“what the crap are you talking about, you freak.” laughing darkly at what may be the earliest recorded instance of “yes but where are you REALLY from”
Ohhhh my god, you’re right. The analog is actually quite creepy. It’s exactly “you don’t look like what I have decided people I have grouped with you racially and regionally are supposed to look like so explain yourself immediately”. :|
A stranger in the Mandan village is first struck with the different shades of complexion, and various colors of hair, which he sees in a crowd about him and is at once disposed to exclaim that “these are not Indians.” There are a great many of these people whose complexions appear light. Among the women, particularly, there are many whose skins are almost white; with hazel, gray, and blue eyes.
Why this diversity of complexion I cannot tell, nor can they themselves account for it. Their traditions, so far as I have yet learned them, afford us no information of their having had any knowledge of white men before the visit of Lewis and Clark made to their village …
PRETTY PLEASE EVERYBODY REBLOG, For those of you who have seen my short film on racial microaggressions, FUTURE CHILDREN, please check out this interview I did on NBC 4 (featuring 2 other lovely ladies from the movie).
Hey Everyone! My friend directed this documentary on Racial Microaggression in today’s society. It is a funny and light hearted, yet deep and informative film about issues of racism. It is a finalist in the Campus Movie Fest competition and if you could take 5 minutes of your day and watch and share this so that it can get more views, then we would be most grateful. The winners get to go to Hollywood and have their works presented to thousands. Thank you all so much!
holy fuck reading that shitty blogger @botacochina's rant about Honey Lemon being “awful Latino representation” just reeks of this elitism between generations of immigrants from Latin American countries that I’ve grown to HATE WITH A FUCKING PASSION
just so fucking gross
you’re not better because you still speak your parents’ language, be grateful a language barrier does not separate you from your extended family like it does for mine
don’t rub in our faces that our circumstances made us leave most of our parents’ culture and language to adopt American ones, don’t break us more than you already have
Yesterday, a mixed light skin male friend said he doesn’t like black women. My black friend (darker skin black woman) called him out on it and says her and I are black. Of course he says we’re an exception. He says I don’t count because I’m only half. And he said she doesn’t count because she’s not like them.
We argued a bit with him, jokingly. I mean we all had been drinking and I wasn’t lettin this nonsense ruin my night
but dang that was the epitome of antiblackness/ misogynoir in a mixed light skin POC. I believe he has Black heritage too.
Like being an exception is a compliment?!!?!?!?
Meanwhile someone else was tell us two black women that they don’t like black women’s natural hair. But you still trying to get with us??? Get out.
No honey, you can’t pretend we aren’t grouped in your antiblack women, colorist and probably classist, and respectability bullshit. Sorry, you cannot divide us. We are not pitting ourselves against our women.
There has been an anecdote circulating on social media recently about child-actress Quvenzhane Wallis having to correct an AP reporter on her name. The reporter apparently told her that she is going to call her Annie, instead of bothering to learn her name like a true professional would.
This incident serves as another addition to an extensive list of microaggressions people of color have had to face in our history of being ethnic in America. At its base, a microaggression is a social exchange in which a person says or does something with often unintended malice that belittles and alienates a person belonging to a marginalized group. In more basic terms, it’s that one comment your friend makes that seems harmless but stays on your mind for the rest of the night.
The problem with microaggressions is that a lot of the time, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly is problematic and thus, hard to call people out about their problematic nature. Microaggressions masquerade as casual statements from a professional reporter that would rather call you a nickname than learn how to pronounce your actual name.
I’ve never been a proponent of the belief that it is a marginalized group’s job to educate those that are ignorant. Yes, I’m usually a nice person and respond to the questions that come my way but no, I don’t have to. It is not the job of minority groups to educate those around them about something. It is 2014, we have computers for phones and landed a probe on a meteor. If someone is really that serious about being educated on the stuff they get called out for, they can google it and read up.
Of course, in specific cases, like with microaggressions, the conversation about informing the unaware becomes a bit more nuanced. Calling out microaggressions as they happen can be a tricky practice to incorporate. The first step to that is figuring out for yourself, who around you suffers from microagressions and if you yourself fall victim to those as well.
Microaggressions usually come into play most often when surrounded by friends or people we trust. They can also be perpetuated as much by black people or other people of color, as by white people.
Knowledge is the first defense towards getting rid of the microaggressions in your life. Common ones include but are not limited to:
Mimicking African American Vernacular (AAVE) or imitating it when talking to black people
The people that say they “don’t see color”
Non-black people saying the n-word and then looking around to see if they got away with it. Or at a party letting you know they “only say it when they’re drunk”
Calling black women sassy if they show emotion or passion of any kind
Asking people where they are from “originally”
Comments about how lucky you are that your hair “just stays put”
Correcting AAVE when people use it for grammar
The ever popular “pretty for a black girl” statement
Asking someone if it’s their real hair or just straight up touching it without asking.
Now, microaggressions can be overt and deliberate but most of the time the person performing them genuinely doesn't know that what they’re doing is wrong. The best thing to do is to come to the conversations armed with as much information as possible. If these people are your friends and truly care about your feelings, simply taking them aside privately and explain to them what is happening and why it makes you uncomfortable. If they truly care, they should do everything in their power to remedy it.
Unfortunately, other cases may not be as simple. Such as when it comes to addressing co-workers just someone who generally denies the racial implications of their statements. With those people, encouraging them to read more and learn about what’s happening is the most politically correct way of handling it. This essay by Professor Derald Wing Sue and others is a great place to start. If they just don’t care to learn, at least you can move forward in your life better equipped to handle these racial scenarios. As the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink.
Hi, I'm the person who made the "exotic" comment before and by NO MEANS was I trying to be offensive, honestly I was complimenting your features because they look different from what I have seen, but in a good way. Can you explain why "exotic" is offensive? I'm really not trying to be rude, and I'm sorry
well firstly thanks for being apologetic and for actually going out of your way to find out why what you said was problematic. Calling a person of color exotic is an example of racial microaggression. basically when you call someone exotic you’re telling them that they’re different from the norm, whatever you consider that to be, when actually there are many people who exist like me (I’m East African). You are separating me from my people, black people, as if I’m different because I have a set of features you aren’t used to. And you’re giving praise for it. This creates a lot of problems for the perception of minorities and also creates an unfair hierarchy of beauty which is harmful to all people of color. It is also fetishizing and dehumanizing because objects are exotic, not humans, and in fact I can’t even begin to tell you how many experiences I’ve had in real life with sleazebags calling me exotic with the intentions of getting into my pants.
What I’d like you to remember is that while there may be people who have features that you aren’t used to seeing they are still EQUALLY human and valid representations of a human; they are not some sort of mystical fruit or rare species of bird.