oh! um- well… I GUESS HERE WE GO. LONG POST IS LONG:
1. what is your sexuality?
2. what gender do you identify as?
3. how long have you been aware of your sexuality/gender?
It has been a long journey, that started with me thinking I was bisexual (but picky!) in highschool to me thinking I was pansexual (but homoromantic!) in college to me watching the “Battle of Times Square” scene in Ghostbusters last year and realizing I will never actually be attracted to a man when I have seen the one true light of lesbianism.
Gender-wise, I did some soul-searching in college when a lot of my friends finally felt safe enough to transition, and other than an unhealthy obsession with beard-growing, I’m good out here as a chick. 👌✨
4. do you have any preferences?
Girls who look like they could kill me with their bare hands, if they wanted to, but really just want to gently comb their fingers through my hair.
5. share a positive memory about coming out!
I don’t really have any. I don’t really “come out” to straight people anymore because the one time I did, the friend I told immediately asked if I was attracted to/going to hit on her.
6. how do you feel about pride month?
We should all be given the whole month off paid and trans/genderqueer/NB people should get an additional $1000 cash.
(I like it.)
7. do you participate in pride related events? any other events?
I get a cold or something happens every June where I don’t feel up to going to Pride, but like HOPEFULLY THIS YEAR? (Baby’s first Pride at 25 is gonna be WEIRD. Someone hold my hand.)💦
8. how do you feel about lgbtq roles in media?
I WANT MORE. I WANT THEM ALL. EVERYONE IS GAY.
9. do you feel pride in who you are?
Yeah, I really like who I am and I’m proud of what I had to go through to get here. I like that things feel right in my life, for once.
10. who has been your supportive idols in your self discovery?
Looking back, Karolina Dean and Xavin from Runaways were some of the first gays to really have an impact on my life. When Xavin starts IDing as female it like… struck a chord with me about their relationship. I was just like, “yeah that feels right.”
Hannah Hart was a BIG DEAL for me and meeting her was so nice. It’s so great to see an openly lesbian woman being real and kind and succeeding. Watching her evolve and grow over time has been amazing. Also, that bod now, like omg Harto-san, you have become your true self and that self is making me BLUSH.
Rebecca Sugar is weirdly important to me, being in the animation industry, myself. Like… it’s so good, seeing her make a show about girls loving other girls after BEING PERSONALLY TOLD that gay content was inappropriate for children while I was in school. Noelle Stevenson and the crew on Lumberjanes are similar, because you get told you can’t make queer content for kids by the old guard. That it won’t sell, that it CAN’T sell in certain markets and that kids won’t get it. All I can think of is that HAD I known at 7 that girls can like girls maybe I would’ve asked Emma out after class and my life would be different. I don’t want that to keep happening to little girls and I’m so glad that people like Rebecca and Noelle exist.
@yamino and@summerlightning are like… life goals and wife goals. I’ve been following them for years and sometimes I just think how I’d want like EXACTLY their lives. Make gay webcomics with my pretty wife. That’s all I want to do. (Hey, read their comic @sisterclaire, it’s gay af, you’ll love it.)
Hayley Kiyoko is a biracial sapphic queen and I love her and she is so nice and genuine and she gives GREAT HUGS. She sings songs about girls who like girls and they’re GOOD SONGS. Not just like campy gender-ambiguous low-budget stuff. She makes… god, her music videos. And I have met this small human and been to her concerts and the feeling of love and safety around that night was LIFE ALTERING.
(Also, can we talk about how that’s the flag I gave her hanging up on stage behind her and how much I love her and still cry about that? See question #26 for that story.)
Kate McKinnon, see #3 for the latest in Eevachu self-discoveries. She’s just… SHE’S REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME. She’s famous and she’s weird and she’s out there playing big roles as an openly lesbian woman. She got me through 2016, which was honestly, THE FUCKING WORST. And she helped me accept that I can be a lesbian and still succeed.
BASICALLY, I WANNA SEE ALL THE SAPPHIC WOMEN SUCCEED, SO THAT I THINK I CAN SUCCEED AND FEEL SAFE DOING SO. REPRESENTATION MATTERS.
12. what sort of advice to have you lgbtq teens?
Your parents are just people and one day, you’ll be better than them. You are strong, and you will find the people you are meant to be your people. You’re going to evolve and change throughout your whole life. Don’t be all tumblr witchhunt-y; people make mistakes and grow. Adults barely have any idea what they’re doing, we’ve just done it more.
13. have you come out to friends and family?
Like occasionally? I only formally “come out” to other gays, so that we may huddle together like penguins in a storm of heternormativity.
14. how do you feel about the term “coming out” ?
I don’t like that it’s made to seem like such a huge deal and that it’s a one time thing. Like… it’s such a pain and you have to do it over and over again and then all the straight people in the room get WEIRD ABOUT IT and you’re now the outsider and the feeling fucking SUCKS. I just don’t like that it’s a thing. The actual term is fine for what it is, since I don’t have a solutions otherwise.
15. do you believe there is a “closet” to come out of?
Yeah, and it sucks that people feel unsafe enough that they have to be in one.
16. any tips on coming out?
I am literally the worst person to ask about this because I just like… don’t. lol I let people figure it out. Non-queers love testing out their “gaydar.”
17. what’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to lgbtq characterization in media?
Lesbians for the male gaze. HEY BUDDY, LITERALLY THE OPPOSITE POINT OF LESBIANISM. NO BOYS ALLOWED.
18. what’s your favorite parts of lgbtq characterization in media?
When queer people get to play queer characters and make their own queer stories and I get to sit there and cry because it’s so GENUINE AND GOOD.
19. what did your teachers say about the lgbtqa community in school?
Well, my animation teachers would low key be like that won’t sell (see that thing I said about Rebecca Sugar in #10). But I had a gay/straight alliance in highschool, so it was fine.
20. do you practice safe sex with the same gender?
At this point, I would probably practice any sex with the same gender. (But yes, please.)
21. what’s an absolute turn off for you in the opposite/same gender?
I don’t really like traditional butch/femme role types and I’m not into really masculine ladies. I like girls who are flexible with their gender expression like I am.
22. what’s an absolute turn on for you in the opposite/same gender?
I am a sucker for a strong independent femme in heels that would love to smash the patriarchy and then smash me.
23. how do you feel about lgbtq clubs/apps/websites?
I wish there were good ones and that I had time to find them or had a senior-qualified gay to tell me where they are in Toronto. WHERE ARE THEY???
25. how does you country view the lgbtq community?
Pictured: Justin Trudeau, the Prime Minister at a pride parade.
On the surface, it’s pretty good. We also have to be careful because there are just some dirtbag conservatives waiting for us to get complacent and take away our rights. Currently, there’s a huge fucking thing about a trans right bill, so I’ve gotten to see which of my family member’s are absolute scum.
They’re here, they hate queers, but they’re usually drunk uncles.
26. favorite lgbtq actor/actress?
Hi, yes, hello, haaaaave you met Flat Kate? (see question #10)
Also, Hayley Kiyoko, because like…
…BIG GAY FLAG STORY TIME. So I went to her concert in Toronto this spring and I had everyone outside the venue that I could leave messages on it for her. All of the messages were so funny and heartfelt and there were so many baby gays at the concert and my old gay heart grew 3 sizes that day because they were there with friends and their parents and I was just SO HAPPY AND PROUD.
Then I meet Hayley because bitch splurged on VIP tickets. She gives the best hugs, and she took the time with fans and she was so genuinely happy to be there. We had a great talk and I was just thanking her for being her and doing what she do. And if you know me, you know how important it is that there’s biracial representation and she like got that. And then I give her the flag, which I had drawn on because I’M THAT KID and she’s saying how she’s gonna treasure it and read all of them and I’m like dying and trying not to openly WEEP.
Then I get into the concert which is ALL SAPPHICS, so I’m like the most comfortable that I have ever been in my entire life. Then the sound guys are setting up and they PULL OUT MY FLAG. Now, everyone knew me from when I had gotten people to write messages on the BIG GAY FLAG (”COME SIGN MY BIG GAY FLAG” is what I had been screaming), so when this flag comes out all the girls around me are like, “Girl, that’s your big gay flag.” And then I ASCENDED TO THE ASTRAL PLANE AND IT WAS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE.
27. any tips for heterosexual and/or cisgender people on how to handle lgbtq events/news?
Don’t fucking make it about you. You aren’t the centre of the goddamn universe. No, you aren’t hearing about “gay news” too much for how many of us there are.
29. how do you feel about receiving questions about your sexuality/gender?
I’m cagey about it. It always feels so uncomfortable when it’s non-queer people asking. Queer people asking is fine and we can have a good dialogue usually, but cishet people treat me like I’m a novelty and it’s gross sometimes.
Like… dyke is tired, I don’t have time to give you the Introduction to LGBTQ+ class.
Boom Studio Panel at Comic Con with Rebecca Sugar, Coleman Engle, and Noelle Stevenson with other pics from Comic Con 2014. I really wish the first photos came out clearer, overall though it was great meeting and talking with them. ( Should have posted these sooner but got carried away by some other stuff and totally forgot to post more photos of comic con).