Hi! So I'm quite new to the community and I'm in a bit of a tough situation. My ex girlfriend agreed to be a cg for me but only did it out of obligation and never really did anything to help me. And I don't have a good routine for when I'm in little space and tough therapy sessions are making it hard to manage without a cg. Any tips?
Well, I have the same problem sometimes because my cg is sometimes gone for days at a time, so I hope I help out!
For mornings, make sure you start off with some water! (It’s been a while since you’ve drank! A couple hours at least, right?) Then you need to get some breakfast, a little something. It doesn’t have to be too big if you’re not really hungry in the mornings. Then you’ll have to brush your teeth and take a shower if you’re a morning showerer. Then get dressed and ready for the day! (If it’s a stay-at-home day, then just get some comfy lounging clothes on!
You also need to eat some lunch midday. Make sure you eat a balanced meal. There are many guides out there on the internet. You could even have different containers and put different things from different food groups in each of them and take them out randomly and prepare them as needed. (Tip: To motivate yourself to continue using this, put a piece of candy in each of the containers. Then you get a piece of candy for eating well! But make sure you pick another one out of that container so you’re not missing out on the nutrients you need!)
You also need to remember dinner. I would do the same as for the lunch. :) Just make sure you’re getting a balanced meal and you’re getting the nutrients you need!
Please remember that you need to drink! I recommend the app Plant Nanny because you get to help a little plant grow just by drinking a good amount of water! It’s free and it sends notifications to remind you to drink so you can help take care of yourself and the plant that you choose. (You can even name it!!)
At the end of the day, you need to make sure that you drink some water about an hour beforehand and go to the bathroom because you don’t want to wake up in the middle of the night having to go potty. Take a shower if you’re a night showerer, brush your teeth, and turn on a nightlight if you need one. (Warning: Using fairy lights are actually worsening the quality of your sleep! If you’re using them, wear a sleep mask!) A soft light or a light set on a timer to turn off is best! Cuddle up with stuffies and a blankie and go nini!
I hope this has helped you! Remember to give yourself time to regress if you can and if you need to! Play with stuffies, color, watch cartoons, whatever makes you feel regressed!
the first thing i want to say is… i think the best thing for you at this time is to recover from that messy situation and make time all for yourself. do things the way you like, focus on self-care, and get back on track so that when you do start looking for a cg again, you’ll be in a much clearer and better state of mind to do so! think about things you want in a partner/cg, so that you’ll be able to find the right one for you instead of settling for someone who clearly can’t do/doesn’t want to do those things.
i understand how tough therapy is. it’s part of the reason i regress, but we won’t get into that. building a routine is certainly is good idea. check out this post mod lynn made for more on that ~!
good luck and feel better! if you need anything else, don’t hesitate to message us~ 💛
- mod euphie