ready-for-relationship

anonymous asked:

hi nicole, as someone who has never been in a relationship before, i have thoughts of wanting to have a boyfriend but at the same time, i'm not quite keen about the idea yet. do you think i should give myself a chance or at least the person a chance to be with me when i'm not ready to be in a relationship? one reason i'm afraid of being in a relationship is due to my parents often arguing with one another and that kinda affected me :/

Hello! I can only say to do what you’re comfortable with, nonnie. I haven’t had a relationship myself so I’m always weary of relationship asks, but yeah, I think you should do whatever you’re comfortable with.

Honestly, I think when Grant says chase, I feel like after a year, though Iris waited for him, she would have ended up with so much on her plate as a reporter (so she might have a big, time-sensitive story she is going after when he comes back) and maybe they could bring Linda back to show their friendship too to show how so much has changed in her life since he was gone just like everyone else in team flash. Also after while of being missing, he has to try and fit himself into the old world that went on while he was gone. This would all mean that even though they are ready for a relationship, Barry has a lot of catching up to do and Iris is trying to be there for him but she has so many responsibilities of her own. Hence him having to chase so that they can really have time together.

there was too much bruise
in loving you / too much skin
shed and saltwater bled

it was hard to make blood
look pretty / as it rose from my skin,


           a decaying flower in its spring


i organised my bruises into
constellations / (for you)
you called them / beautiful


compared them to a cosmos
of something distant / something
you couldn’t touch but yearned to


i said: “the stars are dying each
night / can’t you hear?”


their screams / are why i sleep
with the windows shut each night


their screams / are why
i keep you / locked inside


and i am not sorry for that.

GIVE PEARL A GIRLFRIEND THAT’S ALL THIS EPISODE MADE ME THINK Y’ALL LIKE … SHE’S READY … GIVE HER A RELATIONSHIP SHE DOESN’T DOUBT, SHE DOESN’T PUSH ASIDE ANY NEEDS FOR, SHE’S READY FOR LESBIAN PHASE II OF HER LIFE!!!

25 Signs You're Ready for a Relationship:

1. You attract a like-minded partner.

When you’re in the energy of self love and acceptance, it’s easy to magnetically attract a like-minded partner who not only loves himself/herself but is available, interested, and ready for healthy, happy, whole love.

2. You complete yourself. You know you are ready for a relationship when you don’t need a relationship to feel happy and worthy, when you want a relationship to share your love rather than to get love, when loving yourself and sharing your love is more important to you than having control over getting love. When you want a relationship to deepen your growth rather than to fill your emptiness, you are ready.

3. You won’t settle for conditional love. Men and women are ready for love when they realize they deserve to receive unconditional love from a partner.

4. There’s nothing “wrong” with you. The only person who can complete you is you. The way to do that is to realize that there is nothing wrong with you; you are not broken, you don’t need to be fixed. The truth of love is found in self-acceptance, and in shining the light of love on those dark places inside of us.

5. You don’t seek constant distraction. You’re not afraid to be alone—and in silence, even. You like spending time alone and don’t need the television to be on or the phone to be glued to your head. You can be with just yourself.

6. You’re not waiting for someone else to “save” you. One is ready to manifest healthy, lasting love when they truly abandon the wish that another can “save” or “heal” them. Self acceptance and self love are markers that one is fully ready for intimacy. This state of being allows one to be open to both giving and receiving love in a pure, authentic way—unburdened by notions of healing wounds from the past.

7. You honor your bigger “Self.” When you understand who you are—as a human, in relation to God or your spirituality—and when you are able to consider the “other” without compromising or obsessing about “me,” you are setting yourself up to live a healthy, beautiful relationship.

8. You’ve tossed your list. I know my clients are ready for love when they don’t come to a session with a ridged set of expectations and a laundry list of must-haves and deal breakers. They simply want to find someone wonderful to love and share their life with.

9. You’re OK being single. If you can say “I am OK without a relationship,” then you’re ready for one! You’re OK being single—not in a resigned or defeated way. It’s more about one have a deep knowing of who you are, your purpose and that while you desire love, you won’t allow yourself to be miserable while you’re single.

10. You’ve called off the search. The old adage is true: the person who is most ready for love is she who has stopped actively pursuing it. Instead, she has been concentrating on developing her own skills, passions, and happiness. A confident, grounded and interesting person is extremely appealing.

11. A relationship is a want, not a need. I realize someone is ready for love when they want it but don’t need it. That’s the absolute best place to be: wanting a relationship, believing it would be great, but not needing it for your happiness. Per the point above, being truly happy without it is often the fastest way to bring it about.

12. You smile a lot. Notice the next time you see your reflection. No matter what you might be wearing or if it is a good hair day or not, is the reflection you catch a glimpse of is one that makes you smile? When you catch yourself smiling more than making comment, excuse or judgment, then you know you accept yourself unconditionally—and are ready to do the same for another, too.

13. You own your sexual energy. You know that you’re a vibrational match for your real-deal Beloved when you move through your day with access to your own orgasmic energy, whether or not you have a partner. You are sourcing it from within. Yes, the Beloved will be irresistibly attracted to your beauty, fragrance and nectar but you are the magnificent blossom.

*14. You’re over your last relationship. Because I work with people primarily after painful breakups, I look for signs that anger and resentment are gone and that they have forgiven not only their ex-partner, but themselves. To be angry at yourself is a clear sign that you are not ready to move forward. If you cannot accept where you are and who you are right now, then it’s time to make a change. You will know that you are ready to go out there and date again when you have given up your “story” and can think about your ex with neutrality, compassion, and understanding.

*15. You’re willing to take a risk. I find that a person who is ready for true intimacy is aware of the risks and uncertainty that comes with falling in love. She knows that the relationship will grow and evolve to something wonderful—or it won’t. Either way, this person understands she will be better for it since the love and support she has for herself will always be there.

16. You have empathy. One quality I work hard to promote in patients looking to find and/or sustain a loving relationship is empathy. Once a person can see beyond her desires and needs to what it will take to make her partner happy, she is well on her way to going from “me” to “we.”

17. You’re self-confident. Self-confidence is the key to knowing that you’re ready for love (it’s also the most powerful aphrodisiac). When you take pride in yourself and you are clear about your own worth—that is when you’ll be able to attract someone who honors you and himself in a healthy relationship.

18. You feel whole. If you are looking for your partner to fill an emptiness within yourself, you will always remain unsatisfied. True love is all about accepting both your partner and yourself wholeheartedly. Dating is about finding your complementary match—not your other half.

19. You’re open-minded. You know you’re ready when you can go off your dating script and discovering a romantic interest as though you were visiting an exotic country for the first time. Throw away your checklist, let yourself be in the moment and open up to the joys and challenges a relationship brings.

*20. Fear doesn’t own you. One sign that tells me you are ready for love is when you show courage. When you are open to taking emotional risk, including accepting personal responsibility, love is in your future.

21. You build memories, not walls. I know someone is ready for love when they incorporate their match into their life after a few dates, rather than compartmentalizingdating activities. Building memories, not walls, shows long-term potential.

22. You are not a puppet. The one sign that tells me a person is ready for a healthy relationship is when he or she takes a stand for what she wants in a relationship—without being attached to the other person’s response. When a client tells me she has spoken a phrase similar to “that doesn’t work for me” to someone they are attracted to, I know they are ready for a new and wonderful relationship experience.

23. You accept change and are ready to grow. You are “ready” for love when you accept yourself for who you are, right now, today, but are still committed to exploring the yet *undiscovered growth* of yourself individually and in a relationship.

*24. You know your turn-ons. When you know what turns you on, what brings you pleasure and you aren’t afraid to go after it, it’s a good sign you’re ready to share love with someone else. The key to this is honoring that you are deserving of pleasure whether you are with someone or not and recognizing that all types of sensual pleasure—the foods you eat, the smells around you, a cool shower on a hot day—keep you vibrant and alive.

25. You’re comfortable in your own skin. Embracing yourself inside and out is a sign you’re reading to fully embrace another.

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'The 100' at SDCC: Jason Rothenberg, Eliza Taylor say Clarke will move on from Lexa

“She’s had two loves in three seasons and they didn’t end very well, and she’s still nursing a broken heart, and lost her soulmate in Lexa,” says Rothenberg. “So she’s not really ready to jump into another relationship. But at the end of the day, she’s 18. She’s an 18-year-old child still, in many ways, and so she will move on, for sure.”

Rothenberg continues, “And I can say, as the voice of Lexa — the person who created that character — that Lexa would want her to. Lexa would want Clarke to be happy again. As I think we all would want the people who we love to be able to — not forget us — but to move on and find happiness.”

While Rothenberg wouldn’t say when or who, he promises fans that Clarke “will be with somebody eventually. I’m not gonna say whether it’s a guy or a girl, but you know, she’s bi, and that really means it can be anybody.”

Creatively, he says, “It’s one of the great things with having a bisexual character: When we look at the board in the room where all their faces are, she can be with almost anybody on that board. I mean, Abby would be a little weird, but everybody else is fair game really. Not to say she’ll be with everybody else!”

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Tbh

So I keep seeing that people are saying Zakiyah should leave Paulie, Paulie shouldn’t have called her out, Paulie being rude to her, Paulie should know what’s wrong with Z, Paulie this and Paulie that.

I’m sorry but I don’t find what Paulie did was wrong. I might be in the minority who sides with Paulie more than Zakiyah when it comes to their “relationship” because this mess is ridiculous. Most of you guys are cheering on Zakiyah and saying she’s doing nothing wrong (Lies) and she should still play hard to get.

First of all this whole mess Zakiyah is doing to Paulie is not cute! Not one single bit of it is cute or attractive. Some of yall need to put yourself in Paulie’s shoes. Let’s say you like a girl, call her your ride or die, vibe with her, ready to have a relationship with her outside of the house and all this mess yet she feels like you are playing her. That she gets really jealous over a girl that you CLEARLY do not like plus she has a man of her own, but you keep telling her over and over you don’t like her. You ask her what’s wrong she says it’s nothing. You ask her why she’s mad she doesn’t answer. You keep seeing her roll her eyes at you more then once when you say something. You ask yet again why is she mad and she says nothing. You notice she’s giving you the cold shoulder and getting really snappy with you. On and on it goes yet you are in the wrong. LIKE HOW DOES THAT MAKE SENSE??

Zakiyah goes around telling people Paulie doesn’t know anything about her (lies). All they talk about is game never anything else (lies). That he doesn’t even know her middle name (LIES). He might be using her and that he doesn’t like her like that (lies). Saying that Paulie is older than her and that he shouldn’t be playing this tit for tat mess ….. yet he doesn’t she’s the one who is. Everyone in the Kitchen and in the Safari room today notice how she was acting towards him. Especially in the Safari room. I’m sorry if you strongly feel some type of way SAY SOMETHING! yall claiming it’s hard and all that bull, but it’s not. If she can go open her mouth and tell everyone how she feels in full rant mode then she can use the same mouth she has and tell Paulie how she feels without saying “it’s not a big deal” and “it’s nothing” when she knows dang on well its a huge deal.

Granted Zakiyah is the one who ask Paulie most of the questions while he doesn’t ask a lot, but he listens to everything that she says. I can understand where Zakiyah is coming from but she’s going to have to learn to put her big girl pants on and TALK TO HIM! They both need to have a deep conversation similar to what James and Natalie had. To know where each other stands. Obviously to us live feeders we know where they both stand yet she doesn’t. Which is pretty stressful to watch. She needs to get out of that “well he’s just gonna have to find out for himself” mentality and start talking to the man that she really likes.

All I’m saying is that, yall are so quick to pin Paulie as the bad guy (which he’s obviously not) yet most of yall don’t say anything about Zakiyah. They just need to have the Talk, move on from that and focus on the game that they came here to play for.

I think, you know, Clarke has had two loves, in three Seasons, her heart is broken about L/xa, L/xa was her soulmate, so she’s not ready to jump into another relationship.

That said, she is an 18-year-old girl, and 18-year-old people generally don’t love for the last time. So, she will eventually move on, I can’t say who it’s going to be with, whether it’s going to be a man or a woman, whether it’ll be this season or not. It’s not the way we tell story really, it’s not like we’re sitting there trying to think about we need to put her with somebody else. I think she’s a fully realized, powerful character in her own right, and it doesn’t matter who she’s with, that doesn’t change any of that, you know, and she’s got bigger fish to fry, so….

But I will not rule it out and she’s Bi so it could be with anybody.

— 

Jason Rothenberg, SDCC 2016, when asked if Clarke would be single this Season.

So, in this quote alone, we have 3 instances of JROTh saying that Clarke will move on and one instance of him emphasizing Clarke’s bisexuality. Ironically, the last time JRoth emphasized Clarke’s bisexuality, it was to prep the audience for Clarke to move from a relationship with a male character (Finn) to one with a female character (L/xa), methinks he’s prepping the audience once again, only this time Clarke will move from a relationship with a female character, to a male character. 

Look, porn blogs, I appreciate the recognition and admire your enthusiasm, but please stop following me. It’s not you, it’s me. I just don’t think we have that kind of connection and I don’t want to string you along. I’m sure there are plenty of blogs out there that would be happy to be followed by you, but I’m just not ready for that kind of relationship. I hope you understand.

Fear & Loathing in Bed (Jooheon Smut)

Originally posted by kihqun

Title: Fear & Loathing in Bed

Featuring: Jooheon (Monsta X) & you

POV: Third person

Rated: Mature

Summary: Jooheon is ready to take your relationship to the next level, but your insecurities are holding you back. He’s not having any of that. Requested by anon!

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She sat on the edge of the bed, staring at her feet. She wasn’t aware that she was gripping the comforter in her hands, her whole body tense in anticipation of Jooheon entering the room. They were going to watch a movie, at least that’s what they’d said, but she knew something more was likely to happen.

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