though while i’m thinking about it, i have to say i’ve gotten tired of bi discourse that prioritizes m/f relationships.
from an empathy standpoint, i totally understand being bisexual and feeling alienated in lgbt spaces if, say, you’re a bi man who happens to be dating a woman right now. i get that it sucks. but you know what probably sucks more? being a bi man who happens to be dating another man and experiencing homophobia every time you participate in the real world.
obviously i don’t support mocking a bisexual person specifically with regards to their sexuality (”pick a side” etc). and obviously i acknowledge that gay men and lesbians do levy those sorts of comments at bisexuals! it’s shitty! i don’t cosign that!
but when i see someone crying on tumblr dot com about “you’re only validating half of our sexuality!!! and that’s just as bad as straight people who invalidate our same gender attraction!!” it makes my eyes cross. how can you possibly think that’s an apt comparison? how can you possibly think it matters?
again i’m not advocating for open hostility towards bi people who have non-gay partners but the fact that some of you actually expect us “monosexuals” to VALIDATE you? to sit there and pat your back and say “gee brian, i’m so happy that you’re dating jessica. that’s really brave of you. you’re so valid.”?? fuck off.