So you want to be Wiccan: Bad reasons to become Wiccan.
People become Wiccan for many reasons, many of these reasons are good, and some are bad. Before you jump into the deep end let’s see if being Wiccan is right for you. For now let’s put how you heard about Wicca out of the way, rather it be TV, movie, or book, because it doesn’t matter. What does matter is you’re here trying to decide if this path is right for you. So let’s begin.
I want to cast spells/curses/hexes on people! So there’s a guy/girl you like and you want to cast a love spell on him/her, or there’s a mean person at your school and you want to curse them to get even. If that sounds like you, you’re trying to become Wiccan for the wrong reason. Most Wiccans don’t even cast spells. If you’re only interested in spellwork, that’s fine - but keep in mind that the word work is a key component of that. There’s a reason that not everyone in the world practices magic. Also keep in mind the Wiccan rede: Ever mind the rule of three, what yee send out comes back to thee. So any magic you send out comes back at you threefold. Good or Bad.
I was raised Christian, but I hate going to church so I want to become Wiccan! So you’ve decided the Christian faith isn’t for you. That’s fine, everyone is entitled to spiritual growth and everyone can decide their own faith. However if you’re becoming Wiccan as an act of rebellion, or because it was the first religion you came across, you’re doing it for the wrong reason. In this situation it’s important to ask yourself why you don’t want to be a Christian and why Wicca is a good path for you. Make sure you look into other faiths as well so you know there isn’t one you feel more drawn too or agree with more. Switching religions isn’t like trying on a new pair of shoes, and often involves some degree of commitment on your part. Be sure you’re exploring Paganism because it feels right to you - not because it seems wrong to your family.
I want to conjure up spirits to do my bidding! While some Wiccans do work with spirits and the spirit world, it’s not a good reason to become Wiccan. Remember that these people put lots of studying and practice into working with spirits. It’s important to remember that they’re not pets or playthings - just because you invoke a spirit doesn’t mean it’s interested in doing you bidding, most of the time they aren’t, or they won’t even show up. Many people do have spirit guides, and there are many different types of them. If you do decide to work with spirits, be careful, because sometimes once invoked they aren’t too keen on leaving.
I want to be part of a religion that lets me do what I want! While there’s a lot of “wiggle room” in the Wiccan faith that does not mean you can do things that defy the laws of logic and (not so) common sense. Most established traditions do have a set of rules they follow, and if you choose to join one of these traditions you’ll be expected to follow their rules. If you choose to be a solitary practitioner, you can create your own system, or use one already in effect, but you have to establish a form of consistency and have no contradictions. If you’re become Wiccan to avoid rules, you might need to take a step back and ask yourself what would happen if there were no rules. The answer: Chaos.
All Wiccans are peaceful and loving, so I want to be one! Many people enter into the Wiccan community thinking that every event they attend will be full of sunshine and rainbows, with happy Wiccans frolicking in fields, hugging trees and singing Kumbayah. Then, unfortunately, they get a rude awakening when someone at the potluck dinner says something snarky about someone else, one of the Druids makes a comment about the Heathens, and the drum circle erupts into a brawl because the High Priestess’ boyfriend drank too much. Pagans are people just like everyone else. We’re not all sparkles and light, and it’s unreasonable to expect everyone to be like that. Also, there are so many different sets of beliefs that you can’t just assume everyone’s going to be hugging it out in a giant gooey love-fest. Some Pagans are peaceful, others are not. But it’s a bad idea to expect every single one of us to be exactly the same - you’ll be sorely disappointed if you’re operating under these misconceptions.
I have psychic powers! That makes me a Wiccan! No. It makes you someone who’s psychically gifted. That doesn’t necessarily make you witchy or Wiccan. Many psychics aren’t even Wiccan. Witchcraft, on the other hand, is a matter of practice. In other words, practicing witchcraft makes you a witch, while using your psychic abilities makes you a psychic.
I want to be like the girls on Charmed! Charmed is a television show - you can’t use magic to change your eye color, levitate, resurrect the dead, or any of the other amazing things that Phoebe and her sisters do. Likewise, The Craft and Harry Potter are make-believe too. While television and movies might have you believe that practicing witches do all this fantastic stuff, most of the time we’re just hanging around trying to balance our checkbooks, prepare dinner for our families, get to work on time, and walk the dog.
“Why Don't More People Call Themselves Feminists?”
An anonymous Tumblr user asked for my thoughts on this Cosmopolitan article.
Okay. Stop laughing for a minute. The above question, which is the title of an article by Jill Filipovic, is very important to feminists. They simply don’t understand why the rest of us don’t blindly follow where they lead.
Ms. Filipovic’s article starts like so …
In my first day of Intro to Women’s Studies at NYU, the professor passed out a survey to get a sense of where students were in their knowledge of women’s history. One of the first questions: “Do you identify as a feminist?”
“I don’t know,” I wrote.
This response is understandable. Ms. Filipovic had as yet not been brainwashed by her NYU Women’s Studies professor. Sadly, Ms. Filipovic wasn’t impervious to feminist mind tricks.
That hesitation to own the term is a common reaction: In a 2013 Economist/YouGov poll, 72 percent of respondents said that, no, they did not consider themselves feminists. More women than men – 38 percent versus 18 percent – identified as feminist, but in neither group did a majority use the label.
Normally, a statistic that shows 62% of the demographic you supposedly “represent” and “fight for” want nothing to do with would tell you something pretty damning about yourself - normally.
Celebrities also routinely reject the term: Taylor Swift isn’t a feminist because she doesn’t “think about things as guys versus girls”; Lady Gaga isn’t one because she “loves men”; Sarah Jessica Parker is a “humanist”; Carrie Underwood thinks the word “can come off as a negative connotation”; Shailene Woodley also “loves men” and believes in “sisterhood more than feminism.” On one hand, it’s unclear why we care if celebrities are feminists or not, and in a country where many people harbor negative stereotypes about feminism, it may be a smarter career move for famous women — and it’s almost always women who are being asked the question — to remain palatable by embracing a “girl power” ethos while rebuffing the word for it. On the other hand, every time a celebrity denies being a feminist or issues a qualifier — like Katy Perry’s “I’m not a feminist, but I do believe in the strength of women” — it reinforces the myth that feminism is about hating men or that it’s simply unattractive or uncool.
While most of us who do not identify ourselves as feminist, male and female alike, clearly see man hating/misandry as a core tenant tenet* of feminism, feminists like Ms. Filipovic say this is a myth. Likewise, though advancing the causes of women is worthwhile, feminism isn’t the answer.
Reluctance to use the F-word may be more about education and information than the word itself.When respondents to the 2013 poll were given the dictionary definition of feminist — “someone who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes” — 57 percent of respondents, including 67 percent of women and 47 percent of men, agreed that, yes, they were feminists.
You need to read that paragraph through your propaganda goggles to get the real gist of it.
“education and information” is code for “indoctrination and misinformation”
“dictionary definition” is code for “watered down pablum denuded of confrontation”
“agreed that, yes, they were feminists” is code for “were coopted to make us feel better about our abysmal approval rate”
The answer to “Why don’t more people call themselves feminists?” is simple. We all haven’t been brainwashed by a Women’s Studies professor.
Women’s Studies professors teach their students to a) view feminism’s misandry as a “myth,” and b) define the movement in simplistic terms no one could possibly disagree with, while c) manipulating fact and fiction in a propaganda campaign, to d) spread their hypocritical theories under the belief it is as innocuous as bunny rabbits frolicking under rainbows on fields of dew covered grass.
Ms. Filipovic wants us all to sign up for that? Without getting brainwashed? Hah!
* Never rely on spell check with your glasses off. BTW, Self-editing is really difficult for me because I’m ADD. If anyone ever catches me pulling a “tenant” again please send me a note so I can correct it. I’m usually competent on the “macro,” but in the “micro” I tend to blow it. Corrections are therefore very welcome.