rape-victims

anonymous asked:

What's a trope that you absolutely cannot stand in fics?

MAGIC PENIS. I mean I’ll read it because at this point I have no standards but MY KINGDOM FOR A FIC WHERE A RAPE-VICTIM GETS TO BE TRAUMATIZED AND AFRAID OF SEX OR HAVE THAT AT LEAST BE ADDRESSED JESUS CHRIST.

‘David Bowie was a paedophile/rapist/whatever’ Discourse is like the epitome of Uncomfortable Stuff tbh because on the one hand on principle I think it’s a bad idea to dismiss or disbelieve potential rape victims, but at the same time from what I’ve heard about Lori Maddox she has apparently told stories about having dated and/or had underage sex with a number of old rock and roll people, including Iggy Pop and some wrinkly old fuck from Led Zeppelin, and she was deep in that whole creepy groupie culture where underage girls were encouraged to try to make themselves look older to get with rock stars??? And everything we actually know about David Bowie suggests that he would never have KNOWINGLY had sex with an underage girl (he once fired his tour manager guy for sending a bunch of teenage girls up into his hotel room, and publicly cut ties with/ denounced some musician who was outed as a paedophile). And I just can’t stand the idea that David Bowie is considered by some people to fall into the same category as confirmed abusers/serial rapists like John Lennon

I just feel really uncomfortable every time it’s brought up tbh because even though in all likelihood it’s probably not true, it’s firmly enough in some people’s minds that it makes me feel really anxious and guilty for liking David Bowie 

I have definitely seen people use the word “toxic” when they just want to call someone a cunt or a fake rape victim or some other fucked up thing but they don’t want to have to deal with the fallout of just saying those words outright. I think that creates a lot of confusion when people, specifically abuse survivors, talk about “toxic behaviour”, and it irritates me because I feel like that’s a good word for how it feels to be manipulated and forced to swallow bullshit and mistreatment - it poisons you, basically. Toxicity or whatever. 

So like, I am myself often wary when people use the word “toxic” in a general sense, especially if they only ever seem to use it in reference to women or they use it when they’re talking about someone and they’re like “I’m not saying she’s lying [about being raped, about my friend being shitty, etc] but she’s toxic so…” HOWEVER I think there are also situations where it is pretty easy to infer from context that when someone says “toxic” they are referring to a specific pattern of hurtful and even abusive behaviour and I don’t think picking apart the language abuse survivors use to talk about their abuse actually helps fix or even address the problem of people acting like a woman saying “hey your friend sexually assaulted me” is the same kind of “toxic” as a person who tries to control you by telling you if you don’t do what they want they’ll kill themselves. I don’t know though because I’m stupid, whatever.

anonymous asked:

THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH LEAKING THE PHONE NUMBER OF A RAPIST. WHAT IS THERE TO FEEL SORRY ABOUT? WHY IS ANYONE SYMPATHIZING WITH A RAPIST? THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN TO HIM IS THAT SOMEONE RAPES HIM AND VIOLATES HIS BODILY AUTONOMY. AND IF YOU DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT RAPE VICTIMS SO MUCH, WHY TF DO YOU CARE ABOUT THIS GUY? THERE IS LITERALLY NOTHING WORSE THAT COULD HAPPEN THAN WHAT HE'S ALREADY DONE.

many good points!!! thank you for this!

*Me* “What about all the times he made it clear during the election he was going to hurt blacks, Muslims, Hispanics, Syrian immigrants, young people with college debt, feminists, rape victims and sick people with pre-existing conditions? Did you get pissed off then? Did you ever bother to think once about them and their suffering?”

A question that needs to be asked.