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[ Muslim Women struggling with the Hijab / Modesty ]

Make the internal changes before you make the external. If you change the outside before you change the inside, you’re doing it backwards.

Some ladies get a rush of fear, guilt or excitement and make changes because of that momentary feeling - which is not a bad thing Alhamdulilah it’s still progress. But there is a difference when a change is made from fear, and when it’s made from love.

If you do something out of fear, eventually that fear will wear off and if you’ve taken three steps forward, it is too easy to take two steps back. Sometimes even three or more.

If you do something out of love of Allah, fear will follow regardless. The one who loves Allah, Knows Allah, therefore without a doubt will fear Him. So if that person takes three steps forward, when their fear wears off - their love will prevent them from taking more then one step back. Becomes Imaan does have its highs and lows. We all try, fail, walk, fall and try again.

Learn, and learn properly. Love your religion, love your God, love your prophet, and hold the religion in your heart. You will be too proud not to want to show who you are. When you’ve internalised modesty, when you’re character is more Muslim then the way you look, it becomes easy to start showing your insides on the outside.

Too many ladies cover the outside and are still acting immodestly. Too many ladies wear the Hijab but the dress code is contradicting the cloth on their head. Don’t let it just be material, let It be the tool of your self expression. Let it be one of the most powerful things you do for the sake of Allah, the way you show who you are and what is dear to your heart. Be proud to be a Muslim, be proud to be the slave of Allah Almighty.     

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052) 

Wallah this is terrifying and may it be a reminder to us… fear Allah

Sincere Advice to sisters- Given by The Trusted Advisor, Umm ‘Abdillaah ‘Aaishah Al Waadi’iyyah ‫حفظها الله‬ (daughter of Sheikh Muqbil bin Haadee ‫رحمه الله‬) And The Author Of The book Naseeha Iin-Nisaa (My Advice to the Women:

Translated below is some points of advice she gave to the sisters after the opening du’aa (via tele-link):

“O sisters, Upon us is to have mercy upon ourselves. Save yourselves from the Fire. There is no way out for anyone from the Fitnah that we are in now, except by sticking to what the Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) came with.”

Hadeeth of Abu Najeeh Al ‘Irbaad bin Sariyyah’ (‫رضي اللّه عنـه‬):

The Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) admonished us with an intense sermon which caused our hearts to tremble, and the eyes to shed tears. So, we said: ‘Yaa Rasoolallaah (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) this is as if it were your last sermon.’  

{Aboo Daawood and others declared it Saheeh}

“There is no way out for anyone except by sticking to the Sunnah which the Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) came with. This holding requires submission, a complete submission. As believers, it is a must on us. We have to say regarding any command from Allaah ‫سُبحانه وتعالى‬ and HIS Messenger (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬), “Sami’naa wa ata’naa,” (We hear and we obey), and not like the Yahood (Jews) who said, “We hear and we disobey.”

It is not befitting for the believing man nor the believing woman, when the Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) comes with a decision, that they have a choice after him.

O sisters, the truth is very heavy. Falsehood is light (easy to accept). It is very heavy, except for those whom Allaah made it easy and guided them for that.”

Al Hadeeth:
Jannah is surrounded by undesirable things, and the Fire is surrounded by desires.  “O sisters, it is upon us that we get used to submitting to Allaah.”

Umm ‘Abdillaah (‫حفظها الله‬) mentioned a poem:

“Your nafs are always wanting if you make it a habit. If you control and limit yourself, that is what your nafs will get used to.”

“Do not say ‘why’ to the command of Allaah.” Umm ‘Abdillaah (‫حفظها الله‬), gave the example of Salaat by saying; “Pray and get used to it. We are commanded to Fast, so you must Fast, make Hajj and ‘Umrah. HE, ‫سُبحانه وتعالى‬, has made certain things compulsory towards the husband and we do not say why.”

“O sisters, it is up to us to preserve our tongues, especially because the Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) told us the reason why women are the majority in the Hell Fire. Be more careful than men. Women curse a lot and have many complaints. It is not a good habit to complain to this sister, that sister, to this one, and that one. Guard your tongue.”

Gheebah: It is to say something behind the back of your brother, that which he would not like to have been said, even if it is true, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.

“When the believing woman leaves her home, she wears Hijaab, and she leaves the home properly.”

Allaah ‫سُبحانه وتعالى ‬ said:

‎‫وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى وَأَقِمْنَ الصَّلَاةَ وَآتِينَ الزَّكَاةَ وَأَطِعْنَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُذْهِبَ عَنكُمُ الرِّجْسَ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمْ تَطْهِيرًا‬

‘And Stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance, and perform As-Salaat and give Zakaat and obey Allaah and His Messenger. Allaah wishes only to remove Ar-rijs (evil deeds and sins, etc.) from you, O members of the family (of the Prophet), and to purify you with a thorough purification.’
(Al-Ahzab 33:33)

“Allaah has made it waajib upon us to preserve our ears, and to avoid listening to songs, Gheebah and Nameemah. Allaah created us for ‘Eebaadah. The Dunyaa is temporary and attractive. The Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) warned against submitting to the Dunyaa.”

Hamm: Concern, all that you think about and focus on, etc.

“The one whose hamm is the Dunyaa, Allaah will scatter from him, it could be from his family, his money, etc. All that he will see is poverty. The person will not attain anything more than what is written for him. Whoever focuses on the Aakhirah, all your needs will be brought near, and made easy for you. The believing heart is rich, even if the believer is poor. The World will come to you, it is forced to you.”

Hadeeth Qudsi: The Prophet (‫صلّى اللَّهُ عليه وسلّم‬) said that Allaah‫سُبحانه وتعالى ‬ said,

“O children of Aadam (‫عليه السلام‬) if you rush into worship, I will fill your hearts with Rizq (provision). Do not neglect, (be alert). If you neglect, I will fill your hands with poverty and things that will make you busy.”

“Allaah condemned the people who are filled with the Dunyaa. Be careful, and aware of submitting to the Dunyaa. Sit with As Saalihaat (the pious women), it has a lot of affects. Go back to submitting to Allaah so that you will be from Ahlul Jannah. Stick to the Book (The Qur’aan). Seek ‘ilm of the Islaamic Law. Try to understand the Book of Allaah, it is the best way to come close to HIM. Be eager and anxious in seeking ‘ilm. Be careful, do not do a deed until you know whether or not it is Halaal or Haraam. Do not rush into it until you know.”


Excellent talk. Education is the key.

Allah, to the Prophet's ﷺ Wives وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ

And stay in your houses.

~ Surah 33. Al-Ahzab, Ayah 33

​After the recent fitna caused on our streets, what better advise than to stay in our homes unless a necessity.

وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ وَكِيلًا

And put your trust in Allah, and Sufficient is Allah as a Wakil (Trustee, or Disposer of affairs).

~Surah 33. Al-Ahzab, Ayah 33

Asmaa bint Abu Bakr رضي الله عنها

source: ‘ad-Da’wah ilallaah’ (The Call to Allaah), The magazine featuring Women’s Issues. (UK) Vol-1 Issue-5

Asmaa was a woman of great nobility, wisdom and patience. She was among the early converts to Makkah and being the daughter of the great Companion Abu Bakr, she was brought up in an atmosphere of purity and devotion and shared close ties with the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.

When the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam was about to secretly leave Makkah for his emigration to Madeenah with his close friend Abu Bakr, it was Asmaa who prepared the provisions for the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam and her father. She said: “I prepared the provision bag for the Prophet in the house of Abu Bakr when he wanted to emigrate to Madeenah. We did not find anything with which to tie his bag or waterskin. I said to Abu Bakr: “By Allaah, I cannot find anything to tie with except my belt.” He said: “Tear it in two and tie the waterskin with one and the bag with the other.”” So that is what she did and since then she became know as ‘Dhaatun-Nitaaqayn’ [She of the two belts]. (Collected in Sahaah al-Bukhaaree (eng. Trans. Vol.4 p.141 no.222))

Asmaa was married to Zubayr Ibn al-Awwaam, the cousin of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. He was a very poor man, nevertheless Abu Bakr knew him to be a man of great piety, so despite the huge difference between their financial status, Abu Bakr married his daughter to him. In the initial stages of her marriage, Asmaa has to face a lot of hardship due to the extreme poverty they suffered. Suddenly, this daughter of a rich merchant found herself tending to the animals, kneading, grinding, fetching water and carrying huge loads on her head. She said about her situation: “When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land, nor wealth, nor slave, nor anything else like it, except a camel to get water and his horse. I used to graze his horse, provide fodder for it, look after it and ground dates for his camel. Besides this, I grazed the camel, made arrangements for providing it with water and patching up his leather bucket and kneading the flour. I was not very good at baking the bread, so my female neighbors used to bake bread for me and they were sincere women. And I used to carry on my head, the date-stones from the land of az-Zubayr which the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as o was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubayr and his Gheerah (Gheerah is the sense of pride that a man has which causes him to dislike his wives, daughters or sisters from being seen or heard by strangers. It is this gheerah which makes a man protective about his women) and he was a man having the most gheerah. The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubayr and said: “The Messenger of Allaah met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it but I felt shy from him and I remembered your gheerah.” Upon this az-Zubayr said: “By Allaah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden to me than you riding with him.”

I led this life of hardship until Abu Bakr sent me a female servant who took upon herself the responsibility of looking after the horse and I felt as if she had emancipated me.” (Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (eng. Trans. Vol.7 p.111 no.151))

Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa. See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about refraining from what displeased her husband? She knew that az-Zubayr had a lot of gheerah, so she didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s offer of assistance, even though that meant bringing hardship upon herself. And what did az-Zubayr say when he heard of what had happened that day?…’By Allaah, the thought of you carrying date-stones is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him!” so even though az-Zubayr had a lot of gheerah, he did not wish for that to cause inconvenience to his wife. Isn’t this what the marital relationship should be like? One of mutual concern, corporation and compassion? Asmaa could easily have said: “I am the daughter of the noble Abu Bakr and so I shouldn’t be doing these jobs!” but she didn’t. she was patient and respectful towards her husband throughout her difficult period.

It is reported that once when she complained to her father about her hardships, he advised her, “My daughter be patient. When a woman has a righteous husband and he dies and she does not remarry after him, they will be reunited in the Garden.”(Reported in at-Tabaqaat of Ibn Sa’d)

And az-Zubayr was indeed a righteous man, as the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam himself testified when he counted him among the Promised ten of Paradise. (See Musnad Ahmad, Abu Dawood and others. Authenticated in Saheehul-Jaami’ (no.50)) He also said of him: “az-Zubayr is the son of my paternal aunt and my disciple from my Ummah.” (Saheeh – Narrated by Jaabir & collected in Musnad Ahmad. Authenticated by al-Albaanee in his as-Saheehah (1877))

In addition to her being the wife of such a righteous man, Asmaa was also the mother of ‘Urwah Ibn az-Zubayr, who became one of the scholars of Madeenah. His teachers included his parents as well as him maternal aunt, the Mother of the Believers, ‘Aaishah radhi’allaahu anha; from whom he learnt a great deal. ‘Umar Ibn Abdul Azeez said about him: “I do not find anyone more knowledgeable than ‘Urwah Ibn az-Zubayr, and for whatever I know he knows something which I do not.” (Reported by adh-Dhahabee in Siyaar A’laamin-Nubalaa’)

His son Hishaam reports that his father’s leg had to be amputated at the knee and was adviced to drink a narcotic, but he refused saying, “I did not think that anyone would drink something which would take away his intellect to the point that he did not know his Lord.” So they took off his leg with a saw and he did not say anything but “Ouch, ouch.” And in the same journey his son Muhammad was kicked to death by a mule and ‘Urwah was not heard to say anything about it but: “We have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey.” [Soorah Kahf 18:62]. O Allaah, I had seven sons and You took one and left me with six, and I had four limbs and You took one and left me with three – so if You have tested me then You have saved me, and if You have taken – You have left (more) behind.” (Ibn ‘Asaakir (11/287))

Her other son was of the Khaleefahs of the Muslims, ‘Abdullaah Ibn az-Zubayr, who was the leader of the Muslims during one of the most turbulent periods in Islaamic history. He was killed in Makkah at the hands of al-Hajjaaj on the 17th of Jumadaa al-Ulaa in 73H. a few days after the death of her sin, Asmaa bint Abu Bakr – ‘She of the two Belts’ – also died – radi’allaahu anhaa.

So many benefits in this narration الله اكبر!

anonymous asked:

Islamic countries literally execute gays, pour acid in women's faces for looking at other men, and have extreme laws for petty crime. You don't think there's something alarming about a group of people who's mentality is as such? I know veterans who actually lived amongst these people and the common people regularly told them that they would mistreat and discriminate against Americans who came to visit. And not just for America's corrupt political ways, but for our beliefs and "hedonistic" ways.

Every country has its own issues. Did you forget America in the 1800’s? We literally inslaved people because of the color of their skin. They were white owners “property” and they got raped, beaten, molested and murdered. The Quran doesn’t say treat women like shit, it’s actually very against that. Don’t judge 10 people’s actions to billions of Muslims around the world. Btw did you also forget France/Germany/China and how they were 200 (some places are still corrupt TODAY) years ago?? The idea doesn’t only fit for the people or places you want it too. Plus our new President and Vice President want to repeal the gay marriage law and Pence even wants to put them in camps to turn them straight. I don’t see you losing sleep over that.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Woman is ‘awrah, and if she goes out, the shaytaan raises his hopes (of misguiding her). She is never closer to Allaah than when she stays in her house.
—  Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan and Ibn Khuzaymah; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Shaheehah, no. 2688