how do u reconcile ur radical feminist beliefs w/ your relationship with a man? i am a het rad leaning feminist and the prominent discourse these days tends to be "drop ur man dont sleep with the oppressor" and I'm so :/ about it. i am nervous to say anything about it on even my side radfem blog because i'm worried it'll sound like i'm saying hets / mf relationships are being oppressed which isn't what i'm saying. sux that i was scared to question libfem ideas and now its the same w/ radfem.
I somewhat agree with female separatism. If groups of women in society want their own spaces away from males I 1000% support that. I just don’t like the essentialist views (that men are inherently forever cruel) and the pressure for all women to do the same that frequently come along with that ideology. I can see the reason why feminists are encouraged to stop doing things like wearing makeup or shaving, but I think expecting het-partnered women to forgo companionship, love, and intimacy in the name of politics is unnecessary.
At the end of the day, all I’m concerned about is securing a future where women are liberated from misogyny. If other feminists think the only way to do that is to distance womankind from men that’s their prerogative, but I disagree and choose to focus my time elsewhere.