anonymous asked:

do you know any good readings on the effects of colonialism on modern concepts of gender? i've seen you talk a lot about this and i'm interested to read more into it

Heterosexualism and the Colonial / Modern Gender System, María Lugones 

Colonial Dependence and Sexual Difference: Reading for Gender in the Writings of Simón Bolívar (1783-1830), Catherine Davies

(you can download those last two articles here if you don’t have access to jstor)

The Coloniality of Gender, Maria Lugones

Romancing the Transgender Native, Evan B. Towle and Lynn M. Morgan

Scientific Racism and the Emergence of the Homosexual Body, Siobhan Somerville

Asexuality as a white supremacist dream (and additional commentary)

The Empire of Sexuality, Joseph Massa

Women and Men, Cloth and Colonization: The Transformation of Production-Distribution Relations among the Baule (Ivory Coast) (Femmes et hommes, pagnes et colonisation: la transformation des relations de production et de distribution chez les Baule de Côte d'Ivoire), Mona Etienne

“Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder”: Male Travelers, Female Bodies, and the Gendering of Racial Ideology, 1500-1770, Jennifer L. Morgan

White Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence, Sunny Woan

The veil or a brother’s life: French manipulations of Muslim women’s images during the Algerian War, 1954–62, Elizabeth Perego

Rethinking Sex-Positivity, Rebecca John

Women of Color Seen As Always Sexually AvailableJaclyn Friedman 

Lover Man
Billie Holiday
Lover Man

“My mind was filled with that great song “Lover Man” as Billie Holiday sings it; I had my own concert in the bushes. “Someday we’ll meet, and you’ll dry my tears, and whisper sweet, little things in my ear, hugging and a-kissing, oh what we’ve been missing, Lover Man, oh where can you be…” It’s not the words so much as the great harmonic tune and the way Billie sings it, like a woman stroking her man’s hair in soft lamp-light.” – Jack Kerouac, On The Road.

Questions for Tarot Reading

Sometimes it is very difficult to come up with questions for tarot readings on the spot, whether you are giving the reading to yourself or if you are getting it done by another. Here is a small guide to hopefully help you with better wording your questions.

What shouldn’t you ask?

A good place to start is with what you probably should avoid. This does change reader to reader so this is not always true, but some typical things are:

  • Avoid Yes/No questions, these may be fine for pendulum readings but they are very difficult for tarot reading which gives you more details than a simple yes or no. Limiting yourself to yes/no questions can make the reading more difficult to interpret and even in my case when I get yes/no questions I am sometimes left baffled at what the card could mean.
  • Avoid questions that dig into another’s life. This could vary between readers, though such questions can be rather rude such as asking how two other people’s relationship is going or asking about a person’s secret life like “what is K keeping from me?”. these are generally avoided because well, they are rude and can make readers uncomfortable. Instead try to reword these questions such as “How could I improve my relationship with K, i feel like we are distant?” It is much more proper and involves you showing more appropriate interest in this person’s life
  •  Try not to ask outrageous questions. This should be a bit obvious but asking a tarot reader “how will the world end” or “when will WW3 happen” etc may seem funny but again, it is a bit rude. It is very mocking to us, try to ask questions we can actual try to answer. 
  • Don’t ask about your own death or when/how you will die. Though this is not agreed on by every reader, I know myself and many are uncomfortable with this question and will not answer for numerous reasons, including that we don’t want to scare or panic someone.
  • Health and Medical Advice. many tarot readers are not comfortable answering questions about your health or the health of others. We are not doctors or medical professionals, go and ask these questions to someone with knowledge in the subject, not us
  • Mental Health/Illness questions. Many tarot readers will not answer these questions because again, we are not professionals. Please seek professional help about your mental illnesses.
  • Always ask the tarot reader what questions they are not comfortable answering. This varies so much between person to person, so if they are doing free readings or event readers, check their FAQ if they have one or ask them what questions they are uncomfortable in asking. They will appreciate your courtesy and it can also ensure you don’t end up asking things that they won’t want to answer.

How can I come up with good Questions to ask?

This is a bit more difficult than what you can’t ask for it, again varies person to person. But as a general list of suggestions, here are some common questions that many don’t mind answering and can be nice for you too:

  • How will my week/month/year go? Simple but good for a general overall reading
  • How can I improve my relationship with _____? Not too nosy into the other person’s life and also gives you some information you can work with
  • How will my schoolwork/career go this month/term? 
  • I feel distant from _____ how can we best approach this problem?
  • What should I focus on this month?
  • What is holding me back? What can I do to improve myself?
  • What energies are around me today/this week/month?
  • What should I be more aware of in my life?
  • What is something i have been blind to recently?
  • I want to improve my ____, how can I approach this?
  • What are some good things coming my way?
  • What are some bad things coming my way?

There are many other questions you can ask but these ones above are some good general ones to start with.

When asking questions, try to make them about you rather than others. This is because you are the one getting the reading, not the other person. Plus, again some tarot readers may have personal preferences not to answer questions relating to another person’s life without their permission.

Remember not all tarot readers will do the same things! Always ask, if they don’t mention it in their FAQ if they are comfortable answering the following:

  • Love/Romantic Readings: I know other tarot readers who will not answer questions related to whether your crush likes you or how another person’s relationship is going. It makes some people uncomfortable due to lack of consent in some forms of these.
  • Communicating with Spirits or the Dead: not all tarot readers work with spirits so they may not wish to try to communicate with them
  • Questions about the Deceased or Death: again, some people are really uncomfortable with these types of questions
  • Deities: not all tarot readers are willing to communicate with your deity for you or see how your deity feels, especially when they are not connected to that deity or have a very different religious standing. Please respect that
  • Past Life Readings: not all tarot readers believe in past lives so not all will be willing to do a past life reading
  • Spreads: Not all tarot readers if they are offering you free readings will be using spreads. Spreads take time and a lot more energy 
  • Entity Communication: these would include communication with fae, merfolk, dragons, angels, demons, guides/guardians, and many other things. Not all tarot readers are willing to interact with these entities for you, especially if they are inexperienced with them or uncomfortable.
  • Revenge Readings: these would include questions related to how you can get someone back for something they did, if they will get punished for it, etc. Again, many readers may not be comfortable with these types of readings due to how aggressive and the wish of harm to come onto another can put people off.

Please always remember that tarot readers will be doing the absolute best to give you a clear, accurate reading. But, take readings with a grain of salt, things change all the time, so the reading may not always be 100% accurate. Don’t attack the reader for this, for they are trying their hardest to give you a good reading. Things aren’t always accurate, though we all try to be as accurate as possible to give you good advice. Sometimes the reading may seem like one thing will happen but something else happens, we readers make mistakes too. We are human. And the future is ever changing. Just remember that a reading you are given is never carved in stone.

I hope this has been helpful to you all and has aided you in understanding what questions to ask when getting a reading done. Have a wonderful day all of you!

Druid Sticks

You will need 4 sticks at roughly the same length, on one side of each stick there should be one mark, on the other side of each stick there should be two. 

hold the stick between your hands and think of your question while rolling the stick around between your hands, when you are ready place them on a flat surface keep them covered with you non-dominant hand, while using the other to straighten them. 

The chart below is the patterned displayed by the Druid Stick. Two dots represent the side with 2 marking, one dot represents the side with one marking. eg: the pattern above is  Acquisitio

Meanings

  • Puer — Boy.  Aggressive, assertive, masculine action; risky behavior and cockiness.
  • Amissio — Loss.  A loss of heart or a loss of money; could be good or bad, depending on circumstances.
  • Albus — White. Open to intellectual and spiritual pursuits, but rather forgetful of the belly and sexuality.
  • Populus — People / Crowd. Lost in the great mass of people. Diffusion of effort and intention. Following the mob.
  • Fortuna Major — Greater Fortune. Success by your own effort.
  • Rubeus — Red. Body and Bodaciousness. Wine, Sex, Drugs and rock and roll.  Out on the town, but risk-taking and potential for mischief and bloodshed.
  • Puella — Girl. Beauty, compassion, feminine receptivity, open to many circumstances.
  • Acquisitio — Acquisition, Gain.  Increase of wealth in the purse but lacking compassion or generosity. End of love in some circumstances.
  • Conjunctio — Crossroads.  Choice, and choosing. The decision is in your hands, but indecision may make make things harder. Choose.
  • Tristitia — Sorrow. Sadness and trouble and difficulty. Sometimes literally downward movement.  illness, sickness and doom.
  • Laetitia — Happiness. Joy, ecstasy, happiness, sometimes literally upward movement.
  • Carcer — Prison. Limitation and boundaries. Edges. Acceptance of present circumstances. Locked in.
  • Cauda Draconis — Dragon’s Tail.  Watch out for endings! End of cycles, risk of getting whacked on the way out! The long route home.
  • Caput Draconis — Dragon’s Head. Blessings at the Beginning. Starting something new, a new cycle, set out on an adventure.
  • Fortuna Minor — Lesser Fortune. Lucky circumstances that have nothing to do with you.  Swiftly passing opportunity.
  • Via — Road.  Active effort, driving along the path, driven by great powers toward destiny — but not a lot of choices ahead; stick to the path you’re on.

The Bat Tarot Spread 

A spread to break you of illusion, and to show you the truth of the matter.

1. Who Am I Right Now?

2. What Do I Want to Be?

3. Where Am I Excelling?

4. Where Do I Need Work?

5. In What Ways Am I Fooling Myself?

6. In What Ways Are Others Fooling Me?

7. What Is Barring Me From Success?

medium.com
A Nervous Wreck’s Disabled Guide to Stepping Up
Navigating dis/ability and anxiety in the call to action
By Madison Mahdia Lynn

A really excellent article for those of us who have mental and/or physical disabilities and are feeling overwhelmed by all the calls to action:

It’s very easy to get overwhelmed. With so many actions, so many organizations that need your support, it’s easy to drown in the sea of I SHOULD/I CAN’T and find yourself shocked into inaction. There’s a lot of people who don’t know what to do. There’s a lot of people who are frustrated with accessibility issues surrounding some more common forms of resistance.

A lot of people are asking: how can I help? I’ve weathered a process to figuring out how I can help build community and fight for justice & I’ve gotten pretty good at it, so I’m going to share that process with you. I’m going to breeze through the list of steps, and then describe how I went through them to get where I am today. Okay, great: here we go.

A NERVOUS WRECK’S DISABLED GUIDE TO STEPPING UP:

STEP ZERO: Give yourself a moment to breathe.

STEP ONE: Make a list of what you’re good at.

STEP TWO: Make a list of your limitations.

STEP THREE: Make a list of people and organizations who need support.

STEP FOUR: Make a list of people and organizations you are connected with.

STEP FIVE: Put it all together.

I highly recommend reading the full article on Medium

Thoughts Regarding “Natural Talent”

Friendly reminder that natural talent ≠ effortless progression. There seems to be some confusion about this in the general occult community, particularly among beginners. I can only assume it stems from watching experienced practitioners go about their business seemingly without any effort.

Look, if someone tells you, “Wow, you have a lot of potential as an artist,” that’s great and you should be proud, but it does not mean you’re ready to display your work at a big New York gallery. If hearing that ruffles your feathers, you need to ask yourself why. It’s not a bad thing to nurture your seedling talents and emerge as a beautiful tree grown tall and leafy over many years.

For some reason, this concept ruffles a lot of feathers when it’s said that picking up your first tarot deck a month ago does not a professional diviner make. This doesn’t mean “don’t do readings.” By all means, please do.

The problem begins when someone presents themselves as an expert in a field they dipped a toe into last week, at the expense of those who earned their title. “Hah! It comes naturally to me,” they say smugly. “I don’t even know why people say this is hard work.”

As lovely as those five minutes of superiority may feel, you will be left empty if you skip over the hard work, the patience, and the determination that shapes an expert out of a witch, diviner, spirit worker, or any other like them over years of quiet trial and error; over countless nights of frustration and failure; over countless hours of try, try again until finally you taste success.

There is no shame in beginning. We all start somewhere. Just do yourself a favor and let yourself be a beginner. Make the journey. Be patient when things get hard. Never, never forget that natural talent ≠ effortless progression.

And finally, know this: the journey doesn’t end. Not unless you wish to grow stagnant in a pool of your own arrogance. Trust me, no matter who you are or what you’re doing, there’s always room for improvement. Always.