The only thing you should do behind someone’s back, is make Dua for them.
The Prophet (pbuh) defined backbiting when he said:
“Do you know what is meant by backbiting?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “To say something about your brother which he dislikes.” One asked, “Even if what I say is true about my brother?” He replied, “If such defects you say are true about him, then you have backbitten him, and if he doesn’t have what you say, then you have committed slander against him.”
(Related by Muslim, Abu Dawood, and Tirmidhi)
Hence, it is not allowed to talk about somebody in his/her absence, even if what was narrated was true. If it was not true, then it would be a bigger sin and it is called Buhtan (false accusation).
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT”
It is important to note that to find other’s faults or to talk sarcastically or to defame a person is called ‘Lumz’. In the Qur'an, Allah (SWT) states: “Do not defame one another.”
(Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:11)
May Allah (SWT)protect our tongues from backbiting and defaming one another.
@oliviahmagazine On purifying the heart: Medical studies have proved that your feelings are what generate your thoughts, and in turn your thoughts determine your behaviour and perception. The condition of your heart determines the status of your feelings, it truly is the source of all reason: “So have they not traveled through the earth and have hearts by which to reason and ears by which to hear? For indeed, it is not eyes that are blinded but blinded are the hearts which are within the breasts.“Quran | 22:46
What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be short sighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.
Dear Palestine, dear Syria, dear Burma, Dear Afghanistan, and dear every other oppressed country - do not think that Allah does not know what you are going through. Do not think that Allah cannot see what is happening. Do not think that Allah does not care. He does. He is just waiting to show them how He is far greater than all of their rockets, bombs, rifles. He’s giving them time to show their “strength” so that He can then show them how they are nothing, absolutely nothing compared to Him. Allah will recompense all that you’re going through. Have patience, victory is coming.
يابني، حملت الصخر والحديد فلم احمل اثقل من الدين، واكلت الطيبات وعانقت الحسان فلم اصب ألذ من العافية وذقت المرارات فلم اذق امرمن الحاجة الى الناس.
لقمان الحكيم لابنه
“My son, i carried stones and steel but nothing was heavier than a carried Debt. Ive eaten the best and hugged the beautiful but nothing was sweeter than good health. Ive had my downs and dealt with bitterness but nothing was more bitter than asking for a handout from people”
Luqman the Wise to his son
Luqman was a freed African Slave that god bestowed great wisdom on him. He has his own Chapter in the Quran were Allah describes his great wisdom.
He lived in the times of king david.
سورة لقمان اية ١٨
“And do not turn your face in contempt away from people and do not walk the earth in arrogance for god does not love the arrogant and vain”
From Loqman verse 18, the Quran.