Quick Ramadan reminder, it is completely and more than ok to do things you didn’t usually do during this Ramadan. It doesn’t make you a “Ramadan Muslim” & it is not anyone’s business except you and Allah ﷻ
“The sweat on your forehead as you walk to Dhuhr is greater than your tears in Taraweeh, for the first is mandatory and the second is commendable. It’s a scam to sleep through Dhuhr or Asr in Ramadan, then exhaust yourself in Taraweeh and Tahajjud prayers.
These are all signs that the outwardly appearances have hijacked our lives. Be Careful. Remember. A single obligation is superior to standing at night for all of Ramadan.“
To the father who sits alone at the iftaar table which is laid out with many deliciously divine gourmet savouries and food delivered to him by his children, yet they go back to their own homes leaving their elderly father alone.He eats just one date in silence as he makes his way to pray Maghrib Salaah. His heart yearns for the company and unity of his family. May Allah bless and guide his children to come visit or invite their father over to their home for the time you have with him is so limited.Ameen.
To the daughter in law who sits alone in her room with a meal she prepared for herself. The entire family is seated at the iftaar table awaiting azaan and making dua yet she chooses to eat alone thereby creating division and disunity. Her husband is feeling the negativity and advises her to join him and his family, yet she declines.He is left embarrassed amd heartbroken. May Allah soften your heart, mind and soul dear sister and make it easy for you to maintain family ties instead of breaking them.Ameen
To the mother who declined an iftaar invitation from her daughter just because her son in laws parents were also invited.Dear mother may Allah assist you to set aside your differences and accept your daughters humble invitation as this will create barakaah, happiness and peace in the home of your daughter.Ameen
To the brother who takes a huge platter of savouries to the masjid everyday yet only shares with the brothers he is familiar with.The revert brother sits alone with just a date and water for iftaar, did you not notice him?May Allah allow your heart and eyes to embrace all with love and peace.Ameen
To the sister who is on her phone chatting about the affairs of others during the time of taraweeh yet when her sister in law calls her to read taraweeh with the ladies of the family she declines by saying ‘taraweeh is not fardh’, yes my sister taraweeh is not fardh but it is far better than gossiping in this Mubarak month. May Allah open your mind and heart to goodness.Ameen.
To the wife who awaited Ramadaan so patiently to also gain the rewards of the month , the wife who has hectic day with the children while fasting, the children who test her patience everyday, she also has needs and feels neglected while she sits alone at the table awaiting her hardworking husband who breaks his fast whilst travelling while shes breaks her fast looking at the empty seat beside her.Remember Allah knows your struggles and take comfort in knowing your rewards are directly from him.May Allah bless you with happiness, barakaah and peace in your marriage and in your home.May Allah reward you immensely for all your sacrifice and efforts.
May Allah unite all those families and friends who are separated due to misunderstandings, jealousy, greed, pride, hurt and hate.May Allah unite our hearts and allow us to forgive as we seek ultimate forgiveness from Allah.May every family be happy and peaceful in this beautiful month and for the rest of the short time we have together in this world. Aameen
When Prophet Muhammad was terrified after getting the first revelation from the angel Gabriel. He was worried he lost his mind or something bad had happened to him. It was Khadija who reminded him that Allah would never forsake him because he helped the poor and the oppressed. This is a hint for our own lives. Allah will never let something bad happen to us as long as we help the poor and the needy.
“I fear that something may happen to me.” Khadija replied,“Never! By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your Kith and kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests generously and assist the deserving calamity−afflicted ones."
Oh servants of Allaah, indeed the month of Ramadan has prepared to leave, and nothing remains except a few more days. Whoever has done well during the month should continue to do well, and whoever was deficient, should try to end the month in good, for indeed actions are according to their completion. Therefore, take advantage of what remains of the month, and give the month the best farewell and peace.
Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali| Lataaif al-Ma’aarif, Pg.170-172
With Ramadan about to start I thought I’d share a suggestion. The Beloved ﷺ used to pray for everyone, including his enemies while they fought him. We’re living during a time when everyone is clamouring for justice and wants retribution for being wronged. But if we asked ourselves “what would the Habeeb ﷺ do?”, we’ll find the answer going against our current behaviour.
So aside from the usual practices we engage in during Ramadan, I recommend you make a vow to stick to doing one thing every day either after Subh or after Isha: Make a dua in which you ask God not to take anyone who wronged you that day into account because you’ve forgiven them, and pray that He grants them guidance and success in this world and the next. The Beloved ﷺ commented on a man who entered into a mosque that he was of the people of Paradise, and when Ibn Umar RA followed him to find out why, it turned out because he had a nightly practice of checking his heart for any ill feelings or animosity against anyone, and consciously cleared it.
So pray for people. Not just those who are close to you, or who are obvious choices to pray for. But also pray for the wayward. Pray for those far away from God that they get brought closer. You never know who’s got a high station with God but doesn’t appear that way to us. The Beloved ﷺ made a prayer and it transformed Umar ibn al-Khattāb RA from an oppressor into a saint.
Make Ramadan an opportunity where you dedicate your dua to the salvation and success of others. In doing so, the angels listening to you will respond with a prayer asking God on your behalf “And the same for you!”
May your fasting and prayers be accepted, your hearts be transformed and expanded, and your stations with God be elevated.
with ramadan starting tomorrow i just wanted to take a moment out to remind ALL queer muslims that you are valid, you are not haraam, and there is nothing wrong with who you are as a person. Allah (SWT) loves us because He made us. don’t let anyone make you think differently. you’re beautiful inside & out and during this ramadan, remind yourself that He will not turn His back on you because you aren’t heterosexual/cisgender. stay safe, happy, and healthy this ramadan & i hope lots of blessings come your way.
i really hope this Ramadan was a blessing and cure for your little broken heart. i hope this Ramadan gave you a taste of what it’s really like to worship Allah and what our purpose actually is here on earth. i hope you have new love to give and new happiness to share. i hope you had the chance to get to know who your Lord is and what He wants from you. this coming year will show you if Allah excepted your fast and prayer. and i hope for you your year will change completely in a positive way and doors will open for you you’ve never imagined they’re existing.
always have in your mind that we’re not perfect, it’s completely okay if you still have to work on yourself! because we all have to.. Ramadan was there to remind us again as it does every year. and so many things happened during this blessed month for our Ummah.. may Allah have mercy upon all these souls who had to leave it too early. and may we all thank Allah from the bottom of our heart that He wanted us to reach its end and to be alive during Laylatul Qadr. i hope all your secret wishes get answered and that Allah wrote Jannah for you during this night.
Eid Mubarak my dear sisters and brothers.
we are people of alhamdulillah, never forget that
Alhamdullilah, we have gotten to experience another month of Ramadan. This month went by so fast, it makes me so sad! But it doesn’t all just end here. Instead of going back to the life we lived before Ramadan, how about we make an effort to take all the values, knowledge, and great habits we’ve created this month and continue to use them every day. Let’s continue to strengthen our iman even after Ramadan ends. For me, starting this blog has allowed me to learn so much about Islam. I’ve learned so much about what’s right and wrong, but furthermore, I have finally understood exactly why Allah (swt) has guided us the way he has. While I researched topics every night, I was repeatedly left in awe, by the beauty and wisdom of Allah (swt). Thank you to everyone who has supported this page and I hope you have taken something from this blog that may have changed your life, because I definitely have. That being said, here are a couple of tips on continuing your habits after the month of Ramadan. And Eid Mubarak to you all! :)
Make Dua to Stay Productive: We complete the month of Ramadan with remarkable levels of spirituality and positive energy. Shaytan, who has been held for the past 30 days, will intensify his efforts to take this spirituality away as soon as possible. The conflict between our ego, our spirituality and shaytan is not a battle that we can win easily. Making dua is essential to guarantee Allah’s support throughout our daily struggles. One of the most beautiful Prophetic duas for holding on to our spirituality and productivity is the following: ‘O You Who makes hearts steadfast make our hearts steadfast in adhering to Your religion.’ (‘Allahuma, ya Muthabbet al-qulub, thabbet qalbi ala deenek’) [Ibn Majah]
Pay Attention to Your Environment: Many of us have normal routines such as having a morning coffee or breakfast at work. Unconsciously, we miss doing some mistakes we used to do as well. Returning to our daily routine will include returning to the same environments that bring up those unpleasant desires again (extra free time and energy to waste, friends you used to smoke or waste time with, gossip or even miss salah). Paying attention to your environment is essential to sustain your productivity. When shaytan tries to seduce us, he does not come with his red horns and stick, trying to convince us to return to our old destructive habits. He will take on many forms and shapes, and the old unpleasant company is one of the most efficient sneak-back strategies. Try to eliminate or avoid unproductive environments as much as you can. You can knock the door of your friends’ hearts with a word of caring advice – perhaps they need help and could change. But be cautious: destructive company will drag you over to their side if you cannot drag them to yours!
Commit to Attending a Weekly Halaqa: Doing ibadah is easy in Ramadan because of the collective focus on it. It is a universal month when all Muslims around the world engage in more ibadah and ritual worship. The act of fasting itself is a good reminder about focusing on staying spiritually productive throughout the day. However, after Ramadan you need extra reminders to boost your motivation because you will not have the same communal support as before in performing ibadah. Moreover, with the busy pace of life, we gradually lose our spiritual energy. Attending halaqa (religious study group) once a week is a great way to bring us back to and stay on the right track. It keeps you aware of Allah and helps you keep your Afterlife in view always. Attending halaqa keeps you in good company: people whom you can discuss your religious feelings, reflections and experiences with.
Set a New Schedule: Having a new schedule is absolutely essential. Your new plan should comprise at least 30% of what you achieved during Ramadan. You can review each activity you performed in Ramadan and include at least 1/3rd of it in your new schedule. Set monthly missions like: helping a friend, giving sadaqah (charity), doing dhikr, reading a specific amount of the Qur’an, voluntary fasting, etc. Always specify the quantity of your goals and stick to deadlines you can commit to. Do not exaggerate or try to replicate your Ramadan schedule. I know you will find the new schedule very minimal when you compare it with what you did during Ramadan, but consistency is what matters now. Our beloved prophet said: “The most beloved deed to Allah’s is the most regular and constant even though it were little.” [Bukhari]
Don’t fall apart once you make one mistake: The beauty of Tawbah (repentance) in Islam, is that Allah blesses us with this opportunity to return back to Him after doing something wrong. We should remember that we are humans and that we will err. Only Allah is Perfect. This is why, for instance, if we were able to pray on time all through Ramadan, but become slack afterwards, we must realize it, seek Allah’s forgiveness sincerely, and try our best to get back on track, asking Allah to help us.
“The fasting person is in a state of worship both during his night and his day. And his supplication is answered both during his fasting and when he breaks his fast. During his day he is fasting and steadfastly patient, and during his night he is eating and grateful.”
- Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali| Lataa'if al-Ma'aarif Pg. 294