I want a mentor.

I want a queer, african american young woman writer/community organizer to mentor me. 

i’m 18. i feel so freaking young in the QWOC scene, i feel like everyone is doing everything that I want to do while I sit like a duck and watch them but I know I can do it, I know i can be great, I know I can be a change, I know I can be a voice. A face.

And I just want one of the amazing queer women of color writers and creators and innovators that I envy and aspire to be to just take me under their wing and mentor me.

Please. I want one. Please.

Spectra Speaks: “Bye-Bye Bi”?? Ridiculous

After catching up on the National LGBTQ Task Force debacle (in which they published an article called “Bye-Bye Bi”… sigh), I feel compelled to state publicly:

I deeply value and cherish openly self-identifying bisexual people – not just because they deserve to be valued as human beings in general, but because I genuinely believe their experiences create bridges between seemingly disparate communities, and in really powerful ways. They’re owed more than an apology each time society messes up. They’re owed our gratitude.

This year, I attended two awesome weddings, each between a bisexual woman and in one case, a man, and in another case, a lesbian. Their weddings felt like a trip to utopia. All kinds of people – queer and straight – laughed, cried, danced, and celebrated love, transcending all notions of what it means to be on a ‘side’. No one wanted their weddings to end because in comparison to the diverse, affirming spaces they’d created with their love and unity – not just between each other, but between their friends, and families, with varying beliefs – the real world, quite plainly, sucks.

Given how much bullshit and casual bigotry exists against bi people, both from heterosexual and queer communities, I am actually really *grateful* to the folks who are able to stand their ground and not shy away from the label, no matter the repercussions…

Click HERE to read all of Spectra’s thoughts on this subject

Spectra is an award-winning Nigerian writer, thought leader, and afrofeminist social commentator at Spectra Speaks, a digital media platform shifting conversations from the political to the personal through the lens of love, empathy, and media.

She is the founder and executive editor of Queer Women of Color Media Wire a media advocacy organization that amplifies the voices of queer diaspora communities around the world.

Good article on Queen Latifah and her performing at LBC Pride 2012 by our new friends at Queer Women of Color Media Wire (QWOC Media Wire),

In the end, whoever decides to come out and be that Queer woman of color with a big enough celebrity or impact to say it proudly…That’s what I’m waiting on. I respect anybody who declines to talk about their private life but…what courage that woman will have, if they didn’t decline.

I would appreciate it very much, if this happened asap. Thank you in advance.