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How an artist and entertainer, who founded a social enterprise when she was just starting out, is preparing for a college that grew from that SE to celebrate its first group of graduates.

“It was apparent to me immediately that I would learn as much from her as she would from me.” - Dr Rebecca Calder 

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Rosalinde Torres is her TEDtalk – What is Takes to be a Great Leader – sometime in October 2013, said that leadership is defined by three questions:

1.      Where are you looking to anticipate the next change?

2.      What is the diversity of your network?

3.      Are you courageous enough to let go of the past?

She dives deeper into her questions and explains that:

1.      Where are you looking to anticipate the next change?

This is about where you spend most of your time. This is the area that you are preparing and developing to create or survive change.

2.      What is the diversity of your network?

This question has to do with surrounding yourself with people that you have differences with. People that you connect with, trust and are willing to collaborate with to achieve a common goal. These people should also connect with, trust and be willing to collaborate with you too.

3.      Are you courageous enough to abandon the past?

This question is about being able to take insights and lessons from success and failures and move on. This is about focussing on the present and looking to the future to avoid pegging yourself to past performance and losing out on present and future opportunity.

I agree with this definition of leadership, especially as it applies to self-leadership. Applying to self-leadership allows me to ground my understanding in my life. I appreciate the definition being based on questions and relating these questions to already existing processes and actions. This says to me that this definition is an active dynamic one and so I enjoy it alluding to leadership being active, dynamic and ever-changing


In another TEDtalk given in September 2010, titled Everyday Leadership, Drew Dudley alludes to leadership being about “Lollipop Moments”. Lollipop Moments are instances where you are changing a person’s perception of their world and therefore their life. His talk is about bringing leadership home, to our interpersonal interactions. This is because the grand and more common perspective of leadership is about saving the whole world. That is daunting and overwhelming to people so they shy away from being called a leader or roles of leadership. Lollipop moments on the other hand are something that we all do every day. We all have the potential to impact someone’s life positively. We are all constantly impacting one another’s lives. Drew constructs a definition of leadership that is about daily interactions and the impact you leave.

I agree with this definition as well. I can see very clearly how it applies to my life, again, though the lens of self-leadership. I enjoy that it is not heavily intellectualised, though arguably philosophical. It gets straight to the heart of things and makes leadership very practical. It exposes that we are all leaders. It causes me to ask, daily:

How am I doing with that? Am I leading successfully?


From Daphne Mallory in an article on businessdailynews.com, I found another definition of leadership. She says:

Leadership is the art of serving others by equipping them with training, tools and people as well as your time, energy and emotional intelligence so that they can realise their full potential, both personally and professionally.

I also agree with this definition for community, family or any other type of team leadership. I believe that the leadership role described here is the one you assume when charged to serve a group of people.


I am mostly curios about self-leadership. I had not realised that I wanted to know more about this until tasked with writing about leadership. So I first had to establish what I think and believe about outwardly applied leadership. Because I believe it happens from others’ willingness to accept your guidance at certain moments. I think the ways in which you lead yourself resonates with them. It creates connection, builds trusts and leads them to requesting collaboration with you in order to meet a goal.

So on an Everyday Leadership level, what impact are leaving on yourself? From that perspective are you leading yourself successfully?

From a Great Leader perspective, where are you developing yourself? Who are you surrounded by? Can you leave your past behind?

At a Service Leadership, are you serving yourself successfully?

From these three definitions of outward leadership, I’m realising that one of its sources is about being there for yourself. Self-leadership is about being there to support and positively impact yourself. That creates more moments for outward leadership, which is also being there to support and positively impact others.