So then the question becomes how do we, as a society, decide what is or isn’t allowed? How do we define the lines of consensual sex and sexual assault? For Dunn, the answer was obvious. “I get a lot of questions from teens like, ‘How do I know if this person likes me?’ or ‘How will I know if they want to kiss me?’ And it’s like - we read body language all the time. You learn not to slap an old lady in the face. You know not to call your teacher a dickbag. You just know certain things in society, like how to behave. So when someone’s like, ‘How do I know if this girl doesn’t want me to feel her up?’, it’s like you read signals all day long! How is it all the sudden you don’t know how to read signals?”
Why I need feminism

I’ve realized that we really do need feminism. Honestly when 4 in one women get raped every millisecond, can you blame me?? Not only that but women make half a cream pie to every mans dollar; it gets even worse when you factor in hair style. There are 47 giraffes in the senate and not a single woman. Yesterday a guy pointed his fork at me while I was eating at femdonalds, rape culture. TELL ME THAT WE DONT NEED FEMINISM

The way girls are taught to be cautious about their drinks, their clothing, their demeanor, their attitude, of the state of inebriation of the men around them, are all ways in which a rape culture puts the responsibility of girls not being raped and assaulted ON them, instead of on rapists and abusers. It makes them have to consider things that aren’t even in their control, and takes every opportunity to make them responsible for a crime they are the victim of. Rape culture is what boys are raised in, letting them know that their reputation, even as rapists, is what matters more than the dignity of their victim and justice in general. It shows them that it is easier to demonize and take advantage of girls because of their sex, than to actually be punished for a heinous crime.   

anonymous asked:

if people change this horrible way of looking at rape it would probably happen a lot less. that's the only thing the name rape culture is ment to do. did you know according to a study from the University of North Dakota, 31.7% of the men surveyed said they would force a woman to have sexual intercourse. That's one out of every three men who said they could see themselves raping a woman. Unless you asked them that question and then only 13% (still way to much ofcourse) say they’d rape a woman.

I read a debunking of that ‘study’ just the other day but annoyingly can’t find it  - if anyone reading this has the info, please reblog with the details and I’ll edit them in here.

Anyway, basically it was a very flawed, unrepresentative study that only asked about 70 young men, and got its factoid statistic the same dishonest way Mary Koss did, by asking leading, unclear questions and counting acts that are not rape as rape.

Actual rape (not feminist ‘rape’, which can, as I demonstrated in my previous post, be just about anything) is a horrible crime but thankfully a rare one. The fact that your poor impressionable mind has been allowed to be filled up with this toxic and nightmarish garbage for political gain by a hateful ideology is one of the main reasons I speak out against feminism. Indoctrinating young boys and girl’s into believing most sex is violent crime is just as much child abuse as making them believe if they masturbate they’re going to go to hell.

Purvi Patel got sentenced to 20 years in jail for being pregnant in Indiana and voicing doubts about continuing with it.

Bear in mind, they did blood tests on her and found no evidence of abortion pills or anything of the sort: there was no proof whatsoever she was lying about it simply being a miscarriage. 

Basically, she lost a pregnancy and they didn’t believe what she said about it and sent her to prison. If that doesn’t frighten the hell out of people it damn well should.

The same people who say “rape is illegal and people still do it” in response to the ‘teach Men Not to rape’ narrative are the same people who say “everyone is paid the same by law because of the equal pay act” in response to wage gap discussion

So….statement one says people don’t always follow the law.

And statement two says that people always follow the law.

I’m not going into my take on either topic, this is purely an observation of the contradiction being made.


School is nailing us for dress code today. So in response vdkent wrote on one of our friends. We are sick of having our ‘dress code appropriate’ clothing get us in trouble. It is 80 degrees outside. We are not going to wear floor length skirts and turtlenecks. We. Are. Tired. Because our shoulders are showing we are in violation. Stop making it about females. My shoulders are showing. Dear. God. I’m suddenly attractive and bangable. Um no. Stop making it about how we distract boys. We don’t have to cover ourselves. Boys need to learn that we are not objects to be used or sexualized.

anonymous asked:

Why are you so against calling this rape culture though? the name is not meant to create panic. it changes absolutely nothing to what's happening. the only thing it does is hopefully open people's eyes to what's happening. and maybe do something about it. and yes i know that (most) people are not okay with rape, but do you have any idea how many people tell girls they shouldn't have worn that short skirt if they didn't want to get raped, or tell guys they shoul've just enjoyed it.

The notion of ‘rape culture’ is something invented by radical feminists from the 1970s onwards with Dworkin et al saying things like All Men Are Rapists and All Heterosexual Sex Is Rape etc.

Because this is clearly insane (defining the natural act necessary for all human life as an inherently violent and despicable crime), it had to be given seeming plausibility through the inflation and manipulation of actual rape statistics, most importantly the ‘Koss Report’ on rape, by Mary Koss in the 1980s. She did things like count women who’d had sex while intoxicated as rape, and ‘have you ever had sex when you weren’t initially in the mood?’ as rape, and something like half of all the women who explicitly said they did not consider themselves to have ever been raped as raped(!), and so on. And from that came the infamous ‘1 in 4’ statistic still indignantly squawked by fresh-faced and empty-headed campus feminists to this day.

If we actually lived in a ‘Rape Culture’, there would be no laws against it: you’d see it happening on every street corner and nobody batting an eyelid. All depictions of rape in films and TV would have the message that it’s no big deal and that the girl should just suck it up and stop being such a crybaby. That being raped is, in fact, a silly, everyday part of life and as funny as falling off a ladder or stubbing your toe.

But of course, nothing could be further from the truth: in the west, rape is universally considered, after paedophilia and perhaps murder, the very worst crime possible, and depictions in the laws of the land, the education system, the press and other media reflects this absolutely.

In fact, the only times rape is ever treated as trivial or a fit subject for humor is when it happens to men. Which, as you probably know,  is where the term ‘Rape Culture’ first originated: a 1974 documentary about the institutionally accepted prevalance of male rape in the U.S prison system. Feminists took the term and attempted to claim that comfortable, happy, safe and free women outside of prison were living in the exact same circumstances, which of course is absurd.. 

Rape only becomes a normalized fact of life in places where civilization and the social contract have completely broken down, most specifically prison or in war zones. When people are brutally dehumanized and without hope, knowing full well they could be dead tomorrow, the normal, natural, universal revulsion we all have to rape can break down and survival-level biology take over instead. Rape, after all, is a form of sex - a particularly unpleasant form, but sex nonetheless - and sex on a biological level is simply reproduction, the universe trying to make us make more of ourselves before we die. That rape and murder should thrive in such horrific, hopeless situations should be no more surprising than an otherwise upstanding citizen stealing a loaf of bread because they haven’t eaten in 3 days, or animal chewing its leg off to get itself out of a trap and survive.

This is a long-winded way of saying that women in the west do not and have never lived in a ‘rape culture’. Actual rape (not feminist rape, which can be literally any heterosexual sex) is a horrible crime but thankfully a rare one, and one which people here treat, as I said, as only one small step above paedophilia. For feminists to insist that it is an unremarked upon fact of life in Europe or America would be funny if it wasn’t such an appalling insult to those women (and men) in other, war-torn parts of the world - the Congo, for instance - where it actually is.

Normal, everyday civilization - which most empty-headed feminists would probably insist was ‘patriarchy’, and therefore ‘rape culture’ - is in fact their greatest defense against rape. But yeah, feminists, keep hammering away at that life-support machine if it makes you happy.

So there we go: I oppose feminist propaganda and scaremongering on your behalf, because I don’t want want you to be living in a state of perpetual fear and hysteria, constantly dreading and hating the other half of the human race just because it brings in political and financial support for a hateful ideology.



At the same time, there’s a photo projected onto a screen behind the stage where Cosby will soon perform. It’s the kind of screen and the kind of photo that feel like they should be part of a slide show, but no, there’s just the one photo. Taken in 1997, it’s a picture of a younger, smiling Cosby. He’s wearing a bright red sweater, looking directly into the camera and shaking hands with a laughing Nelson Mandela. The not-so-subtle subtext seems to be: Forget what you’ve heard, forget the nearly three dozen women and their crazy claims, forget that droning announcement, I’m a good guy. Mandela thinks so.

The surreal experience of watching Cosby’s unapologetic stand-up act — sweat pants and all