Iris is being manipulated and lied to by all her loved ones
Barry, Eddie and Joe are conspiring to sabotage her career at every turn. They seem to be under the impression that ignorance will save Iris, which it clearly does not. Iris has been targeted by meta-humans several times now, several others have been kidnapped because of their ties to Barry, Joe or the Flash. Keeping his identity a secret from them wouldn’t have done them any favors. So far, 15 characters on the show know the Flash’ identity, but the love of his life, the one person who has Always believed in him, is being kept in the dark. Disgraceful. It is condescending and sexist to act like Iris can’t be trusted with the knowledge that Barry is the Flash. She is brave, smart and capable of keeping secrets. This trope has to die. It’s manufactured drama at the expense of Iris’ character. I resent the writers for it.
When Iris finds out that all the men in her life are condescending manipulative liars who don’t trust her to handle the truth responsibly, I hope she chews them out. Heck at this point she is completely justified to break off all ties. This disrespect is a dealbreaker in the real world. What has Iris done to deserve this?
And you just know the haters not only ignore this crap from their male faves, but will actively blame Iris if she doesn’t immediately get over it.
So let me reiterate: Barry, Joe and Eddie have so little respect for Iris that they think she is safer when she doesn’t know her best friend is the Flash. They are abusing her boundless trust in them and endangering her for some sexist reasons. Any self-respecting woman would thoroughly re-evaluate their relationships with people who act like that, and become a lot more guarded as a result.
I fear that the Flash writers don’t realize this, and will keep acting like keeping grown women ignorant of danger is chivalrous, somehow. It is wearing on my patience and eventually, it will run out.