realistic body image

Dru isn't "fat", PLEASE DO NOT BEAT ME UP

A lot of people are aging Dru is “fat”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to body shame, I just think the word has a different meaning than the context it’s being used in. “Fat” to me implies body fat, the actual physical way the body stores extra calories. Someone who works out, more specifically the way Shadowhunters do because their job is so physically demanding, is not going to be “fat”. I know it was addressed in the book (I don’t remember this having sped through the book in a day and a half) that Dru considered herself fat despite the fact that she trains like a shadowhunter, but aren’t we only getting Dru’s perspective here? (Correct me if I’m wrong, please I’d truly love to know where someone else [besides effing Zara or one of her sleaze ball companies] besides Dru specifically calls her “fat”, not heavy or curvy but fat). Seeing that we are getting an insecure thirteen year old’s opinion of her body can we agree it’s not going to be “accurate”. We obviously know that since Dru already thinks herself fat and not proudly that she has low body image. In return that means of course she’s going to think she’s “fat”, that doesn’t mean she is. For instance, I feel awkward trying blouses on because I have no boobs. Does that mean the shirt I’m wearing actually looks bad on me because of the way I perceive it hanging horridly on my body from the lack of cleavage I have? No, in all honesty it looks fine and you can’t really even notice it. But when I look down I see where extra room for boobies was sewn into the shirt and I think it looks weird and obvious. Dru however thinks the exact opposite of her body, every curve stands out to her ten times more than it does. Plus not only is she naturally curvy, she’s physically mature for her age. At thirteen she’s in bigger gear than other girls her age. How can you expect her not to think she’s fat? As far as I’m concerned though no one else (of importance, meaning Zara or other mean thirteen year old shadowhunter girls) think Dru’s “fat”.

Dru’s Shadowhunters wiki page reads: “Dru has the Blackthorns’ signature dark brown hair and blue-green eyes. She is quite tall for her age—nearly the same height as Cristina, despite being five years younger than her. As a child, she was already compact, expected to grow to be curvy unlike her mostly lanky siblings. Her body has since already gone through puberty early, showing off her curves to the point where Dru, at thirteen, has been mistaken for seventeen or eighteen years old by mundane boys. This has made her very self-conscious about her body because unlike most Shadowhunters who are wiry or muscular, she is round-bodied and doesn’t fit into the gear designed for girls in her age group.”

Tell me that doesn’t sound like every other teenage girl with body image problems plus the fact that she’s different added on top of it. If you’ve actually made it this far into my post, hopefully you know bashing any sort of body image pride you’ve built up through this “Dru is fat” thing, because positive body image is hella important and you keep using Dru or whoever else as your inspiration or whatever else you’re using her as (as long as it’s good). I’m just saying, maybe you and I have a different understanding of the word “fat” and it just so happens that the way you’re using it is bothering me. Because maybe I think that Dru’s importance isn’t that she’s “fat” it’s that she realistically represents how low body image feels like and I think she’ll serve as a lesson that how you see yourself isn’t how everyone else sees you and you need to learn to love yourself. #Druisnotfatpleasedonotbeatmeup

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Comic Book Women With Realistic Bodies Are The Heroines We Need

Yes, comic book heroines are supposed to have powers that are out of this world, but the illustrations of their bodies could definitely be brought down to Earth.

A creative team working with Bulimia.com, a website dedicated to providing information and support systems to those struggling with eating disorders, decided to transform covers of comic books depicting popular female – and male – characters and give our favorite heroes more realistic bodies.

See more of your favorite comic book heroes with realistic body’s including Rogue and Captain America, 

I had a dream I was pretty
When I stared at the mirror it didn’t crack
Rather glowed
When I woke up I wished to go back.

I had a dream that men were kind
They were handsome, stoic, brave, and fine
When I woke up I knew I had lost my mind

I had a dream that life was exciting
Cinematic, beautiful, and enticing
The lights were brighter, world was lighter
There were costumes that held magic
Plots that held tragic
And when it did, you would always know there would be a happily ever after
When I woke up I wished to go back

Because dreams project the reality we wished we had
To be pretty, to be loved, validated and spoken of
Yet what do we do when be realize we have none of the above?
We wake up and wish to go back

reasons why you should read “the girl of fire and thorns” by rae carson as soon as humanly possible:

  • yo what up most feminist book series in ya literature since the dawn of tamora pierce holy shit
  • features a poc cast that closely lines up with latin@s but it’s a fantasy world so not exactly
  • almost every single person is poc, the ones who are not are the bad guys this is super important
  • main character is very overweight in the beginning of the story and it’s the most realistic depiction of body image issues i’ve ever read
  • fantasy series you guys
  • eventually the main character loses weight BUT it’s earned and she doesn’t become automatically skinny, she’s still large but is super proud of her efforts in gaining muscle
  • i seriously want to emphasize this because she’s still “overweight” compared to other body types but she is healthy and that distinction matters so damn much
  • this main character’s name is elisa btw
  • she’s a “chosen one” but it’s not a surprise to her, she was raised with that knowledge and on some level it fucks her up
  • she’s got nerves of steel
  • character development what the hell so much character development
  • so she’s a princess, and gets married off in the first chapter on her motherfucken 16th birthday to secure an alliance
  • except was that the reason tho
  • CONSPIRACIES ABOUND
  • there’s a religious element but it’s much closer to fantasy than like christian lit not that there’s anything wrong with that but if religion in your young adult reading makes you uncomfortable don’t even sweat it
  • also the religious stuff is closely linked with QUESTION AUTHORITY/history was written by the winners
  • court intrigue, war, espionage, magic, destiny v. choice, romance
  • hold up lemme tell you about this romance thing
  • the “love triangle” gets resolved by the end of book 1 and i won’t spoil you but dude, seriously, rae carson is takes some risks here
  • romance is also secondary to the characters
  • elisa always puts her job/duty/responsibility first and thinks with her head because she’s busy BUT she also takes control of her sexuality it is perfect she is perfect
  • btw did i mention she’s extra smart? tactician and politician and when she’s wrong she admits her mistakes
  • lots of ladies
  • nuanced, varied cast of ladies operating in shades of grey, all strong in their own ways and not afraid to show it
  • holy shit the ladies and their badass selves
  • queens everywhere! you get a queen, you get a queen, look under your seats, everybody gets a queen
  • guys as soon as you read this series we are talking about elisa and cosme and mara and alodia and did i leave some ladies out yes i did because there are lots of ladies and i love all of them
  • also hector, we are going to talk about hector
  • it is sacrilege to read this book and not talk about sir hector, captain of the king’s guard okay

i will stand a top a mountain and sing praises of this series until i die it is fantastic. if you follow me you will know to trust me on this, do yourself a favor and change your life for the better

anonymous asked:

Thoughts on Demi Lovato (and her recent stuff with criticizing mermaid fanart and saying Taylor Swift and her friends don't have normal bodies)? You've always come across (at least to me) as someone who cares deeply about issues like mental health and body image, so I'd love to know your opinion on this matter.

Okay, as soon as I read this, I looked this up because I wasn’t aware of the context in which this story unfolded. Now that I have done my research, I have a few thoughts (and you are extremely correct in labeling me as someone who is an advocate for speaking out about feminism, body image, mental health etc). 

Overall, I think Demi Lovato, although I don’t listen to her music, is a GREAT positive role model for young girls. She’s overcome a lot of darkness in her life, she has a healthy looking body, she promotes “realistic” skin/body images on the reg and she’s very outspoken about healthy feminism. But when it comes to the issue of the Mermaid fan art, I think she could have held her tongue. That guy spent literally hours making this beautiful picture of her and she felt the need to call him out for making her boobs look a little bigger? This kind of commentary makes sense when magazines photoshop what are meant to be actual representation’s of celebrities to make them look thinner, or “better” in some way. This even happened to Rowan Blanchard, when a magazine changed her smile because, at the ripe old age of 12, her teeth weren’t completely straight and grown in quite yet(She responded like the queen she is by the way, simply saying “If I can accept and love my flaws, so can you. Slay, Ro). But a fan, trying to do something beautiful for you? To make them feel ashamed of his craft? Kind of gross to me. 

With her speaking out against “Taylors squad” not being realistic body images for girls, at the core of it all, I guess she’s technically right. Girls see those models and think that’s what a man wants, and that’s what we have to look like, and that is what defines “sexy”, when in reality that’s so far from the case (women are beautiful NO MATTER what body shape they are and that’s not even a little bit dependent on a man’s opinon, but guys do like curves on a girl, trust me.) With that said, I’ve been a fan of Taylor Swift for a pretty long time and she has ALWAYS been stick skinny like that. Sometimes it’s just genetics, it’s not about throwing up  your dinner in the bathroom. And as long as she’s not advocating that everyone should look like her, then there’s really no sense in saying anything about it. In some ways, that’s body shaming in and of itself. 

I DO however, agree with her accusations of Taylor Swift tearing down a fellow celebrity (Katy Perry). What Swift did with the video for “Bad Blood” is absolutely NOT what feminism is about. I mean hey, you can write about whatever you want, you can sing about whoever you want, but what you CAN’T do is then go ahead and preach the idea that you are promoting some twisted sense of feministic unity by doing so. She made it quite obvious who she was singing about, proceeded to villianize Katy Perry (who I don’t even like, but that’s not the point), and then make a video that literally has women fighting each other and label it as feminism.. It’s unbelievably hypocritical. But that seems to be the standard for Swift these days, as she went on a rampage about Kanye using her name in one line of his songs, when all of her songs are about fellow celebrities and she markets them that way, in order to make profit and gain interest. 

Bottom line: Feminism is about supporting other women, loving other woman and being each other’s backbone in this patriarchal society that we face. Does that mean you have to love every female you meet? Absolutely not, but you need to respect them. Is Taylor Swift respecting all women when she makes millions of dollars off of music videos where women break off into opposing “squads” and beat each other up? Is Taylor Swift loving all other women when she’s calling Amy Pohler and Tina Fey out, claiming that “there is a special place in hell for women who tear other women down” and then proceed to do exactly that in her own artistic endeavors? 

I mean, Amy Pohler and Tina Fey are fucking rockstars who are the epitome of what a strong, bold, brave, feministic woman needs to be in this world. They are the ones that are paving the way for our future female geernations, by being heavy hitters in comedy, which is such a male dominated and phallocentric sector of Hollywood. They are proving on the daily that girls can do anything men can do. Taylor Swift should be praising these woman, not sending out hateful social media posts about them. 

But I digress. I could ramble on about this for hours. Feminists need to remember that in order to change the patriarchal dichotomy our society has set up for us, we not only need to fix the problems with men, but the problems with women as well. Feminism is not about hating men, and it’s not about finding your “squad” and then profiting off of that trademark. Feminism means your squad is ALL women, and ALL men who support the endeavors we as a gender have decided to stand up against. Feminism is standing united with those who have vowed to fight this fight with us. When we start rating “who is the better feminist”, we all lose. 

I’m glad the females in yg has realistic body image. I used to feel so bad about myself because I kept comparing myself to females from groups like snsd, girls day, mamamoo, miss a and so much more. They are so thin, has long legs, thin arms and basically perfect everything. I just love how the females in yg actually have realistic a realistic average body. Especially CL, Leehi, Suhyun and Jang Hanna.

I love my little brother.

So the other day we were shopping with my mom, and we walked through the underwear section. He’s looking around with disgust on his face, so I ask him what’s up, expecting some snotty answer about how girls are “gross” or whatever. He says, “It’s the models. They all look the same. It’s so unrealistic.”

CAN WE ALL JUST GIVE THIS LITTLE DUDE A ROUND OF APPLAUSE

😭😭😭😍😍😍😍😍 my tshirt finally came!

The media, using unrealistic images of children [see: using 16-25 year old actors to portray young children or teens] and highly sexualized child models, successfully brainwashes children into thinking they should look a certain way, or be sexually desirable at increasingly younger ages.

Children [especially young girls] as young as 6 years old are struggling with negative feelings toward their body image.

A while ago, my baby sister [who was 5-7 at the time] came to me, upset, asking if she had an “hourglass figure”. My other baby sister [10-12] worries if she is thin enough to be desirable.

NO child should be made to worry about those things. Small children are often shaped like lima beans, with fat little tummies, and that’s A-ok.

Kids need to be protected from the negative images and ideals pushed by the media.

So, I started #PROTECTTHELIMABEANS. Protect and support realistic childrens’ body images!!