raise your hand class

So my dad used to teach human evolution at the University of Minnesota, right? And his favorite thing was discussing Native American cultures and bashing misogyny. 

So he’d start off class by going “Raise your hand if you think you know why men hunted and women stayed back in the settlements” and most kids would raise their hands. He’d list off a few various reasons and kids would slowly start participating. Then he’d go “How many of you think it’s because men are stronger” and of course most of the males would raise their hands with a few girls. He’d then proceed to rip apart the patriarchal views they had all been taught. “No,” he’d say, “It’s because if five men went out and three or two came back no one would bat an eye. They’d grieve sure, but society would go on. Now if five women went out and three or two came back you know what would happen? Society would collapse.”

And it was true. For many Native American cultures the only reason women did what they did was because the men couldn’t do it. We are (usually) taught a twisted, self-aggrandizing form of history despite evidence suggesting the complete opposite of it. 

Something that happened in one of my classes
  • Teacher: Raise your hands all those who read at least once every other day.
  • *Several students raise their hand*
  • Student 1, whispering to student two: I don't think fanfiction counts...
  • Student 2: *Lowers their hand in shame*
40 Study Tips & Tricks

I thought to write down the “script” to one of my most viewed videos, with 40 study tips & tricks. It’s easier to read them and pass on the word!

Organization Tips:

1. Incorporate homework and classes in you daily planner – that will give you an overall glimpse of how your week will be about and how much time you need to spend in your studying sessions!

2. Color coordinate classes – be it notes, your planner, your textbooks or binders, pick a unique color for each class and work around the hues of that color to get more organized!

3. Make your own syllabus – if your professor doesn’t provide a syllabus for your class, try to make one before the school year working around your given textbooks or other given material.

4. Make study guides – make a study guide from your syllabus and draw before each topic two boxes: one for a midtest and one for the final test. When you have one of these tests, check the boxes when you’ve finished studying the chapter so you won’t miss anything!

5. Reference your material throughout – most of the times, we students work with in-class notes, textbooks and a syllabus. Since we get small bits of information here and there it’s important to reference every page throughout all your material so you can quickly access your information without having to flip endlessly through pages!

6. Keep a dashboard nearby – Whenever you use a notebook or a binder, make a dashboard on the first page with post it notes so you can quickly scribble any questions, homework or page numbers. When you get home, you just need to open your dashboard and attend those notes.

7. Print any tests, exercises and exams you can find – keep those in the end of your binder. These are perfect to practice before exams and tests because they really reflect what you will be tested about. Set an alarm clock for the deadline and start working on those!

8. Condense – organization disappears when you have too many of everything. Working with more than one planner in your life will make everything chaotic. If you think you need a second planner because you don’t have enough space to write in the first one, it’s because you don’t have available time as well. Don’t fool yourself and set achievable goals!

9. Customize your textbooks – most of the times, textbooks are formal books where information is hard to come by. Make your own tabs and write every chapter on them so they stick out – flag any charts, tables or graphics. Everything needs to be incredibly accessible!

10 Print a special planning sheet before finals: Organizing your studying by chapters and/or topics before finals is tremendously important since it lets you organize the amount of time you dedicate to each subject,

Study Sessions and Time Management

11. Save at least one afternoon or one morning a week for intensive studying. These is your “life-saver” – when you get so full of homework and projects that you can’t incorporate them into your daily academic routine, one free afternoon to organize your school life will really come in handy! Make an appointment with yourself!

12. Prepare in advance – although most professors may not ask you to prepare a class in advance, if you have the means to, go ahead. Grab a sheet and make a summary of the chapter your class will be about. Write the major topics and key information and take that guide to class. When your professor repeats previously studied information, you will be able to understand everything much better!

13. Never leave something behind – Even if you have a more light class, where professors don’t request homework or any side projects, don’t let that fool you! Be disciplined and be your own professors! Make your own projects and learn everything you can so you can nail those finals when they arrive.

14. Write your questions – most of the time, in a heavy study session, we come up with tons of questions and sometimes we just leave them behind. Write them down in your dashboard or a small notebook and ask your professors (personally or via e-mail). You can also ask your schoolmates in a facebook group created for that purpose!

15. Set an alarm clock and reward yourself – even if you study during an entire afternoon your studying will be pointless if you don’t take regular breaks. Set an alarm clock for one hour/one hour and a half and then take a 15 minute break. Never study for more than 2 hours straight! Even if you don’t notice, you’ll get less and less focused.

16. . Make a list – before each study session I like to grab my notepad and write down everything that I need to do before my session ends: the chapters I need to read, the pages I need to go through and the homework I need to complete. Sometimes I even write theses lists when I’m in college so I’ll have more determination to complete those tasks once I get home.

17 Work on the least interesting thing first. There are always classes or projects that we like the least – and those are the ones that we need to tackle first. You will start your studying session concentrated, which will let you go through the worst tasks faster.

18 Print, print, print. try to print everything you can and never study from your computer. Having your PDF files printed at hand will let you concentrate better, highlight and write some notes in the margins. You can take these everywhere with you and even turn them into small guides for future classes!

19. If you finish ahead, don’t quit. Perhaps the time you’ve saved for your study session has come to an end way before you have planned. That doesn’t mean you should stop right now – Take that time to review what you’ve learned so far or prepare other classes ahead of time!

20. Study in an organized space – make your own studying corner – bring everything you will need, from textbooks, binders and notebooks, to a cup of coffee and your computer. Keep them neatily organized on your desk so everything is at hand and on sight. Put on some soft background music (links down below) and adjust the lightning.

In class notes

21. If your professor provides PowerPoint slides before each class, print them (six or four per page) and bring them to class. Write in the margins and more throughout information in the back so it’s all condensed and tight. This is where you’ll take your notes. If you prefer to write on lined paper, think about copying some ruled paper to the back of your printed slides.

22. If your professor asks you to prepare your class in advance, try to make a small guide for each class. Open the comments column in MSWord and print the pages with that column. When you go to class, incorporate the in-class notes in that column, next to the relevant information so everything is nice and condensed.

23 If you are in a information-heavy class, try to adopt the Cornell method, which is the best, in my opinion, when you need to be a fast writer. There’s a video right here on how to use this method.

24. If you are in a bits-and-pieces class, which is that kind of class where the professor just gives a few key points and then gives practical examples or makes you work in group, try to adopt the box method – you can draw these boxes yourself or make them with post it notes – these are way more visual and perfect to memorize information.

25. Write in-class flashcards – if you don’t have flashcards around, make tiny flashcards on the top of your notes, where you cover the definitions you’ve written with the name of the definition. Each time you open your notes, try to remember the hidden definition. Automatic studying, every time!

26. Participate in class – nothing better than to be actively involved in your class discussion. For most of us, shy creatures, participating can be dreadful – but once you get out of your box, you’ll see how participating really makes you understand the subject!

27. If you have any questions during class, raise your hand and ask them. If your professor doesn’t like being interrupted, write them down and approach them in the end of the class. Sometimes, the little things we don’t understand are exactly the ones that come up on the final exam!

28. Ask for examples. Examples are probably the thing that makes your brain connect the information faster. If your professor isn’t keen on providing examples, suggest your own and see if your answer comes up right. Sometimes, examples are the thing that really makes us understand our material and our definitions, since they transform formal information into relatable events.

29. Sit at the front. It sounds too straightforward but sitting at the front really makes wonders. You won’t get distracted by what you classmates are doing, you will focus on the professor, who is right in front of you and you will resist the temptation of going to Facebook and Instagram during a boring presentation.

30. Write a brief summary at the end of the class. During those five minutes where everyone is dismissed and leaving the room, write a brief summary of that classes’ key points in the back of a page – this is fundamental in the Cornell method but can be used in any other method as well.

Finals Guide

31 Skim through your material two times: at first, you should start by studying your material starting from the end. The last lessons will be fresh in your memory and it’s very important to reinforce your knowledge on these while you can. In the second reading, you should start from the beginning, as usual. It’s important to make these two readings so you can go through the information in a much more flexible way.

 32. Make a mindmap of each chapter. A mindmap is a chart that relates key words and important information, making it easy to understand the relationship and hierarchy between such key words. Use colors and images to memorize your material better. Oh, and don’t forget to check out my video on how to make mindmaps!

33. Read each of the titles and try to say out loud its contents, explaining each concept and the relationship between them. Imagine you are the teacher and are lecturing that subject to a crowd. If you skip any of the subjects, do it all over again. The more you repeat, the better you will memorize.

34. It’s time for some flash cards!  Write the topic or the title on one side and the meaning or the explanation on the other. Try to cover as many topics or titles as you can and go through your cards while memorizing as best as you can each of the concepts. Try to do it backwards if you have time to do so!

35. On the day before the exam, skim through your mindmaps and flash cards again and always try to study while talking. Saying your content out loud will force your brain to relate information in a much more cohesive way and you’ll memorize everything much better.

36. Read the entire exam from top to bottom. Underline or circle any important words that you think will be crucial in you answer. After that, calculate how much time you should spend answering each question: this simple calculation will take only twenty seconds and will help you organize your time. Try to save five minutes at the end for revisions.

37. If you are solving a written exam and not multiple choice, try as much as possible to organize each answer in a structured way, saving two lines just to present your line of thought and writing each different argument in a different paragraph. Draft a conclusion at the end to underline the centre of your answer. Sometimes softly underlining some keywords is important to make your professor notice that you’ve correctly given importance to certain concepts.

38. Use these symbols for each question: one dot if you aren’t sure of the answer, two dots if you are sure of your answer and a circle if you are completely unaware of your answer. Start by answering any question with two dots; after those are all answered, go on through the two dots question. Leave the circle questions to the end – and ALWAYS answer them! Even if you don’t know what they’re about, who knows if you will be able to come up with something right?

39. Review your test one final time – many times, we make a lot of mistakes under stress and now is when you should spot them and amend them. This can be the difference between a B and an A!

40. Don’t take this too seriously – school is an important aspect of our lives but it isn’t everything. Failure comes many times and these failures can even drive you away from something that was simply not meant to be. Don’t stress out because everyone goes through the same!

university gothic

-You have to be up by 7 am tomorrow morning. You set your alarm for 5:55. You wake up at 4 am because your kidneys are screaming for release, and by the time your head hits the pillow again your alarm is buzzing. It’s 6:55. You could have sworn you set it for 5:55. You panic. It doesn’t matter. Your first class doesn’t start until 9.

-Your literature class has twenty-five students. You raise your hand often in that class. Only four other people ever raise their hand. Somehow, everyone else has found a way to remain silent for the entirety of the semester. You don’t know the sound of the girl’s voice who sits to your left. There is no girl who sits to your left. You are the only one of two students sitting in the front row. You are an island in a class of silent eyes.

-It is possible that your upstairs neighbors are actually sumo wrestlers, or perhaps professional clog dancers. You’ll never know. The RA on duty has never been around in time to check. The upstairs neighbors remain faceless. But never noiseless.

-Everyone’s schedule is so busy that every time you make plans with friends they ask to take a raincheck for next week. Next week never comes. It is always this week. “Next week” is just an empty promise.

-A student whose age you could never guess walks down the street on his way to class. He wears a t-shirt and worn leather sandals. It is thirty degrees outside. You don’t question it. No one does.

-It is raining today. Classes are not real. No one speaks of happy things. You all wonder when the sun will shine again. If it will shine again.

-There is a new building under construction this semester. There is always a new building under construction. You have never been in a single new building. You plan to take a look in one of them at some point. Something tells you you never will.

little bad memory things :)
  • not knowing if you said something out loud or if you only thought it
  • “did i already ask you that?”
  • “what did you say”
  • raising your hand and putting it down multiple times in class because you can’t remember your question/comment
  • pausing in the middle of simple tasks because you can’t remember what you’re doing
  • “where is my [object i had in my hands literally 30 seconds ago]?”
  • not knowing someone’s name even though it’s the 5th time you’ve met them
  • rereading/rewatching books/movies because you can’t remember basic plot details
  • forgetting to look at the list of things you need to remember
  • forgetting the end of your sentence before you even start it/trailing off

I know there are a quite a few posts on tumblr already about studying mathematics but I figured I’d jumped in with some less conventional things that have worked..

1- believe you can. This may be an overused phrase but it’s that way for a reason. So many people have this negative way of thinking that math is hard and when they walk into a classroom they’ve already concluded that it is going to be difficult for them and that they’re going to fail. I’ve personally done this and I have to remind myself that I can do it and not to be resolved to failure. It helps, drastically. 

2- If you have trouble remembering formulas I have a system that I use, it’s pretty simple, all you need is a notebook( I prefer a very mini one to make carrying it easy). On the first few pages I have some of the basics such as Types of Numbers, order of operation, perfect squares and such and then i use a double page spread where the left side has what I’m finding and the right side has the formula. Sometimes there isn’t a specific formula so I list the steps or an example.

3- Another method to help with remembering formulas is to always write it. Whenever you’re doing a new topic and your teacher gives you an exercise to do write the formula before each question, even if that means you have the formula written ten times on one page.


4-
PRACTICE!PRACTICE!PRACTICE! This is the best way to improve in maths. Do one sum ten times, do test papers, do exercises from your textbook even if you teacher doesn’t assign them.

5-And on the topic of practicing, practice topics even after you’ve moved on in class. It’s the worst thing to be studying for an exam that covers various topics and you realize you only remember the more recent work and forgot the work you did at the beginning of the term. This is my biggest problem and I’m desperately trying to combat it and the best way may be setting side about an hour a week and doing sums, it doesn’t even have to be a lot, just 3 or 4 sums from each topic.

6- Don’t move on from a topic if you don’t understand it. This is the worst thing you can do. It’s likely your teacher will ask the class if everyone understand and you should raise your hands, don’t be afraid or embarrass, one: because it’s their job and two: because chances are some of your classmates don’t understand or know what it feels like not to understand. It’s also  important to remember that different people have different way of explaining things so try seeking out other teachers and asking for help or other students or even trying the web,

7- Statements. These are so damn important. Ever reviewing over your notes and you can’t understand how you got from one point to the other? That’s what statements are for. Honestly as someone who relies on statements to figure out how to work out a math sum when I don’t understand or miss class it’s very helpful. Also I’m not sure about elsewhere but here the correct answer is typically only 1-2 marks and statements and workings carry the rest.

8- LEARN HOW TO USE YOUR CALCULATOR!

For exams:

1-keep a sheet of paper that has all major topics and their respective sub topics and I use it to keep track of whether you’ve reviewed the topic for test another thing you can do is rate your understanding of the topic: 1 star/circle/heart= poor understanding to 5 stars/circles/hearts=excellent understanding. Be truthful with yourself.

2-Go over and DO OVER questions you did through the term and if your teacher does a review session at the end of the term then definitely go over those, it’s likely these questions will be on your test paper but with different values.

3-Sometimes questions can be worded in a way that is tricky, read it carefully and underline the important parts and what they’re asking you to find.

4- One of the ways I check to see if my answer is correct is working back the sum so for example 2 x 5= 10 then 10/5=2.  

5- don’t freak out or psych yourself up, you’ll do great and if you don’t then learn from your mistakes!

I hope this little post helped someone. Remember that math will only be as frightening and hard as you imagine it to be, 

for many students, myself included, classes with a participation requirement can be an unholy nightmare. speaking up in class as an introverted, shy, or anxious student can be really tough, especially when your grade depends on it. so here are some tips i’ve used to overcome some of that difficulty!

know what’s expected

being prepared can really help alleviate stress. read your syllabus carefully to figure out exactly what kind of participation your professor is looking for. maybe you can get some credit from attendance, online discussions, or simply being engaged in class.  even if you can’t find a participation loophole, though, you can go in with the right expectations and come up with some strategies before you even get to class.

be prepared

this is pretty straightforward. don’t let yourself be confused or blindsided by the topic of discussion and you’ll have an easier time speaking up. before class, do the reading, take notes, and come prepared with an idea of one or two things you can bring up. if it helps, you could write down a list of some topics or even script out some comments beforehand. just make sure you understand the topic of discussion (or make a note of what you don’t understand and ask a question about it!)

make a goal

sometimes it can help to treat participation as a quota you have to meet. promise yourself that you’ll raise your hand once every class or twice a week or whatever number will keep you on track grades-wise. then record how you’re progressing and keep yourself accountable! breaking participation down into daily or weekly goals can make it more manageable.

go easy on yourself

sometimes i don’t speak up because i’m afraid i’ll sound dumb or less qualified than other students. impostor syndrome is a killer, but it might be helpful to remember that everybody did the same work and listened to the same lectures - chances are nobody in your class is a secret expert. you don’t have to be a brilliant genius to participate in class! you don’t even always have to be right, tbh! all you have to do is say something.

talk to your professor

if you’re really struggling, tell your professor about it! they might have some suggestions that can help or an alternate assignment you can do. at the very least they’ll know that you’re having a tough time but you still care and are trying your best.

change your outlook

at the end of the day, class discussions are really meant to be a learning experience for you and your classmates. if you treat them as an opportunity to better understand your classwork and to get different perspectives rather than a scary test of your knowledge, it can really help! instead of zoning out or thinking too hard about what you need to say, try really focusing on the discussion. take notes, reference your readings, and listen to what other people are saying. if you can transfer even a little bit of your energy from worrying towards learning, you’ll get more out of the class and maybe lessen the stress.

  • Deku: wait you had a crush on me ?!
  • Ochako: oh come on, it's not that weird
  • Deku: it is! No one's ever had a crush on me...
  • Ochako: ...
  • Ochako: *climbs up the table*
  • Ochako: HEY IF ANYONE HAS HAD A CRUSH ON DEKU RAISE YOUR HAND
  • Class 1-A: *raises their hands*
  • Shinsou and Mei: *peeking through the door, raising hands*
  • Tomura and himiko from the window: *raise hand*
  • Deku: oh...
Signs your TC may like you

“He likes me, he likes me not…”

Before you read this I just want to let you guys know that this is purely for curious and for entertaining reasons; only for the purpose of helping some tcers. So regardless you should NEVER pursue a romantic relationship with your TC while you’re still in school.

Body Language
- He leans towards you whenever you are sitting close to one another
- He rarely turns his back on you
- Has his feet pointed and angled towards you
- Fixes/grooms himself when he sees you (dress to impress)
- Finds an excuse to touch you (e.g. - hugs, high fives, playful punches on the shoulder, etc.)
- He may mimic or imitate your actions
- Prefers to be near you/comes around you a lot
- Acts different towards you (nicer/playful/generous, really depends on personality)
- Will do things to try and make you laugh and stay positive
- He will offer you support
- He would want to be there during important events you may be having
- Smiles a lot and looks at you keenly
- Will try to catch your eye
- May hover around your desk or walk by it a couple times more often than others
- May blush when you’re around, especially the ears
- He may give you small gifts

Eye Contact
- Maintains eye contact during class or when talking to you
- May look away quickly when you catch him staring at you
- His eyes would flicker towards you when he’s made a joke in class
- His pupils may dilate when he talks to you or sees you
- He may look at you when you exit/enter a room filled with people

Verbal
- He might tease you a lot (may be a sign especially if he doesn’t tease other girls)
- He initiates conversation
- He compliments you on your appearance
- He congratulates you especially when you haven’t achieved anything that big
- Keeps a connection with you on social media (e.g. - commenting/liking posts, messaging you, etc.)
- Asks how you are or how your day was especially when he doesn’t do that often
- Is concerned about you
- He doesn’t want anyone to offend you or insult you in his presence, he would defend you at any cost
- He is less likely to allow you return back something you have borrowed before
- He may have a nickname for you
- He says or behaves like he misses you or have been gone for a while/when you’re about to leave
- He will comfort and help you
- He would want to know more about you
- He will offer you unecessary help to impress or keep you happy
- May try to impress you by humble bragging
- Lowers his voice when he talks to you
- May call on you during class a lot even without you raising your hand
- Shows interest in the things you do
- He may commend you to the class
- May write comments on your test papers

Nervousness
- He may nervously laugh when you’re around
- Would get sweaty palms/subtly sweat in general when you’re near
- Fidgets when you’re around
- He may take deep breaths
- Rubs the back of his neck
- Becomes quiet around you when he’s mostly talkative to other people
- Has the ‘deer in the headlights look’ when he sees you

Around People
- He may try to make you jealous by flirting with other girls and may look at you while doing so
- May seem jealous when you are with other guys
- His friends may joke/ tease him or smile/smirk when they see you
- May be nice to your friends

This is just the gist of it, a few signs may not be applicable to some TC’s depending on their personality. Though this mostly addresses the male TC’s, some signs may also be applicable to female TC’s.
I hope this helps!! However this does not mean I’m promoting a teacher/student relationship, and by all means I ask of you to not pursue one while you’re still in school!!

beautiful ❦ peter parker

summary : there’s not a moment where peter thinks you’re anything less than unequivocally beautiful.

word count : 1.5k

author’s note : yo ok unrelated to the imagine but why does peter have like 87 fucking lamps what the heck there’s like 5 in that gif alone who can afford that many desk lamps

   If asked one day to describe you using only one word, which would be terribly difficult for him considering the boy rambles on quite a bit, Peter would say the first thing that comes to his mind most frequently when he sets those kind eyes of his on the girl he’s forever in love with: beautiful. Not just an outwardly sort of beautiful, though, because that’s shallow and Peter would never be shallow. Especially not with you. With you, his most carefully kept love, he ensured that he thought your mind was as beautiful as any physical feature you adorned, and that he loved every single part of you no matter what it was. The easiest way to put those thoughts was by saying that you were beautiful. 

   Which he said. Often. Without remorse, hesitation, embarrassment, he called you beautiful every chance he got, so you always knew what you were to him. 

   Peter sits on his bed with his laptop in front on the pillow next to him, staring at the screen in the dim yellow light of his room that makes his face look paler than it is when you see him in person. Half of his face is visible in the little window that he can see himself in, but you have your laptop propped on a bedside table so that you’re entirely visible while you read to him over Skype, the quality a little blurred. The quality of the video matters little to him. As long as he can see and hear you whisper the words to A Tree Grows in Brooklyn at two in the morning, he’s fine. You dread reading the book, but you need to for your honors English class, so you and Peter take turns reading every night. He’s gazing at you in that moonstruck way of his, cartoon hearts practically flying about his head as he pays more attention to the way your lips move around certain words rather than the actual sentences coming from your mouth. One of his hands rests under his cheek, propping him up on his elbow so that you can get a better view of his brilliant smile that is worn just for you. “You’re beautiful,” he sighs happily, dreamy and in love and cutting off your sentence about the beauty of trees with swift effectiveness. You glance up for the pages, yellowed with age, and grin so widely he has to repeat the statement just to see that again. “You’re so beautiful, just- just wow. Keep smiling. Please. Forever.” 

   If he was there with you right now, sitting next to you on the bed at a respectable distance to make sure your parents knew he wasn’t one of those boys but still holding your hand to keep the contact, you would’ve hit him with a pillow for making your cheeks glow the same shade as a freshly cut rose. You instead shook your head at him, shyly but jovially, thumbing the edges of the page. “As long as you’re here, Pete, I’ll be smiling.” 

   It’s probably the cheesiest thing he’s ever heard and he loves it. He replays the sentence in his head over and over again after you fall asleep still on the phone with him. He doesn’t end the call once he notices. He just types in the message section that he hopes you have sweet dreams (of him) and then turns on his side and goes to bed. He wakes up before you in the morning for school, and when you finally notice that you’re still on the phone after your eyes open just as he’s tying his shoe, he greets you with, “Beauty never rests, does it?” 

    He’s never been a fan of public displays of affection. He’s a naturally shy, reserved person, and he knows that kissing you in the hallways at school would gather a bit of unwanted attention. He’ll do it if he’s feeling bold enough that day, or if he can’t particularly resist the wanting of it, but it’s not often and you respect that endlessly. He is, however, a big lover of sliding notes over to you in the middle of class as inconspicuously as he can manage for a boy of his particular brand of clumsiness. You’ll be sitting in English class, raptly listening to the lesson being taught when a purple post-it is stuck on your back. He always uses purple for you because it’s your favorite. You reach behind you and Peter’s written looking particularly beautiful today, y/n. what’s your secret? on it and he adds a little smiley face at the end, followed by eight doodles of spiderwebs because he just can’t resist. He watches you suppress a beam as you fold up the note carefully and tuck it into the back of your binder. You have a collection of these sorts of notes from him in a jewelry box at home. When he meets you at the door to walk to the next class together, you taking his hand and kiss his knuckles for a second. 

    The rest of the day is spent with Peter running his fingers over that spot on his hand repeatedly. It’s a soothing gesture for him, relaxes him to no end. You do it as often as you can after that, almost as often as he says that you’re beautiful, but not quite as much. You can’t match him on that, even if you attempted it. 

   As mentioned before, though, it’s not just your outward beauty that he lives for, loves more than anything else, adores with all his soul. He thinks your mind is the greatest thing to ever exist, other than you as a whole. He fell in love with your personality before he really stopped to ponder the perfection of your face, the way it should happen for everyone. Every time you speak, raise your hand to answer a question, participate in a debate in class, show off your skills during decathlon practice, he stares in awe until someone pushes him over and scolds him for being so distracted during an important meeting. He catches your eye when this happens, and shrugs sheepishly, because you both know what had him so distracted and it certainly wasn’t the studying. 

   You showed him your journal once, where you jot down various ideas and snippets of stories and poetry and prose and song lyrics and all he can do is endlessly read through each page with careful consideration before he kisses you so quickly you don’t have to time to know that it’s going to happen. You open your mouth to ask what the hell that was for, but Peter always knows what you’re going to say before it comes out, so he answers the unspoken question without needing you to ask it. “Your mind- your thoughts. They’re beautiful, okay? You have a beautiful mind. You’re so intelligent. I- I am with the smartest person in the universe. Hands down. Your mind is so beautiful, Y/N,” he repeats, not letting you kiss him a second time. He wants more time to read what you’ve been writing all this time without showing him. He’s planting roses in your cheeks again, and they bloom for him as usual.

    You tell him that he’s the sweetest boy you’ve ever known with a joy filled laugh and an engulfing hug as you sit on his bed and kiss him sweetly, intensely, forcefully. His hands hesitated between resting on your cheeks or on your hips, but he settled on pressing them to your face as he pulls you closer. He’s backed up against his headboard, his fingers gliding through your hair and over your skin as you press a kiss over every inch of his face- his forehead, the tip of his nose, both his cheeks, his chin, the edge of his jaw, just by his ear, everywhere you can manage. They spill down his neck and you hear his breath hitch ever so slightly when you bite down for a few seconds too long. He’s panting when you lean back, his mouth parted as he stares up at you in wonder, in awe. Same as always, but still so lovely to see that it makes your heart feel like it’s flying. His hands come down from where they were entangled in your hair and go down your arms, taking your hands. “You’re so beautiful.” He says for the millionth time since you told him you adored him (not that you’ve been counting, not that you mind one bit.)

   “You’re not just saying that because you like making out with me, are you?” You quirk an eyebrow at him, a small smirk playing at your lips when his meets yours again. The softness of them pulls away for a second so Peter can show you that he’s shaking his head. 

    “Never! Never would I say that just to make out with you.” He squeezes your hands. “I mean it when I say it.” It’s his way of saying I love you without really saying those three words that he’s still just a little nervous to say, even though he knows he loves you and that you love him. “You are truly beautiful. Inside and out, always.” He’ll never stop reminding you of it, as long as he’s in your life. Which, incidentally, he hopes is forever. Or something along those lines.

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Meet Me Inside - Part 7

Part 6 | Masterlist Part 8

Relationship: Bucky x Reader

Summary: You really wanted your last year to go without a hitch so you could finally get your Masters degree. But then Professor Barnes walks in to your lecture. And he makes it a whole lot harder to focus.

A/N: Again a huge thanks to @poe-also-bucky for this idea, I haven’t written a chapter this quickly in a while

Warnings: Language

Words: 1583

Originally posted by pinkywinky44

You managed to forget about Barnes barging past, it seemed he had left not soon after the incident and the night went on without him.  

Saturday morning wasn’t a fun occasion, what with your throbbing headache and a strong case of sandpaper tongue. And Sunday was spent at Natasha’s apartment helping her clean it out. How she managed to let so much crap build up was beyond your understanding.

And so Monday morning rolls around once more as your alarm jolts you awake. The idea of seeing Professor Barnes again makes you happier than you’d care to admit. Get a grip, woman.

Keep reading

On Hogwarts Houses

Slytherin is fall evenings, the air crisp but not cold, the setting sun revealing autumn beauty before darkening to show a million billion stars in the indigo inky sky, when the air smells like cloves and cinnamon and smoke from the crackling bonfire. Slytherin is the faint trace of cigarette smoke curling from your lips. Slytherin is sushi, is apple pie with vanilla ice cream. Slytherin is a glass of golden scotch. Slytherin is finding comfort in jeans and a leather jacket, dying your hair and tattoos that are like artwork. Slytherin is pride in your heritage, in what it took to get you here. Slytherin is the warm blossom of accomplishment in your chest. Slytherin is tall boots and long scarves. Slytherin is the person you’d trust with anything and everything, the one you love above all else, the one you’d kill for. Slytherin is not being afraid of the dark, but remembering that night heals. Slytherin is musky forests and the steady soothing rainfall. Slytherin is sarcasm and wit. Slytherin is determination in the face of fear. Slytherin is talking your way out of situations to keep those you love safe. Slytherin is the love that shows itself quietly from day to day, with quiet brushes and unsaid favors, but that rears up in fury to defend if necessary.

And Slytherin is the dark side, the morally ambiguous, the race for whatever it is you desire, shoving others aside. Slytherin is locking yourself in a shadowed corner and curling up, because it’s too much it’s too much it’s too- and wiping the tears and standing anyway, because you can’t stop now, and you can’t show weakness.


Gryffindor is summer, cloudless blue skies and endless green fields. Gryffindor is adrenaline highs and truth or dare. Gryffindor is bright red lipstick and cologne that makes heads turn. Gryffindor is parties that go all night. Gryffindor is fireworks exploding in the sky. Gryffindor is standing up to anyone, friend, foe, or stranger, to tell them they’re wrong. Gryffindor is throwing your friend a beer and jumping on their lap to take a nap. Gryffindor is the love of horror games. Gryffindor is steak and burgers, Gryffindor is spicy curry. Gryffindor is taking the risk, making the leap, no matter the odds. Gryffindor is raising your hand in class. Gryffindor is passionate love, whether it be romantic, platonic, or otherwise, that sees no difference in a hand picked wildflower and a diamond necklace as long as it makes the recipient happy. Gryffindor is defending, even if it’s defending someone you hate against someone you love, because Gryffindor stands up for what is right.

And Gryffindor is recklessness, the uncontrollable emotion, the carelessness with laws and rules. Gryffindor is choosing the ‘morally correct’ option even if it means more are hurt. Gryffindor is solving things brashly, physically, and only making everything worse.


Ravenclaw is winter peace and blizzards. Ravenclaw is the beauty of white snow against evergreens and a baby blue sky. Ravenclaw is the sharpness and cutting edge of a cold breeze, the glint of a metal blade. Ravenclaw is the silence of a library, lost completely in a world of ink and screens and words. Ravenclaw is a glass of wine and an old friend. Ravenclaw is martial arts and street smarts, Ravenclaw is always asking why, Ravenclaw is pages filled with writing and doodles and diagrams. Ravenclaw is telling dirty jokes in code so no one can tell why you’re laughing so hard you can’t breathe and the teacher can’t read the notes you were passing in class. Ravenclaw is failing a class because you couldn’t be bothered to read or do homework, it was too boring and you had other things. Ravenclaw is challenging the status quo and 'there’s always another option’. Ravenclaw is citrus and a stash of junk food that you always seem to eat right away. Ravenclaw is learning a new language because you want to. Ravenclaw is an innocent face that can hide the dirtiest mind. Ravenclaw is a pile of books that you’ll read - you will, you promise - one day. Ravenclaw is looking up and… hell, when did it get to be three thirty AM, you have classes in five hours, you… another half hour won’t hurt. Ravenclaw is love that happens slowly, like creeping ivy, till one day you wake up and realize it’s ensnared you tightly and you wouldn’t have it any other way.

And Ravenclaw is addiction, to coffee, to drugs, anything to get that clarity and that swooping feeling. Ravenclaw is coldness, is locking away resentment to fester, is 'revenge is a dish best served cold’. Ravenclaw is shutting up and never asking for help, because you’re smart enough, capable enough to handle it. Because you have to.


Hufflepuff is tea and sweaters and punching someone in the face because they need to shut up, calm down, or get the sense knocked into them. Or just because the punch was really satisfying. Hufflepuff is spring, Hufflepuff is winter melting away and basking in the sunlight. Hufflepuff is singing loudly to Journey and Queen. Hufflepuff is having the messiest rooms and yet knowing exactly where to find everything. Hufflepuff is 'there’s no such thing as too much chocolate’. Hufflepuff is one too many glasses of champagne so the world feels like sunshine. Hufflepuff is honestly not giving a damn what anyone else thinks. Hufflepuff is 'you’re never too old for…“ Hufflepuff is beating the crap out of people who destroy what a Hufflepuff believes in. Hufflepuff is prank wars that spiral out of control. Hufflepuff is getting shit done while everyone else argues. Hufflepuff is refusing to fit into the mold, which results in hufflepunks as well as Hufflepuffs in every dormitory because they have friends in every house and no one minds a 'puff sleeping over now and then. Hufflepuff is honey badger don’t care and angry momma bear. Hufflepuff is staying up till three am to talk someone out of depression, out of suicide, out of something stupid, convincing them how amazing and how loved they are. Hufflepuff is enduring scorn. Hufflepuff is a bumblebee hat on a Slytherin’s head because, despite whatever your mascot may be, YOU are a human and humans have ears and just wear the damned hat you asshole; a plate of supper next to a Ravenclaw and if you don’t eat it I will shove it down your throat with my own claws; a tightly wrapped bandage around a Gryffindor’s sprained arm and a surprisingly painful punch to the other shoulder because you NEED to stop nearly dying, thank you. Hufflepuff is loyalty, is true friendship, not the plastic My Little Pony stuff but the true friendship. Hufflepuff is the first ones to get Netflix running at Hogwarts, despite magical interference.

And Hufflepuff is loneliness, is the intense desire for friendship. Hufflepuff is having to deal with derision and scorn. Hufflepuff is the sting of betrayal and abandonment that cuts so much more deeply then with others. Hufflepuff is loyalty placed in the wrong ideal, Hufflepuff is loving the wrong person. Hufflepuff is drowning in emotions that bring panic attacks.

tl;dr

Slytherins are NOT evil.
Gryffindors are NOT assholes.
Ravenclaws are NOT heartless.
Hufflepuffs are NOT weak.

Thank you and have a nice day.

hey hello friends!! i’m excited to present a new original masterpost series, #studyingwithacdemic! my blog’s “tagline” has long been ‘study with me’, and now i’d like to make that a reality. in #studyingwithacdemic, i’ll be addressing many of the problems that students encounter in their studying journeys, and offering my personal tips on how to face them! 

some of these masterposts will be veeery specific while others will talk about a broader topic. however, all of them have one goal: to help you become the best student you can be! you can tag posts using these tips with either #heyacdemic or #studyingwithacdemic and i’ll be sure to reblog <3

with that aside, here’s the very first masterpost: studying a subject you hate. i know hate is a very strong word, but there are some subjects you really just can’t stand. however, there are a few different kinds of hatred:

  1. hatred because it bores you: if you don’t enjoy learning about a subject, that can certainly complicate things a little.
  2. hatred because it confuses you: sometimes you don’t like a subject because it’s not your strong suit and it frustrates you to try and understand it!
  3. hatred because of previous failures: there are some subjects i don’t like because i failed a test on it, or something of that sort, whereas i enjoy the subjects i’ve always done well on. past mistakes may influence your opinions on a subject!
  4. hatred for no reason: u serious mate?? pfft.

there’s really no set, foolproof method to tackle subjects you don’t enjoy, so in this masterpost i’ll be addressing how to study for subjects that you dislike based on why you dislike them. ok ok, without further ado:

HATRED BECAUSE IT BORES YOU

  • use a rewards system!! if you really cannot get yourself to enjoy a subject, forcing yourself to like the subject won’t get very far. however, forcing yourself to like studying it is slightly more doable.
    + set up a way to reward yourself for bravely facing that awful subject
    + after two hours of focused studying, give yourself a pack of gummy bears or something. give yourself an incentive to study!
    + bonus points if the reward is good for you. maybe reward yourself a 30 minute run if you finish studying, cause that’ll boost your energy, be healthier than gummy bears, and be a cool reward for studying :)

  • study in different ways! have some diversity in the ways that you study!
    + experiment with timelines, mindmaps, annotating, etc. to keep things interesting while you’re taking notes.
    + also don’t hesitate to stray from your textbook and into the world wide web of info: look up youtube videos, podcasts, websites, articles, etc. to study rather than just sticking with what your teacher gives you!  
    + when you’re reviewing something, don’t just stare at your notes, turn it into a game or something!! make it fun.
    + if you’re always trying new ways to study a subject, who knows, maybe one will click and you’ll start to enjoy it :)

  • associate with things you enjoy! hard to hate something that’s similar to so many things you like, right?
    + for example: you hate english? look, you’ve just shunned all of your favorite books and songs and writing in general. you hate science? sorry, my friend, it’s because of science that you’re breathing (biology) and cake exists (chemistry)
    + ps: sorry if i got those subjects wrong, i haven’t taken chem or bio yet!

  • study with the pomodoro method! here is a great masterpost by aza (@etudiance) about the pomodoro method, i really recommend taking a look!
    + this works great for subjects that bore you because you’d be studying for short blocks and have breaks in between, meaning you wouldn’t be stuck staring at a textbook for 3 hours *shudders*
    + just make sure that the time you’re spending studying is really focused studying, not just passively flipping through notes.

  • study with a friend! especially if they LOVE that subject. studying with a friend (productively) can make subjects so much more bearable!
    + as long as it’s actually studying, and not.. taking selfies or talking about unrelated subjects ////toootally haven’t done that before ahem ahem////
    + plus, if your friend adores the subject you abhor, maybe their enthusiasm will rub off on you!

HATRED BECAUSE IT CONFUSES YOU

  • ask your teacher for help! i swear by this one: teachers are (usually) great people who want you to succeed! no they are not evil creatures making you fail your classes for the heck of it!
    + arrange office hours or something with your teachers to go over content you’re struggling with. this is a great time to get to know your teacher as a friend and you’ll be approaching the material at a pace you’re comfortable with
    + if you’re scared of talking to your teacher (we all know the feeling!), you can always just correspond via email, and if they think you need a private meeting, they’ll most likely suggest it
    + if your teacher gives study guides or premade note thingies, always always always go through them thoroughly because that’s exactly what they think you need to study!!

  • don’t hesitate to raise your hand! everybody hates asking questions in class because they’re afraid they’ll sound dumb. don’t.
    + ask with pride because somebody out there needs you to ask that question for them! and even if you think you hear snickering (spoiler alert: that’s your imagination, silly), imagine it as a heroic deed for that-one-kid-who-needed-to-know-the-answer-to-that-particular-question-but-didn’t-bravely-raise-their-hand-like-you-did. congratulations, my friend.
    + teachers are totally fine with going through material again because if you are struggling to understand something, that’s their fault because they’re supposed to be teaching you. 
    + it’s better to ask during class than struggle on a test.

  • basically, reach out to other people. if you have trouble with a subject and are starting to resent it because of that, the answer is not to self-study and cry over things, the answer is to ask for help.
    + i know because i basically wing everything and there are times when i want to slap myself for not asking a teacher, friend, or my parents for help beforehand.
    + don’t be afraid to search online, but don’t rely on it either. if you’re scraping through your english class by living on sparknotes / cliffnotes, etc. that’s clearly not going to work. it’s okay to use resources like that sometimes to help you understand content you’re really struggling with, but using those ideas (aka not your own ideas) in your homework, etc. is plagiarism. nuh-uh, not ok, don’t do it! ask for help!!
    + also the studyblr community is great!! send in asks because we will all want to give you love and support: and even if we don’t know the answer, we can direct you to another person or masterpost that can help. some people to ask are emma (@elkstudies), grace (@gracelearns), sareena (@studyign), ann (@educaticn), seo (@tbhstudying) and kimberly (@kimberlystudies) – they are absolutely lovely and seem to always have an answer <3 or you can check out @studyblrindex to find someone who studies the subject!! or just ask any studyblr honestly! feel free to ask me as well, i’d love to help if i can ;o;

  • use methods that work for you! even though diversity in study methods is great for subjects that bore you, stick with the stuff that always works for you when you’re confused.
    + do you usually get good grades when you annotate while you read? great, keep doing that!
    + don’t make the mistake of sticking with methods that don’t work, though: if annotating while you read just confuses you even more, it’s time to stop and try something new.

  • just keep working on it! hatred due to lack of understanding of the subject is probably the easiest to fix because if you work hard enough, the subject gets easy and woah omg, more bearable <3 it may seem tough now but you can do it!!
    +
    check out my motivation tag for some stuff to keep you going!
    + i personally think @chibird’s super adorable drawings are great for boosting your morale if you’re feeling down / unmotivated :) give jackie a follow!!!

HATRED BECAUSE OF PREVIOUS FAILURES

  • don’t doubt yourself! you get one bad grade, then you think you’re just doomed to bad grades in the class for the rest of the semester. then you really do get bad grades because you’ve just given up. don’t let that happen!!
    + the worst thing you can do is constantly remind yourself about what you did wrong!
    + also, most of the time your “failure” wasn’t even as bad as you think!! even if it was something public and embarrassing, the only person who still remembers it is you.

  • spend less time thinking about your “mistake / failure / incident” and more time assessing what you can do better next time! this one’s a biggie. instead of resenting a subject because something bad happened that one time, it’s better to see how you can prevent it from happening again.
    + giving up isn’t an option here!!!
    + maybe for the test you got an F on, you tried a new study method that definitely didn’t work. all you have to do is stop using that method!
    + this will also take your mind off the fact that you “failed” (again, you probably didn’t), and lead you to think of it more positively (because now you know what to avoid doing in the future!)

  • don’t overdo it! one time in english class, i basically made this really dumb mistake and i cried and was miserable about it for a whole year. then, i made myself attempt to memorize the dictionary because i forgot the meaning of one word. 
    + that was a huge waste of time for me, constantly reminded me of the mistake i made, kept me miserable, made me feel guilty when i couldn’t memorize a word, didn’t actually help my vocabulary, and was basically a big, fat pfffft.
    + the lesson to learn from this is: assessing what you can do better next time DOES NOT MEAN to overdo things. it just means to learn from your mistakes and try to improve <3

  • re-inspire yourself! most of the time, this subject wasn’t one you always hated. it was just that one dumb thing that made you feel miserable and queasy to even think about the subject. don’t let something so small ruin a whole subject for you!
    + check out my failure tag for some posts about dealing with failure or disappointment in the academic world!!
    + search for posts in the studyblr community related to that subject to see how wonderful that subject is! :)

HATRED BECAUSE HATRED. 

  • there’s no way to make yourself not hate something if you don’t know why you hate it. ask yourself why you hate that subject so much! chances are, you don’t hate it at all!
    + try and talk / rant to someone about it (you can drop me an ask with a rant about a subject you hate – i’d be happy to try and help or just be a person you can rant to). maybe the reason will come out in the process of ranting.
    + or just journal / write for a little bit about the subject. sometimes letting your emotions loose can help!

alright, that is it for this first masterpost!! i really hope you found this helpful, since these are all my personal tips, no research or anything. if you have any questions, want to talk, want to yell at me for a bad masterpost, want to chat about your day, have any suggestions for future #studyingwithacdemic masterposts, want to request a future masterpost etc. etc. just drop me an ask and i’ll answer asap to the best of my abilities! <3 thanks for reading and have an absolutely magnificent day, xoxo hannah

For upcoming freshman
1. You’re going to contemplate whether or not you want to make one of those “advice to your freshman self” or “advice to upcoming freshman” type posts because you’ve already seen thousands of these but you’re going to do it anyway because why not?
2. Communication is a big thing here. Your professors, your TAs, they’re here to help you, so don’t be afraid to ask for accommodations or any clarifications. They really want to make sure everything is okay so you can get the best out of your education.
3. That being said, you really can’t half-ass things anymore if you want to do really well. You’re going to have classes where you learn a ton of information each day and your professors trust that you know what works best for you to learn the material. It’s a good idea to try to figure out your learning style.
4. This “can’t half-ass things” rule goes beyond academics as well. Getting into certain clubs just isn’t the same anymore. You’ve might have been able to audition for the school musical recovering from a cold and learning the song two days before but still getting the lead anyway because the director has known you for 4 years and knows your potential. But it’s a fresh start here; give it your all.
5. Friends too. Because of the classes you’re taking, most of the people you’ll see on a daily basis will likely be in your major. Which really isn’t a bad thing, but if you really want to maintain friendships with the people you meet during welcome week, you’re going to have to make an huge effort.
6. Take advantage of your school’s wellness center, even if you feel like you don’t have “Real Problems” (spoiler alert: your problems are real). Sometimes it’s good to talk or get advice from an outside perspective.
7. You’ll be surprised at how much freedom you have. Bring your cup of coffee to class. You don’t have to raise your hand to go to the bathroom during lecture. Go as your please. It’s okay if you’re feeling cold and want to leave on your hat. Professors won’t assume the worst in you. After all, you’re CHOOSING to pay to come back every year.
8. Try not to worry about what people think of you. Because trust me for whatever you are doing there’s always somebody doing the same thing or even more bizarre. I’ve seen people wearing their pjs to class, or even dressing up like they’re about to hit the runway. I’ve seen people eating cereal out of bowel-shaped tin foil and cocooning themselves in their duvet cover while watching Netflix in the lounge. People are usually more preoccupied with themselves to care that deeply about how you look. 
9. What your college experience looks like really depends on you. You’ll here a lot of people telling you “don’t take 8ams” or “you’re going to get the freshman 15”, things you should/shouldn’t do or things that should/shouldn’t happen. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s too early to tell how you’re going to look back on these years, but it’s definitely an interesting time full of getting to know your self and realizing who you are as an individual.
—  a rising sophomore
Freshman Mistakes!

These are mistakes that people make all throughout high school, not just freshman! But to keep the title concise I just called it that  Also, long post coming up! 

In Class

  1. Not asking questions in class. At lot of students are shy and embarrassed about asking questions in class, But, there are always people who have the same question as you and it isn’t worth not knowing stuff on the test than feeling awkward for two seconds. Also, I’ve had teachers majorly bump up my marks because they say me asking for extra help and putting in effort.
  2. Not doing homework when it gets assigned. I will admit, sometimes there are times when you are 100% confident you already know how to do what was taught in class. But, mostly, doing a bit of extra practice can help you a lot even if it seems like a waste of time. When you are in upper grades and harder classes, doing homework every night is not optional, so get into the habit now. 
  3. Not taking notes in class. This can be hard when your teacher gives you handouts or just has you copy from a powerpoint. But what you should work on doing is listening to the teacher and write down extra information on your page from what they say, not just the bare minimum from the PPT. This is such a useful skill in upper years… I have some classes where the teacher just stands at the front of the room and talks and you have to create your own notes. 
  4. Not reading rubrics/instructions. I have so many examples of getting marks taken off even though my project was good, just because I didn’t read the instructions. Make sure you go through the rubric and/or the assignment sheets and check off that you have all of the components.
  5. Trying too hard to impress teachers. The best way to impress a teacher is to come get extra help, raise your hand in class, do all of the assignments as best you can and ask when you don’t understand something. Basically, show that you care about their class and are willing to work hard. Don’t bother sucking up to them about things outside of class or trying to prove yourself by writing an essay twice as long as recommended. Just try hard and your work will speak for itself. 

At School

  1. Not joining any activities at school. Activities boost up your resume, are a great way to meet new friends, and can be a really good way to stay involved throughout high school, because you can stay in the same club for all four years if you want. Pick one or two activities that really interest you and try them out!
  2. Joining too many activities at school. I know, I just said to join something at school… but the key words are one to two! I have been the leader of many clubs and groups inside and outside of school and there is nothing more frustrating than having people say they are interested and then backing out. Don’t sign up for everything you think sounds cool and then leave the cub a few weeks later. Find a few things you are actually passionate about and do those instead of doing 10 different things! 
  3. Not using class time/spares to your advantage. If you have work periods in class or you have a study hall or spare during school hours, use it! Its way better than having to work on something after school, especially if its a partner project. Way easier to organize when you guys are both at school.
  4. Worrying about who you sit with at lunch. I promise, no one will notice if you sit alone in the cafeteria for a few days. If you feel self conscious, just take out a notebook and people will assume you’re studying and want to be alone. 
  5. Not taking gym! I don’t know if this is the same way at every school, but usually you need at least one gym credit to graduate. Take it in grade 9!! It is easy, fun, and literally everyone takes it , so you aren’t going to be the worst at sports. I waited and ended up being forced to take online health just to be able to graduate.  

Socially

  1. Worrying about boys and crushes. Having a crush on someone seems like the be all end all of your existence when you’re 14, but its almost always useless. If you like someone and they like you too, that’s great and you should pursue it if you want. But if you like someone and they don’t notice you, try as hard as you can to move on. It is not a useful way to spend time and focus! 
  2. Hanging out with people who don’t like you. I did this so much in earlier grades! I tried so hard to force my way into groups that didn’t like me and didn’t want to hang out with me. Let go of the people who don’t accept you and try to find friends who actually love spending time with you. You are amazing and don’t deserve to have to fight for someone’s attention. 
  3. Trying too hard to hang onto friends from elementary school. This isn’t to say that you can’t keep being friends with someone if you go to different schools. But sometimes, a friendship just fades when you guys go off to different places. For me, I had friends that all went to private school together and I spent so much time worrying about being friends with them even though we only hung out like every 6 weeks. Let friends go if you grow apart. It’s only natural. 
  4. Not thinking about the consequences of your actions when partying. If you go out and get super, fall down on your face wasted, you might a) get in trouble from your parents, b) embarrass yourself in front of people or c) just feel like absolute shit the next morning. If you want to try drugs remember that you might a) get caught and get in legal trouble or b) have a really bad experience. I’m not saying to absolutely never go out and party, but think about what might happen and decide from there. 

Hopefully this post is helpful to freshman and others! Feel free to reblog and add your own advice. :) 

i laugh because sometimes people make adrien out to be this kid who has a fundamental misunderstanding of how people and relationships work. “he was isolated and had no friends as a child so he doesn’t understand how the world works.”

adrien was homeschooled. he wasn’t locked in a cage from infancy and prevented from going outside and interacting with humans. he had parents that taught him right from wrong. he has a modeling career where he works with others. he had chloe as a friend when he was a child. about the only thing adrien didn’t have was an opportunity to go to a public school, and that prevented him from having a large, consistent circle of friends.

he’s no more ignorant about love and romance than someone who has never dated or never been kissed. and besides he knows enough about love and romance to help his friend flirt with a classmate so he’s not an idiot.

also, when he makes a mistake and doesn’t own up to it, that’s not the fault of his upbringing. that’s his own fault. you can’t make the excuse “oh he’s been sheltered all his life he doesn’t know how to apologize and own up to his mistakes” because adrien has been shown to be able to tell right from wrong and has even called marinette/ladybug out on her slip ups in regards to her harshness and her jealousy.

adrien isn’t a toddler. he’s a teenage boy. he’s not so socially stunted that he doesn’t understand the basics of human interaction. he’s a homeschooled celebrity. he doesn’t know about lockers and raising your hand for roll call and switching rooms in between classes. that’s it.

There are so many types of comfortable.

There’s the homely comfortable where you let your hair down and put on a hoodie and order a pizza and eat that whole fucking pizza because no one can stop you, and then there’s the invincible kind of comfortable where you do your makeup or you take off your makeup and you go outside to show the world “I’m not afraid of you right now.” There’s the educated comfortable when you’re in you’re favourite class in school and you raise your hand because you know the answer, and you know that the answer’s correct. There’s the serene kind of comfortable where you go outside during a thunderstorm and watch the lightning strike across the sky as you listen to your favourite song, and there’s the comfortable where you’re with friends or family and you’re laughing and everything is okay right then so it’s fine if it isn’t in a little while.