I still cannot wrap my head around how some of these guys can simultaneously hold the false beliefs that a) the sole reason they can’t find a girl is because they’re geeks, and b) that girls just fake being geeks to get geek guys interested in them.
Like, not only are both of those ideas completely wrong, but they are also mutually exclusive. Like, at least pick ONE delusion, instead of trying to juggle two that cancel each other out.
In my literal DECADES as a semi-professional geek, I have never met a single fake geek girl. I have, however, dated many REAL geek girls. There are real geeks seeking other real geeks all across the gender spectrum, so if you’re alone, it’s not because you’re a geek–there’s another issue at work here, friend.
If you see another person’s cosplay and write “this is the best everyone else go home” or “I give up”, you are turning cosplay into a competition and taking all the fun out of the funnest of all geeky hobbies.
We were there too, the other geeks and weird kids whose lives were hellish at school, who escaped into books and computers, who stayed up all night scanning obscure forums, looking for transcendence, dreaming of elsewhere. We were there too, but you didn’t see us, because we were girls. And the costs of being the geek were the same for us, right down to the sexual frustration, the yearning, the being laughed at, the loneliness… We had to fight the same battles you did, only harder, because we were women and we also had to fight sexism, some of it from you, and when we went looking for other weird kids to join our gang, we were told we weren’t ‘real geeks’ because we were girls.
Laurie Penny, Cybersexism: Sex, Gender and Power on the Internet.