a set of morality outside of society. Journal about your feelings. Think about what is important to you in your life and what motivates you personally.

Extroverted Thinking (Te): Try to develop your ability to be assertive: ask for that raise, propose something ambitious, etc. Formulate your ideas into a concrete plan and share them with someone around you. Use data and facts to back up your assertions. Plan an event or other project and focus on the whole over the details. Remember that external organization and structure is necessary in a society, and try to incorporate your skills and plans into one around you. Develop your aura of confidence and consider how others view you in a professional light. Take charge of a project and lead with self-assurance.

Introverted Thinking (Ti): Find some word game, puzzle, riddle, etc. that challenges your intellect and causes you to think. Find something that interests you and research it until you fully understand its intricate details. Have an intellectual debate or discussion. Apply yourself to some hobby or area of study and try to develop your internal sense of discipline and focus. Look at projects and consider the weak points and areas of improvement. Take time to draw back and consider things in an objective light, understanding the situation instead of becoming emotionally influenced. Develop your sense of independence, and work on projects that allow you to use your personal skills and get a sense of personal achievement.  

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Play games or engage in activities that encourage divergent thinking and creativity. Think about some event (general or specific) coming up in the future and imagine all the great things that could happen during it. Surround yourself with people and pieces of art/literature/movies that are creative and exciting. Look at the future as a place of exciting opportunities, not of possible anxieties. Make a bucket list of things you could do in your life that excite you: the crazier, the better. Think about the things that you would want to change in your life. Brainstorm all the possible ways you could do it. Go on a spontaneous adventure with your friends.

Introverted Intuition (Ni): Watch a stranger out in public and try to paint a picture of what type of person they are from the way that they look. Reflect on the underlying themes or symbolism of a book or movie. Look at the overt facts of a situation or how someone is acting and piece them together to try to understand what is actually going on underneath the surface: how they are actually feeling, etc. Take individual pieces of information and concisely bring them together to form one general idea. Project yourself or a situation into the future and try to understand what will most likely come to be. Reflect on why things are the way that they are, even seemingly straightforward things. Follow your gut belief in a situation.

Extroverted Sensing (Se): Find a hobby such as a sport, artistic endeavor, craft, etc. Work with your hands on a project and try to physically understand how something works. Take a walk somewhere in nature or go to a museum and focus on the specific details of the beauty around you. Listen to music and try to pay attention to the individual sounds. Remember to live in the moment and experience life as it is happening around you. Do something spontaneous and crazy with your friends. Take a step back and remember to take things for as they are, and not to overanalyze anything. Think about the things that you want to or need to do this moment and go do some of them.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Take out old photos and try to place yourself in the emotions and experience of when you were there. Go visit a place of old memories or watch a movie you loved as a child. Re-start up an old family tradition. Create some sort of routine in your life to give you a bit of reassurance and organization. Appreciate the simple things in life and seek the unassuming nature of contentment. Reflect on the lessons you have learned in a situation once it has passed. Realize that not all mistakes need to be made, and that sometimes it is better to stick with what is safe.

Cara mamma, caro papà, caro fidanzato, o chiunque, non importa. Sai cosa? Sono stanca. Stanca. Ma non tanto per dirlo, non tanto per fare sceneggiate, ma perché lo sento davvero. Ormai sono giorni che sto sola, a casa, sembro un cane abbandonato. Tornate e vi scordate di me, che ci sono anch'io sopra in stanza, che magari un po’ di attenzioni non mi farebbero del male. Mi guardate negli occhi… ma lo notate o no? Lo notate che sono di una tristezza unica, che vorrei andarmene, oppure no? Eh, mi sa che siete analfabeti. Cari tutti, ne ho le palle piene.

anonymous asked:

Is it common for enfp's to act more introverted when they feel no one wants to hear what they have to say? I've gotten much more quiet lately because no one will have substantial conversations with me anymore. My personality is also often beaten down

Yes, this is very normal.  Our Primary Function is Ne (external intuition) and it is how we take in information from the world around us.  But our Auxiliary Function is Fi (introverted feeling) and that is how we process that information.

So if you are spending a lot of time with your Auxiliary Function in this situation that is not a bad thing.  As we grow we learn to use both Primary and Auxiliary in tandem.  Together they create a balanced approach to the world.  And how your question is phrased tells me this is where you are at.  You are critically examining the negative messages you are receiving and rejecting them.

There is always the chance that you are slipping into our inferior function Si (introverted sensing).  But I really believe if that were the case you would be talking instead about how good the relationships used to be or trying to isolate yourself so you could find some structure and make sense out of what you are being told.  You would be trying to figure out how to change yourself to better fit the scenario that is being presented to you.

Also, you really should limit the amount of time you are spending with these people anyway.  If you have any chance to break off these harmful relationships to build new ones, I wholeheartedly encourage you to do this.  If these are people that you cannot choose whether or not you interact with, then definitely minimizing the time you are around them will be beneficial to your health.  

And if you are starting to feel very isolated, remember that your great strength is seeing endless possibilities in the world around you.  You can use your Primary Function in ways unrelated to people.  Try visiting a museum or going to a play or finding some way to open your world so you feel less isolated while you are going through this.

Not only will they help you remain emotionally healthy, they might help you to forge new and healthier relationships.

- J