Reading, like other types of art appreciation, is intensely personal. So what appeals to people is going to depend on who they are. It depends on what is happening in their life at any given moment. On what has happened to them over the course of their personal history and what makes them feel any number of things. The value of art, when it comes to being appreciated by the beholder makes the person consuming it part of that process. Failing to appreciate that integral part of the process is done at your own peril.
So it appears we’re in one of those booklr renaissance modes. Don’t get me wrong, I do love when these kinds of discussions
happen because that’s how I found a lot of my tumblr friends, but it all seems
so very cyclical and I’m frustrated by it.
And I feel this way largely because I have
found my crew. When people say they feel like booklr is dead, I shake my head
because I struggle to keep up with my friends and their content. If they are so alive, how can booklr be dead?
True, some of this despondent sentiment comes from bloggers who
have been here for years who very legitimately feel sad that many of their old
friends have left (I feel that too), but there are new people who are filling
those gaps. New bloggers who are creating content and chatting left and right.
Go find them. Befriend them.
today’s lesson is:
Find your crew.
Everyone is looking for something different
from this website, so finding friends will look different for everyone, but
here are my tips:
Seek out the smaller blogs. Following big
blogs won’t make you friends. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but it’s simple
math. When you have that many followers it’s hard to keep up with everyone.
There are many great and wonderful people who run large blogs and by all means
follow them, but if you want friends, your best bet is the smaller blogs.
Look for blogs that start the
Look for blogs that send asks. Look for blogs that play tag games. Look for
blogs that participate in challenges (especially the 100 Days of Booklr challenge).
These are bloggers who are doing things and befriending people–and they’ll
likely want to befriend you too.
Keep track of people. If you’re bad with
names (like me), write shit down. Everyone feels good when they’re called by
name or tagged in something relevant to their interests. At one point, I kept a
spreadsheet with my mutuals and their names and what books they liked, etc.
because I knew I had a bad memory for that. You don’t have to be that
nerdy about it, but making the effort can go a long way in building
Search the booklr tag. I look through the recent booklr posts at least once a
day. If I see someone posting a question or asking for
recommendations, I do my best to respond. Sometimes I’ll just boost a post
because I know I have followers who will jump in. I find a lot of new posts,
blogs, and friends this way–and you can too!
(Tangential related) Find fresh
Maybe booklr feels dead because it feels stale, like people are all reblogging
the same posts for the hundred-thousandth time (literally). To fix that, don’t just rely on your
dash because that’s going to be a feedback loop. Look for new posts on the
booklr or other tags. A) it’s new stuff that no one has seen before and B) it’s
supporting smaller blogs who may not get seen otherwise! Win-win! Doing this
won’t necessarily build you a crew (it can help though), but I think it’s crucial to making booklr
feel alive again so that’s why I include it here.
A couple last things to remember: not
everyone you try to befriend is going to click with you and that’s ok. But I do think that we all
can find friends on here and friends are what makes booklr a community. Just
sometimes you have to be very deliberate about building that community for
yourself. And also, there’s nothing wrong with being anxious about talking to
people and wanting to just be a lurker. You can still make a difference. Stick
to the last two tips and let smaller blogs feel loved with your likes and
reblogs. Good luck!