real life role model

  • <p> <b>anon question:</b> What do you look for in a guy?<p/><b>lemme-holla-at-you:</b> A smart, loyal, honest and funny guy who knows what his priorities are in life and is prepared to work hard, together with me, to accomplish all of our goals we have in life.<p/><b>anon:</b> so not a cute face or body??<p/><b>lemme-holla-at-you:</b> A cute face or body won’t raise my children.<p/><b></b> Ladies, and gentlemen, THIS IS THE REAL QUEEN.<p/></p>
Comments on child!Hux.

Some responses that I would like to signal-boost, to a post that asserts Hux has always been evil incarnate, and his behavior as a small child in Empire’s End s proof.

@reserve said:

1) I am inherently skeptical of [this post’s] interpretive merits because OP has stated on several occasions that they truly dislike Hux.

2) I am skeptical of anyone who denies the idea that abusive behavior is learned behavior. Children raised by parents who value violence and control over affection and nurturing will most likely suffer some level of maladjustment. [… Children] are not held accountable for their behavior as a predictive measure for their future selves.  

3) This post wildly misses the point that Armitage Hux is terrified of these children, nearly on the verge of tears, and shaking as he makes this command. He clearly hopes to assert some small, self-protective authority and ensure that he’s not about to be murdered by a trained gang of murder orphans. He is wildly outnumbered, and they are much bigger than him. He responds in a way that a) he was likely taught, and b) that seeks to assuage his fear.

4) Hux feels a strange and sinister buzz of excitement because he has never felt powerful before. This feeling is entirely new to him. Again, I’m not saying that it won’t define his future actions, but I am saying that exerting control when you’ve always been stripped of it, and taking pleasure in that, does not a future sadist make. Maybe it was formative, sure, but Hux has been told his entire very short life that he is weak and useless, and that’s canon. And welp, here is he, showing his canonically abusive father that he is not weak, that he is not useless. Just saying.

5) Rae Sloane, a grown woman, and a seriously high ranking imperial official, is afraid of these very same children. Tell me again that they are Hux’s peers.

PS: OP fails to mention that HUX IS FIVE YEARS OLD.

@sleepyowlet said:

I’d like to add that most five year olds have no concept of morality yet. It’s downright silly to expect them to know right from wrong, especially in extreme situations.

Also here we go again with the realistic villains/unrealistic heros thing - Rey and Finn are written with just as horrible backstories, but they are never tarnished. they came out of horrid circumstances as normal, well-adjusted people with functioning moral compasses (that kind of thing doesn’t happen. It just doesn’t; these things need to be taught). The more realistically written villains (Kylo and Hux) look twice as bad in contrast.

It all boils down to the good old portrayal of mentally ill people as monsters.

@illusion9 said:

Those children could kill without batting their eyes, but no one will comment them as “naturally evil” since they certainly  had been taught so. Then a five-year-old  who had been scared into tears by them is judged to be “evil out of his own choice”. Ironic comparison.

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anonymous asked:

What would happen if the paladin+ Allura and Coran, finding and abandoned baby galra? How would they handle the situation if they became their new mom/dad?

tag urself i’m allura

Shiro is a little wary at first; for the most part, Galrans had been nothing but trouble for him since the Kerberos mission. In the end, he takes his duty as a father, even as an adoptive one, seriously because this is a real life and it’s important. The Best Role Model™.

Keith has no idea what to do. He’s spent limited time around young children, so he doesn’t have a lick on how to function. It takes him a little bit of time to come around to the idea of actually raising this being, albeit with a sprinkle of persuading from the rest of the team. Despite popular Team Voltron belief, Keith is a good father.

Hunk “I really don’t know what to do, but I’m adopting immediately” Garrett. He hardly questions it, taking the tiny Galran into his heart and warms up to it instantly. He makes sure to raise it with good intentions, teaching it from right and wrong, good and bad. He tells the child about its real family, but it’s okay if they want to stay with the team because he knows it’s the only life this adopted child has ever known. Literally teaches the kid all of his recipes.

Lance dies. All the time. Nobody else was stepping up to raise the baby, probably just out of spite so they could laugh at the Cuban’s misfortune. Much to their hilarious plan, he’s actually a wonderful father that teaches his child everything he knows: fighting, reading, piloting, etc. Will support his kid no matter what. 10/10 marriage material tbh.

Pidge literally screamed. They’re only a child themselves and can hardly take care of themselves, so how am I supposed to raise a baby? Ah, come on guys. Help me out here. The team helps them out, just because of their age. They have trouble balancing raising this child of their enemy and piloting the green lion, but they manage it somehow. A great mom/dad who learns to love and accept people no matter their differences, and loves this tiny Galra child just the same.

Allura had a million red flags go up when the responsibility was passed onto her; after all, her biggest enemy was the Galra and here was this small baby, hardly even a year old. Her biggest problem is getting over her bias to actually raise the child, but once she is reminded many times that not everyone is bad, she starts. She’s practically a mother to the paladins (and Coran), so she’s an excellent one to this child. She teaches them about Galran and Altean history, but tells them that after raising them for so long, she loves them no matter who they are. 10000/10 great mother i want her to adopt me too tbh.

Coran is an absolute mess. He tried to find out who dropped the baby on their metaphorical doorstep and why, but couldn’t dig up anything. Honestly, Coran had the least amount of responsibility on the ship; Shiro, Keith, Lance, Hunk, and Pidge all trained to pilot their lions better, and Allura was always directing their missions among other aspects of the team, so theoretically, this was Coran’s newest job. Admittedly, he isn’t the best father out there, but he tries his hardest and does what he can. The two often watch the paladins goof around in the training arena or help Allura when assisting on missions, as Coran taught them a lot about battle techniques and tactics. All in all, Coran for dad of the year for teaching them about all they need to know on the light side of the Voltron fight???

be someone George Blagden would be proud of

anonymous asked:

I'm sad to hear that people identify themselves with characters . I think these characters are just for fun . Kinda digital dolls association with them is problematic, wish your anon all the best in her future and and her loss is big losing parents in any age is painful especially as a kid but I wish she finds a a way and better role model to identify herself a real life one .

Well said.

tapehook  asked:

I don't think Anita Sarkeesian's videos should be treated as an extension of the PMRC mindset. She's pointing out misogynistic tropes in video games, not advocating censorship. I mean hell, she starts her first video in the series saying that even though she's pointing out problematic aspects of games, that doesn't mean those games shouldn't be played or enjoyed. I don't understand why she's getting as much flack as she is.

Anita is getting flack because she’s an ignorant outsider. I’m not even a gamer, and this is apparent to me.

Whether you agree the content Anita showcases is misogynistic, offensive or not, most of her videos function on the same, flawed premise: That the negative gender stereotypes she finds in these games are harmful to the gamers that play them. She argues that these games somehow ingrain negative gender stereotypes in the individuals that play. They hurt women via perpetuating these stereotypes, essentially.

This is pure, unsubstantiated BS. Anita would never fund an actual study with the tens of thousands of dollars she’s raised, because she knows any such study wouldn’t work in her favor. It’s easier to buy a bunch of video games, cherrypick the most offensive parts for ignorant viewers, and then keep the rest of the money for yourself and your organization, right?

You’ve gotta wake up to the truth: Anita’s videos are about as effective and as enlightening as an elementary school screening of Reefer Madness

Media—especially popular media—reflects already-existing norms, ideas, concepts, and sentiments in a society, it doesn’t dictate them to consumers. Slasher flicks don’t make serial killers. Grand Theft Auto doesn’t increase the probability of shooting sprees. Gangsta rap doesn’t create gangs. The game Bully doesn’t create bullies. Reading 50 Shades of Grey probably doesn’t increase the likelihood of the reader getting tied up and whipped for sexual pleasure either.

If EA Games were to somehow create and sell a video game titled Mysogyny: Women Suck, the only people who would buy and enjoy such a game would be individuals who already agreed with the game’s clearly stated ideology. Anyone else buying and enjoying the game probably just dabbles in whatever fantasy the game presents during gameplay only. 

The probability of this game somehow CREATING a misogynist is about as likely as your local library’s copy of Mein Kampf creating a Nazi. Any such result would be minuscule if charted in a study of any sort.

As a kid, teen, and adult, I’ve been exposed to TONS of media that has displayed women as the weaker, more submissive, and more sexually desirable gender. However, this is not something I feel is reality. Why? Strong female role models, good upbringing, friends, family, amazing wife, and plenty of real-life interactions with women. FUCK A VIDEO GAME! A healthy reality ALWAYS trumps a fantasy. 

If you really want to change hearts and minds when it comes to gender roles in society, you’ve got to work on changing that society’s reality, not its media—especially media that so explicitly deals in fantasy. I know we tend to blame the media for a lot of our ills, but your real-life interactions and role models play a larger role in guiding your moral and social outlook than any music, movie, game, or book you’ll ever consume.

Anita is on the most foolish of errands, but y’all are eating it up like a hot pizza. Looking for positive gender roles in a game like Hitman is like looking for positive gender roles in any of the three Expendables films. There’s nothing applicable to real life in Hitman because the game’s not meant to guide anyone through real life. It’s a violent video game, not a dating advice show. There aren’t a whole lotta healthy social norms in the game because it’s not meant to portray any sort of normality.

NOW DON’T GET IT TWISTED: I do understand that violent, male-pandering video games persist in the video game industry. They make a lot of money, yes. And I completely acknowledge that a lot of what’s in games like Hitman, Manhunt, and Grand Theft Auto isn’t exactly, uh, healthy when it comes to the gender roles displayed. There’s a definitely a lack of female leading roles in many games, too.

However, it’s not like there aren’t alternatives here. There are plenty of non-violent, positive indie and mainstream games out there that would love more customers. And there could be MORE if we supported this sect of the industry. If Anita really cared about the future of the video game industry in relation to her cause, well, then she’d encourage all of her fans to purchase video games that work outside the negative gender stereotypes and violence of games like Hitman. It’s that simple. Supply and demand might have created Hitman, but it can just as easily create games with positive messages and gender roles, and it already has. You just have to buy them and be willing to support future releases that fit in with your taste.

But Anita is no gamer, and most of her supporters aren’t either. They’re outsiders that want to see change in a market they don’t participate in. Anita’s lack of experience is plain as day, yet, she’s lauded as some kind of expert. What if we applied the same angle to me right here:

Would you take my metal reviews seriously if I owned no metal records? Didn’t listen to metal? Had no real history with metal? Disliked metal? Constantly criticized metal with surface-level complaints like it being too loud, satanic, violent, angry, and perpetuating dangerous, overly masculine gender stereotypes? No, you wouldn’t. No one—except people equally ignorant to metal—would take me seriously. I’d be an ignorant outsider, which Anita is when it comes to gaming.

And I still stand by my PMRC comparison, too. I see similarity in her determination to find social dangers where there really are none. Yeah, Anita has nowhere near the same level of power or political influence, and she probably never will. And she probably won’t try to pull off the same censorship stunts due to the inevitable failure of trying to enforce or legislate any such censorship. It would be more beneficial to her to stay on the sidelines and collect her fundraising bucks as she highlights games she deems misogynistic. I agree America’s got a long way to go when it comes to creating social equality between the genders, but video games are nowhere near the root of the issues we need to address. They’re just an easy target for the quick to complain.

All in all, it’s same shit, different decade. People have been whining and moaning over “harmful” media for generations. And it should be no surprise that those desperately seeking to be offended lose every time. You can be on that side if you want, but just be a good sport when you take your “L”.

platinumcracker  asked:

You're very pretty, and I love your cosplay work! However, on your FAQ, one of your OTPs is JokerxHarley, and that's kind of confusing to me. As you probably know, Joker didn't love Harley, and actually planned on killing her! Did you mean that you like how they look as a couple, or do you enjoy their interactions together? Of course, you're entitled to your opinion, so if you want them to be in love that's okay too! Xo

Okay so…this ask has been sitting my inbox for like god knows how long now, and I never had the patience to answer it before, because it’s really quite frustrating and frankly annoying to have to explain (again).

The thing is with JxHQ is that first of all, it’s cannon. Secondly, I feel like this is an obvious no brainer–but Joker and Harley’s love is not normal. Nor is it healthy, stable, or necessarily “good”. But the fact is, as twisted and eff’d up as their relationship, it’s MAD LOVE.

Joker is a mad man. He is a sociopath with a disorted mind and soul–the lines between good and bad, normal and strange, healthy and detromental to your health–they’re all BLURRED. So what makes you (or anyone else for that matter) think that Joker would be able to perform acts of love like a regular human being? You’re right, he can’t. He’s selfish, malicious, brutal, abusive. Anything beyond that horrible state of insanity is foreign to him…but Joker isn’t a two-dementional character that is just evil and nothing more. The thing with good characters is that they’re layered.

Beneath the crust of devious malice, there are motives and emotions Joker posesses (such as love for Harley) that he himself does not even understand. This is why it’s so easy for non JxHQ shippers to just blow the whole thing off, because it’s non spelled out as simply as the nose on someone’s face. It’s in between the lines. Firstly, let me ask you something–why do you think Joker has kept Harls alive as long as he has? Yes–Joker has tried to kill Harley. Like, on several occassions. For christ’s sake, he pushed her out of a god-knows-how-many-stories-window that put her in the hospital. With Joker the way he is…what makes you think he wouldn’t have anger issues?

But notice this. So yes, Joker has attempted to kill Harley. In Mad Love, she ended up in the hospital, and the last panel, there’s a note from Joker saying “Get Well Soon - J”. What would possibly push Joker to do such a thing? Do you think he’s ever attempted to kill one of his extra mob members and then sent them a get well card? No. There is something about Harley that Joker values. Other wise, why would he have let her stick around so long?

It’s twisted, complicated, more layers than I have the patience to explain right now, but as fucked up as it is, there is his own version of love that he attempts to give to Harley that is not for the sane. And I also might add that Harley isn’t a cute little, innocent, mentally stable girl either. She’s got her own brand of insanity, but people love to pin-point whimsical madness as innocence and kindness. People mix that up–but this is one of the things that make JxHQ so lovable. They’re a demented circusy roller coaster of eff’d up dysfunction. They’re meant to be–Harley molded herself out of his image out of infatuation and anger for what she felt was “injustice”.

Like I said, it’s complicated. It’s not a healthy relationship. But just a reminder, this is comic books and fantasy we’re talking here. These are fictional characters and it’s okay to love their demented ways. In no way was this ever intended to be an ideal relationship that people should aspire to–and hopefully nobody *would* want to be abused and constantly mistreated on both ends (unless it’s some sort of consentual act in the bedroom or something, but what I’m talking about is just relationships in general) because yes, it’s sick. But this is fiction, and J & HQ are both villians. Never have they ever been intended to be any kind of role models. I do not personally support real life abuse and disfunction, and I want to make that clear.

Any of my fellow JxHQ shippers, if you’d like to reblog and add some points that I may have missed out of frustration, feel free to add your 2 cents! I always tend to ramble and never fully make a convincing point, lol.

Country Girls

I don’t know about y'all, but my favorite thing about country girls is that we’re real. No, we don’t weigh 120 and barely eat. We aren’t stick thin. But we are sexy. We are sexy because we are comfortable in our own skin. We are rough and tumble girls. We drink beer. Enough to be able to keep up with any man. Your friends will love us. Actually, they’re probably mutual friends. We love to play in the mud. Whether we’re in trucks, atv’s, horses, bikes, or even on foot. If there is a mud puddle near by, we’ll find it. We love to be outside. We’re pretty rough around the edges, but there is nothing we love more than sitting with your arms around us at a bonfire with friends. As much as you love to show us off, we love to show you off. The saying “she can go from make-up to mud in 1.5 seconds” can not be more true for country girls. We can easily dress up to a 10 and outsiders will have no idea we are indeed country girls. Our family and religion is everything. We are muddy. We are classy. We drink. We hang with the boys. We drive trucks. We curse like truck drivers. We ride horses. We have fun. We pray no matter where we are. We are loud mouthed. We are the ones little girls look up to. We are strong. We are proud. We aren’t stick thin. We are country girls. And we are the ones real men chase.

Look up to someone you can talk to, bounce ideas off of and get personal tips from. If you don’t have one, find one. If the only people you look up to are celebrities, stop that. I promise, having a real life role model will help you get where you want to be.
This blog is dedicated to ZAYN (and a few other things that I like)

While this blog is dedicated to ZAYN, I know that he is not perfect. He is a work in progress. He will make both good and bad choices. But choices are his alone though, not mine to criticize, not mine to speculate, not mine to emulate.

ZAYN will define and redefine himself as he grows. ZAYN will make and remake his music and his art along the way. I am here to support him and his music and his art, until his music and his art are no longer meaningful to me.

ZAYN though is not my role model. I have people in my real life for that, people who talk to me, people who listen to me, people who sit with me, people who break bread with me, people who quietly teach me the meaning of hard work, family, making dreams come true, being a decent human being.

It is not my mission to call ZAYN out when he makes mistakes or poor choices. That’s the duty of his family, his friends, and his manager.

It is not my mission to drag him for fun, for sport, for validation, for notes.

Okay so here is a thing that happened:

I work at a supermarket, mostly on tills so I must serve a couple of hundred people a day. Some of them are chatty, others not so much, you generally get a vibe for whether or not someone wants to talk to you. I served a woman and  I noticed that she had an Irish accent so I asked her where in Ireland she was from. She told me Dublin, which is where my parents are from, so we got chatting about that, turns out her sister lives in the town my dad grew up in. She was talking about how Dublin is a much nicer place than it was when she left, its much more forward thinking and open minded and I agreed and mentioned how thrilled I was about the referendum on Gay marriage, which is when she told me that she was gay and that’s the reason she had left Ireland in the 1980s. There was no queue at this point so we were chatting away goody-o. I can’t even remember how we got onto the topic but we were talking about Toronto, she had just gotten back from there and I’m moving there in January. She was showing me all these pictures on her phone and among the pictures was a recipe which she explained was the meal she was making for her girlfriend. None of this seems hugely important BUT

 I had no, real life accessible gay role models growing up. I still don’t really feel like I do. My parents didn’t have any gay friends that I knew and I didn’t have any gay relatives. I didn’t know any LGBT grown ups who were going about their lives and doing normal things like buying groceries to make a beef bourguignon. As a result of that I’ve never really been able to place myself in the real world, it never felt like I fit. We learn from example and I was never able to see an example of myself or anyone like me, just doing life, which made me feel like I didn’t belong. I’ve been out for coming up two years now and I’m still not totally comfortable in my sexuality. I still feel a lot of shame because of it. I’ve never participated in pride because I don’t feel proud. But strangely enough meeting this woman, who was maybe in her 50s, gay and just going about her life made me feel 100 times better about who I am, and made me think that there is a place for me, that I do belong, that my sexuality isn’t a hinderance and is something that I can be proud of where I’d never really understood the point in expressing pride before. 

I haven’t been able to sum it up right, and maybe it seems a bit menial, but at this point I honestly think she was sent by a higher power.

The moral of the story is chat to your check out staff I guess

anonymous asked:

I'm the one who's parents don't want me to be a teacher cause I'm gay. What do I do?

Hey, sorry this took me a few days.

You absolutely should be a teacher if that is what you want.

I have several friends (even in my own building!) that are various types of queer. And you know what? They are ALL fantastic teachers. In fact, being queer has made each of those teachers so much more empathetic and able to connect with their students in a more authentic way. I teach in the lowest income school in my district, so relationships with students are the single most important thing for student success.

I am completely out at school to staff and students. And everyone is fine. In fact, some students think I’m cooler for it (why, I don’t know). In my 5 years at my school (which includes student teaching), I’ve only ever had one student react negatively and the admin had my back. 

It’s also incredibly important that our queer students have openly queer teachers. Queer students need to see that their queerness does not preclude them from life. It does not take away their opportunities. You will have queer students who want to be teachers. And they will see you and know that they can do it, too. Our queer kids need real life queer role models and mentors, too.

I hope that your parents can see that, too. At least eventually. Don’t let society (or your parents) tell you that your queerness negates your hopes or dreams.

Tagging @teachingfeelslike to share with their anon

filisthorpe This is my grandfather. Today is his 80th birthday and his wedding anniversary marking 56 years of being married to my nana. He isn’t some distant grandparent I see once in a while in fact I have lived in the same house with him and my nan for close to my entire life and he has been like a father to me. He is a real life role model and I’m happy I could be hear to celebrate his birthday and their wedding anniversary with a weekend away with all my family. Times like these make you remember whats important in life so forget about your work stress or friendship problems for a night and just go hang out with your family and just think about how lucky you are as that’s what I’ve been doing! Happy birthday/wedding anniversary grandad! I hope I look as good as you when I am 80! 😎

when i came out as a lesbian at 18, my mom cried. among a lot of other things, she said i couldn’t be gay because that life wouldn’t end in happiness. and i believed her.

i believed her because there weren’t happy endings for queer women on tv or in movies. i didn’t have any real-life queer role models. 

then there was lexa. lexa gave me hope. i put so much of myself into lexa and i loved her so much. lexa made me feel that just maybe, i could get a happy ending.

it’s been 62 days and i’m still grieving. i will never be over commander lexa.