Why do people feel like the only way to stop demonizing Connor is to start demonizing his parents… Like yeah they didn’t handle his situation well at all but they loved him a lot and they tried and it’s not easy to know what the hell to do as a parent that’s the whole point of Does Anybody Have A Map like didn’t you listen to that song at all??? Parenting is fucking hard especially if your kid has mental illnesses and it’s really fucking hard to know what to do and they really did try and they really did love him and just because they took wrong turns doesn’t mean they didn’t care or didn’t try to do right by him and that’s what fucking matters.
How about we stop demonizing any characters in Dear Evan Hansen because that’s ruining the entire point of the show. Every character is battling their own set of demons. Every character is complex and has a dark and light side. There’s a way to empathize without justifying, to understand without saying that something was the right thing. No character in that show is black and white, good or evil. They all have a good and a bad side and that’s what makes them so compelling and relatable.
I’m sick of seeing posts about why Connor was a terrible person. And I’m sick of people defending him by saying he just had terrible parents. Can I remind you that the plot of the show is a character that we all love lying about knowing a kid who killed himself??? Why does nobody demonize Evan? Because we see so obviously so many different layers in him. Because we don’t agree with what he did but we understand why he did it and we don’t justify his actions but we empathize because we realize that he wasn’t trying to cause harm he was just struggling to fight his own demons. But we don’t see as much of more minor characters. We don’t get as fleshed out a look at them. We don’t go as deep into their demons and their reasons so people tend to view them as one dimensional which is just WRONG and unfair. Every single character. Every single person is made up of many different layers and pieces and scars. they have dark and they have light. You don’t have to like them all but stop demonizing characters and trying to make them seem like pure evil when that is not what they are.
And while you’re at it, try to see real people more three dimensionally too.