Men literally don’t understand the concept of everything not being about them and that’s probs why so many MRAs have sprouted up. You’re not oppressed. You’re just not the only demographic that matters anymore. More people deserve attention than just you.
I have pretty recently become involved in the radical feminist side of Tumblr, and I have to say; I do not understand the argument that radical feminists “want to kill trans people.”
That just isn’t true. The only people that I have ever seen a radical feminist tell to “go die” are rapists, pedophiles, abusers, and rape apologists, and people who make rape threats openly.
Are some of those people trans? Yeah. Are some of those people cis? Also, yes. Radical feminists condemn people for heinous crimes regardless of their sex or gender identity. That is what I have seen.
The vast majority of radical feminists do not wish harm to any trans folks unless those trans folks have proven themselves to be abusive. The same is true of radical feminists attitudes towards cis people.
Meanwhile, on the other side of the aisle, I see gender activists telling radical feminists that they should drink bleach, die, or kill themselves. Usually this is in reaction to a post that is gender critical–not a post that is hateful towards trans people.
The discrepancy between the behaviors of radical feminists and gender activists is VERY misrepresented on tumblr and other social media platforms–that’s all I’m trying to say.
If you think I’m lying about this, check out the “anti terf” tag, and see how many of those posts are telling radical feminists to go die without any sort of provocation.
Here’s the tags specifically. I’ll give you a moment to check them out individually. Notice anything? Notice how women are specifically named in “trans exclusive radical feminism” - but men are not specially named? Even though men do the raping and killing of transwomen. Notice how the #terf tag is full of misogyny? Notice how “terfs” are insulted based on appearance? Notice the hatred aimed at “terfs”? Where is the hatred for these males who hurt transwomen? Ask yourself, why women?
I’ve lurked in a lot of online political groups since I arrived on the Internet — reddit’s TumblrinAction and TheBluePill/TheRedPill, YouTube gay & anti-sjw channels, and all sorts of Tumblr groups, including radical feminists and social justice activists — as well as their subsets on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. I’ve seen so many feuds and SO much nastiness; I’ve largely avoided getting caught up in it myself, but you spend too much time in any of these “communities,” and you find yourself thinking some really terrible things. So here are some questions I’ve put together that you can ask yourself to discern whether the political group you’re part of is doing you more harm than good.
Does the group set itself up in opposition to another group? Not every group that’s focussed on bringing down another group is terrible, but at the very least you shouldn’t spend all your time in them: that “those who fight monsters” saying is very true. You may start finding the toxic beliefs of the opposing group “make sense.”
If the group is opposed to another group — how much do you really know about them? Are they really a cohesive group with a specific set of beliefs? Or are they just targets for which you can blame almost anything? Is there existence used as a threat — is it a threat for someone to call you such?
If you think about leaving the group or disagreeing with one of the group members, does it make you scared? How would people react? How many friends would you lose if you did? This isn’t to say that bigotry doesn’t justify ending a friendship… but much of the time, that’s not what’s going on there.
Are those who disagree with the political group (not oppose, just disagree) terrible people? Do you find yourself thinking of them as the “enemy” — are you immediately suspicious of them? Is there pressure (overt or covert) to cut them off completely? Do you feel unsafe around non-members because they’ll never really understand? Do you ever see them being dehumanized, threatened with violence, told to commit suicide? Do group members receive criticism for being too nice to non-group members?
Is it very easy to get labelled as dangerous/horrible/disgusting for disagreeing or questioning? In many groups, particularly social justice groups, I’ve seen the following arguing style: “if you think X, then that means you believe X (or you’re part of X group), which means you’re horrible.” In other words, “if you’re not 100% with us, you’re against us.” This gives no room for expanding or questioning your beliefs.
Are there certain group members who are beyond reproach? Many political groups idolize certain people and/or groups of people, sometimes without their consent. In other cases, leaders might be able to lead group-hunts of certain members. In extreme cases, this might allow group leaders to abuse other group members.
Do you see unsubstantiated statistics and “facts” being passed around as Gospel? Do people spread articles and stories without fact-checking — without even caring whether they’re correct or who wrote them?
Does being in the group take you to emotional extremes — fear, joy, anger? Politics can obviously affect your emotions, since they can touch on personal topics, but they shouldn’t dominate your emotions or your life. At best, this indicates over-involvement in a group — at worst, a group that demands full emotional involvement.
This list isn’t exhaustive, nor is it targeted at a specific group: many, many political groups (some of which vehemently oppose each other) that I’ve looked at have displayed these behaviours. If you recognize these signs, please take a moment to step back from your community. Go offline. Speak to someone who isn’t involved with the politics. Write out your thoughts and fears. Take care of your mental health. It’s okay if you still adhere to the group’s beliefs, but please, take care of yourself first. Then take care of others. Then, looking out for yourself and others, allow yourself to get re-involved in politics.
Lawyer, lecturer, feminist, and radical activist Florynce 'Flo’ Kennedy was a leading figure in both the second wave feminist and Black Power movements of the 60s and 70s. Outspoken, controversial, and media savvy, and an early champion of intersectionality in protest, Kennedy is credited with influencing such famous white feminists as Gloria Steinem, as well as advocating fiercely for Black Panther co-founder Bobby Seale.
Born in 1916, Kennedy was raised by parents that encouraged her and her sisters to speak their minds and have high self-esteem. After the death of her mother, she moved to New York City, applying for Columbia Law School, where she was initially rejected due to her gender. Threatening to take her case to the NAACP and file a lawsuit, she was admitted, becoming the only Black person in her class. After graduating, she opened her own law firm in 1954, representing such clients as the estate of Billie Holiday and civil rights leader H. Rap Brown, before turning to political activism. She organized rallies, protests, and events for women, minorities, and the poor, including a mass women’s urination at Harvard to protest their lack of women’s bathrooms. In 1967 she jumped onstage and grabbed a mic at a rally against the Vietnam War, leading to a 30-year lecturing career.
One of her major wins was the acquittal of 21 Black Panther members on trial for conspiracy to commit bombings in 1969, and that same year she also organized a group of feminist lawyers to challenge the constitutionality of New York State’s abortion law, which led to the eventual overturning of the law and the legalization of abortion in New York state in 1970. She went on to co-found the National Black Feminist Organization, the National Women’s Political Caucus, and the National Organization for Women.
Ugh! I cant believe that these cisbians wont lick my dick! I mean! I’ve done everything girls do! I wear dresses way better than any girl! And I’ve perfected my contour! And not to mention my boobs are way better than saggy real boobs! I mean, what else is there?! I’m soooo much better than any other cis woman out there (all my friends on tumblr tell me so) and nobody will even consider letting me fuck them! This is transphobia! Oppression of the trans people! They want us to die!!!!!
Something I’ve always notice when talking about women’s issues with men is how quick they are to jump in and say “WELL WHAT ABOUT MEN?” well.. what about them? We were talking about women. If you were talking about men’s issues I wouldn’t make it all about women. I would listen and give my opinion based on the actual topic at hand. But I guess men have been socialized to believe that the world revolves them so they don’t really care to have conversations on how to fix other people’s issues.
In the 1970s [radical black feminist activist Florynce] Kennedy traveled the lecture circuit with writer Gloria Steinem. If a man asked the pair if they were lesbians – a stereotype of feminists at the time – Kennedy would quote Ti-Grace Atkinson and answer, “Are you my alternative?”
Yo does anyone have suggestions for radical/activist/feminist children’s books? I have a 1 year old sibling and as the significantly older librarian sister I feel a moral obligation to help her build an awesome library throughout her childhood…….I already bought her Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls for her 1st birthday and supposedly our mother reads it to her sometimes. christmas is coming up and i just realized i dont know what to get next??
Ellen Willis was the first rock critic for The New Yorker; she was also a radical feminist writer and activist. Her work appeared in The Village Voice, where she was a columnist, as well as in Rolling Stone and The Nation. Willis died in 2006 and an award-winning posthumous collection of her rock music essays was published in 2011 called Out of the Vinyl Deeps. It was edited by Willis’s daughter, Nona Willis Aronowitz, who’s just brought out a second collection of her mother’s work.
This collection is more focused on her explicitly feminist culture criticism. Our book critic Maureen Corrigan reviews The Essential Ellen Willis —
“I’ve come to think her power as a writer didn’t derive so much from a poetic way with words as it did from the passion of her arguments and her first person witness. Thus, an extended essay called “Next Year in Jerusalem” that appeared in Rolling Stone in 1977 is riveting because Willis is so real about her own vulnerabilities.”
i occasionally see the sentiment that “trans activists & radical
feminists want the same thing, they’re just using different vocabulary!”
and it’s just not true.
activists do not want to abolish gender (the social roles assigned to sex), only
to expand gender to accommodate them.
many trans activists believe gender is not a cultural construction at all. they see gender as an
innate quasi-spiritual character that manifests in a certain social role: behaviour, emotion, dress, labour, etc.
it’s not just different
vocabulary, it’s misrepresentative vocabulary. if trans activists
wished to replace the term “male” with “bluergh” and “female” with
“blech”, that would be one thing. but the vocabulary they use
(assigned/designated [sex] at birth) obfuscates biological & political reality, making it impossible to name sex-based
oppression and discrimination.
i don’t say this out of anger
or bitterness; i don’t think feminists have a monopoly on insight. but
we have to be honest. GNC male people do not have a vested interest in
abolishing male supremacy (and with it, the cultural system of gender).
mainstream trans activism erodes the ability to name male supremacy.