rantcasey replied to your post: -
I saw it more as a fucked up guy trying to get with this persona of a girl he crated all around a real human that he actually knew nothing about.
Yes, it IS about that, but I’m considering another aspect.
I’m thinking about the role reversal. The obsessive pursue of a female character by a male character is much more acceptable, nay, it’s encouraged, not only in films, but in our society. If a guy calls a girl 10 times a day after she’s left him, he’s considered romantic and the girl is considered a bitch for not taking him back, because ‘isn’t he such a nice guy’, 'wow, he really must care about you’.
Whereas, for a girl to even show interest for a guy before him, for a girl to even make the first move, she’s constantly put down and called wanton and “slutty”. If Summer did everything Tom did in that film, she’d be considered a desperate crazy bitch.
As it is, there’s no way to win. She didn’t want him even after “everything he did for her”, so she’s a bitch. In the other scenario, he doesn’t want her, so she has no right to pursue him, so she’d be a bitch for doing so.