Tbh it’s a little annoying when you see people obsessing over marriage like it’s all great. Marriage is hard. Don’t go into it thinking you guys are going to spend 24/7 holding hands and cuddling. You need to work to provide for yourselves, which creates a distance between the both of you. Sometimes you will only have one day a week to spend with each other, which you will probably want to spend catching up on rest. Don’t get married and plan a pregnancy years into your marriage, because you’re still ‘not ready’, the unexpected is very likely to occur.
I know, everything is so great when you first get married, when it’s all new and the both of you are exploring one another and sharing intimate details with each other, but it only takes a few months for that infatuation phase to pass, and then reality hits. You will still have rough patches, you will still have lonely nights, you will still cry and hurt, don’t expect that to leave you once you’re married.
But don’t misinterpret this, marriage is nice, it can be great, but it takes effort to build it to your liking. It takes sacrificed time and lots of energy to be there for one another and help each other through these difficult times, despite how tired you are from working a 13hr shift. It takes compassion and mercy, letting it slide because they’re tired. It’s being thoughtful, listening and communicating, understanding what they want and surprising them. It’s the little things that are so precious, when they remembered you saying you liked a certain thing and went out of their way to get it. It’s having support and an extra pair of hands. It’s loving each other, flaws and all.
When you can make the most of having the least, because you have each other. That’s marriage.